Unapologetically INTJ

Female | 19 | She/her | Bit of a nerd | icon by @yourlocalintj

[stressedneutral-infj]

why intjs are super cute

They are the biggest nerds. Super cute nerds. Talk with an intj about something they really are interested in or something they really love and watch their eyes come alive. The sparks of passion ignite their pupils. The subtle underlying emotion in their voice. Some of them even rush to talk, their lips barely keeping up with their rampaging brain. It’s beautiful and extremely cute.

They are lowkey softies. Every single one of them (that I have met) has that one thing that turns them into this super cute cooing baby. Usually, its their pets or animals. My dad is a very serious and intimidating man (thanks to the Ni-dom stare™) but get him my dog and he’ll be reduced to a cooing pile of cuteness. An old female intj friend of mine used to be like that with her cat too, she baby-talked to it and all.

They crave a little love and attention sometimes. Believe me when I tell you deep down they are softies, even if they don’t acknowledge it. Even if they may not  know how to respond to open displays of affection, nevertheless it’s important that people very close to them express their love for them every now and then. You wouldn’t believe how needy and clingy my dad gets sometimes. I’m a feeler and more often than not I get overwhelmed by him. Thinkers, as independent as they seem, need a lot of reassurance too, sometimes even more than Feelers.

Their love/hate humanity complex. As much as they may want to make implode half the population of this planet, they are very connected to humanity as a whole. They always lowkey hang on to the little string of hope in their hearts, that maybe, just maybe… there may be something redeemable about humans after all.

[yourlocalintj]

Something I've learned over the last year! As a younger INTJ, I was very into the whole "feelings bad" stereotype. But more recently I've learned that hey, feelings are actually pretty nice, and being open to that has led me to make some amazing friends, discover a talent and passion for learning languages, and be all around a better human than I could have been without accepting that I've got feelings and they only hurt some of the time. 😊

I guess kids in general don’t know how to handle their feelings so it seems like an obstruction to them and add to that the moodiness of INTJ and it’s on a whole new level. I can’t say I’m in very much harmony with my emotions and I still sometimes think it would be nice if this whole hassle didn’t exist but I would say it’s not my predominant notion anymore so hey! I guess progress?

[mbtigoodness]

That's definitely progress! It takes work to improve on anything, and this is a big one that takes a lot of work, so any progress is worthy of acknowledgment.

[imnottotallyaparadox]

NTs as Languages

ENTJ: Classical Latin. Very formal, lots of rules, seems a bit cold, but full of warmth and life and wisdom if you care to look; academics aspire to it, but few completely realize it

ENTP: French. Full of heat and the vibrancy of life, and sometimes discredited because of that, but with amazing depth of thought and rule of logic just veiled; overrated for reasons it deems less important

INTJ: Russian. Often associated with evil tyrants, but actually quite beautiful; strong and structured, but by turns lyrical and almost mystical; many times overlooked

INTP: Old English. Lots of depth but is can seem like a mess, taking bits of information from here and there and cultivating them; either over or under appreciated

[mbtigoodness]

Kind of figured INTJ would be a Slavic language. Am I disappointed? Not in the slightest, I love it.

[introvertdear]

10 Things INTJs Absolutely Must Have in a Friendship

Because INTJs tend to feel like they don’t fit in, they may need extra reassurance that you actually want to spend time with them.

INTJs have a reputation for being intelligent and aloof loners, but many of them put a high value on friendship.

[mbtigoodness]

Pretty dang close

[designing-my-life]

Being Emotionally Distant from Everyone (feat. the xNTJ thing)

“You xNTJs are like robots, that`s amazing.”

Like nope. Here is the thing - I feel enormous responsibility towards some people. I would do anything for them. They can call at 3AM and I am there. I enjoy their company. I enjoy our times together and shared experiences. But at the same time, if they just disappeared from my life, I feel like I could cope without many problems. 

My little sister told me so many times this weekend how much she loves me, misses me and enjoys time with me. I am not surprised. She can talk to me about anything, I create things with her, I entrust her with details about my life and she entrusts me with hers in return. In every way, it would seem like a completely loving relationship. 

Only I don`t miss her when she is not around. I am more emotionally hit by writing this than when I don`t see her for a month.

I can cope with literally anyone not being around for any period of time. 

Meanwhile, I physically care for people - I am on time, I do stuff they like, I say things they love hearing for support, I can be brutally honest and entj-like when they need help, and they can depend on me. When my mom was sick during the weekend, I treated her like a queen and prepared for Christmas like a maniac so she didn`t have to (although I have the finals week ahead). I also like having a certain number of close friends and invest in relationships with them a lot of time and energy. 

