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Before this catches on with miserable adult babies reblogging to only add “KILL IT WITH FIRE” or some other idiotic, unfunny meme:

This is a mature female spider of the Nephila genus. I’m not sure the exact species, but members of this genus are also known as “golden silk orb weavers.” Their yellow-orange silk can be used to make golden cloth, like in this tapestry.

The bite of a Nephila isn’t serious. Wikipedia describes the worst case scenario - localized pain or a more severe allergic reaction - but most bitten will only experience a little itching. Like any spider, they only bite in self defense or when forcibly pressed against skin, and these big females are especially docile. I’ve held a related species on two occasions, they don’t scare very easily.

They’re so laid back, in fact, and so insistent on remaining in the same web, that these are the spiders some cultures have used as mosquito guards, deliberately setting them up to spin webs in open windows or over the top of a baby’s crib.

You can trust spiders with babies. Don’t be an asshat about your phobia plz. (By which I mean it’s perfectly okay to have a phobia and be afraid, but you don’t need to hate all spiders and wish they were all dead they didn’t do anything but get born spiders)

cacodaemonia

Since the old link to the golden tapestry is broken, here’s another one.

[photo from the NPR article linked above; R. Mickens/AMNH]

vogueziam

That's the point.

I wish Liam had this recognition when he was alive but when he was alive people were worried about throwing hate at him

srldesigns6277

Dame Denise Louis', Wife of Liam's former manager Steven Finan, message regarding Liam's passing ❤️🕊

sharonccrter

You know what really pisses me off? The rewriting of history. People want to pretend like the only reason Liam Payne was getting hate was because of the allegation. But I call bullshit. 99% of the people hating him online had no idea about the allegations or didn't care. They are bullying him online because they thought he was "cringe."

The latest wave of bullying online, which I saw weeks before his death, had nothing to do with the allegations. It had to do with him dancing at Niall's concert. The hate started with the Logan Paul interview, where Liam didn't say anything that warranted being dogpiled by the internet. And it never stopped.

Now, people want to rewrite history and pretend Liam wasn't bullied and humiliated for just being himself because it was "cringe." But you can't because that's the truth. Imagine bullying someone online because you thought he danced weirdly or was cringe. Then they get all defensive afterwards, sprouting bullshit about how they're "allowed to have an opinion." Yeah, and your opinion has real-life consequences.

Some of you want to pretend like Liam Payne hadn't been the internet's punching bag for years. Enough.

twopoppies

I feel that the posthumous condemnation of Liam has everything to do with too many not realizing addiction is a mental illness...a chronic brain disease. And the naive and uneducated think it's a choice. Trauma can trigger addiction. A significant part of how addiction develops is through changes in your brain chemistry. Substances and certain activities affect your brain..especially the reward center of your brain. Humans are biologically motivated to seek rewards. It seems like Liam was always chasing approval...and the simple feeling of being loved. The fact it's 2024 and there's STILL such a negative stigma attached to mental illness is heartbreaking and horrifying. Too many are hardwired to believe mental illness = bad person. Millions of people slip through the cracks because it's easier to ignore or assume they've sought help and will automatically see it through without stumbling along the way. I feel like Liam DID try...but stumbled..probably several times..and no one picked him up to guide him and see it through with him. Now..he's just another cliché that will be used as another example of how toxic show business is. In a perfect world something good will come out of this to shed light on mental illness and how just throwing someone in rehab isn't an end all be all solution. Kelly Osborne outed rehab facilities in a September 2024 interview with Harvey Levin. She says it made her a "better addict". Sorry for the novel but the ignorance surrounding mental illness infuriating.

https://www.eonline.com/news/1407445/why-kelly-osbourne-says-rehab-is-like-learning-how-to-be-a-better-drug-addict

As you say, Addiction is a mental illness. And is often caused by trauma. We've all said over and over that the men who were in 1D were traumatized in numerous ways when they were just teenagers with still-developing brains and senses of self. Trauma doesn't excuse the bad behavior or pain you cause others, but it should give us some insight into why it’s happening . The public made him a laughing stock for their own gain (as if clicks, clout, and views are more important than a human being's feelings).

As Robbie Williams said, even famous strangers deserve compassion.

meyhew

a post from the official 1d account four years after their last one wasn’t supposed to be a grief statement about one of the members dying. what the fuck! and they included zayn! what the fuck you guys how are we doing this

traegorn

while i completely agree with your assessment of realistically what a trump vs harris presidency will look like, i think the issue me and a lot of other leftists have is that there is no need to tell people (and effectively tell harris) that oh ofc we are gna vote for her despite these issues because trump is THAT bad and if you say you don't want to vote for her because her party is pro-war, pro-genocide, then you are condemning americans to a trump presidency. we know trump is worse! i don't want him to win AT ALL, but why would harris even consider even changing the language she is using (i'm looking at the absolutely stupid speech she was giving in michigan, given the large arab & muslim-american population there and given its a battleground state) if she thinks she is going to win on a not-trump basis? i know who i'm voting for on nov 5th if it comes down to it, but we need the democrats to THINK they are going to lose until the very last minute, we need them to feel like they can't just rely on being the lesser of two evils if we want any chance of a shift on palestine. because they very well might lose, for this exact reason (and i'm speaking again more to the votes of the arab & muslim-american population which is far more demographically meaningful than the votes of leftists) and if that happens, they have no one to blame but themselves.

