Hello, I don’t know if this question is appropriate or even makes sense but i thought id give it a try and ask
Are there people who are mildly intersex? Like not intersex enough that it would be a real medical condition, just someone who doesn’t quite fit the standard of one sex. So someone who has mixed sex characteristics but not severe enough that it would require a doctor or would be seriously noticeable and so wouldn’t have been caught as a baby, and you have some of the characteristics of the sex you’re meant to have, but you also have ones that are very different from the norm.
Please delete this ask if it’s inappropriate or offensive, this is entirely in good faith but as you can probably tell I’m quite ignorant on intersex stuff
we encourage questions, even if they may seem stupid or are possibly from a lack of education. it's still useful to answer for others to learn from
we'll start off with saying. most doctors either ignore intersex variations, or label them a disorder and try to fix it. a /lot/ of intersex people don't get diagnosed by doctors in general when it comes to the word intersex being used. they often learn they're intersex from the intersex community.
we also don't think there's any body type that isn't deserving of being real. any situation (apart from hrt, wanted surgery to change things or similar) that causes one's sex to differ from the "norm" likely falls under a variation. if your sex differs from what you're seeing is typical for perisex, welcome to being intersex.
we understand why some may wrongly think if it's not obvious it doesn't count. medical history has done an amazing job erasing intersex people. at lying, manipulating and hiding information from intersex people and about intersex people. it's wrong though, a lot of intersex people do look "obvious" to some, some can easily tell there's something different from what they were taught. but someone could look exactly like the "ideal image" of perisex while being intersex
there's a lot of people who some may consider "mild." they're still just as important to the communities history as the more visible ones. but essentially, there's no such thing as "not intersex enough" when it comes to being welcomed into the community. the label is more than just the look, more than just the trauma. it can be positive moments as well, neutral moments, safety and understanding, it can be sharing experiences and making connections or bonds, a huge part of the community is working together to change the medical fields and social situations to be more accepting. working together to feel whole, to not be forgotten
hopefully the wording makes sense, we tried to answer this sooner but word salad has been coming and going as an issue
