lonelyspudnik

@lonelyspudnik

47 posts

Bubbly Greetings >>> Bubbly Spud

Dear Spudnik,

Oh, no need to apologize at all.

In fact, I feel like I understand you a bit more now. But it was last month, and I do realize how hasty it seems for me to have jumped into this. Honestly, I did have my doubts. I went back and forth on it, not sure if I was ready.

Like yourself, I do want a committed relationship down the line and this seemed the most concrete way to actually get something done about that. I'm not one for Tinder or other superficial, hook-up centered, looks-based online dating.

Ultimately, though, I decided that even just testing the waters and reminding myself that there are other people out there would be a good thing. I wasn't expecting to find the next great love of my life from this, but I thought it would at least open my mind a little more, so I was not constantly thinking of my previous partner.

Now whether or not that is actually working is another story. Like you said, I'm still not sure if I should've done it. Because actually to be even more candid, my ex and I connected through this event last time.

But I've met a few interesting people and even if I'm not sure the romantic spark is there, I'm generally okay with myself for having signed up. Even if I still feel a little... well, heartbroken, I suppose.

I don't know if any of that made sense or if you are feeling a similar way. It is definitely bittersweet. I find myself doubting my own choices multiple times a day. Sometimes when I don't click with someone. Sometimes when I do.

Best,

bubblymolecule

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Bubbly,

No, no, everything you said made complete sense. And reading it filled me with such a sense of relief...so thank you for sharing.

Because yes, at every stage of this, I suppose I have felt a little bit of what you are feeling. I wasn't certain if I should even sign up. My break-up wasn't so long ago either, but at the same time, I'm not sure what waiting around is going to do for me. I had felt so certain I was going to be engaged at this point, which I suppose is a terrible way to go into this event and I did consider that but at the same time, I struggle to meet and talk to people on a daily basis anyway! This felt like the only chance I had. If I missed it, what then?

So I signed up. And it's been, in some ways, more successful than the last time I participated-- I have more matches that seem better suited to me.

At the same time, it feels less successful. I'm not sure about how to find a spark or if it's even possible. Perhaps I am just leading everyone on...

I don't know.

At least it is a relief to know that I am not the only one. I'm not sure we're a romantic match or not, Bubbly, but if I do go to the ball, I'd still like to meet you, and thank you properly. Because I was feeling alone. And now I feel less so.

Best,

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

I've always loved the idea of romance. The big sweeping gesture, the little touches that make you fel special, the power of someone being able to look into your eyes and say exactly what you want to hear to make your heart swell. I grew up on stories of romance and absorbed them all.

But the thing is, I've been involved with people before who gave me romance, and romance isn't enough on its own. I was with someone once who could say all the right things and make me feel like the center of the world. Up until he was upset about something, and then he had the ability to make me feel like I was nothing at all. I was involved with someone else who knew how to perform romance and all of those rules and standards perfectly, but once the door closed and we didn't have an audience, he typically ignored me until he needed something.

I do feel like I understand romance as a language, but knowing that hasn't changed the fact that we're both here looking for the same thing. Life isn't built up of big gestures. It's everything else.

We don't have to dance if you don't want to. That's always an option. But I hope you'll enjoy this one night.

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

Yes, I am finding most women in these letters SAY they find romance appealing but then reassure me that it doesn't matter, and I just can't help but feel...

I've been told similar things by women during these letters and sometimes I can't help but wonder if they're lying to me. My old partner-- I don't think she meant to lie but I think she thought she was alright with less of it and it turned out to be a disappointment. Just once I suppose I'd like to meet a woman who says, Ah yes, me too! Toss it all out the window!

But I don't think women like that exist. I think... in this manner and in many others...I am alone.

Yes, a relationship is certainly more than romance. But still, I know it is important to many women. Certainly a lot that I have met. I know it is an expectation, or I suppose, it is a favor that I ought to do to make a partner happy if it's what she likes. And I do try. I do want to make my partner happy. It just isn't natural.

Just like dancing... well, it's very unnatural. It makes me nervous just to think about. Thank you for saying it's optional but I suppose what I"m trying to say is it often doesn't feel like it is. I appreciate your kindness anyway.

