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A bi aromid carving a tiny community.

[star-allos]

“ yeah i think labels cause more problems than they solve. yeah i want to keep coming up with more labels to describe myself. we exist” - A good friend of mine

Hello aspecs who aren’t strictly aro and/or ace! Ever feel alienated by the split between alloromantic-aromantic and allosexual-asexual. Ever feel like you place on the spectrum is a thing all of its own, rather than having to pick a ‘side’? Thought of the non-sam or neu label but found it limiting to omit their sexual and/or romantic orientation? Well, as someone who’s sexuality, no matter how limited, is deeply important to me, and who is tired of swapping between the labels of non-sam, aroallo, and angled aroace, I decided to coin my own terms! Maybe a community will arise from this, because I know I’m not the only one who feels weird about the divide, and who have not found comfort in the terms neu or non-sam, and perhaps dialogue can arise from that.

ANYHOW. The flags are all amalgations of the aroace flag by @aroaesflags​  In place of the orange (community and union) and yellow (forms of love outside of sex and romance) are shades of green for aromantism and purple for asexuality, the multiple shades representing community and diversity among aromantics and asexuals. The middle flag uses shades of grey in place of yellow and orange. The term grey is used for those who find themselves in between a lack of and presence of attraction (greysexual, greyromantic). As the blues represent a combination of asexuality and aromantism, those remain present, as does the white stripe for unity.

Aromid - Someone who is strictly aromantic, but not strictly asexual, while still being on the asexual spectrum. Alternatively, someone who is strictly aromantic, but not strictly asexual or allosexual.

Amid - Someone who isn’t strictly aromantic or asexual, but on the spectrum of both asexuality and aromantism. Alternatively, someone who is not strictly asexual, aromantic, allosexual, or alloromantic.

Acemid - Someone who is strictly asexual, but not strictly aromantic, while still being on the aromantic spectrum. Alternatively, someone who is strictly asexual, but not strictly aromantic or strictly alloromantic. EDIT: Slight additions to the definitions to adhere to different experiences/be more inclusive.

[mid-community]

Due to the number of flags popping up that resemble the mid flags (the aromid flag in particular) as well as vibing less with the flag being inspired from the aroace flag, I’ve been reworking some of my old scrapped flag ideas, as well as some new ones, for alternate flags.

Additionally, I would LOVE to see flag suggestions by other midspec folk!

[mid-community]

Currently in the process of making two alternate flags. While I like the current ones they're not particularly recognizable/could be mistaken somewhat easily, and I vibe less and less with the fact that they draw upon an aroace flag.

[mid-community]

I decided to slightly expand on the definitions for mid labels after this convo. Going to be re-reblogging the post. The initial definitions can still be found on this blog as the first post.

[thearomanticpeach]

Hey I hope it's okay to ask because I couldn't find any clear definition on tumblr and googling only brought me back to tumblr, but I've recently discovered the terms "aromid" and "neu aro" and was wondering if someone could let me know the actual definition of these orientations? If that's okay? Thank you.

[just-aro]

@the-aromantic-peach

tumblr is being finicky about letting me send you it directly, but I just talked about this on aro-culture-is

here’s hopefully a working link to it at least

[thearomanticpeach]

Thank you! The link did work and was very helpful :)

[just-aro]

@the-aromantic-peach​

lmao so i got an ask literally minutes ago saying that that definition of aromid is incorrect and is actually “in the middle of ace & allo” so here’s an update!

[thearomanticpeach]

Lmao that's just the way the universe works I guess.

[mid-community]

Guy who coined the term here! Both of those definitions can fall under aromid!

The point of the aromid label was for those who were not strictly aro, but not strictly allosexual or strictly asexual (or on the acespec without being strictly ace if you will) and felt uncomfortable dividing their identity as aroace or aroallo, nor do they want to go for omitting the SAM for whatever reason (for me personally, what little attraction I do experience is an integral part of me, so while I think non-sam aros are super cool and that it's a very useful label, it wasn't for me). The term other mid terms, acemid and amid, were made alongside it for those who had the same issue with the alloace and aroace binary within the ace community.

I do not know who the anon that talked to @just-aro is who claims to have talked to me because I DO consider myself on the ace spectrum, and I've flip-flopped around a LOT between non-sam aro, aro bi, and bi angled aroace before I coined the terms. I don't consider myself to BE ace personally, and I don't like being called ace because while I am on the spectrum, I am definitely not ace.

While I DO view my greysexuality as somewhere between being allo and ace, A) I wouldn't say I'm not on the acespec and B) the term aromid was meant to be a term accessible to people who felt alienated by the dictomy and felt limited by omitting the SAM, not solely for people with my specific experience.

The official definition for these terms can be found on this blog on this page and my full reasoning for why the terms were made are also on it. In the official definitions, I used the terms "ace spectrum" and "aro spectrum" for simplicity's sake, but it would be more accurate (and more inclusive) to use "not strictly ace/ace but not strictly allo either." I might update the definitions for it but I was (and still) am concerned it might make some confusion.

I am glad to answer any further questions! Sorry if the wording here isn't ideal, I'm stuck away from my laptop and am on mobile.

