#mhdhika

Tunduk saat naik, tegak saat turun! Nothing worth having comes easy.

[kotak-nasi]

Sesaat setelah kamu tahu leganya melepaskan seseorang, leganya berhenti menunggu dan berharap, kamu akan ada di tingkatan yang baru dalam hal merelakan. Secara ajaib, semua akan terasa lebih mudah diterima; mana yang menjadi bagianmu dan mana yang bukan.

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Nyatanya, menjadi orang baik saja tak pernah cukup di mata manusia.

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Terasa nyata memang Bang.

[mahandhika]

Get low...

How come you never rest your tongue? 

How do you ever expect to learn? 

I know you want to chase it

But don't want to break your stride 

I know you want to taste it 

But don't want to waste your mind 

I know you want to try it so go and dive in 

Taste it, like it 

They've got you so excited 

You want to climb in 

Taste the violence...

[mahandhika]

Facing the unknown

There’s just one problem with this solution: We naturally fear the unknown.

So much so that studies of basic human nature show that we fear an unknown outcome more than a known bad one. We’re actually willing to hurt ourselves just to avoid facing the unknown.

It’s why bad habits are so hard to break: We prefer the devil we know.

When faced with situations outside our bubble we feel increased anxiety and pressure. And this uncertainty causes us to respond more strongly to negative experiences.

So, when we do finally get outside of our bubble and something does go wrong, that moment stays with us in a way that a positive one doesn’t. It’s so much easier for us to just confirm our beliefs that we know best and return to the safety of the known.

But the longer we give in to these fears, the smaller our comfort zone becomes. And the less likely we are to try new things and push our boundaries.

Being curious and actively engaging with the unknown and unfamiliar doesn’t just make us smarter, it actually makes us better equipped to handle life.

In one study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology in 2002,researchers predicted that high novelty-seeking (or curious) toddlers would have higher IQs as older children than their less curious counterparts. Almost 2000 children were observed at 3 years old and then 8 years later, their cognitive abilities were measured to see if there was any correlation between the two. In the end, the study showed that those children who showed more curiosity as a child averaged 12 points higher on their IQ scores.

Not only that, but a broad curiosity also contributes to our overall level of happiness. In his book, Stumbling on Happiness, Harvard psychology professor Daniel Gilbert explains that, while we might think we know what will make us happy in the future, we are actually less likely to find joy as a result of a planned pursuit than by simply stumbling upon it.

Staying within our bubble may keep us safe from anxiety, but discovering some profound human truth when we least expect it is what makes life magical.

Take it all in until it oozes out of you

For life to be worth living — for us to be happy and creative and productive and find meaning in how we spend the hours we have—we need to experience all aspects of it.

It’s only through divergent experiences and thoughts that we can create new and interesting art and ideas.

Swedish writer Dorothe Nors explains how, through experiencing everything life has to offer, we’re able to become the kinds of artists and people that create with meaning:

“All human beings have these moments when we feel this outpouring, our ‘soul volume,’ being pushed out from us like toothpaste from a tube. Everyone feels this, but artists try to capture the feeling through art, contain it within some permanent form of expression. And when I read a good text or see a good movie or enjoy a good piece of art — it is the humanity, this poured-out human experience, that I detect.”

Great art oozes with humanity. It’s the culmination of vast experiences that can no longer be contained. When you open your mind to everything, especially those events and ideas outside your bubble, you fill your mind with what resonates with the world. You become a vessel for human truths.

And there’s no better way to fill yourself to the brim than to engage with those people who are already going to burst.

Every conversation is a chance to break down the walls of our comfort castle. To find ways to fill our own lives with the experiences of others and grow our perspective, curiosity, and overall happiness.

It’s okay to have a bubble. Hell, for most of us it’s the only way we know how to live.

But once in a while we need to step outside, to look for those things beyond the usual that will enlighten us, inspire us, and bring us joy. Every single day we’re shown opportunities to step beyond our bubble and experience life to the fullest until we can’t help but let it ooze out of us and into everything we do.

Everything you could ever imagine is out there somewhere. You just have to open your eyes and look for it.

Source: https://crew.co/backstage/blog/get-out-of-your-damn-bubble/

[mahandhika]

Get out of your damn bubble!

I’m sorry to tell you, but you’re in a bubble.

It’s a bubble made up not only of the work you do, but your friends, the books you read, and your day-to-day routine.

It’s a bubble built from the meals you make each week.

It’s your Monday/Wednesday/Friday gym schedule.

It’s the route you take to work or the favorite coffee shop you write in on Sundays.

Yes, all those things are your bubble.

Your bubble is the safety net you surround yourself with every single day. It’s the routines and schedules that make your life stay stable and on track.

And yes, your bubble is also the building blocks of happiness, meaning, and even creativity. But it’s also a wall — one that separates mediocrity and greatness and that gets harder and harder to cross the higher you build it.

