iām a product or attachment parenting, and please believe me, you have to look beyond the toddler stage. when i was a wee little, i only wanted my mum, and i was overly precocious, outspoken and a huge smartass. but that was because i had the confidence to speak up for myself, and i knew that my family would respect my views, accept my own decisions about my own life and let me have my independence. and although to the outside world it made me an awkward child, it really, really didnāt. it made me independent child that was secure in my own beliefs and open minded enough to develop them, from as soon as i learnt how to understand and talk back. and then as i got to an age when other people finally started to respect me, it made me confident, curious, open to new ideas, and above all, it gave me the ability to move away from my parents as soon as i was able and explore the world without worry that i wouldnāt have anyone to fall back on. i got to savour so many of lifeās rich experiences without fear of judgement or punishment, because in was secure in the belief that my parents were 100% devoted to me, but at the same time would not stop me from spreading my wings and exploring the unknown. i could make as many questionable decisions and take as many amazing opportunities as i wanted and i could rest assured in the fact that i always had someone to go back to. and iām sorry, but i donāt know anyone other than other examples of attachment parenting, that have felt this free, and this confident, and this eternally supported and loved. this style of parenting does not necessarily involve bed sharing, baby wearing, extending breast feeding and all the stereotypical stuff (though i had all of that) but it is the attitude, the patience, the respect between mother and baby, that lasts between birth and adulthood. and yes you might think iām a huge fucking hippy, and so were my parents, but whatever. i donāt care if i come from a long line of hippies, if my kids feel half as supported, and respected, and viewed as such equals as i did, then iām doing something right. if you spank your kids, and discipline them without telling them why something is not right, and leave them to cry alone, and dictate everything they do in their little tiny two year old lives, and tell them what to do and what to think, then they are not going to turn out as well rounded, emotionally healthy, independent individuals.
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