Spudnik

#narrative finish

Dear Narrative,

Ah, I see. I know what that is like. I have a lot of respect for you, since you stepped into that role. It is not an easy one.

I am not quite sure what it means for this letter event, though. It is certainly the kind of thing that a person would need more details about. Then again, it speaks greatly of your character that you have taken on this responsibility. And it's not necessarily a deal breaker for me-- whether an older relative or a younger one.

So...well, perhaps I shouldn't be so hasty. I do think you sound like a person who I want to get to know more about. I apologize if I have come across hasty or cold-- I suppose this whole thing just makes me very anxious.

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

It's fine. It's hard to balance the anonymity with the fact that we want to know people better. On the one hand, I enjoy the fact that we get to speak here without any preconceptions or rumors getting in the way to make it easier to be honest. But moving beyond that point requires trust.

I hope you'll forgive me for holding onto the anonymity for a few more days up until the ball.

Do you mind if I ask you what has made you so anxious about all this? Is there anything I can do to help?

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

Oh, I've just never been good at any of it -- dating, getting to know people, being romantic, falling in love. It has always felt like I'm doing it wrong and that everyone knows how to follow a certain set of rules and standards, but those rules and standards are written in a differnet language! So, I always feel a bit like a fool and I can tell when I've turned off a person.

What's nice about the letters is I can't tell that, though I certainly anticipate that.

So yes... that's why. Though the letters feel safer, I do know the reveal ball will come eventually, and that's also another source of anxiety. See, I am a very bad dancer. And I don't particularly enjoy big parties.

Best,

Spudnik

#narrative finish

Bubbly Greetings >>> Bubbly Spud

Dear Spudnik,

The idea of starting a family within the next two to three years was a possibility that seemed very real to me even just a few months ago with my previous partner. But the relationship ended due to life events outside both of our control. I put that out there to be candid and let you know where I am coming from.

To start a family, I would feel like I really need to trust my partner and be with them for at least a year. I am open to the possibility of having children within two to three years, but ultimately it does depend on how the relationship is going. I would not want to force just for the sake of having children. If that means taking a little longer to build that relationship, I am fine, but I get the sense that I am younger than you and might be more flexible on that end.

I am also quite career-driven. I've reached a point in my career where I've accomplished a lot and am pretty stable in terms of finances and relocation. But it is something very important to me that I would not compromise.

Those are the points where I feel we might differ, which I wanted to be very candid about.

However, I am very drawn to the idea of building a family and handing down traditions. To be candid again, I did not have much of that growing up, since my parents were not very close to my extended family and we moved around a lot. I love the possibility of family dinners and vacations and game nights and all of that.

In conclusion, I recognize that while might have similar goals, there might be some key differences -- namely the timeline of it all -- that we cannot reconcile. But if you are open to it, I would be down to continue our conversation. However, if there is someone you're messaging who is more in line with your timeline, I will take no offense if we decide to part ways here :)

Best,

bubblymolecule

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Bubbly,

You recently went through a break-up? How did you realize you were ready for this?

Sorry-- I know you just wrote me a very lovely and thoughtful message about your timeline and answered all my questions so thoroughly. It's just that first bit seems very...

Well, I went through a break-up recently too. And I wasn't sure if I should do this event. I'm still not sure if I should have done this event. So I suppose now I'm just wondering what made you decide.

Best,

Spudnik

#bubbly molecule

Dear Narrative,

Could you give me any more details about what you mean by those circumstances? You have mentioned duties to your family. Could you go more into detail, or is that impossible to do without risking anonymity?

For example, are you a caretaker for a relative, either an older parent, grandparent, or younger children?

Respectfully,

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

Yes, I'm a caretaker for a relative, although I'd prefer not to share more just yet. I'm the only family they have left, and their safety and well being are a high priority for me. The past few years we've had to balance a series of upheavals, so I have been trying to be thoughtful about what new changes I introduce.

But at the same time, I do think the stability of a family would be good for them. As much as I try to do on my own, I know there are things I'm not able to give them. It's the hardest part of caring for them.

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

Ah, I see. I know what that is like. I have a lot of respect for you, since you stepped into that role. It is not an easy one.