As Japanese author Haruki Murakami puts it:

“If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.”

Your bubble dulls your mind, and when you want to break the mould and change the world, you need a sharp knife to make that first cut.

There’s a great story about the American novelist Barry Hannah that illustrates exactly why we need to leave the safety of our bubble.

Hannah had just returned a student’s story with the criticism this just isn’t interesting, and, as the story goes, the student asked him what can I do to make it more interesting? Deciding she was earnest in her quest to become a better writer, he responded with, try making yourself a more interesting person.

Now, I’m sure this comes across as harsh advice. We like to separate ourselves from our work. It’s the writing that is uninteresting in style or structure or substance, not us. Because to accept the opposite is to accept the whole of the responsibility for our own work. To say that the issue is in our own character, not in our skill.

Looking at it in a slightly warmer light (and taking away a bit of Hannah’s swag and candor), writer and artist Austin Kleon in his book Show your work, suggests we think of ‘being interesting’ in the way author Lawrence Weschler does:

“For him, to be ‘interest-ing’ is to be curious and attentive, and to practice ‘the continual projection of interest.’ To put it more simply: To be interesting, you have to be interested.”

‘Being interested’ as Kleon goes on, means being curious about the world around us. To constantly ask questions and take in new information. As J. Maureen Henderson says to her students:

“There are many roads to becoming an interesting person, but they all involve developing your curiosity and your desire to know and understand — yourself, others, the world around you.”

Curiosity, all of the above would argue, is that one trait that will help bring you a better understanding of life, the people around you, and of yourself. Especially in an industry where we’re all expected to read the same things, repeat the same mantras, tow the startup line, it’s incredibly important to remember to look up once in a while and gaze beyond the horizon.

It’s only through this deep curiosity for the world at large, not just the things in our comfort zone, that allows us to do the kind of thinking that changes peoples’ lives — that changes the world.

Source: https://crew.co/backstage/blog/get-out-of-your-damn-bubble/

[mahandhika]

Rasa-rasanya sih iya...

[mahandhika]

Doubt

A lack of conviction, doubt, I think it's something that nature serve to us. It's a part of human beings. A nature driven variable. Hence, should we still ask for any exact certainty for any terms of things? Yes, the safest answer is "it depends to the circumstances". Example 1. About the future, nobody know for sure about what their future, no one have a certain value to represents what their future will be, what we do is keep faith, love ourself, believe to ourself and try to always be prepared. Of course estimation were allowed. Example 2. About how do you calculate the expected age of a building (without retrofitting) at the intense earthquake areas? Exact variable is easy to calculate, but if it involved nature, it's getting uncertain. And the calculation became qualitative. Of course, estimation also allowed here. Yet, uneven, uncontrolled situations and conditions will still flood us with booming variables. Case sensitive right? The response of Example 1. circumstance seems to be a reliable one to deal with more universal nature-related problem. 😌

[hujanmimpi]

Kadang butuh lebih banyak mendengar saat sudah terlalu banyak yang ingin diutarakan. Karena sebenarnya di tengah ramainya suara, ada suara-suara kecil lainnya yang kerap kali terabaikan.

Hujan Mimpi

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Mencoba mendengarkan suara-suara kecil itu, tak banyak ucap, tak banyak kata. Saat ini, aku hanya ingin mendengarnya.

[inspiring-pictures]

[mahandhika]

Yep..exactly!

[sweetoothgirl]

[mahandhika]

Resolusi 2016. Brewing my own land coffee beans.

[wtfzodiacsigns]

Zodiac Signs When Broken Hearted (So Relatable!)

♈ – Aries (The Ram)

♉ – Taurus (The bull)

Keep reading

[mahandhika]

😅 agak ada benernya ini.

[mahandhika]

Selamat beristirahat. Ingin, tapi akhirnya urung kuucapkan. Namamu, dalamnya tatapan matamu, -(yang aku ingin memaknainya sebagai rindu, tapi mungkin itu hanya anugerah dan keindahan ciptaanNya yang dititipkan kepadamu)- kini menyesak lekat makin dalam, makin kurindukan, meskipun dalam diam.

[menulislahkamu]

Adab-Adab Para penghafal Al-Qur'an.

Sumber: Facebook Fanpage Pondok Qur'an.

[mahandhika]

De javu

Looks like the time had swayed me back to how I was before…

Jammin’ up with my guitar, singin’ like crazy, making a song that I can’t remember 5 minutes later… Grab and learn again for some brand new updated features from any software that I had ignored lately, shockingly, they’re mostly had new features… And, if there is some freetime, spent some of it to feed my soul with my own version of psycho travelling, without being bothered by any kind of distraction. Get my bag packed up. And just go wherever I love to go. And the last thing, exercising phisically, keep my endorphine supply. Get sweat and Crack on.