I am only scared I am not able of deeply loving anyone. I used to once. And the physical pain of not being around the person was really annoying to me in the long run, especially when the relationship ended. On the other hand, I do not think this is desirable, I don`t think this is a great xNTJ thing and I sometimes have the feeling we are very emotional. That we are much more than “those feelers” because they are strong enough to let people hurt them. 

Nobody can hurt me, and that fact alone is starting to hurt me.

[intjxintp]

College

So, I’m in college. I’ve dreamed of and planned for this season of my life since I was little. And now that I’m here, I hate it. I have no friends, I’m panicked because I’m at a school with a very messed up and unclear curriculum, and I keep having panick attacks and crying episodes. Shoutout to anyone else who is hating college this far. At least I’m learning. That’s like my one highlight.

[mbtigoodness]

I've been there. College is hard, it kinda sucks sometimes, everything is different and it is so easy to feel like you are just another cog in the machine. But you will survive it, and you will find your people, and you'll get past it and think "wow, that was really hard and I learned so much from it" and there will be at least one MBTI blogger who's losing their mind with how proud they are for you

[maxknightley]

me, the eldest sibling in a fairy tale: hey idiots, watch me own the hell out of the Devil. I’m gonna be so good at it

[maxknightley]

me, ten days later, draped over my youngest sibling’s shoulder like a sack of potatoes as they saunter out of Hell: I will admit that mistakes were made.

[dutchfruitjar]

How to tell an INTJ loves you:

I saw this and thought of you.

I did this so you don’t have to.

No, it’s no problem. Anything to help you out.

Makes eye contact often.

How to tell an INTJ likes/tolerates you:

Acknowledgement of your existence.

*Placating smile*

Sure. Let’s get coffee sometime.

Moderate eye contact.

How to tell an INTJ doesn’t like you:

Silence.

Vague and reluctant acknowledgement.

Short and only necessary responses.

Extremely minimal to no eye contact.

[yourlocalintj]

I didn’t even realise I was selective about eye contact.So accurate.

[sinister-salvation-deactivated2]

Accurate! Eye contact always feels intrusive.

[blurredyearning]

100% legit on all accounts.

[lilysand-theintj-blog]

Let me add 5s.

*5. Hugs you.

*5. Shakes your hand

*5. Could trip over the dead body and keep on walking.

[yourlocalintj]

brilliant addition.

[institutionalized-gaming]

October can’t come soon enough

IT IS AUGUST

[its-an-ear-hat-john]

This has been in my likes since last year. It is time.

[bedhead-queen]

This is the 21st night of September skeleton. He only appears once a year.

[intjxintp]

INTJ- Crush

INTJ really out here struggling to find out if their crush likes them back and how to either make their crush Very Obvious™️ or get over it because it’s unreciprocated. Catchin’ feelings is like pretty inconvenient….

[intjxintp]

Update: Ouch?

This is frustrating, and I wish it would go away because (I’m pretty sure) he doesn’t like me back…

[intjxintp]

Update: I’m dating them now, and I care about them so much. Things are going really well. Note to fellow INTJs- don’t give up because your head keeps telling you things. Listen to the other person and trust your instincts… ❤️

[intjxintp]

Update: this is the best relationship I’ve ever had, and I’m so thankful for it. He’s an ENFx, so we have an interesting dynamic… I definitely didn’t expect to work so well with a feeling type, but I actually think we balance each other out really well. I can actually talk about my feelings and really understand them with him, and I guess I can be rational for the both of us in some cases. My whole unhealthy xNTx nature when it comes to overanalyzing things and eventually doubting has really been put to the test and kept in check in this relationship. I have all of the trust and validation I need, but I’m also learning a lot and getting better at knowing when to question my thoughts and which concerns to give weight to. Good luck to all INTJ followers just trying to find someone that helps them become a better person in this way. ❤️

[intjxintp]

UP-UPDATE:

We’ve been dating for almost 6 months now, and it’s still making me so happy. We definitely have gotten to the stage where things aren’t rainbows and sunshine 24/7, but I kinda love it because it’s proof that we’re developing in the relationship and hopefully as our own people as well. Talking about issues (in and out of the relationship) is real hard for me, but it has never failed to prove especially beneficial for me as an INTJ type and a pretty anxietyprone human. Learning to be with someone who truly seems to process emotions and is so thoughtful and really tries to be understanding when it comes to both of our emotions is really something. It can be frustrating to feel like they might think you’re crazy and having to remind yourself constantly that you don’t know what they’re thinking, but you do know them. No matter how much your mind wants to project your own negative thoughts into their head, you should always stop and assess whether or not that idea aligns with the person they’ve shown you they are. My boyfriend (the ENFx) is kind, smart, patient, loyal, and understanding. If this wasn’t the case, I don’t know if he’d continue to put up with my antics 😅that being said, I definitely need to work on listening and trusting him as well the things I do know in my heart to be true about his character and my own worth. Luckily, the first step to getting better at this, is understanding what I need to be doing, and I’m definitely learning. I’m also learning that it’s. Okay. To. Ask. For. Help!!! I literally don’t know how many times I need to repeat this to myself. But honestly, just talking to my partner about the fact that I don’t always feel secure in our relationship when it comes to my own anxieties has been so relieving. I think asking them for help when it comes to reaffirming what I already know and shutting down the doubts and lies in my head will be helpful. It’s hard to effectively reaffirm something to yourself. Having someone else be intentional about doing so as well seems to help more than I would’ve imagined. So, it’s not perfect. And I don’t need perfect- I don’t want perfect. I just want to be happy and make the person I love happy, and I definitely feel like that has been the goal from start and we are actively trying to pursue that goal to the best of our abilities in this relationship. The more we do it together- as a team- the more effective it will be. Alright… I know this is incredibly sappy and not at all in character for an INTJ, but that’s love I guess.

—INTJ

[intjxintp]

UPDATE:

How this boy still got me in my feelings? I swear he could literally do anything, and I’d give him the moon.

[intjxintp]

UPDATE:

So, I had to leave the country for a month, and I didn’t realize traveling while in a relationship is this hard. ENFJ and I are still doing good, but it’s definitely new territory. I’m very ready to get back, and it’s only been a couple days. I’m focusing on enjoying the present, but I really hope it gets a bit easier. My anxiety has already started playing tricks on me, and I’m already done with it’s BS.

[intjxintp]

UPDATE:

Jokes on me. He broke my heart. Love sucks and everything sucks, merry Christmas New York!!!🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂

[mbtigoodness]

Oof, I'm sorry. Breakups are never fun.

[me-is-an-intj]

INTJ: I am darkness. I am the night. The compassion I once possessed has shriveled away into nothingness, along with what used to be my cold, black heart.

ENFP: Yesterday you picked up three shopping carts in the parking lot and put them away. They weren't even yours. They weren't even near your car.

INTJ: I AM DARKNESS

[anxietyproblem]

What's the weirdest thing you've done as a result of social anxiety?

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[vegetamammaries]

I’ve had friends drop me off at places where i don’t live, because i didn’t want to trouble them anymore than i have

[anxiouslydepressedintrovert]

People have gotten my name wrong when ordering food or like anybody at all and I don’t correct them so they think my name Alice when it’s actually Allison

[darksideofmythougts]

I’ve decided to sit in the car during social events so I won’t have to interact with anyone, but I still got weird stares from people walking by, so I would lean my seat all the way back so no one could see me.

[lifeinnonreality]

I’ve literally been called the wrong name at my dance studio since I started because I was too anxious to say anything. There’s a whole bunch of stuff but yea

[icansus]

I GOT ONE

placing tissues under my desk because I didn’t want to walk to the other end of the room to throw them away because I didn’t want people to look at me 

[lovedhappysafe-deactivated20230]

When I was a kid, I was at the dentist and they had these stuffed animals that had like,, dentures?? And you could brush them, so they gave me one. So I brushed the teeth, but I didn’t want to stop until the doctor came back because I felt like it would be rude to put it down or something. So, basically, I brushed a stuffed animals fake teeth with a giant toothbrush for like five minutes straight until he came back.

[cowlicks-and-curls]

The supervisors at my work were talking about where to send me for the day, but they were all confused at first as they were all pronouncing my name different because I had never corrected any of them. They weren’t entirely sure they were talking about the same person.

[oreganowo]

I failed a school project because I was too afraid of talking to the cashier when I was buying materials

[betitkeepsyouupatnight]

I didn’t want to inconvience traffic on a busy road to get to a Dollar Tree and didn’t want to do the same again when I had the chance to U-Turn. So, I drove six and a half miles out of my way to the next Dollar Tree.

[smexybitch]

I used to get really faint from holding my breath because i was afraid people around me would hear me breathing and think I was weird. For breathing. Yknow, like how all humans do?