I am not quite sure what it means for this letter event, though. It is certainly the kind of thing that a person would need more details about. Then again, it speaks greatly of your character that you have taken on this responsibility. And it's not necessarily a deal breaker for me-- whether an older relative or a younger one.

So...well, perhaps I shouldn't be so hasty. I do think you sound like a person who I want to get to know more about. I apologize if I have come across hasty or cold-- I suppose this whole thing just makes me very anxious.

Spudnik

#narrative finish

A Taste For Honey >> Honey Spud

Hi,

I do not think it is cold. Just practical. I admire people who know so strongly what they want. I have enjoyed talking to you a lot. And I would love to get married and have children, maybe, one day. To be honest, I haven't thought about it much.

Or, well, I have. But it has never really been in the cards for me. So, maybe it is more accurate to say that I have dreamed about it. If that makes sense?

I am sorry if I don't have a better answer for you. I think I could be ready in 2-3 years...but I don't know. It is a little intimidating to think about, if only because I haven't...really dated before.

💛honeyamok

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Honey Amok,

Ah, I see. I appreciate your honesty. And while I am sure it is possible for you to start dating me and perhaps quickly realtize you are ready for marriage and children, I admit that your lack of experience gives me great pause.

I think what I want might be a little too much pressure for you. Forgive me if this comes across as condescending. But I do think perhaps, at this point, we might invest more time in our other connections. I just think I might be at a different point in my life.

Best,

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

That sounds wonderful! You've read me correctly. I haven't heard of that show before as my own knowledge is limited. But the title is intriguing, so I'll have to see if I can find some time for that.

I'll admit, I know almost nothing about videogames so I haven't heard of any of those. But the titles are beautiful.

I appreciate your candor. I'm not sure if the answer is what you're looking for, but I will say that the timeline would work for me if the circumstances were correct. If I were the only one impacted by my decision, it would be easy for me to follow my heart and begin my own family as soon as possible. But this isn't something I can be reckless with, so I would need to see how the two of us could handle those complications if we decided to move forward.

I've been enjoying your letters, so i hope they will continue. But I understand if my answer isn't what you're looking for and you need to focus your time elsewhere.

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

Could you give me any more details about what you mean by those circumstances? You have mentioned duties to your family. Could you go more into detail, or is that impossible to do without risking anonymity?

For example, are you a caretaker for a relative, either an older parent, grandparent, or younger children?

Respectfully,

Spudnik

#narrative finish

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

I think that sounds lovely. It can be difficult to balance having time with your family and time for your work. Do you have any shows that you recommend from your family time?

Most of the time I paint a lot of nature scenes, different flowers or the forest. But sometimes it can be fun to try and paint something from a book I've been reading to try and stretch my imagination. I wouldn't say any of them are particularly good, and I'll often paint over the same canvas, but its a good way to relax.

What games do you like?

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

Well, we watch a lot of foreign programming, to be honest, so you might not know a lot of it. Recently, we watched a show on Netflix called Culinary Class Wars, which is a very engaging competition show featuring accomplished chefs and cooks in Korea. If you like cooking, it's delightful.

As for games, I play a lot of puzzle platformers and metroidvanias. If you've heard of Silksong, I've been playing that one for months here and there. It's extremely difficult so I haven't beaten it.

I also always return to Stardew Valley. It's probably my favorite.

Now, getting down to business: it's been a week into this letter event. I feel the need to make an assessment of my matches and make sure that I'm using my time wisely here, since writing emails takes time, and doing that and working has been more difficult than I thought it would. So I'd like to talk again about more serious, deeper topics.

I do think it sounds like we have similar goals, but I'm not sure our timeline is the same. I truly am looking to get married and have a family in the next 2-3 years, or even sooner. I am truly ready for that stage of my life to begin. Do you feel the same? Or is that timeline too soon?

Best,

Spudnik

A Taste For Honey >> Honey Spud

Hello Honey Amok,

Sorry for my late reply, I was rather busy yesterday. I hope you have had a pleasant morning. Do you have any morning rituals or routines that you like to do?

As for your questions to me, well, I have just a few hobbies, none of them particularly impressive. I like to garden, fish, take walks, read a little, and then when I have time, I like to play video games. I don't have any expensive or fancy console; it's just my computer.

