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if a woman asks you to hurt her, only acceptable response is “I could never do that to you”, not tell the police “she wanted it” when she’s black with bruises and wounds you put on her, not claim “it was consensual” when they’re carrying away her dead body

gcdk

Exactly. Worst case scenario you don’t get to fuck her.

Funny how so many men would rather risk killing her than missing out on potential sex.

omnivore-odyssey

And again, I’m gonna throw out my suggestion that the law should be that “anyone choosing to take on the risk of being a potential murderer by choosing to do a dangerous act that they know has a likelihood of killing someone, should automatically be charged if they murder someone.”

They chose to take on the risk of being a murderer, they need to live with the consequences of being a murderer.

There’s no fucking excuse because you chose to do an act that you knew had a high likelihood of killing someone.

If your partner is taking on the risk of being a murder victim, then you better damn well be legally forced to take on the risk of being a murderer automatically, if you fucking murder them.

All dominants choosing to engage in dangerous activity with high risk of death for their partner(s) should be immediately charged if they harm someone. There is no fucking excuse.

user87262893

That’s an important point to make.

Because when dumbass people die testing bulletproof vests with their buddies, the friend who shot them gets charged with manslaughter. [Source 1, Source 2, Source 3]

So following that legal precedent, anyone who kills someone “accidentally” while “having fun” should, at minimum, be charged with manslaughter.

womenarehuman

Why does EVERYTHING change as soon as a man’s dick is involved? “Oh he beat and strangled you?!? That’s awful!! Oh wait, he had a boner? Nvm, nothing to see here, KINKSHAMER!” It’s fucking BIZARRE, you can never convince me we don’t live in a patriarchal hellscape as long as men can get away with this shit.

#it's genuinely baffling #a sane reaction would be an instant 'hell no' and concern if your partner wanted you to inflict pain on them #it's the last thing you should want to do to someone you like #it just goes to show that not only do these fuckers get off on sadism but they actively hate their partners/gfs/wifes #at best they're apathetic #actually cannot fathom how prevalent and accepted this is #“don't kinkshame” nah I will

merkredonn

I'm gonna be blunt, if you think someone wanting rapists and pedophiles castrated or dead is a 'reactionary' mindset, I'm gonna assume you're a rapist or pedo of some sort.

#real #like why are you so overly sympathetic and defensive huh? 🧐 hits a little too close to home does it? 🤨

pumpkinprincesa

It's sad when women call themselves hoes, whores, and sluts. You're not reclaiming a slur, you're humiliating yourself.

pusheen-the-radfem

I am always so confused by how profoundly people misunderstand the idea behind reclaiming. there is no reclaiming something that has been created and always used for your humiliation and degradation. you can only reclaim something that was once yours to begin with- like a trauma survivor finding a way back to a beloved activity or location that was important to them prior to experiencing trauma, not wanting to sacrifice it for good as a result of that trauma. there's no 'reclaiming' something that was never meant for you, and was created to actively hurt you, there's only banishing it.

madolecence

You put it into words! I can never think of how to say this when I want to say you can't reclaim slurs, but this is exactly it, thank you

randomstabbing

“The LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that he’s the most boring average person in the world. It’s impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if she’s female she’s already SOMEthing, because she’s not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but it’s weirdly prevalent in children’s entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, who’s a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new characters— is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?”

—

Bojack Horseman creator Raphael Bob-Waksberg commenting on how weird gendered defaults in entertainment are, and why we should think twice about them. Excerpted from this longer original post. (via janicexxx)

MEN ARE SHIT.

paleo-violet

I wish I had the post on hand, but there was a DM who decided to change all the male NPCs in a pre-written campaign to female, and the players were convinced that something terrible must have happened to all the men in the game, because why are all these NPCs women??!

dunesofpriam

Here it is

lilac-bloom-deactivated20220430

if you believe gender doesn’t exist and all human brains are the same then start referring to everyone as they/them

if you’re so “gender critical”, then why are you so insistent on gendered pronouns?