[intj-truths]

Ok not necessarily weird but very painful and still worth sharing. So a few months ago I was hiking the Path of the Gods on the Amalfi Coast (10/10 would recommend excellent hike) and at the end of the trail there’s a set of stairs (like 1400 steps or something, it’s insane) that you can take down into Positano, or you can take a shuttle. Couldn’t find the shuttle, options were to try and ask the guide who spoke very little English (and I spoke even less Italian) or to take the stairs.

I took the stairs.

My legs turned to jelly halfway down, but oh man I was committed at that point. Could barely walk the next day, which coincidentally was the day I traveled to Sienna where my Airbnb was on the fourth floor, with no elevators. I regretted those stairs for literal weeks afterward, even after returning home. It took some time for the ligaments in my feet to forgive me for that.

[mbtigoodness]

Nearly failed a couple classes because I didn't want to talk to the teacher about academic accommodations. Or take the quizzes on paper.

[sugar-spiders]

Send me an ask about a reason why you're happy

[sortinghatchats-deactivated]

Official @sortinghatchats quiz!

The time has come! Who wants to try out our @sortinghatchats style sorting quiz? 

Go here and begin your adventure: 

https://ejadelomax.itch.io/sortinghatchats

If you run across any bugs or errors, let us know in the sortinghatchats ask box. If the whole thing just jumps to the top of the page and… shakes… that is a known bug and we’re not sure why it’s happening. But it doesn’t happen very often! (I think it’s to do with the hosting site?)

We had a blast making this quiz, coming up with wording and questions, and testing the paths people can take through the quiz content. We even made some new friends along the way! 

We hope you have as much fun with it as we did. We think this is one of the culminations of our system, especially in terms of making it more accessible for newcomers. Enjoy. 

[ink-splotch]

Hey friends! We just dropped our @sortinghatchats quiz last night. It’s been a labor of love and a lot of fun bug fixing. Give it a spin!

https://ejadelomax.itch.io/sortinghatchats

For those of you who don’t know what sortinghatchats is– it’s a Hogwarts house personality typing system in which everyone gets two sortings:

Your Primary House is WHY you do things.

Your Secondary House is HOW you do things.

We find this split adds a lot of complexity and nuance to discussions, especially for breaking down or building up characters. I genuinely just used this quiz to learn new things about some characters in a thing I’m writing, which, as I also wrote the quiz, was a pretty trippy experience.

If you want to read more about sortinghatchats– take the quiz! It’s intended to be a more accessible portal to understanding the system than reading every single thing on our blog, which is the present avenue. It guides you through the system to what it thinks is relevant for you, while still allowing you to explore the irrelevant to your heart’s content.

But if you’re old-fashioned and like blocks of text, you can also check out our slightly out of date but solid ol’ basics post here: https://sortinghatchats.tumblr.com/post/121904186113/the-basics

[recycledraccoon]

This was actually really fun! It felt like a genuine sorting that was meaningful and not just the pick this or that of Pottermore.

I’m a Slytherin Primary, Model Hufflepuff, and Hufflepuff Secondary

I’ve always known I’m a Hufflepuff, but the way Slytherin was actually described here, I’m not surprised I have a primary there! All in all, my absolute FAVORITE sorting quiz.

[mbtigoodness]

I'm a Slytherin Primary with a Gryffindor model, and Ravenclaw Secondary with a Hufflepuff model! Admittedly I took the quiz when I was tired and not thinking straight, so I can't be super sure of this. I never considered models for myself though, and it's so good for figuring me and my characters out!

[intj-truths]

Does anyone else constantly break stuff, but in like... the most impossible ways?

For example, today:

Me to my trainer: “so I broke the four wheeler” *sends pic*

My trainer: “what the... wow.”

I was able to fix it (I usually can, at least temporarily) but I just continually amaze myself with my ability to break things in a manner that is absolutely astounding.

[mbtigoodness]

Oh, always. I have done things to computers that make no sense. To IT guys.

[me-is-an-intj]

INTJ: You know, maybe if I open up to someone, it won't be so bad. Getting someone else's insight on my emotions might be helpful, and possibly healthy. I'm going to go vent about the current inner turmoil I'm experiencing.

*Later, when INTJ has finished writing an essay on what's going on in their head*

INTJ: And so that's why I think I'm feeling this way.

Person: *either says "oof" or never responds*

INTJ:...

INTJ: Welp, that was useless.

[mbtigoodness]

Feeling this tonight.

[acknowledge-that-mbti-fact]

Acknowledge the mbti fact that intuition is more about reflection and conclusions based on interpretation than it is about being “just knowing things”.