Oh yes, and cooking! I do like to cook. I suppose that doesn't seem much like a hobby to me though, since it's sort of a necessity in life, yes?

Best,

Spudnik

Hi!

Sorry for my late reply! I don't have much of an excuse besides getting a little overwhelmed, but I do apologize.

I love mornings! I like to do skincare and I usually take a while to pick out my outfits and enjoy the sunshine (when we have it.) I am more of a night routine person, though. I just love some self care. 🥰

And I don't think those hobbies are unimpressive! Fishing is useful and so is gardening. Reading and video games are nice too, though I admit I don't play video games. Those are basically all the same hobbies I have, just throw in knitting!

Cooking is definitely a hobby! A lot of people don't like cooking at all, so if you enjoy it and don't just see it as a chore, I think that counts. Like for me? I prefer to bake over cook. 👩‍🍳

💛honeyamok

@lonelyspudnik

Hello Honey Amok,

That is quite alright. I also have gotten a little overwhelmed this week. That's actually why I want to propose we talk about whether or not we want to continue our correspondence. I know, it might seem a little cold, but since we're halfway through the event, I thought it a good time to take stock of our connection and if we want to go on.

You do seem very sweet-- just like your name suggests! I'm not sure we have gotten to a deeper level though.

So I want to be very clear about my priorities: I want to get married and have children within the next 2-3 years, perhaps even sooner. I am in a great financial position and I am on the older side, so marriage and a family is really the next big goal for me.

I understand that mighit seem like an intimidating timeline, and if that doesn't align with you, then that is understandable!

Best,

Spudnik

luminous-seagull

The Cosmonaut || Lunimous Spudnik

luminous-seagull

Hello Spudnik,

I loved living with my family, that's not something I'd be opposed to doing again. I'm not the oldest so eventually when my parents needs help of course I'll be involved, but the bulk of it will likely fall on my older siblings. Though I'd do it in a heartbeat if they all refused. But they wouldn't, we have great parents who raised us all well and every one of us would love the chance to repay them. So I think it's great that you'd want to be that rock for your mother!

Oh gardening, that's fun! I wish I could keep plants alive :( I'm sooo jealous. Do you grow flowers or veggies?

Besides making new friends, I love music. I sing and play a few instruments as a hobby. I like to read, I have a small social media following because I post content related to my job and fashion. It's very small, I'm by no means internet famous and that's not something I care to pursue, I just like sharing and talking about fashion and my work. But I make about half my monthly grocery bill in money from my videos being watched! May as well benefit if people care about about what I have to say, right? What else, what else...oh, I've mentioned before I love cooking, it's a love language. And art! I love doing little art projects, my parents' house is full of Me originals. They'll be worth tens of pounds one day.

What motivates you to keep going when you have a hard time?

~LS

Dear LS,

My family motivates me to keep going during hard times. I do not struggle iwth motivation at all, to be honest. I simply do what needs to be done. I am a hard worker and when it comes to hard work, I don't complain.

I admit, LS, that now that we're halfway through the letter event, I am ruminating about how I want to keep going. I think it's fair to look at cutting down my matches.

You do seem very kind and nice-- but some of what you've described does give me pause. I understand you're waiting for someone to help you decide your priorities, and that doesn't resonate with me. I want someone who believes a family and marriage are enthusiastically their first goal.

Then, it sounds like we are very different personality-wise. Maybe you being an extrovert wouldn't be a big deal, but I am second-guessing whether it would make us a suited match.

Additionally, while social media is part of life, I'm not sure how I feel about my wife having that kind of following. I know you said it was small and I commend you for making money off it! But it does give me pause.

So, those are my concerns and I thought before we go any further, I'd give us a chance to talk them through before I simply ended anything. I am sorry if this seems rather cold. It's just been rather difficult to keep up with letter-writing and work this week, so I feel the need to be discerning.

Best,

Spudnik.

#luminous seagull

Bubbly Greetings >>> Bubbly Spud

Dear Spudnik,

Haha, I am relieved you feel the same way! I thought I might've committed a faux pas by insulting a whole cuisine. Especially since the likelihood that you might be a native Brit is high.

