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oh yeah since i posted this on facebook which i usually never do.

happy trans day of visibility! trans people everywhere i love you no matter what :)

if people wanted to help me while im struggling through a really rough part of my life mentally, donations and kofis or whatever are cool, but right now i really wanna do some writing work, and so am looking for literally any kind of writing! even freelance!

If you need experience, check out my Medium account (linked below), or DM me and i can send you some of the articles i wrote for my college newspaper! i graduated with a bachelors in communications back in 2019 and have done a bunch of different writing - magazine writing, Arts & Entertainment articles, poetry, children's literature, and of course personal opinion pieces!

I fucking hate doing this but i really just want to start working again, so please spread this around! my confidence was hit super hard when i made a post on twitter this morning about my art and streams, and even though i have like 20 friends that follow me and are active, none of them even retweeted it, and i really just want things to work on to keep my mind occupied and give me that spark that i love in writing.

Read writing from Noelle Renae on Medium. She/her, Transfem Lesbian, Communications Major, 2019 Graduate. Every day, Noelle Renae and thousa

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Pride 2021: Pauli Murray

Pauli Murray was born in Baltimore, Maryland, in 1910. He was assigned female at birth, and felt his gender was only understood by a few people, who, in his own words “accept me pretty much as one of nature’s experiments, a girl who should’ve been a boy, and react to me as if I were a boy”. After discovering the works of pioneering sexologists such as Magnus Hirschfeld and Havelock Ellis, Pauli began to consider taking testosterone. Unfortunately, the lack of understanding of trans people by the medical community meant that his efforts to access hormones failed.

Pauli graduated from college in 1933, one of four black students in a class of 232. After being rejected from further study at the University of North Carolina on account of his race, he became involved with the NAACP, and eventually returned to university to study law, graduating top of his class in 1944.

During his time at university Pauli pioneered a new strategy of fighting racial segregation through protesting its unconstitutionality, which would eventually be successfully used in the 1954 landmark civil rights case Brown v. Board of Education, which ruled the segregation of public schools unconstitutional.

Pauli passed the bar exam in California in 1945 and began working as a lawyer. He focused his work on fighting for civil rights and women’s rights, and wrote on intersectionality, pioneering the concept of “Jane Crow” to explain to dual oppression experienced by African-American people assigned female at birth. He also penned States’ Laws on Race and Color - a foot-thick book referred to as the Bible of civil rights legislators.

1973 Pauli’s partner Renee passed away from a brain tumour. Following this, Pauli, who had always been Episcopalian, began to study to join the priesthood - although people assigned female at birth could not be admitted at the time. He finished his coursework in 1976, and in 1977, when people assigned female at birth were allowed to become Episcopalian priests for the first time. Pauli was ordained, becoming the first black person assigned female at birth to do so.

Pauli passed away in 1985, aged 74. His groundbreaking legal theories and ideas about intersectionality remain as important today as they were over 50 years ago.

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— HALLE BAILEY

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HERE COMES THE BOYYYY

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This is the human equivalent of a crab who goes around giving motivational speeches about the deep joy and mechanics of pulling down your bucketmates

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“The ‘’’cycle of abuse’’’ is the water cycle of the living biome that is your marriage. You can’t appreciate the dawn without the dark. The circle of life.”

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A lot of ppl are reblogging this with versions of “the straights are not okay”. The article is framed in entirely orientation-neutral language and there are plenty of gay couples I’ve encountered that seem to sustain themselves on a similar principle

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Idk, I think that recognizing that in a long term relationship people grow and change and have conflict and might spend some time not liking each other very much is probably a good thing.

This exact pattern of harmony, disruption, repair, and return is a well-studied relationship phenomenon that occurs in family relationships and friendships as well, and pops up in 100-level interpersonal communications classes.

Here's a diagram of relationship stages from my 100-level interpersonal communications class:

It's very normal for relationships to move up and down the top of the pyramid (which includes circumscribing as part of relationship maintenance) instead of hitting the peak and staying there. Here's the definition of circumscribing:

So you might move from circumscribing to integrating to bonding to differentiating to intensifying to circumscribing to bonding in the maintenance of a long relationship.

The point of the article is that it's important to figure out the repair part of the cycle and learn how to work with a partner to manage a relationship instead of expecting that all successful couples are always happy together and never seriously disagree. The belief that brief, intense periods of dislike signify that a relationship is over causes a lot of people to panic and bail on relationships they later realize could have been repaired.

The article explicitly states that this advice isn't for situations where there is abuse or a power imbalance or some significantly confounding factor like addiction issues.

