NSFW, KINK, and/or FETISH (and yes this includes "sfw" kink and/or fetish blogs)
do not interact with me directly, if i want to interact with that, i will interact with certain blogs with 18+ themes in my own time! Because of that, i dont have my likes/follows visible so i can keep this blog sfw! i also dont reblog that kind of media here so fear not! this account (and sideblogs) are sfw only!
Radfem/Terfs/Radqueer/Lgb/Transmeds/Transphobes/Homophobes/anything or anyone that could or does align with those kinds of bigoted mindsets/beliefs.
i am a white queer disabled transmasculine person/transman, i do not adhere to society's idea of who i should be, look, or who i should love. im not friendly to anyone who is unkind or unaccepting to all of the lgbtqia+. if you arent willing to be open minded that identity can change and be completely personal to the individual, then do not interact with me. labels are here to help people feel at home in their own bodies, and no one but them gets to dictate that. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
ableist, racist, sexist, bigots, etc.
too many to even list. use common sense!
i dont take kindly to people who put down and discriminate others based on their race, gender, disability(s), ethnicity, etc. should be self explanatory!
maps/pedos/zoos/proshippers/darkshippers/etc.
get out of here. you are not welcome here.
if you support the genocide and/or war happening in palestine, sudan, congo, and ukraine.
This disability pride month I'm BEGGING you to acknowledge and care about the people in this community who often fly under the radar when it comes to positivity and information. People who require equipment to live, like ventilators, pacemakers, and feeding tubes. People who are bedbound. People with visible differences. People who have disabilities caused by things like substance abuse, overdose, or self harm. People with conditions so rare that they've never met someone who has the same one. People who need full time care and have to have help to use social media.
If you want to support the community, that means supporting all of the community. Disability pride means being proud of every last one of us, and making sure everyone feels heard. Make sure to amplify the voices of those who need it this month, and ideally for the rest of the year too.
sometimes i wanna dm a moot with the intention of 'hey can we be friends' but then i chicken out thinking 'wait what if thats weird, what if they think thats weird' so im stuck in a dilemma
My healthcare team has officially decided i am a drain on the system & no longer care to look deeper and try to help me. They decided that i am not worthy of help. They would rather i die like this than ever ever help me. All i want was to get better. Get treatment . Have a life. But they don't care. They never have. I will be severely disabled the rest of my life with no treatment. And if they "missed something" then its my faulr. They decided its in my head now. that i'm not trying hard enough.
I am at a loss of what to do. I just have to go on living suffering everyday feeling like i'm dying from lack of treatment. I can't do anything. I already graduated and finished CBT&DBT therapy but apparently since its all in my head now it doesn't matter. All my therapists and psychiatrists have told them its not mental health related but they don't care. They don't want to look anymore.
I'm not sure what to do anymore, my last resort was "medical tourism" -- AKA traveling to another country for better healthcare, but I don't even have money to live alone for a month, let alone travel or anything. It's not a viable option right now, so as of right now I am without help and care. I have been abused and neglected by the medical system so badly I have such bad trauma with doctors and hospitals now. I truly believe there is no doctor out there that didn't go into it for a selfish reason.
I would appreciate any help, even 1$ helps me save up for a better future. It's totally okay if you can't, I understand money is tight for everyone, so please don't feel obligated.
important reminder that most people you follow online are significantly lamer than you think they are including me. and if you feel insecure comparing yourself to someone online: DON'T. theyre probably also lame and weird. most people on the internet are
Our disabilities are part of us (whether we like it or not!) and we deserve to celebrate every part of us. We deserve to be seen and respected. We deserve joy.
I love you all so much and I'm so proud of you for making it this far. Thank you for sharing this time on Earth with me!
Conservative beauty standards are back with a vengeance which means it's especially important to go out this summer with bellies out and bodies unshaved. Also be unapologetically disabled with mobility aids and wearable medical devices and stim toys and ear defenders and all that stuff. You need it. People need to see it. Everyone needs to be reminded that life is unquestioningly more enjoyable when you're not living inside an arbitrary set of rules created by people who are offended by all the wrong things.
Being asexual and racist is embarassing as fuck. Being racist at all is obviously embarassing as fuck but the amount of racism and especially antiblackness i have been seeing from asexuals recently is obscene.
One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.
And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.
Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism
mchoney summer relaxing!~ ˚˖𓍢ִ໋❀ click for better quality!
yall ever create a huge art piece that takes a lot of time, and when youre finally done you just feel like a part of you goes with it when its done? thats how i feel about this piece! ;; sobss sniffles love you mchoney /p
i wanted to create something frilly and floral, so heres that! i think for the future i could have done better with the background, but for now this is fine :]]
small tips for Enjoying Being Alive from someone who went from wanting to die to genuinely loving life. these won't fix your life but they'll make it a lot easier to want to live day by day. I promise.
tell yourself things you do not believe. it feels stupid at first but I've done this for years and now I believe it when I say "I'm good at this" or "I love myself" or "I deserve good shit!"
make a note of every mundane good thing that happens to you. mental or literal notes! could be as little as "the sky is a nice shade of grey, it's calming" or "I ate a piece of fruit today, I'm looking after myself" or "I talked to a friend". again, feels stupid at first, but I genuinely believe this is part of why I have so many "good days". trick your brain into storing things in your long-term memory that you wouldn't otherwise remember.
diet deficiencies can make you properly miserable. your physical health impacts your mental health more than you'd think. get some vitamins, some omega-3s and so on. whether from food or supplements. they can make quite a difference! your brain is responsible for a LOT of the way you feel, and giving it the fatty acids it needs to function at its best can go a long way.
I know these all sound like stupid junk people who have never wanted to die tell you. I know they sound like dumb "self-help" tips written by people who have suffered mild anxiety at worst.
they're coming from someone who had multiple daily panic attacks for half a decade. someone who genuinely felt like he did not deserve to live. someone who hated himself so much he convinced himself he was irredeemably evil. someone who loves being alive these days, even though it's difficult sometimes.
you truly don't have to follow any of this advice. but just read through. store it in the back of your mind. come back to it when you want. best of luck. [:
These are genuinely great! If I can add a small comment it would be to try to change scenery every now and then, take a different route home and go for walks. And make appointments to meet your friends!
ABSOLUTELY. anytime I feel myself descending into a slump where everything feels wrong and bad and gross and hard, I go on a Weird Walk. I choose a familiar destination (the dairy, the beach, a specific hill) and intentionally choose a route I've never tried before. it's crazy but it makes me feel better almost instantly, even if the new walk is worse than my usual route. your brain CRAVES new stimulation! you are a member of a species with one of the most active brains in the animal kingdom. please try not to live like a hamster.