Mari Life

I’m here for a good time not a long time.

[maymeteorite]

me: :(

the moon: 🌙

me: :)

[sumrsgirl]

how to self teach a new language 

have contact with this language by hearing it on movies, tv shows and music. this will help you with your pronunciation skills and with your vocabulary

learn vocabulary and grammar at the same time

read kids books and translate what you don’t know. it might be hard at the beginning, but keep trying 

speak to yourself will help you like crazy. I like to pretend that I’m acting or that someone is interviewing me hahah see the magic happens 

READ AND WRITE. this is as important as speaking. It used to be so hard for me to write in English and I felt awful because I could actually speak very well. But my writing skills were just a lower level than my speaking level. Thankfully it’s getting better with practice. 

try to study a little everyday. if you don’t have time to do so, watch a movie or something, but have this contact with the new language at least once a day

be persistent because the processes of learning a new language can really piss you off. sometimes you will understand nothing and that will drag you down. the difference is to keep pushing until it doesn’t bother you anymore! 

[afabhysteria]

sick of having to pretend to know stuff about things. i don’t know anything about any stuff

[aelfcynn]

May you find exactly what you want at the thrift shop, in your price range, next time you’re there.

[writetheworldfree]

can’t pass up this kinda karma

[iridessence]

and in your size

[moonlitsaiyan]

definitely cant pass it up now jeez

[fohk]

[afrocentric-divination]

Me as a horse.

[lonelymountainson]

Okay I know it’s beautiful, I know, but here’s the thing: it’s a trap. Because that’s almost definitely like 600% a kelpie, and if you touch it it will drag you into a river and eat you.

[gallusrostromegalus]

Please enjoy this very pretty and Not At All Suspect horse.

[rhunae]

@cavalier-life

[labias]

I love getting called baby like Yes it’s true I am a baby but most importantly I am Your baby so please say it again

[embracingwild]

things to remember:

- there is nothing shameful about being hungry (even when your mind tells you you “shouldn’t” be) - there is nothing shameful about listening to your body (even if it feels like you are doing something wrong) - do not compare what your body needs to what other people are eating, they are not you - you always have permission to eat more

[fonzworthcutlass]

I hope all of yall find $20 on the ground tomorrow.

And I mean that.

[gaze4u-deactivated20201021]

$50 maybe

[gendernihilistanarchocommunist]

a dropped money clip from some clumsy, unobservant capitalist shithead with in excess of $5000 in it

[chaoticprincecloud]

Put it out so the universe can pull it in sis!!

[celestictarot]

p l e a s e

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

I just finished babysitting my friend’s children, and she has most definitely mastered the no spanking/alternative discipline route. I always talk about taking it because I don’t believe in abusing children, but I’ve never personally seen it in action by a Black parent. Her children are 2 and 5 and they are the kindest, nicest toddlers I’ve ever met. They listen to her because she’s their mom and they automatically recognize she’s important and she gives them what they want (love and affection and rewards). In return they like to clean for her and give her artwork and cuddles all of the time.

To get them to listen to her, she makes sure to listen to them and what they’ve got to say instead of telling them to shut up all the time. The 5 year old asked her a few months ago why you can’t eat food that was on the floor after picking up food on the floor, and she explained it calmly and clearly. He asked 4 other questions after that and she answered all of them. He was satisfied and happy with the answers, and ever since he hasn’t done those things. She lets them gush and gush about Hot Wheels or Team Umizoomi and engages with them and counts with them and everything, so they never feel alone or neglected enough to not want to obey.

My friend lets them make mistakes by themselves on the rare chance they don’t listen so they can learn from them and let that be punishment enough. For example, the younger one we’ve been telling not to go near the dog cage because he doesn’t like dogs. He went near it a while ago, got his hand licked, freaked out, and hasn’t been anywhere near it since. The board on the wall that she uses has a column for each boy horizontally, and vertically are all the traits she wants them to have, like being nice, listening to her and their teachers, eating their food, cleaning up, having manners, etc. They get a sticker whenever they do it for the day, and they lose all their stickers when they break a habit. That’s enough punishment for them, so they don’t break it.

