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[neverlove-anchor]

I find it extremely funny how the most basic of traits become alien when aspecs are involved

Like, most people can understand that there are some people who are inherently uncomfortable with sex. Who for some reason (or no reason) are just not comfortable with the subject and that doesn't mean that they can't have sex, or won't or even that they will or any other thing except that they are uncomfortable with it. And most people can accept that until you mention the word asexual and then it's a completely foreign idea and you need to get your hormones checked

People can also date without already being romantically interested in each other. That's the whole basis of dating apps and arranged marriages. And most people understand that too. But mention aromantics and then you're an abuser

Or having sex without a romantic or even sexual interest. Everyone is aware and mostly accepting of hook-up culture, sometimes you just want sex for the hell of it. But as soon as they find out about alloaros they clutch their pearls, the same with aces that have sex for fun. Because in their fervor or hating aspecs they forgot that sex feels good. Sometimes I legitimately wonder if aphobic allos even enjoy sex at all, considering how horrified they are when they hear about aspecs enjoying it

And that's probably because most are too brainwashed by amatonormativity to realize that they too can set these boundaries. If you are uncomfortable by sex say it, discuss it with your partner. IF you don't want to call your partnership romantic say it. If you want something with strictly no romantic feelings involved say it. If you have sex with someone you are not actually attracted to that doesn't make you a bad person, you both (or more) had fun, that's what's important

These are not strictly aspec things, everyone can do it. Because, and I need alloallos to read this very carefully, because although they know it few actually internalize it, it's better to die alone then to live your entire life in a relationship you hate just because you're scared to be alone

[thegaybitch15-deactivated202303]

Reblog if your blog is not a terf safe space

[sharkaiju]

FUCK 🖕 OFF 🖕 TERFS 🖕

[happyheidi]

[maknaestudies]

I miss my vacations in Lyon. Hopefully, I'll visit again.

[space-feminist]

it’s always so fucking funny to me when terfs are like “how can you say trans women and women are the same thing! being born as a man makes you different!” because like. yes. trans women and cis women are different. so are black women and white women. and straight women and queer woman. and women from different countries and different socioeconomic statuses. there’s diversity in the experience of womanhood? what a wild concept

[space-feminist]

incidentally, this why terfs tend to be white women. from the combahee river collective statement, 1977:

…we reject the stance of Lesbian separatism because it is not a viable political analysis or strategy for us. It leaves out far too much and far too many people, particularly Black men, women, and children. We have a great deal of criticism and loathing for what men have been socialized to be in this society: what they support, how they act, and how they oppress. But we do not have the misguided notion that it is their maleness, per se—i.e., their biological maleness—that makes them what they are. As BIack women we find any type of biological determinism a particularly dangerous and reactionary basis upon which to build a politic. 

(emphasis mine)

[dentes-mentis]

“To argue that transsexual women should not enter [women-exclusive spaces] because their experiences are different would have to assume that all other women’s experiences are the same, and this is a racist assumption. The argument that transsexual women have experienced some degree of male privilege should not bar them from our communities once we realize that not all women are equally privileged or oppressed.”

(from “Whose feminism is it, anyway?” by Emi Koyama)

[stele3]

This. This is the core of it. This is why trans-exclusionary radical feminism is rooted in racism, colonialism, and imperialism. It excludes the idea that there can be any other type of “woman” except one very (white, colonialist, imperialist) definition.

[learnelle]

Day twenty two - Visualisation is an amazing stress coping mechanism I use on a regular basis. When I get overwhelmed I force myself to take a minute to close my eyes and envision peaceful moments in my mind. :-)

[zobb]

christmas eve what about christmas adam

[qoti]

happy christmas adam to all men’s rights activists

[forfuturereferenceonly]

Please stop pestering us with things like this. This has nothing to do with men fighting for their rights. Eve is short for ‘evening’. Please don’t turn activism into a joke. Thanks.

[achillesvevo-deactivated2020090]

Someone isn’t having a good christmas adam

[theguilteaparty]

Christmas Adam: December 23rd. Comes before Christmas Eve and is generally unsatisfying.

[shojo]

Happy Christmas Adam everyone

[lisanamjoon]

someone on tiktok mentioned they’re 24 and they’ve yet to be intimate with anyone romantically and someone commented and said that’s an awful situation to be in… like they were deadass serious lol y’all have got to stop shaming people for not having had the same experiences as you at a certain age. and that goes for everything in life. we all have different timelines. be respectful and understanding of that. and speak to people with love. help them if they don’t understand something that may come simple to you. answer their questions without making them feel less than. kindness goes such a long way.

[oh23]

[truly-fantastic-me]

"amatonormativity isn't a thing lol"

yes. it is. here's some examples even you are familiar with.

when your parents or other older relatives ask you why you don't have a significant other or are married yet.

when you're holding hands with another person and everyone suddenly assumes that you are a couple.

when people don't respect your decision to stay single because "everyone needs a romantic partner or they'll die alone."

when people assume you're flirting when you're just being kind.

when your friends greatly reduce their time spent with you just because they have a partner now.

when people tell you they doubt you're "just friends" with another person just because you display what they think are signs of romance (that may be more of an aro experience but i'm sure it can happen with anyone).

i know these scenarios are more complex and nuanced than what this post is mentioning but that doesn't mean amatonormativity doesn't contribute to them.

[slowlyshytheorist]

My good people, I give you: Amatonormativity.

[maknaestudies]

I had my aroace awakening because of Daniel Sloss’ Jigsaw. PERIODTTT- If you know, you know.

[maknaestudies]

The semester has started and everything is now offline. I'm always exhausted walking around campus. Being at work and then lectures and meetings.

