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ghosticalz

R E B L O G T H E P I G E O N .

catasters

obovoid

i don’t want to achieve equality by sinking to men’s level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in others’ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to others’ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why can’t the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldn’t have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!

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In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and women’s dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a women’s dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his men’s dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didn’t understand why they had to live like this. He said, “I want to live with the women, in civilization.”

alpacamyhedgehog

Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasn’t interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said “Please pass the butter,” instead of “PASS THE GODDAMNED GREASE”

lasrina

I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasn’t intruding on their “guy time” or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, “The truth is, I really like it when you’re here because it gives us a reason to act better. When it’s just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.”

the-wolfbats

So the moral of these stories are men don’t even treat each other like human beings.

overwhelmsion

dancinggrimm

Many years ago I joined a D&D group that had been going for several years and, until I arrived, was all men. The first session was awkward but I was very shy at the time and so assumed it was just because I was being oversensitive, but many months later, one of them took me asied and asked if I was happy in the group. I said yes, and asked why he wanted to know particularly.

“I don’t want you to leave,” he said. “Having you around means we have better conversations, in and out of character, because we’re not just trying to gross each other out or one up each other. I didn’t know Ryan could even speak in full sentences until you showed up and asked everyone how they are at the start of each session. I didn’t even know he had kids!”

They’d just been showing up, arguing, killing some kobolds or whatever, and going home, and at least two of them hadn’t really been enjoying it until they actually started socialising with it.

glitterandrocketfuel

Society enables Toxic Masculinity so much that for too many men, the elements of toxic masculinity are the only form of masculinity they know.

fathorse

I have noticed the difference in my bf’s groupchat as opposed to mine: in his they outright insult each other and belittle each other and I think they are just supposed to be “joking” but honestly it doesn’t seem like that. And from what I can tell it is un-manly to voice your discomfort because then all of your Guy Pals can tell that you have Feelings. Groupchats with my friends are always really supportive and have a lot of emotional communication. I think if men managed to treat each other more kindly then they wouldn’t be so obsessed with finding girlfriends, because in their world, the only peers who treat them nicely are women.

there-is-still-some-liquor-left

you all expect me to take you seriously....talking about “soulmates aren’t just a romantic concept!!!! more platonic soulmates. uwu.”.....and yet REFUSING to stan how to train your dragon (2010)....i cannot fucking imagine

pauputoot

STOP SLANDERING GALARIAN WEEZING!!!!!! HE’S FIGHTING CLIMATE CHANGE AND POLLUTION AND IS DOING HIS BEST!!!!!!!

youkai93

The clover has finally grown enough for her to munch on again

teethwreath

absolute decadence

mel-cat

My first spring ( via Sergey Kosov )

english-court

Y’all :,)

kakashitzu

judestims

💜| baron.0723

heartseeker

i wrapped my cat in this blanket burrito before i left for dinner and two hours later he hasn’t moved

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dykecosette

1-800-ARE YOU ffflllllufflflfflllfSLAPSLAPflflluffflallffSLAPPING

byecolonizer

But that IS how life works in a lot of countries…

ourwarofwords

It’s evil to give people an education, time with their children, and healthcare? 🤔🤔🤔

cathemeralcoelocanth

^^^^ American brainwashing and conditioning is insidious.

This is America 🇺🇸

itstimewehavesomesoliddick

yanks be like maternity leave? not ending up 30K in debt for an ambulance ride? fair wages? decent living standards? sounds communist to me

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Temporarily embarrassed millionaires

narwhaled

lynati

“I don’t want my children to think life works that way.” But…life IS working that way? For all of those people?? Who are not forced to grind themselves down to dust just to survive another day???? You REALLY, SERIOUSLY, want a life of hard labor with little reward for your children, as opposed to them being raised in a community that strives to look after its own and works together to make sure everyone gets what they need to live comfortably?

lesbianrey

good job everyone

jturn

we’re doing great guys keep it up

rowdyholtzy

Society: Capitalism and the free market is great because it lets customers CHOOSE who’s the best company and then that company makes all the money while lesser companies have to improve or die.

Millenials: *boycott companies that benefit off exploitation of people and natural resources*

Society: WAIT NO NOT LIKE THAT