radmenace

As Shulamith Firestone put it, “[T]he end goal of feminist revolution must be, unlike that of the first feminist movement, not just the elimination of male privilege but of the sex distinction itself: genital differences between human beings would no longer matter culturally.” In this future, we could ostensibly all use they/them pronouns (possibly with the exception of within medical/scientific fields, or when describing sexuality). However, we have not arrived at this future yet, and in order to fight for it, we must be able to name and describe the problem of patriarchy, and the problem is not gender-neutral. Gendered pronouns are useful in many instances, such as describing male violence towards women (ex: he hurt her), affirming women as normal by replacing “he” with “she” in academic texts/ interpolating a male reader into a female point of view (ex: the reader can see examples in her own life), and identifying others within/not within the sex class (“can i bring her along to the meeting today?” may yield a different response than “they” or “he”). Color-blindness is widely accepted as being an ineffective way to solve racism (as well as a racist microagression) so why is sex-blindness different? That being said, there are many situations today where using they/them is perfectly reasonable (such as when describing somebody one does not know, ie “what are they like?” “an ideal candidate for this position will have their own car.”)

subaruseventhsister

As manhattanrf is says, language change without any actual change in society is simply making it harder to say what you need to say and to illustrate what you need to illustrate. It’s erasure.

Beyond that ,there are plenty of examples of languages that are grammatically genderless, including genderless personal pronouns, and yet those societies still manage to make patriarchal distinctions between men and women, and somehow it’s mysteriously always the same pattern of oppression where “he” oppresses “her.”

Notice how Chinese feminists in the 1910s and 20s actually tried to introduce a feminine character into the Chinese, arguing that they needed a word that referred to women so they could simply talk about themselves in their writing.

Or how in France they are currently doing the opposite of English, actually officially validating feminine versions of words because they’re discovering that people don’t remember that a woman might have a traditionally male career otherwise.

Not to be too harsh about this here, but pretending that an English “they” is somehow the solution to gendered opression is historically ignorant and linguistically imperialistic.

womens-priorities

Language change without any actual change in society

is simply making it harder to say what you need to say

and to illustrate what you need to illustrate.

It’s erasure.

ireneradblr

In patriarchal societies, gender neutral language is generally interpreted as male-default language for positive things, and female-default language for negative things. It therefore serves to further increase sexism and reinforce stereotypes. Eg, say ‘doctor’ and people will assume a male doctor, say ‘prostitute’ and people will assume a woman in prostitution. Whereas using gendered language, if I say ‘I went to see my new doctor today - she’s much better than my last one,’ the word ‘she’ in that sentence serves to challenge the unconscious stereotypes held by the listener.

arakkne

I agree with a lot of this and how it illustrates that the world that we’re working for cannot be rushed. In an ideal, gender abolished world, the only practical need for gendered pronouns would be in medical or sexual contexts. However, a prerequisite for this change in language is also the abolition of patriarchy, misogyny, and sex-based oppression and violence.

Just like how in an ideal, gender abolished society, unisex bathrooms should be the norm and a non-issue. However, demanding that we all accept unisex bathrooms in today’s world would endanger women. When the rate of violence between men and women becomes equal, only then do unisex-only spaces make sense.

The root of the problem needs to change before language and infrastructure do.

furiousradfem

in consensual sex you can stop at any time for any reason

in consexual sex if something happens that makes you feel uncomfortable or weirds you out, you can walk out of the door and get out of there without any consequences, without having to explain yourself

in consensual sex you never have to explain why something is uncomfortable or why you don’t want it done to you

in consensual sex if you even think about wanting to stop, you don’t have to think twice before saying it out loud

in consensual sex nobody should ever be telling you “you’re spoiling the mood” or “don’t be like that” when you’re unwilling

in consensual sex, nobody should ever be talking you into something you said no to

in consensual sex, nobody should be trading future favours in return for you agreeing to something you don’t want to do

in consensual sex, you should never be forced to demonstrate how much you trust your partner by letting them do whatever they want

in consensual sex you never have to shut down your instinct that something is wrong

in consensual sex, nobody should ever be doing something to you that you mentioned, implied, or explicitly stated you don’t like being done to you

in consensual sex, you should never be made to feel guilty or not good enough

in consensual sex, you should never have to expect emotional abuse, insults, pressure, guilt and shame if you refuse to participate or do as you’re told

in consensual sex, nobody should ever try to push, break, or crush your boundaries

in consensual sex, nobody should ever make you feel like you need to reconsider or push at your own boundaries

in consensual sex, you shouldn’t feel fear, not at any point

in consensual sex, you shouldn’t feel like your relationship with this person depends on what happens in bed

in consensual sex, you should never feel like it’s not okay to say no to something

if you can’t say this is true for your sexual experiences, it wasn’t consensual sex.