Though, then again, considering how diverse Swynlake is, maybe not.

As much as I'd love to talk about food even more (and believe me, I could keep going), I'd like to direct the conversation to more concrete matters. You mentioned before that you are looking for something serious and I agreed. I would like to know more about what you are looking for in a partner to see if we could be compatible.

Best,

Bubbly

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Bubbly,

Yes, I do think at this point in the event, we ought to figure out if there is a reason to keep writing letters.

Forgive me if the following comes across bluntly.

I am interested in finding a partner who might match my lifestyle. I am a homebody and also family-oriented. Also, because I'm getting older, I want to get married and have children relatively soon. I would say within the next two to three years, and certainly no more than that. I am in the financial position to begin right away, you see. So waiting doesn't appeal to me.

I am looking for a partner with the same goals and timeline, who also would not mind being a homemaker for the first few years of our childrens' lives.

Though, because I have family here in Swynlake, we could negotiate in case my partner wants to return to work relatively quickly.

But ultimately, that is what would make me compatible with someone; someone who wants to build a family as much as I do, someone who cares about traditions and culture and handing those things down, someone who wants to have family dinners and game nights and occasional family vacations. I do not want to travel, I am not looking to advance any further in my career-- I want my family to be the center of my life and marriage to be a project that we work on together. I don't know if I believe in soul mates or romance, it doesn't seem real to me. But marriage is certainly very real to me.

So...well, that's what I am looking for.

Does that match with your goals and vision for the future?

Best,

Spudnik.

#bubbly molecule

A Teeny Hello >>> Tansy Spud

Dear Teeny Tansy,

Oh! Oh dear. I'm sorry if my question was quite awkward then and inappropriate. I shouldn't have pried; I knew I shouldn't have. I apologize and I hope you are feeling better and your path of recovery is going well.

I understand if you'd rather end things here but... well, you did ask me a question before I was very rude so I would like to at least answer that.

Which is-- since you have some extra time, I always think it's nice to challenge yourself with learning a new skill. Personally, I have been learning Spanish over the past year. So maybe you could pick up a new language. But really there are so many nice hobbies. Admittedly, I always thought it might be nice to learn the guitar...I've always feel very intimidated to try. It seems much too "cool" for me. Like I know, if I tried, people would laugh.

I have never admitted that to anyone so I hope that makes up at least a little for my social faux pas.

Best,

Spudnik

Hello Lonely Spudnik,

No, it's perfectly alright! I understand the situation must seem confusing, especially with how I started everything out. I am feeling better and appreciate the well wishes.

I have no desire to end things if you don't! I am enjoying the conversation.

Thank you for sharing that with me. I know all too well how intimidating it can be learning to play an instrument. When I do so, I almost never do it in front of anyone else in fear of messing up. However, when I just play for myself by myself, it really can be such a relaxing experience. I would encourage you to pursue your desire to learn! There is nothing too "cool" and nothing you need to do for anyone else. It can simply be your own.

It's inspiring! I have all this time, I should be taking it to learn something new. I suppose the hard thing is, I've never been particularly talented in any one thing. I try to remain knowledgeable about everything I can but in terms of actually doing it or creating something...

Well, now would be the time to try! I just have to figure out what.

Sincerely,

Teeny Tansy

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Tansy,

Well, I know you are right about the guitar, but I live at home with my entire family. I couldn't get away with it without inviting plenty of comments. And I am not sure...well, guitars are expensive! I shouldn't make such a purchase on a whim that might not even stick.

But I suppose maybe some day.

But yes, I support you on your quest for a new pastime. It sounds like you already know how to play an instrument. Is there anything else that has fascinated you in the past because it is so different from who you are? Maye that's a place to start.

Best,

Spudnik.

Dear Narrativefinish,

Well, I'm not sure if its that impressive! I'm quite old now. I think at my age, one probably should know at least a little bit about what they want and what they like!

As for what I like to cook, I'm not picky. I don't really do big elaborate meals. I like lots of broth-based dishes, like soups and stews, and I really do like to barbecue, especially when the weather is good. And I think dumplings is a special kind of food I like to make-- it takes more effort considering you have to make the dough just right!

