Livin la vida Loca

Ilya ~ It/She, Transgirl, 27, just trying to live and have a good life. Avatar by @sillywolfsoup

[sparklenaut]

clingy...

[autogynophelia]

A frustrating thing about being aware of transmisogyny is how hard it is to convince other transfems (particularly those who are newly out) of its existence as a real form of oppression.

You'll meet a girl who got kicked out of a queer group because of a sex joke she made that landed badly, and she'll just be taking 100% of the blame and saying she deserved it, saying that she should have known her place and been meek and sexless to prove that she's not a predator.

You'll meet a girl who's afraid to go to the laser clinic, because the one time she went she overheard the laser techs arguing about who would be "burdened" with her, and from that she internalised that she *is* a burden that no one should have to deal with.

You'll meet a girl who's gone to the theoretically-inclusive sapphic meetup like ten times, even though no-one ever talks to her, and when she tries to talk to them they give a one-word response and turn away. And she just keeps going back because she thinks the problem is that she's the "new girl". Even though there have been three newer girls than her who are already in the in-group.

Some of these women are so used to marginalisation and mistreatment, that when it happens again and again they consider it the natural course of events. It's their own fault, some unique character flaw that they alone have. And they're so isolated and desperate for community that they will put up with any amount of abuse from other queers.

Sometimes it's only after seeing it happen several times to *other* transfems, and never any other kind of queer person even if they do exactly the same things, that they realise that a pattern exists, and there is a name for that pattern, and all there's a whole world of transfeminist writing for them to dive into with newly-opened eyes.

[melrose-arcade]

Before I discovered transfeminism, I fully thought I was broken. I thought I alone was uniquely evil, and people hated me specifically. I would literally beg people to just tell me what I did wrong, but it was always that I "was just too loud" (about being called the t-slur), or that I "wasn't uncivil, just not civil" (about saying someone's "joke" that "I would kill you if God told me to" made me uncomfortable).

I was pushed to believe I alone kept fucking every encounter up, that I just couldn't talk to people, that I was unique in my inability to find friends in the greater trans community, so I pulled away. I stopped going to pride events, I left every trans server, I stopped trying to make myself a presence, because I was punished for doing so.

It's scary how people will hate you for daring to exist while transfem, but try to make it "progressive" with their AMAB bullshit and "Male Socialization" lies.

If you happen to read this, know that you're beautiful, and you matter. You aren't uniquely evil, they're just jealous of your femininity.

[cdpdraws]

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[cdpdraws]

+ subsequent "bad ending" AU I always seek out.png

[tboy-trash]

>post about how wrong it is to harass trans women over their sexuality, but doubly so when you all don't give a shit when it's cis-straights who have "problematic kinks" (you don't even consider them "kinks" then)

>receive a bunch of anon hate

>answer about 1 in 5 messages, mostly just when there's something else to add

>get a bunch more anon hate messages about how you "spend all your time defending weird kinks" [←read:opposing the transmisogyny on this site]

[heavyheavycream]

outfit swap

[recoveredcombatsister]

trans unity is a fucking scam

[recoveredcombatsister]

if you trannies would just shut up about how we treat you we can form a united front against a nebulous oppressor until we achieve an undefined liberation, then we can talk about abusing you less i promise 🤞

[jellotart]

[haysey-draws]

REBECCA FOUND YOUR PHONE!

This was an idea several months in the making and drawn over on my Twitch (we draw every fri/sun), prints are live now HERE

[septemberlikestea]

"i was looking for roseate spoonbill" style bossfight.

[sillywolfsoup]

CYBER CAT DOMINATRIX LADY

[miraclemaya]

if you're fucked up enough even hugging someone can feel predatory

[phucnghinguyenhoang]

[beardedmrbean]

[strawberry-crocodile]

animation directors for the last 20 years: im gonna write a finale to my show that emphasizes forgiveness and affirms that everyone is deserving of kindness and love

animation fans for the last 20 years: fuck you

[xenasaur]

I love that when the mythbusters are testing a "this thing explodes" myth and it winds up being busted they go "huh. well how COULD we make this explode?"

[hi-intrepid-heroes]

shes right and she should say it

[funkiestcurve]

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