It's extremely normal for people in healthy relationships to have significant fights and for people to react to those fights with heightened emotions, but this article is about cooperating with your partner to move past those moments instead of digging in your heels.

The article basically says "Don't put your partner on a pedestal and recognize that fleeting negative feelings don't mean you have to nuke the relationship; recognize that negative feelings can be worked past (instead of doubling down on them) and show compassion to your partner as you navigate conflict during calm conversations instead of escalating fights."

Characterizing that as crab-bucket mentality seems to be doing the exact idealization of conflict-free relationships that the article is cautioning against.

luckyladylily

Honestly it sounds exactly like Tumblr to look at the idea that sometimes there is conflict in relationships and you need to work with that fact instead of ignore it and then say "lol those pathetic straights, glad this doesn't apply to me!"

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The problem is that "conflict" is not "hatred", and hatred really is a bad sign in a relationship. Probably the worst possible sign. There's a big difference between getting angry at your partner and hating your partner.

Like, this is an extremely basic distinction, right? You and misdemeanor are talking about "conflict", and "dislike" and "negative emotions" but that's not what the article said. The article said "hatred", and the fact that you're both avoiding that word shows that you know the people complaining about this article have a point.

ms-demeanor

I use hated in plenty of other threads, but I think what actually happened here is that tumblr saw the word "hatred" and went "omg hatred is the bad/worst emotion, it is felt by bigots and racists and bad people, it is not a normal emotion and normal people don't feel hatred in anything but the most extreme circumstances therefore if people hate their partners it is actually a lasting and deep-seated problem, not ever a brief or passing thing, and certainly not an emotion that everyone feels from time to time because "real" hate is forever, not brief flashes as described in the article and I will not reconsider hate as an emotion that is felt in anything but the most extreme circumstances."

People all over this thread are treating an emotional that people feel - and feeling unpleasant emotions is not generally something you can prevent, though you can prevent yourself from acting on it, which is what the article is about - and saying 'people who feel this emotion in inappropriate directions are in bad relationships'.

I'm actually now much more concerned about the people who claim they don't ever feel hatred or that if the emotion they feel is brief that isn't hatred.

This has become entirely an argument about semantics with some people saying "well, the concept is valid but he should have chosen a better word because hate is unusually and exceptionally bad and you should never feel it toward people you love" and some people going "Oh yeah that makes sense sometimes I hate my partner for a second, glad there are harm mitigation strategies for that."

He is very obviously using a different definition of hate than some people do (it's more obvious in the NYT piece than the WaPo piece but he is clearly not talking about sustained contempt/loathing/derision or even dislike in the WaPo piece) and people are getting mad at the article because "That's not [what I define as] hatred!"

ms-demeanor

Hey real quick, I am genuinely curious: people who feel like hate is a MUCH too strong word to feel for anyone you claim to love, were you perhaps ever taught that hating someone is the same thing as committing murder in your heart?

Were you, as a result, encouraged not to feel or express hate ever and told that doing so was sinful and evil?

It had not occurred to me that there are certain types of christianity that define hatred as sinful and doing violence in your mind and as a product of satan, as opposed to the dictionary definition of "extremely intense dislike" but I now suspect that is coloring this conversation to a certain extent.

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joeyridersvoid

This sounds like a shitpost but people should be allowed to be horny. As in, sexuality is just part of life for most people and there’s no reason for consensual sexual behavior to be punished. A celebrity getting “caught” at a sex club shouldn’t be a scandal. No one should be fired for having a fetlife profile outside of work. Nudes getting leaked shouldn’t be career-ending. Denying and hiding (consensual) sexual interests doesn’t make anyone more professional, it just makes everyone more repressed. And sterilizing ourselves to be better work drones isn’t productive, it’s just creepy. I’d rather my surgeon get absolutely railed on camera and come to work in a good mood, frankly.

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fuck it gritty fancam

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Nothing says existential crisis quite like a sun bear

Happy Existential Tuesday from Sardines

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Happy Existential Tuesday from Sherman

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Happy Existential Tuesday from Doreen

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Happy Existential Tuesday from Humperdink

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Megan’s Instagram Update (August 21, 2022)

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MEGAN THEE STALLION — SUPERBLOOM FESTIVAL 2022 (September 3)

borderlinereminders

Self-care isn’t always bubble baths and tea. It isn’t always resting and taking time to do something you love.

Sometimes self-care is doing the hard thing. Like forcing yourself to do things that are uncomfortable like talking to people when you want to self isolate. Sometimes it’s getting something off your to-do list so you feel less overwhelmed.