rad-chocho

and this is why buying sex will never lead to consensual sex

organic-homegrown-boyfriend

Lots of times it’s possible that your partner may not be comfortable voicing out her lack of interest or verbally expressing her boundaries especially if she is a woman because of unpleasant past experiences or fear or because they are thinking it will get better or simply because of their upbringing. It is important that their partners do not rely just on verbal consent but watch out for their body language and other cues that indicate discomfort or lack of enthusiasm and stop accordingly.

femalethink

Women do not simply have faces, as men do; they are identified with their faces. Men have a naturalistic relation to their faces. Certainly they care whether they are good-looking or not. They suffer over acne, protruding ears, tiny eyes; they hate getting bald. But there is a much wider latitude in what is aesthetically acceptable in a man's face than what is in a woman's. A man's face is defined as something he basically doesn't need to tamper with; all he has to do is keep it clean. He can avail himself of the options for ornament supplied by nature: a beard, a mustache, longer or shorter hair. But he is not supposed to disguise himself. What he is "really" like is supposed to show. A man lives through his face; it records the progressive stages of his life. And since he doesn't tamper with his face, it is not separate from but is completed by his body—which is judged attractive by the impression it gives of virility and energy. By contrast, a woman's face is potentially separate from her body. She does not treat it naturalistically. A woman's face is the canvas upon which she paints a revised, corrected portrait of herself. One of the rules of this creation is that the face not show what she doesn't want it to show. Her face is an emblem, an icon, a flag. How she arranges her hair, the type of makeup she uses, the quality of her complexion—all these are signs, not of what she is "really" like, but of how she asks to be treated by others, especially men. They establish her status as an "object."

—Susan Sontag, “On Women.”

femailment

Amber Heard, Tana Monogeau, the woman who accused Neil Gaiman (and the women in the podcast who exposed the allegations.) These women are not liked and so instead of believing them when they come out about abuse, you attack them. You do not care about women and you do not care about rape or abuse survivors. If you think a woman must be 100% perfect morally, legally, and politically to you is not believing victims, you wish to use them for your own agenda. And if it doesn't fit your agenda, you don't think they deserve justice.

worstdykeever

the 'perfect victim' doesn't exist. sometimes a woman will be unlikeable or conservative or a 'terf' or problematic in some other way but that does NOT mean she deserved to be abused. i don't care how problematic a woman is, if you don't support all victims, then you don't support victims at all.

selkie-on-land

The perfect victim is the DEAD one

wombwarriors

Being dead ain't even enough to get people to believe you man look at what happened to Nicole brown Simpson

selkie-on-land

This is so real !! And she's isn't even an isolated victim to not be believed...

dworkinlover

I highly recommend to everyone to read Andrea Dworkin's essay on Nicole Brown Simpson.

But yes, even with overwhelming evidence, people will not care about violence against women - they will care about race issues, class issues, etc., but the battered woman stays invisible. We are the slaves of the slave and yet our oppression is of the least concern to society.

On this topic, seeing this post was timely as I just went to see a theatre rendition of A Streetcar Named Desire. I recall reading the play in hs and there were kids in my class who legit thought that Blanche deserved to be raped by Stanley because she was unlikeable and "taunting him." These were 16 year old boys.

The victim blaming of women is so much more deeply ingrained in society than people care to admit.

moidsmalding

There's this common pattern, where every time a woman is murdered or comes forward about being abused, without fail, men's first thought is "she must've done something to deserve it". They jump at the opportunity to endlessly justify each other's crimes. They don't have an ounce of empathy, and just figure whatever befell her was probably well deserved. Because rape, abuse and murder are weapons that can be used to punish disobedient women at will.

#i've said it before and i'll say it again #it's because they want to inflict that violence onto the women and girls in their own lives #they see their fellow men 'humbling' those bitches and go “if only i could do the same”

artie5o5

I don’t understand why men think being married to them should be a goal.

"She's unmarriageable" "She's not marriage material" Yeah bro nobody fuckings wants to be the kind of woman you wanna marry

moidsmalding

Right? Being unmarriageable to men is a badge of honour. If a man ever wanted to marry me I'd be like "damn what am I doing wrong?" lmao

radfemie

so much to say w this one

yes, we do actually have to protect women's spaces...why wouldn't we??

claims sex based oppression isn't a real thing, blatantly ignoring all the history and sources that say otherwise and the other tries saying the word "female" is a terf dog whistle as if it's a bad word.

trans women are males, so no they do NOT get an opinion on abortion because they will never have the option to carry a child and I would LOVE to know what kind of misogyny a male has faced.

opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2

"how are we supposed to talk about sex based oppression?"