I miss you girl.

[mahandhika]

Luck is a dividend of sweat, the more you sweat, the luckier you get. -Ray Kroc – View on Path.

[beningtirta]

Rumah Tangga Konvensional

Ini sekadar list of keywords dan kutipan dari sebuah diskusi ringan sebuah keluarga besar… yang sharing adalah sepasang Papa dan Mama, Ipa dan Ima (Kakek dan Nenek).

Disclaimer: catatan ini sudah bercampur dengan pendangan saya dan jangan dibaca kalau belum (bulat bertekad) menikah.

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Rumah tangga adalah sekolah yang tidak mengenal kata wisuda.

Keluarga konvensional: tidak detail ngomongin masa depan, kecuali pernak pernik ingin ini-itu yang sepele, tapi mengutamakan kasih sayang, komunikasi, dan komitmen.

Jenuh dengan pasangan? Emangnya baju bisa pakai bosan segala?

Kenali dirimu, kenali orang seperti apa yang melengkapi denganmu.

Jika kita melapangkan ciptaan Allah, Allah akan melapangkan hati kita. 

Cari yang mau bertahan–diskusi, kompromi, mengalah for greater good–tanpa mengorbankan hal-hal prinsipil..

Peran gas dan rem.

Saat penjajakan, kenali tipikal dan kepribadian calon istri mumpung belum akad.

Jangan ngotot dan jangan mengeluarkan kata-kata yang melukai, karena akan merusak diri sendiri.

Bahagia itu bersama, berbagi, mengenalkan, dan melibatkan.

Bahagia dunia akhir akherat dicapai dengan kerja keras dan tidak gampang menyerah.

Setiap manusia berakal punya preferensi, jadi ego-lah yang perlu diturunkan.

Perlu kesadaran merawat cinta sampai akhir hayat.

Berumah tangga adalah sebuah komitmen untuk siap menerima, menerima seseorang (dan keluarga besarnya) menjadi bagian dari diri kita. 

Romantisme cuma tools cinta.

Bangun keluarga: tanggung jawab, kepedulian, kepercayaan, kehormatan, keikhlasan, kasih sayang.

Uneg-uneg dikomunikasikan.

Saling ajak ke acara me time, supaya saling kenal.

Tips bahagia: penyertaan, pemaafan, dan pengikhlasan.

Prioritas berubah juga cara pandang, dari aku jadi kita.

Berumah tangga diniatkan menyenangkan Allah dan ciptaan-Nya.

[karenapuisiituindah]

Jodoh Bukan Perihal Pemenang Dalam Pertandingan Adu Kebaikan

Dulu saya sempat berpikir, kalimat ‘carilah jodoh yang terbaik’ adalah murni bermakna seperti apa adanya kalimatnya. Nyatanya, setelah saya memutuskan menikah dengan ia yang insya Allah memang jodoh saya, saya semakin banyak berpikir.

Seberapa banyak dari kalian yang mulai bimbang karena belum mendapatkan jodoh? Mulai berkaca pada usia diri sendiri dan juga usia teman-teman. Mulai merasa terhantui oleh undangan yang silih berganti datang ke rumah. Mulai bertanya-tanya, ‘kapan giliran saya?’

Seberapa banyak dari kalian yang membuat daftar kriteria yang harus dimiliki oleh calon pasangan hidup kalian? Dari point A sampai Z. Dari angka 0 sampai puluhan bahkan ratusan. Dari mulai sisi agama, jenjang pendidikan, pola pikir, nilai fisik, materi, bahkan katakanlah.. bibit bebet bobot pun ikut serta.

Seberapa banyak dari kalian yang punya calon lebih dari satu? Lalu mulai membandingkan mereka satu demi satu. Membuat daftar keunggulan dan kekurangan. Lalu kemudian menjumlahkan siapa lebih unggul daripada siapa.

Percayalah.. jodoh bukan perihal itu semua. Jodoh bukan perihal sebaik apa ia dalam kacamatamu, kacamata manusia. Jodoh bukan perihal seunggul apa ia dibandingkan calonmu yang lain. Pun bukan perihal menjadi pemenang dari siapapun yang kau 'adu’ dengannya.

Jodoh itu perihal ketetapan dan kemantapan hatimu. Jodoh itu perihal yang diridhoi Tuhanmu. Jodoh itu perihal yang segala halnya mampu membaikkanmu, membuatmu senantiasa berjuang menjadi yang lebih baik dari hari kemarin.

Bila ada hal yang meragukan hatimu, tanyakan ia pada tiga : Tuhanmu, hatimu, orangtuamu.

Medan, 29 Desember 2015

- Tia Setiawati

[mahandhika]

Mencerahkan Mbak...👍🏼😌😊