[mid-community]

EDIT: The point of the aromid label was for those who were strictly aro, but not strictly allosexual or strictly asexual (or on the acespec without being strictly ace if you will) and felt uncomfortable dividing their identity as aroace or aroallo,  nor do they want to go for omitting the SAM for whatever reason.

This is what I get for making blocks of text on mobile.

It’s probably better to just look at the page I linked rather than what I wrote above

[thearomanticpeach]

Hey I hope it's okay to ask because I couldn't find any clear definition on tumblr and googling only brought me back to tumblr, but I've recently discovered the terms "aromid" and "neu aro" and was wondering if someone could let me know the actual definition of these orientations? If that's okay? Thank you.

[just-aro]

@the-aromantic-peach

tumblr is being finicky about letting me send you it directly, but I just talked about this on aro-culture-is

here’s hopefully a working link to it at least

[thearomanticpeach]

Thank you! The link did work and was very helpful :)

[just-aro]

@the-aromantic-peach​

lmao so i got an ask literally minutes ago saying that that definition of aromid is incorrect and is actually “in the middle of ace & allo” so here’s an update!

[thearomanticpeach]

Lmao that's just the way the universe works I guess.

[mid-community]

Guy who coined the term here! Both of those definitions can fall under aromid!

The point of the aromid label was for those who were strictly aro, but not strictly allosexual or strictly asexual (or on the acespec without being strictly ace if you will) and felt uncomfortable dividing their identity as aroace or aroallo, nor do they want to go for omitting the SAM for whatever reason (for me personally, what little attraction I do experience is an integral part of me, so while I think non-sam aros are super cool and that it's a very useful label, it wasn't for me). The term other mid terms, acemid and amid, were made alongside it for those who had the same issue with the alloace and aroace binary within the ace community.

I do not know who the anon that talked to @just-aro is who claims to have talked to me because I DO consider myself on the ace spectrum, and I've flip-flopped around a LOT between non-sam aro, aro bi, and bi angled aroace before I coined the terms. I don't consider myself to BE ace personally, and I don't like being called ace because while I am on the spectrum, I am definitely not ace.

While I DO view my greysexuality as somewhere between being allo and ace, A) I wouldn't say I'm not on the acespec and B) the term aromid was meant to be a term accessible to people who felt alienated by the dictomy and felt limited by omitting the SAM, not solely for people with my specific experience.

The official definition for these terms can be found on this blog on this page and my full reasoning for why the terms were made are also on it. In the official definitions, I used the terms "ace spectrum" and "aro spectrum" for simplicity's sake, but it would be more accurate (and more inclusive) to use "not strictly ace/ace but not strictly allo either." I might update the definitions for it but I was (and still) am concerned it might make some confusion.

I am glad to answer any further questions! Sorry if the wording here isn't ideal, I'm stuck away from my laptop and am on mobile.

EDIT: I made a mistake initially, please refer to this version of the post.

[mid-community]

Hey everyone! Thanks for following - is there any sort of content y’all would like to see?

[aroaesflags]

I'm sorry if this is obnoxious but I searched your blog and really couldn't find an answer... is your aroace flag strictly for asexual and aromantic people? Can people who are ace-spec and aro-spec use it? Sorry for bothering you! :•(

it’s not a bother! i meant it to be for anyone who identifies with the label of aroace, including people who are aro-spec and/or ace-spec ^^

[mid-community]

I also hate to self promote, but there’s also a term for folks who are acespec and arospec but not strictly aromantic and asexual if you prefer that other aroace!

[star-allos]

“ yeah i think labels cause more problems than they solve. yeah i want to keep coming up with more labels to describe myself. we exist” - A good friend of mine

Hello aspecs who aren’t strictly aro and/or ace! Ever feel alienated by the split between alloromantic-aromantic and allosexual-asexual. Ever feel like you place on the spectrum is a thing all of its own, rather than having to pick a ‘side’? Thought of the non-sam or neu label but found it limiting to omit their sexual and/or romantic orientation? Well, as someone who’s sexuality, no matter how limited, is deeply important to me, and who is tired of swapping between the labels of non-sam, aroallo, and angled aroace, I decided to coin my own terms! Maybe a community will arise from this, because I know I’m not the only one who feels weird about the divide, and who have not found comfort in the terms neu or non-sam, and perhaps dialogue can arise from that.

ANYHOW. The flags are all amalgations of the aroace flag by @aroaesflags​  In place of the orange (community and union) and yellow (forms of love outside of sex and romance) are shades of green for aromantism and purple for asexuality, the multiple shades representing community and diversity among aromantics and asexuals. The middle flag uses shades of grey in place of yellow and orange. The term grey is used for those who find themselves in between a lack of and presence of attraction (greysexual, greyromantic). As the blues represent a combination of asexuality and aromantism, those remain present, as does the white stripe for unity.

Aromid - Someone who is strictly aromantic, but not strictly asexual, while still being on the asexual spectrum. 

Amid - Someone who isn’t strictly aromantic or asexual, but on the spectrum of both asexuality and aromantism. 

Acemid - Someone who is strictly asexual, but not strictly aromantic, while still being on the aromantic spectrum.