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[heavenlyyshecomes]

there is a level of seduction that exists beyond the body. something less tangible, and perhaps more potent. anais nin understood this idea about how desire does not begin with touch but with language, perception, and the sharp electric pull of a mind that challenges and excites you. in her journals, desire is not just a physical hunger but a hunger of the intellect, an unraveling of thought before an unraveling of the body. to be drawn into someone’s mind, to feel their thoughts press against your own, can be more intoxicating than any physical closeness.

—Caitlyn Richardson, 'can intellectual intimacy replace physical desire?', in milk fed

[mauradersdaughter]

Random thought: Was Christopher paying child support for Rory?

At first I thought, “he was a teenager when she was born, so probably not.”; but the thing is, being a teenager doesn’t exempt a parent from child support obligations; having options on how he could pay. If the teenager can financially support the kid, he could pay it himself; if not, since he’s underage, the grandparents may be required to contribute. Since Christopher was a rich teen, in his case, it could go either way. The point is: he would have to do it and once he turned 18, the responsibility would be fully on him.

That brings me to the second part of my question: “What about when he was an adult? Did he pay?”. My immediate thought was: “Definitely not!” It’s obvious in the show that Lorelai is the person that takes care of all the finance in her house, having Chris only show up when it’s convenient to him. She couldn’t count on him for anything to the point that when she needs money for her child’s education, she doesn’t even think of him as a possibility and goes, in her mind, for her worst possibility: her parents. If Christopher was helping with the child support, she would probably have told him the issue and they could’ve figured out an agreement on how to deal with it.

The point I want to make is that Christopher is such a deadbeat father that he didn’t help raise his child in ANY way, not even financially (which makes it even crazier when you realize the wealth his family has). Lorelai had to do it all! So when his stupid father tries to use the argument that Lorelai getting pregnant ruined his privileged son’s life, it’s so wildly insane and inaccurate that it profoundly irritates me.

[littlecornerinbrooklyn]

Gilmore Girls is SO GOOD and it treats women as complex people with entire lives and universes inside of them and it makes sure that you understand that all of them find value in different things and how mothers and daughters can be so different and what it's like when you're a kid who doesn't feel like your parents like you but it also shows how hard it is to actually break generational habits and how we can't force people to change but in our best moments we can laugh about the things that other times frustrate us and just understand our mothers and grandmothers and daughters as people who are going to make mistakes but who are also sincerely sorry and it's about love and communities and what life could be like if our town gathered every week and had a diner with really good burgers

[firawren]

The most genius thing about Mr. Darcy's first proposal to Elizabeth Bennet, IMO, is that you can totally see how he would believe it to be romantic and well received, even though he says the most monumentally stupid and hurtful stuff. Because Darcy is not actually stupid, nor is he actually bad, and Jane Austen had to come up with a way for him to propose in an awful way that was still believable. She nailed it.

Like, if you think about it, the idea of "this marriage is a bonkers idea that will make everyone I know upset but I don't care at all because I love you so much and cannot live without you and fuck everything else" is incredibly romantic and flattering. Who doesn't want to be wanted that badly? You can actually understand why Darcy thinks it's a good idea to say this out loud.

But the great thing about this sentiment is that it's simultaneously incredibly insulting. Who wants to hear that getting married to them would be bonkers? It makes you feel less-than, a feeling which the high and mighty Darcy has zero experience with and doubtless no conception of. It would be impossible to put himself into Elizabeth's shoes in this situation. Which again, makes it believable that he would say such stupid stuff to her in this proposal, even though he's an intelligent guy.

I'm just in awe of Jane Austen at creating a proposal that is simultaneously deliciously romantic and monumentally idiotic and horrible at the same time. It's pretty much the worst possible way to propose, a total train wreck, and yet you can buy Darcy believing it to be a smart way to propose. I love it.

[free-my-mindd]

-Anaïs Nin, 1939

[mauradersdaughter]

The more I read people’s opinions and views on the dynamic between Lorelai and Emily and how that reflects on Rory, the more I think only people who’ve really been on those situations understand the toxic relationship and complexity between those characters. ‘Cause why the hell did I just read that Emily was perfect, the Gilmore seniors weren’t “that bad” and Lorelai just wanted her parents for money? How is that your take from the show? If I were ASP, I would be hella offended if my complex show had been reduced to that.

