if you believe that fictional representation matters (it does, yeah) but then turn around and say “it’s only fiction, learn to tell the difference” when ships you enjoy come under (legitimate) criticism then…what r u doing honestly. why.
I honestly don’t see how these two ideas negate each other. Fictional representation matters, but it won’t have any effect on reality unless certain conditions are met. 1. Discourse about representation has to happen IRL. 2. People need to start changing their views. 3. A peace of fiction needs to be widespread or viewed by many people. 4. There has to be a lot of such fiction available to the public.
Fiction alone will never change opinions, but it can help change them by making certain topics more relatable.
Murder in fiction has been romanticized for centuries, yet most people seem to be aware that it’s wrong in real life.
That isn’t necessarily true. There are many anecdotes from people who have been negatively effected by people in fandoms creating content with underage characters x adult characters, for example, because abusers having access to this content means they can and will use it to groom potential victims. I’ve been a victim of similar things.
Having abuse normalized / romanticized in fanfiction / any fiction = creating an atmosphere that enables irl abuse (a lá fifty shades of grey). It’s not an epidemic, maybe, but to say we shouldn’t be critical of our content is a very dangerous thing.
But yeah, they absolutely do negate each other. You can’t clamour for representation in fiction on the basis that it effects reality, but then disregard that argument to brush off people saying that you should be mindful of what content you create online (which, by the way, is a public space lots of people have access to).
It’s interesting - you’re the second person today who’s mention abusers using shipping content as grooming. I will not dismiss this claim, even though it doesn’t sound too reliable, but instead I’d like to discuss it.
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Hell yes, shipinpeace!
It seems like most antis want all creative works to look like this:
...and that’s it.
It’s creatively stifling and it’s boring, and that’s not how art works.
The more I read stuff from antis (IDK why I keep doing it, glutton for punishment I guess), the more I keep thinking - wait. Banning ships they don’t like isn’t going to solve any of the problems they seem worried about, but there are other things that will. Just to take the two most common anti-ship arguments I keep seeing, for example:
1) "I’m an abuse survivor and I don’t want to see that stuff.” - 100% fair enough. So promote accurate tagging. Trying to tell writers and artists what they can and can’t write, draw, or create is going to get you literally nowhere. You might get into a tumblr argument for your efforts, but that’s it.
Telling artists and writers that you respect their right to create, but could they please return the favor and respectfully tag their works for certain ships, extreme violence, etc. so you can make an informed decision about which fictional worlds to engage with - that’s more than fair enough, and it’s likely to make them want to work with you rather than roll their eyes and blow you off as a hater. (Which is exactly what happens when you call someone a rapist for writing reylo, a pedo for writing obikin, or whatever else.)
2) “People need to know that [insert behavior here] is abusive and not okay.” - Also 100% fair enough. So promote abuse awareness. Make educational posts about what abuse does and doesn’t look like, and ask people to reblog the hell out of it.
The problem with 50 Shades of Grey (other than it was written like utter shit) wasn’t that it portrayed an abusive relationship, it’s that people didn’t know what abuse vs BDSM actually looked like, so they’d read 50 Shades and think it reflected a normal kinky relationship.
The answer here isn’t to ban 50 Shades. It’s to promote kink awareness and abuse awareness and educate people on how to tell the difference. That way when stuff like 50 Shades *does* crop up (which it always inevitably will), people will see it for what it is. They might enjoy the book and they might not, but if they already know what abuse looks like and what fully consensual kink looks like, they’ll know which one is being portrayed and have no misconceptions.
Same goes for Reylo or Quiobi or whatever else. There is nothing in the world wrong with making educational posts about why staying with a person who abuses you isn’t healthy, or what steps to take if you’re a teen at school and you see an adult behaving inappropriately with you or another student. Posts like that are helpful. That’s how people learn valuable things.
But calling someone a rapist or an abuser for writing fanfic is just absurd. If you’re worried a certain trend of popular fiction is sending harmful messages, then address the messages (”this is what bdsm is about, and this is what abuse is about, and here’s how to tell the difference”). Don’t guilt and shame people writing fiction and try to force them to stop, and don’t insinuate that people who write fiction are automatically advocating the IRL reenactment of what their fictional characters do.
Censorship isn’t the answer, folks. Education is. And the reason “representation matters” and “quit telling me what to ship” aren’t mutually exclusive is because the former is advocating additions to the marketplace of ideas (and therefore expanding horizons) while the latter is advocating the censorship of it.











