Alright, this ones for yall non-sex working ladies (and occasionally nonbinary people too)
I honestly wish yall would quit coming in to strip clubs, full stop.
So first thing is that a lot of you dont know how to act, so you end up imitating the men around you, meaning that yall touch us without consent, ask inappropriate questions etc and basically treat us like shit. And honestly, it hurts a little more than when men do it bc you would *think* yall know better, and you do, but you dont care. Thats upsetting.
Then theres the groups of you that go to prove how “totally ok and cool” with this you are to your husbands/bfs/dudebro you wanna fuck/what the fuck ever but you get insecure and lash out at us.
But like its obvious why this is shitty so I wanna talk more about “the good ones”.
Yall are becoming more common, even though youre still kinda rare. You come in large groups with all ladies. Sometimes you even tip/get dances. On the surface youre not annoying. The problem is that once youre there, the men arent as interested in strippers anymore. They wanna watch *you*. They wanna talk to *you*. Because men always want what they cant have. So you become the focus.
Theres always guys that come in just for the bartenders/waitresses, but now that more and more ladies are coming in to the clubs to ~chill~ thats more distractions for these fucks that we have to convince to pay us for something they feel entitled to for free. Even on your best behavior, by being here, yall are taking away from us. Youre turning strip clubs in to bars. That doesnt benefit us. And what do you get out of it? The drinks and cover are jacked all the way up, men are on their worst behavior so why? For cool points?
The more mainstream this job becomes, ironically, the more dangerous it becomes for us. Hypervisibility can look progressive and helpful at first glance (as a tpoc Im hyper aware of this concept), however when done poorly it does more harm than good. More civillians in the club means our job becomes more of a pain in the ass and in a time when clubs are being sued for mistreatment, more laws and regulations are getting passed, and generally more swerf rhetoric is circulating through the mainstream, adding yet another layer of annoyance/bullshit for us to navigate is just fucked.
If you wanna support sex workers, donate to sex workers directly. Fight for decriminlization (not legalization), listen to swers, etc. Yall dont have to come in to the club to get your ally cookie.
pixelskylines
2087
izzy806
blakekathryn
stormborns
andulkaphoto