> "you're not"

that's all I needed to read

starinyourhand

Convinced someone in the cia orchestrated this to defang feminism and women's power as a whole

moidsmalding

It has got to be a psyop. The backlash against feminism has been ongoing since the beginning and so devastating that it's now been co-opted by choice "feminism" with an emphasis on putting men's needs at the forefront. We're scrabbling to even define things. We're essentially being pushed back to square one. It can't be a coincidence.

#let's see #porn is a-ok and if you are disgusted by your coworker discussing his incest fetish you are a evil swerf #selling yourself to men is empowering 👍🏻 oh wait don't think about how it's not men who are being pushed into prostituting themselves #the metoo movement getting men all worked up about false accusations and trying to paint women as liars #so even more women stay silent about abuse since they don't want to be branded attention seekers #men complaining about their loneliness epidemic whilst femicide rates increase #being unable to define being a woman #basic no-brains feminism is somehow 'terfy' now #can't talk about misogyny can't talk about shit #it's all a silencing tactic

transphobicennui-deactivated202

men be like “women won’t get this joke 😈” and the joke in question is pedophilia and sexual assault

#yeah no shit women won't get the joke we actually have morals and aren't degenerates lmao #like gee I wonder which sex makes up the overwhelming majority of rapists and pedophiles 🤔 hmm such a mystery

logophilestudies

they banned epidurals in korea??? so they really just hate women

logophilestudies

'no significant difference in pain relief effectiveness between using an epidural alone and using it with a pain buster' according to this report that im sure was spearheaded if not entirely written by men. and theres no indication of this being for any improved health of mom + baby so it really is for no reason other than men hating women.

pineapplecake555

Men are also so painfully stupid.

SK Man: okay women are refusing to marry or have babies with us, what do?

SK Genius: let’s make sure women that do have children are punished as much as possible, that will make more women want to risk having a child here!

And this isn’t restricted to SK either. The US republicans seem to think the way to convince more women to get married and have babies is by making both of those things as dangerous as possible.

deadfish-inabarrel

The problem is that they're not just making these things more dangerous, they're restricting women's rights along with it.

USA removed women's right to abortion, and are going after no fault divorce. I am admittedly not as informed about south korea, but I'd bet money they are, in some way, also restricting or at least punishing women for NOT dating/marrying men.

It's not that they think doing these things (removing female healthcare) will ~scare~ women into obedience, nor is it much of a punishment, it's just "karma" to them for the few decades of "female audacity" to think they're also people. It's correcting a wrong, because women didn't deserve the painkillers/abortions in the first place.

And that's the scariest part.

radfemradio-deactivated20250327

Yep, this is just blatant punishment and terrorism against women for daring to fight back, as they strip our rights away.

This is their "haha you thought it was bad before? Now we're going to be even more cruel to you. We're going to take even MORE from you."

Because they want to scare us into submission. They want us to shut up and "learn our place." These are acts of violence and terrorism against us.

Shit like this is probably why suffragettes made bombs.

sapphicdesi

“Around 830 women die every day due to preventable pregnancy complications. The world is missing an estimated 90 to 100 million women due to the extermination of female – not feminine – infants. In such a situation, to boldly declare that you “see no sex difference” reveals both ignorance and privilege. We’re back to the idea that female people cannot be credible witnesses to their own lives.”

— Glosswitch, “When Did Liberal Men Start Thinking it Was Acceptable to Tell Feminists How to be Feminist?” (via lavenderbunnies)

meanevilandcruel

CHICANA FEMINISM

“Neither Saints, Nor Whores, Just Women”

“Silence Kills”

A member of the Brown Berets, a Chican@ movement. Forming after inspiration from The Black Panthers. They fought for: Education Reform, Farmworkers Rights. Fought Against: Police Brutality & The Vietnam War

Brown Berets were sexist but women in the movement fought off sexism in the Brown Berets and general society

“My life has value. My body has no price”

“I didn’t come out of your ribs. You came out of my pussy”

“Leave your porn addicted boyfriend”

“Pornography is propaganda of hate against women”

“Dead men don’t rape”

“Without abolition, there is no liberation”

“I want you free”

hxrd--hexded--wxmxn

being okay with women liking pussy isn’t enough. you have to be okay with women who like pussy and only pussy and will never ever interact with a dick. or you're still a homophobe.

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