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why do men have this eternal fear of being used for money they don’t have lol

Stop just asking "is it normal?" and start asking "is it harming anyone?" Lots of harmful things are normalized in this society and lots of things considered weird or rare are completely harmless. Whether something is considered normal or common shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether it's okay

lifeafterpsychiatry

Like a lot of disabled and neurodivergent and mentally ill ways of living and expressing yourself are both not normal and not harming anyone and it's the last part we should focus our attention on

yuri-puppies

@heterodox-heterographer you've hit the nail in the head

badvintagecooking

Spiced Iced Coffee

The Blender Way to Better Cooking. Ed. Betty Sullivan. Hamilton Beach, 1965.

w-e-i-r-d-f-o-o-d

Using Coke instead of water to make instant coffee sounds like a great example of the MBMBaM definition of spicy/spiced

lydiardbell

Hey now, there's not just coke! There's also twice as much sugar as coffee

imsobadatnicknames2

Of course no heuristic is universally true, but I think if you're an american who considers themselves "progressive" this is a rule of thumb you should probably be considering more often: If the conversation you're currently participating in is only able to happen because someone is going out of their way to speak *your* language, that's probably not the person who's most in need of informing themselves about the other's country in this conversation.

imsobadatnicknames2

It's just such a common pattern, how when you disagree with an american about something like e.g. the idea that it's unfair to hate members of the US military, the american will always walk into the conversation with the unshakable assumption that the only reason why you could possibly disagree with them is because *you* are not informed enough about *their* country, that you obviously are not aware of how bad veterans have it once they return home, or of the conditions of poverty and systemic inequality that might drive someone to see the military as their only chance for upward mobility, or of how aggressively military recruiters campaign, or how much propaganda they make, or how they take advantage of systemic inequality to recruit from disadvantaged populations, or a million other things which they will inherently assume you lack an understanding of and proceed to condescendingly explain to you.

All the while they refuse to entertain even for one second the possibility that it might be *them* who has something to learn about *your* country, that they might not be informed enough about the violence and terror the US military enacted upon your people, that *they* might lack some awareness or understanding of the cruelty and suffering that those poor, propagandized, systemically disenfranchised kids lied to by recruiters gladly participated in enacting which might drive even people who are fully aware of their conditions to still harbor resentment towards them. The possibility that the other person might have a better understanding of the conditions in their country than viceversa and still disagree with them will never even cross their mind.

violentcherries

just so you know

2020

#NYT opinion columnists talking about their three-year-old children:

ckret2

getting scambot messages from random accounts that clearly used to be normal active blogs is sad enough. you know that there used to be a real person on that blog until they were tricked into handing their password to the digital fae.

but it's an entirely new level of tragic when somebody you've actually spoken to gets turned into a bot account. it's like peeking at a zombie apocalypse through the window and realizing one of the shambling corpses was your friend.

and then the zombie catches sight of you, lurches up to your window, and shouts through the glass that they accidentally reported your account to tumblr and you'll be deactivated unless you click this link.

RIP to the blog that used to DM me to tell me they liked my new chapters. Their last known words spoken before being turned, 17 hours ago: "Ggs!" They were praising someone's deadlift.

ckret2

the message they tried to get me with is probably the same message that got them, so for anybody who hasn't already been warned about the signs of a zombie account:

if you get something like this ↑ they're gonna follow up by instructing you to contact tumblr support on discord and give you contact info; or they're gonna link a website that looks sort of like tumblr support and say you have to email them; or any variety of "you must now contact tumblr, here is how you contact tumblr."

whatever they send you, it Does Not lead to tumblr. it leads to the master zombie that bit them and inducted them into the ranks of the undead, and will bite you the second they have your email and password. i might be confusing zombies and vampires. anyway,

it's easier to fall for these messages because the blog doesn't LOOK like a bot blog, because it ISN'T a bot blog. it's a normal person's blog that got accessed by a bot, meaning the blog's content CLEARLY looks like a real active user when you click on it. and yes—it might even be a blog you already know. sometimes bots like this go down a blog's DMs or reblogs and message people they've previously interacted with.

