basic situation at my job is as follows:
we have about 20ish people on our corporate team (which is just what the founder calls the FT staff). we have about 2-300 hourly employees. we have offices in 2 different cities.
i work in City A with one other person, who is under my supervision. the rest of the corporate team is in City B. occasionally, the other team members come to my office but, for the most part, everything happens in City B. the reason for the split offices is that, per our contract with the org i support, i have to be able to be on site within 10 mins if there is a crisis. so my supervisee and i work in City A. we oversee about 30-40 hourly employees and i support 16 schools.
there are 4 other people at my company with my title. 2 aren’t full time and don’t count for the purpose of this post. 2 are full time and do count. one of them shares my name, and i will refer to her as SN (same name). SN and i are the same age and she was hired like a week before me. i have more experience and education. we have been in competition since we started, partly because the founders put us against each other and partly because we both want a promotion.
last year, they created an award for me (employee of the year). this year, she won it. our supervisor has had two children since i started. her first mat leave was most of 2024 into 2025 and her second mat leave was end of 2025 to present. this matters because SN has appointed herself as our supervisors replacement (which she has been in some ways, but not in ANY way that makes her MY supervisor).
SN has been slowly and subtly removing me from all important communication. most recently, while i was doing my week of 16 trainings, she decided to “take some things off my plate to help” aka reassigned herself responsibilities that have historically been mine (the clinical roundtables i started and the conference i have historically coordinated, planned, and led - i have been the keynote almost every year, she has not).
anyway, she sent an email and asked my thoughts and i responded and said, basically, this looks fine but i’m confused about why i wasn’t included in the process. she sent a chat full of hearts and emojis saying she didn’t MEAN to exclude me, it just HAPPENED. i accept her fake apology.
the next day, i’m looking at her calendar and see that she has a recurring event with the other person who shares our title and it’s a planning meeting. i wasn’t invited. i ask why and she said, basically it was an oversight.
today, she sends a chat to me & other person who shares out title (OPWSOT) and says OPSWOT and i came up with this, here’s this document and our thoughts, can we get your input? and i respond and say “it looks like you & OPWSOT have it covered; i’m not sure what input from me would be helpful”. she says “wanted to see if you also want to adopt this and pick the topic for august”. i responded by saying “if you really wanted my input, i’d have been involved prior to the final step. feel free to do what works for your team”. she and OPWSOT have read the message but no one responded.
our supervisor comes back monday and i can’t wait for my 1:1. anyway, this is what i mean when i say i like my work but not my coworkers. i primarily stay in City A with my 16 schools and my colleagues at the partner org and my supervisee (who is her own can of worms but put that on the circle back list too). so i don’t really see SN that often but she finds a way to poke me every week any way.
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