[mauradersdaughter]

Watching the Lucas scene when he puts the popcorn in the microwave made me realize that the WSQK radio gave two spoilers about this scene and his idea.

1) when Mindy Flaire said that she used a microwave for the first time and that it was the future. A comment she made many times. (Which is how Lucas had the idea)

2) When Vance said the tower had the power of 50.000 Watts and shocking things I wrote in my last post. (Which is the power that they need for Lucas’ plan)

[mauradersdaughter]

Am I the only one that’s feeling that Ladybug’s powers are being shadowed by the other miraculous and that the show seems to have forgotten that hers and Chat Noir’s powers are supposed to be the most powerful and dangerous?

Because I’m seeing a lot of growth with the other characters’ powers and none with theirs. It’s like the story has forgotten that, even in the miraculous box, the ladybug and cat miraculous are in the center of things, while others, even the butterfly and rabbit miraculous, are around them.

It seems, however, that in season 3 and even more in the later seasons, their miraculous seem to have taken a backseat and now they’re so dependable on the other miraculous that it’s like the point of the show is forgotten. They used to be able to defeat akumas by themselves, with amazing plans and no need for ten other people.

I miss when the protagonists were intelligent and capable by themselves.

[ashstfu]

warsan shire

[petaltexturedskies]

You will freeze in place if you remain this way. You must not, dear. You have to move.

Rainer Maria Rilke, in a letter to Sidonie Nádherná, dated 1 August 1913

[mauradersdaughter]

One thing that always irritated me in Dawson’s Creek when Joey and Pacey get together, was how the friends said they didn’t want to choose sides, but were clearly on Dawson’s. If they wanted to be neutral in the whole situation, then they should’ve spend time with both of them, but they were always on Dawson’s side and neglecting Pacey. No wonder Dawson said that when it all ended Pacey would be friendless, he knew they would all run to his side. They treated him like he was dynamite and no one wanted to see him explode and since Pacey was way calmer and understanding, they never thought of how he’d feel.

It’s a pattern I found in the show that every time that Dawson and Pacey fight, everybody stays on Dawson’s side and no one looks out for Pacey. He becomes a villain in the story, being punished by the others and gets isolated from the group. Like when Andy found out that Joey and Pacey were together and let Dawson borrow the boat so he could compete against the other boy, knowing that that would hurt her ex, since it was an opportunity he’d been working hard to get, and that it wouldn’t help fix the relationship between the friends. She wanted him to be in pain and was willing to let him lose the competition to get it. This, and other situations, show the level of disrespect and how little the characters support him when he’s in scenarios against Dawson.

Pacey is probably the most poorly treated character in the entire show. He’s done amazing things for his friends and it seems like none of them appreciate it or help him when he’s the one that’s in need.

[misstanwyck]

I cured myself of shyness when it finally occurred to me that people didn’t think about me half as much as I gave them credit for. The truth was, nobody gave a damn. Like most teenagers, I was far too self-centered. When I stopped being prisoner to what I worried was others’ opinions of me, I became more confident and free. - Lucille Ball (Love, Lucy)

[natequarter]

we have to make more women suffer in fiction but crucially not in a man pain way. we have to let women suffer in fiction the way men are always allowed to suffer in fiction. we need women who grieve their male love interests always dying horribly at the hands of the villain of the week the way male action heroes always do. we need women who suffer in ways other than "dying in childbirth" and "abusive male relative". we need women with interiority and depth of character having the worst time of their fucking lives.

[succulentsiren]

Stop being so easily intimidated. When their heads turn to look at you, own the moment and feel totally empowered. Drop the negative self-talk. Own the ability to make head’s turn, eyes shift and people stand at attention when you enter the room. It’s time to allow your presence to be spellbinding.

[youareinlove]

evermore is such an insane album when you really think about it. like. love isn't forever. friendship isn't forever. trust isn't forever. family isn't forever. even a marriage isn't forever. but then she ends on evermore (song) and it's like: you know what else isn't forever? pain. suffering. heartache. she just flips the script of the entire album on the LAST SONG and cements the complexity of its core message in 5 minutes. and i'm supposed to be normal about that

[youareinlove]

also (since i'm seeing a lot of people say they didn't fully get that this was evermore's core message until now) this is what "forever is the sweetest con" means

[forbearing]

thank you anais nin

[quotespile]

“You have to talk, otherwise your head turns into a cemetery.”

— Chuck Palahniuk, Consider This