What about your other interests or hobbies?

Best,

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

You would think so, but in my experience that isn't always the case. Some people know themselves well when they're young, some people take most of their lives to learn. I still find it impressive.

I think that sounds wonderful. I've never tried to make any dumplings, but I know how difficult dough is to work with so I can imagine a little of how it goes.

I like horseback riding, and I will ride the trails around Swynlake when I can, although it isn't often enough. I also like to read and paint when there's time for it, although I wouldn't consider myself great as an artist. But it can be very relaxing.

What ways do you like to spend your time?

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrative,

To be honest, I don't have much time to spend, but when I do have free time, I tend to spend it at home with my family. We watch shows together, or I do chores around the house. Or take walks or sometimes I go fishing. I also play video games, but I haven't had as much time to do that lately.

What kinds of things do you like to paint?

Best,

Spudnik

A Nostalgic Wave >>> Fragile Spud

fragilenostalgia

Dear Spudnik,

You don't have to apologize! I understand that work takes priority. I appreciate you taking the time to reply with intention.

I wouldn't say I have a 'modern' sense of looking at things such as marriage and relationships, but I know my sense of traditional can be different from others. I often lean more toward matriarchal traditions rather than patriarchal ones. This doesn't mean I think the man should stay at home while the woman works, just more of who may be the one calling some of the shots in the relationship, so to speak.

As far as parenthood goes, I would love to be a parent, it is truly something I desire most in this world. However I think the most realistic method for becoming a parent for me would be adoption or surrogacy. There have just been a lot of things in my life that have made me come at things from a different sort of perspective and while I think we may share a common end goal--a loving happy family--the paths to get there may be slightly different.

Sorry, this is a difficult thing to explain without giving away too much about myself, thus sort of ruining the whole point of the anonymity. But if we get the chance to meet in person I would like to be a little more straightforward and clear with you, if you would be open to that.

But I will say, there are a lot of things that I could reach compromises about. Because again, we seem to share an end goal and that could be the most important part of this all.

I hope this was a little more thorough and didn't just leave you with too many more questions.

I would like to get to know a little bit more about you besides all of this. What are some of your likes and dislikes?

sincerely,

Fragilenostalgia

PS- I love that! I do think it is very important, yes. I grow some herbs but beyond that its mostly flowers and bushes that I tend to in my garden.

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Fragilenostalgia,

Ah, I see. Thank you again for answering with such detail and thoughtfulness. I admit, some of your answers do give me pause as well. But I do want to be open-minded and it's like you said-- we don't know each other that well and it makes sense to me why some details are best not shared in email form, but instead in person.

And honestly, Fragilenostalgia, if I can be rather forward...I do think you are one of my favorite matches. Maybe even my top one. I just appreciate your candor and as I've complimented before, your detail and your care. I felt, from the very first letter, that I could trust you. So I do not want to stop talking yet, even if we both have some reservations.

So, as for my likes and dislikes, well, here they are!

I like being outside, as we talked about already. I like my house. It is where I grew up-- I still live at home. But I can think of no better place in teh world. I like sticking to my comfort zone, I suppose, which means some people call me boring. But I think sometimes, I like being boring-- I like being a homebody, I like keeping things simple, I like routines.

Now if I haven't bored you, I guess some more interesting things that I like...well, I like video games! But not the shoot em up kind. I sort of play that with my siblings sometimes but I prefer video games that immerse me in a new world. I love a video game with a distinct art style, for example. I like it when the characters are very cute and the colors are vibrant. I also like a good challenge or doing puzzles so if that comes along with the game, even better!

As for my dislikes, oh dear.

I dislike when people break the rules. It feels so disrespectful, and oh I hate disrespectful people. I dislike littering-- no, I hate littering. Absolutely hate it. I dislike when people are very very loud for no reason and are disruptful of those around them. I dislike having to repeat myself. I dislike very long fake fingernails-- and I know thats a personal preference, and to each their own, but I myself don't like them, I think they're rather scary and dangerous at times! I also just dislike things that are too expensive, unnecessarily so. For example, why does it cost over 30 quid to cut my hair? I don't even have a lot of hair! I just think it's absurd to spend money in that way!

