"The beauty of darkness is how it lets you see."

Bad mental health day shadow work trauma ventblog. Title quote by poet Adrienne Rich.

[swingsetindecember]

grant me the grace to unlearn what my parents taught me

[evilwizard]

I’M RIGHT BEHIND YOU

[cowboybarbaryn]

Thank you Evil Wizard, it’s good to know someone has our backs

[evilwizard]

IN A SCARY WAY

[queenofskys5]

Thank you Evil Wizard, finally someone to scare away the creeps!

[evilwizard]

I FEEL LIKE WE NEED TO WORK ON OUR COMMUNICATION

[anthonycolonthree]

(guy who's not getting anything done voice) I need to learn every skill and all information

[redstonedust]

worst part of the human body is it can never just have one problem. ohh youre tired? well we might as well be nausous about it. legs hurt? you can take a headache buy one get one free. these are the worst deals of my life.

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

do you ever feel yourself fail a charisma check in real time

[callizinc]

Did you know that you can waste your free time by not knowing which activity to do so you do none of them

[grundoonmgnx]

Nick Barlow, Clusterfuck/Keep It Together, 2022

Oil on mountboard, 81 X 81 cm

[shopwitchvamp]

Babe, are you okay? You reblogged Nick Barlow’s Clusterfuck/Keep It Together again

[achillesinhighheels]

They hate it when u dont abide by the same imaginary rules that they force themselves to live under

[iwait4youalexg]

Oh!

[doh007]

Thank you all, i needed further explanation - And i do find it might help me!

[foxes-in-love]

[64mpg]

collar with a tag that says NEEDS CLEAR STRAIGHTFORWARD COMMUNICATION OR STRUGGLES TO UNDERSTAND WHAT’S GOING ON

[circusheart]

If I keep practicing I might even be a person soon

[wizardpostsdotorg]

having invisible disabilities really shifts what your ideas of “personal information” and “privacy” and “dignity” bc u meet someone and you explain your situation for the past couple years with honesty and they’re like “wow.. it must be so hard to share that thank you..” and you’re like i mean yeah it’s just what my life has been.. and they give you the “😟☹️😅 yeah…”

[wizardpostsdotorg]

like just saying “yeah so i went through several doctors who didn’t know how to treat me before i found one hospital that would..” or “i have a suicidal and depressive episode once every four weeks exactly” has gone from embarrassing to common small talk with cowkerkers or receptionist. if i want people to have reasonable expectations of me i have to tell them all my wide open dirty little secrets. while it’s nice to be accepted/accommodated or at least tolerated i do wish there was more grace and privacy with mental health/mental disabilities.

you can say one thing and have some privacy and dignity but no real concern- “i don’t feel good today” OR you can tell the truth “i feel like killing myself today” and feel totally exposed/humiliated and at risk of something worse. you lie and become “flaky” or you show up and become “an asshole” or you tell the truth and become a “psycho bummer”. pick your perception: lazy or crazy. either way nobody knows how to treat you

[arrows-for-pens]

Forced Intimacy: An Ableist Norm

“Forced Intimacy” is a term I have been using for years to refer to the common, daily experience of disabled people being expected to share

[knifefightscene]

Anyone can be discarded by society

[knifefightscene]

People get made fun of for being scared of aging but it comes from the very real fear of being discarded by society that’s why i always say the goal is not to never become old or disabled the future comes for us all the goal is better social policy

[theravingcelt]

“It is extraordinary that nobody nowadays under the stress of great troubles is turned into stone or a bird or a tree or some inanimate object; they used to undergo such metamorphoses in ancient times (or so they say), though whether that is myth or a true story I know not. Maybe it would be better to change one’s nature into something that lacks all feeling, rather than be so sensitive to evil. Had that been possible, these calamities would in all probability have turned me to stone.”

— The Alexiad, written by Anna Komnene, the daughter of the Byzantine Emperor Alexios I Komnenos, c. 1148.

[alisonzai]

[vasira96]

realizing how many times i could have asked for some grace or some help with something from a boss or a teacher or my college advisor but i didn't because deep in my bones i believe that people who have that kind of authority over you will not only not help, but simply asking for their help, bringing their attention to me and my problems will get me punished!! but if i had been brave, if i had just asked, i could have had things easier!! but i didn't because i couldn't because of how terrified i am that asking will make things worse, and to that i say, i think i kind of hate my parents, actually