When they wake up, it’s cleanup time, or bedtime, she plays what she calls “musical habits”. She puts on a playlist of their favorite songs (it’s like 20-25 minutes) that make them feel motivated, and they should be finished getting ready or cleaning by the time the last song is over. If they’re not, they get a toy from their toy bin taken away or an Oreo from their snack bag taken out (aka eaten by her). But she hasn’t ever gotten to that because they always finish. They don’t even like hearing the consequences lol. And I just wanted to say I really enjoyed seeing good parenting by a Black woman that wasn’t abusive or harmful to the child’s development, it gave me inspiration and hope. Just had to talk about it somewhere.

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

I wrote this post about a year ago. Since then, I’ve become the godmother to both of these babies, and they are STILL so well behaved. I babysit from time to time. They’re also enrolled in Montessori programs.

She’s now teaching them about mindfulness, Spanish, self care, and cooking. They have little yoga mats and practice breathing in and out with her every morning, and then they do affirmations together. I visited them a while back and they have a new board up! She created a system where they’re challenged with the task to do something nice for each other or for someone else every week. With this challenge they’re instructed to use their listening skills to figure out what that person might want or need, and then figure out how they should react. The only reward at the end of the week is a big hug and some snacks, and every month, she lets them have a movie day if they’ve done really well.

She’s also making them use their words when they’re upset instead of grumbling in silence. Her oldest one was notorious for that. She made up a little saying to remind him: “Mommy can’t help if Mommy doesn’t know.” It’s forced him to explain why he’s upset and that gives them a chance to have an actual conversation about it. Now they talk about ANYTHING. If they don’t feel like talking at that moment and they express that, she’ll lead them to their playroom and turn their favorite show on or let them meditate or draw until they’ve cooled down. She also accepts letters if they just didn’t want to use their words. It was so good to watch.

By the way, I got many messages about this post asking me to ask my friend where she learned these techniques. She said that she wrote down all the ways her parents hurt, hindered, or stunted her developmental growth and then wrote down ways they could’ve approached it better or loved her better. That second list is her guideline. 

[rashemibabe]

I usually see people say they’re never gonna treat their kids like their parents treated them yet end up doing it anyways. So this is encouraging… knowing that it is possible to be better than you’re parents.

[samezukas-deactivated20171227]

so i don’t think a lot of people really understand how often south asian culture is misinterpreted and appropriated so i’m making a post about it right here.

any mention of third eyes

any mention of chakras

people wearing bindis when they shouldn’t be 

fucking “om” or “aum” tattoos or appliques on things like yoga pants. do you know how fucking disrespectful it is to put a symbol that is so important to my religion and culture on the ass of some white chick’s yoga pants

people wearing maang tikka when they shouldn’t be

anklets with bells on them are very important to the dance culture of south asia and it’s disrespectful to wear them outside of a traditional dance setting

feel free to add any more that i missed because i’m fucking tired

[samezukas-deactivated20171227]

this is okay to rb if you’re not south asian. in fact it’s encouraged that you reblog this post, regardless of your race

[fierce-little-afro-witch]

^^Anyone is capable of appropriation without meaning to, even other poc. Please respect!

[afrocentric-divination]

All of you asking if it’s still ok if youre pagan can also go choke. Y’all will use any excuse to appropriate and not care what other people say not to use. They are literally saying “DONT” and y’all are saying “yeah but…” But my ass. Learn to stop being so entitled.

[cressiesprochoice]

[inceledwardcullen]

hozier: imagine being loved by me

me:

[rowdy-redhead]

I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS

[carterbaaizen-moved]

i personally want to thank mark ruffalo for this

[thesassiestcolor]

What Hozier says: Honey I laugh when it sinks in, pillar I am of pride. Scarcely can speak for my thinking What you’d do to me tonight

What hozier probably means: I get excited thinking of the sex we’ll have and am proud to indulge in you

What Hozier sounds like: PEG ME PEG ME PEG ME PEG ME PEG ME PEG ME

[thedruidsforest]

How could you NOT fall in love with the glow of the moon and stars, the warmth of the sun, the ancient life within the trees, and the sweet melodies of the winds?

[thesadghostclub]

If today felt impossible, if it took everything you have just to get through. Rest easy with the knowledge that you never have to do today again. It’s over. You did it <3