Hopefully you aren't too turned off by that list. But I want to continue to be honest.

What about you?

Best,

Spudnik

Bubbly Greetings >>> Bubbly Spud

Dear Spudnik,

Oh, not boring at all! I love to talk about food.

I love spicy food. I actually have a pretty high spice tolerance, if I do say so myself. I don't have any food allergies (though I am mildly allergic to cats; nothing that will stop me from hanging out with a friend who happens to have a cat, though!).

As for foods I don't like ... well, would it be terribly rude to say I'm not a fan of most English foods? I don't find them particularly flavorful, except when certain people prepare them. If given the choice, I'd probably pick... well almost any other cuisine!

What about you? Any allergies? Food preferences? Or drink preferences, while we're at it? I like my drinks sweet, both when it comes to coffee and alcohol, though I don't drink a lot of alcohol in general. Usually just in social settings. I also do love a good fruit juice or smoothie.

Best,

Bubbly

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Bubbly,

Ah, but I hate English food too! Or, I guess hate is a strong word. But most of it is truly so flavorless. I guess I do not mind fish and chips with a good strong beer, but even then, quality really ranges on fish and chips, and I find the fry is usually rather poor. Though I do miss having an English pub in town. The Hunted Deer did have a good selection of beers and it was a much better atmosphere for meeting up and having a late-night talk with friends. Now, I despise Pierrot and the Court is much too...over the top for me. So there's no place to go after, say, 19:00! It's such a shame.

I guess I've sort of answered your question with that rant but... no allergies for me, I like spicy food and prefer Asian cuisine of all sorts-- Indian, Thai, Korean, Chinese. I like a good beer. Otherwise, I usually just drink water. Tea is okay, but I only drink it in the mornings or on rainy days. I prefer it much more than coffee.

Best,

Spudnik

narrativefinish

Dear Spudnik,

I think that's a wonderful list here, and I think its impressive that you know yourself so well and what you need. Not many people are so clear sighted about their futures.

I would like someone who can be a true partner for me. Someone who can respect me and support me and will let me do the same for them.

My career is important to me, but I am also family oriented and would like to build a new family with someone. I do want to have children someday, and I would like to work with them on what that would mean for both of us in terms of our career and the kind of support we would need.

I am also hoping for someone who can be honest with me, but also is able to laugh. There are too many times where life is hard, and it becomes easier if you are able to laugh together with it.

Do you have something in particular you like to cook?

Sincerely,

Narrative

@lonelyspudnik

Dear Narrativefinish,

Well, I'm not sure if its that impressive! I'm quite old now. I think at my age, one probably should know at least a little bit about what they want and what they like!

As for what I like to cook, I'm not picky. I don't really do big elaborate meals. I like lots of broth-based dishes, like soups and stews, and I really do like to barbecue, especially when the weather is good. And I think dumplings is a special kind of food I like to make-- it takes more effort considering you have to make the dough just right!

What about your other interests or hobbies?

Best,

Spudnik

#narrative finish

A Taste For Honey >> Honey Spud

Hi!

It’s okay to talk about. I understand. I recently had my heart broken too. If we can’t talk about our past experiences and what we learned…I am not sure the point of those experiences then?

I am still having trouble discussing it myself. It makes me feel very stupid, if I think about it for too long.

I appreciate your honesty. It didn’t turn me off, though maybe it made me a little sad, because everyone deserves to find someone who makes them feel romanced, whatever that looks like for them. 💛

I am happy to move on, though!

I know you said you like to watch Telly with your partners, but what do you like to do that’s just for you?

💛honeyamok

@lonelyspudnik

Hello Honey Amok,

Sorry for my late reply, I was rather busy yesterday. I hope you have had a pleasant morning. Do you have any morning rituals or routines that you like to do?

As for your questions to me, well, I have just a few hobbies, none of them particularly impressive. I like to garden, fish, take walks, read a little, and then when I have time, I like to play video games. I don't have any expensive or fancy console; it's just my computer.

Oh yes, and cooking! I do like to cook. I suppose that doesn't seem much like a hobby to me though, since it's sort of a necessity in life, yes?

Best,

Spudnik

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