So I'm going to tell you something important: You don't have the leverage you think you have.

Political campaigns are a machine that's been operating the same way for a long time on the Democratic side. The Republicans may have abandoned a lot of the old ways of doing things, but the Democratic party hasn't. And you've got people running these campaigns who are steeped in the "wisdom" of how you win.

And when a block of voters says they're not going to vote for their candidate, they tend to believe them. So they decide to go court the people who they think will vote for them. That's why you've seen the Harris campaign trying to court moderate Republicans who might be iffy on voting for Trump a third time.

Right now one of the reasons Netanyahu is refusing to commit to a cease fire is because he thinks Trump can win. If Trump wins, he has no reason to ever agree to one. One of the reasons he thinks Trump can win is because the polling is so close.

If you want to know why they've gone to the right recently, it's because they think they've lost the left. And since a lot of those leftists are claiming there's a line in the sand that they don't have the power to appease (because -- again -- they can't get Netanyahu to do shit right now), they're going to go for the centrist Republicans.

Also, there seems to be this weird notion that the only way to move the Democrats is during the election. That's not how you move people. You keep pressuring them during their term and it works. Like Biden is continuing to work on forgiving student debt even though he doesn't have an election ahead of him. Because they know that what he does reflects on the future of the party. Voting doesn't end this game, it's the start of it.

But none of it will matter if Trump wins.

bundibird

If the left doesn't vote democrat, but meanwhile, the right votes enmasse for republicans, then the democrats will move further right in an effort to court votes.

But if the left vote enmass, then it tells the democrats, "Hey, the left likes what you're doing. If you go even further left, you'll get more votes."

Aka the more that the left votes democrat, the more leftist the democrats will move.

If the left refrains from voting, then the democrats will move further right.

So for the love of God, fucking vote.

beatrice-otter

Also, the other thing is, you need to beware of echo chambers.

Just because you and all your friends think Harris is a centrist, that does not mean that that is a common view. How often do you listen to people who don't agree with you, politically? I have to do it fairly regularly, and the average American is far more likely to think that Biden and Harris are both far-leftist extremists than they are to think they're middle-of-the-road.

Yes. That's right. To a lot of Americans, Biden and Harris are so far left that they are terrifying.

I know life-long Democrats who believe that. Who think that, in retrospect, sure, Trump was bad but Biden and Harris are just as bad, in the opposite direction. They're faced with what they see as a choice between two dangerous extremists, in opposite directions.

They're wrong, but you will never convince them of that.

And there are two important things to remember about them:

There are a lot more people like that then there are people who think of Biden or Harris as centrists. (The people in America's political center sure as fuck don't think Biden and Harris are centrists.)

Centrists vote far more regularly than leftists. Therefore, they have more power per person, because politicians know they have to have them on board to win. Leftists are nice to have, but undependable, so a politician who wants to be elected has to favor the centrists over the leftists.

If we want US politics to move left, we need to do two things:

Vote in every election. Far left in primaries, Democrat in general elections, to prove we are a voting bloc worth listening to.

Build on-the-ground relationships with people who don't already agree with us, and do active community building, harm reduction, and other stuff like that in our own communities. People don't change their ideology based on logic and national debates. They change their ideology based on relationships, stories, and seeing how stuff works in their own communities.

voxina

myangelliam

I think one of the hardest things I’m struggling to accept is that Liam will never get a happy ending. There is no silver lining here. It’s just tragedy all the way around. I know his fans and those that are part of the bigger 1D fandom will remember him kindly, but for a lot of people his name will be tied to the lowest point in his life and the unfairness of that kills me.

londonfoginacup

Hey just a note about grief.

At some point, and for some of us it will be very soon while for others of us it will be a long time from now, you will start to feel like you want to listen to One Direction, or to Liam’s music, and simply enjoy it. You’ll watch This is Us or San Siro and you won’t be in mourning, you’ll be enjoying yourself. You will look at Liam and think only happy thoughts, and you will know that he is gone but in that moment it won’t hurt the same.

And you may, in that moment, feel supremely guilty about it.

I need you, when it happens, to take those feelings of guilt and let them go.

Liam, I am so certain of this, would not want you to feel guilty for not feeling sad. Liam, with his big heart and his joy and his happiness, would want you to take delight in what he made for you. I know and believe this with everything in me.

We have all suffered a deep loss that will change everything, it will change how we view our fandom time forever, to varying degrees. But someday, your heart will say, I want to let life in. And you should let it, when that happens.

Grief is a fickle thing, but some of us will approach a moment when we are tempted to take joy in Liam’s life, joy in what he has given us. Let yourself feel that joy, when it happens. Let Liam’s memory be a happy one when you can.