they got one of my treasured followers, and they can get you too. don't fall for their tricks. know the signs.

memecucker

crabussy

WHY IS THE SUN GOING DOWN.

crabussy

(answering the phone) yes? (pause) right. okay. (pause) I see. (deadpanning the camera) we have to find māui. we have to get māui to beat up the sun again we have to slow that fucker right down

fulgrims-big-naturals

5pm sunset is a fucking injustice

crabussy

we have to do something about this

romanimp

GET HIS ASS, LADS

useless-catalanfacts

Masculine cape made of green silk velvet with golden embroidery. Years 1651-1675.

Source: Museu Virtual de la Moda de Catalunya [Fashion Virtual Museum of Catalonia]. Kept in Museu del Disseny [Design Museum] in Barcelona, Catalonia.

thingsfromthedirt

the Mapledurham Watermill (2007. Mapledurham, Oxfordshire, England) seen on the cover of Black Sabbath (February 13th, 1970) by Black Sabbath

dramatic-dolphin

going to start acting like i don't know anything about america. "people who aren't old enough to drink yet" ummmm we were talking about 19 year olds? they have been old enough to drink for a year now! you might be a little confused 😁

pinkrangerv

I definitely understand that it's annoying when people make assumptions, says the intersex AFAB person who has serious disability because of the assumption that forced gender surgery is a great idea.

However.

You walked on a website that's like 80% USAmericans, based in the US, and are complaining that USAmericans are discussing US norms without caveats.

There's 195 nations the UN recognizes; 205 on the Wiki list; Indigenous "tribes" in the US actually should be considered a nation each, so we're probably more like 300 just from the US; obviously indigenous people in other recognized nations add several hundred...

Yeah, you like the color of the caveat? Because I sure don't.

dramatic-dolphin

ok.

dramatic-dolphin

you tell americans "don't assume everyone is from the usa" and they will say "you want me to list every country and culture my statement DOESN'T apply to before i say anything??????? is that what you want??????" you know what yeah, that IS what i want now. start listing.

mlembug

usamericans will let their internet companies grow into monopolistic megacorporations eliminating all the competing companies within their country while having a regime that expects competition to exist in order to ~innovate~, use the imperial spoils to outcompete local websites in other countries and drag them into bankruptcy, and then complain about non-usamericans daring to exist on their websites

crabussy

every time I see people say "well you're on a website that is 80%-90% americans" I close my eyes and smile and furrow my brow and open my eyes and walk into the sunset with my hands clasped behind my back. pulling imaginary statistics out of nowhere to prove a point will make you look very silly!

the ACTUAL percentage of american users on this site isn't even 50%.

these stats are from two different statistic sites. the first one is from 2024, and the second is from 2026.

I've had people say to me "why wouldn't I assume everyone I talk to on tumblr is american? like 90% of tumblr users are" when in reality you're going to be wrong OVER HALF OF THE TIME if you assume someone here is from the USA.

it's like assuming every single person you talk to is a man just because men make up roughly 50% of earth's population. EVEN THEN you'd be right MORE OFTEN than if you assumed everyone on tumblr was american. don't make yourself look silly!

feanna

And nobody is asking you too consider every other country or every possible context our even any amount of extra reasearch before you make a post.

All we are asking is for you to vaguely remember the fact that there ARE other places out there and put some kind of indicator that your post is about the USA, when relevant, as people from other countries are already doing with theirs. This indicator does not have to be a disclaimer, it can be a context clue, but it needs to be more than something you assume everybody will know because you do.

dramatic-dolphin

occultopossum

Drawing in mspaint? Cool, impressive, But whenever I see that, I think about the person who makes their art in power point Every time I see them it boggles me