Currently reading: The Edible Woman by Margaret Atwood

[blinkpen]

man. remember early in the pandemic, shortly into the telework phase, when a lot of women started vocalizing “wow, i didnt realize just how much time, energy, and even money i was wasting on dolling myself up for work every damn morning, until i didn’t have to do it anymore. i don’t think i’ll go back to doing that when we return to the office? i won’t be a slob or anything, of course, i’m just not going to go out of my way to look pretty at work"  and then,

so many people proceeded to lose every last crumb of their shit about it, writing the most asinine crybaby articles ever where they were just. utterly horrified by the possibility that more and more women might become comfortable looking natural/plain and completely opting out of the expectation to look as appealing as possible at all times, even when all they’re doing is spending all day in a cubicle. that was bonkers. lmao.

[blinkpen]

some ladies were like “during lockdown, i saw myself in the mirror without makeup much more often, and got used to it, so now i don’t feel as anxious for others to see me without makeup on either. i’m comfortable with the face i have, it’s fine just the way it is”

and some absolute dork ass losers heard this and went “truly, this is the death of femininity”

[blinkpen]

TERFS who think they’re welcome on my posts: you’re not. the freedom to reject conventional beauty standards should apply to and be shared with trans women as well, moreso, in fact, because trans women are literally held to an even harsher, stricter standard when it comes to rando third parties feeling entitled to meticulous over-performance from them - demanding they put every last possible ounce of resource and effort into altering their appearance just to be seen as acceptable, demanding they “prove” their validity through excessive glamour, to ensure they are not “faking” - and the consequences for a trans woman if she does not flawlessly comply with these demands can be so dire as to be lethal for her.

That should not be the reality these women have to endure! That is a horrifying injustice, and anybody who not only lacks compassion for that, but promotes the ideologies that enable it, is not welcome here. I will not debate with you on the matter. Get lost.

[lantern-hill]

god i hate how aesthetic-obsessed we have become. i’m not talking about cottagecore or dark academia or any of the other -cores, i’m talking about everything being so glossy and pretty and perfect and smooth and one-liner hot takes and feel-good own-the-conservatives progressivism and Top 10 Company Tweets We Laughed At and ring lights and young vloggers with pastel-perfect colour-corrected lives and carefully curated messy title cards and perfect montages being called “photo dumps” and bookstagrams or booktoks or bookblrs who buy every book they read, not a library edition in sight and “that girl” and this is how you age when you’re unproblematic and glow ups and “clean” “inclusive” beauty and earth tones and minimalism and filming random people without their consent and definition of the self through consumption of goods and ggrgehwrgehrgehrgehrgehrrerg

[myhoneststudyblr]

here is my brand new challenge! i’m so excited for this one because i’ve never done an autumn challenge before but it is one of my favourite seasons! i hope lots of you will take part and i can’t wait to get to know you guys! <3

🍂 Info 🍂

If you do the challenge, use the tag #autumn studying challenge so i (and others) can see your posts. I will try to reblog as many posts in the tag as possible. 

This challenge will run for 40 days - from the 1st October to the 9th November

There are daily prompts for every day of the challenge

But, as always, I don’t expect everyone to be able to post every day so you can always do catch-up posts!

If you have any questions, feel free to send me an ask!

🍂 Rules 🍂

If you want to do the challenge, please reblog this post

If you do it on any other social media platform (ie. Instagram), please give credit! (my instagram | my tiktok | my pinterest)

The challenge will officially start on the 1st October, but if you come across this later, you can definitely start anytime during these two months!

🍂 Prompts 🍂

1st October - What is your favourite thing about autumn?

2nd October - Do you have any autumn traditions?

3rd October - What is a good memory that you have from autumn? 

4th October - Is there anything special happening for you this autumn?

5th October - Do you have any goals for this autumn? 

6th October - What is the weather like where you live during autumn?

7th October - What’s the first thing you think of when you hear the word ‘autumn’?

8th October - If autumn were a colour, what would it be?

9th October - What are three things that you associate with autumn?

10th October - What is your favourite autumn food?

11th October - What is your favourite autumn drink?

12th October - What is your favourite autumn scent?

13th October - What is your favourite autumn movie?

14th October - What are your favourite songs to listen to in autumn?

15th October - If you could magically get rid of anything about autumn, what would it be?

16th October - What is would your perfect autumn day be like?

17th October - Outside or inside?

18th October - Sunny autumn days or rainy autumn days?

19th October - Pumpkin spice lattes or hot chocolate?

20th October - What is your usual autumn outfit?

21st October - Falling rain or a crackling fireplace?

22nd October - Pumpkin pie or apple pie?

23rd October - Walk in the woods or read a book in front of the fire?

24th October - Fluffy socks or slippers?

25th October - Fireplace or bonfire?

26th October - Spooky mood or cozy mood?

27th October - Trick or treat?

28th October - Haunted house or Halloween party?

29th October - Buy a Halloween costume or make a Halloween costume?

30th October - If you could dress up as anything for Halloween, what would it be?

31st October - Are you doing anything for Halloween?

1st November - Fairy lights or candles?

2nd November - Vanilla or cinnamon?

3rd November - Splash in mud puddles or walk on crunchy leaves?

4th November - Bake cookies or make bread?

5th November - Sweater or cardigan?

6th November - Scarves or hats?

7th November - What do you prefer: winter or autumn?

8th November - How are you preparing for winter?

9th November - What was your favourite thing about autumn this year?

🍂 So this is the challenge! I hope that you will join in and enjoy doing it this autumn! Please message me or send me an ask if you have any questions about it or just want to have a chat <3 🍂

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