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trouble telling the story, finding the words, appreciating the details -Audrey- a writer in need of inspiration

[6thlovelanguage-deactivated2020]

how do you reclaim your life queen!!!

by giving people who hurt you less space in your mind and stop associating them with stuff you like and focusing on healing!!! going from denial to processing things to healing & focusing on people who love you genuinely and who are good to you & not people who treat you like shit 💓 

understand your worth & show yourself compassion & love!!!!!!!!!! 💓

[6thlovelanguage-deactivated2020]

oh also reclaiming things that remind(ed) you of people who hurt you by making new associations with them bc they don’t belong to them they belong to you and your unique vision of them… you can make new associations and like lorde said you always experience things differently from other people & if you start associating them with new things/people/experiences they stop belonging to the people who hurt you in your mind & one day they won’t even remind you of them. also helps to listen to new music read new books etc etc to feel like you’re experiencing all these things that the people who hurt you will never know about and you never have to share them with them. 

[handwrittenloveletter-deactivat]

when jenny slate said “and the truth about me is not that i’m really volatile and i’m unstable, but that i’m really vibrant, and the color of my sorrow is just as bright as the stripes of my delight”

[medievalswords]

when lizzo said “self love is survival” and when hannah gadsby said “do you understand what self-deprecation means when it comes from somebody who already exists in the margins? it’s not humility. it’s humiliation” and when mitski said “i used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that’s awfully convenient to the world. for some of us our best revolt is self preservation”

[gnascher]

when audre lorde said “caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare”

[darkalleysunflower]

when Jenny Slate tweeted, “As the image of myself becomes sharper in my brain&more precious, I feel less afraid that someone else will erase me by denying me love”

[lohver]

you only get 782 chances with me bitch i don’t tolerate shit

[wordsthat-speak]

“Sometimes at night I suddenly become aware of all the things I’m missing out on right now, and all the people who I’m not close to anymore, and all of the good times that will never happen again, and all the people who meant the world to me who have forgotten about me forever, and I get this awful feeling that’s kind of like a mix between loneliness and nostalgia.”

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[bananonbinary]

one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former Gifted Kid™ is that half-assed is better than nothing. take the 50%, 40%, even 20% job. scrubbing your face is better than not taking a shower at all. picking up your clothes is better than never cleaning. nibbling on some bread is better than starving.

DO THINGS HALFWAY. NOW YOU’RE 100% BETTER OFF THAN YOU WERE BEFORE.

[redheadhatchet]

One of my college professors used to say “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.”  I didn’t understand that for years because I didn’t do anything poorly, I couldn’t do anything poorly, I had to Do Everything Perfectly.

But brushing your teeth for 30 seconds is better than not brushing them at all when that 2 minutes seems exhausting.  Doing ten minutes of yoga is better than 10 minutes of sitting when 30 minutes of cardio sounds impossible.  Changing my clothes is good when a whole shower is impossible.  Standing on the porch for a few minutes is worth it after being in the house for three straight days because I don’t have the energy to go anywhere.

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly… because doing it poorly is better than not doing it.

[wordsthat-speak]

“the wounds have changed me. i am so soft with scars my skin breathes and beats stars.”

—

Nayyirah Waheed

[academicssay]

[hatin]

Everyone deserves a second chance but not for the same mistake

(via hatin)

[wnq-quotes]

Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive. They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody. But it is at great cost. Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either.

Osho

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[wordsnquotes-net]

“Lessons I learnt this year. #1 Don’t make home out of people. They leave, they leave all the frigging time. Save your heart from the sorrows, be independent and put yourself first. Self love is not selfish. #2 Dreams do come true after all but that doesn’t mean you can sit still and do nothing. You have to work your ass off for it then it’ll surely come your way. #3 Friendship doesn’t fill the gas tank. Not gonna elaborate on this, well all know this! #4 Love yourself. Buy that dress even though it comes with a hefty price tag, read that book that you have in your shelf for the longest time, wear make up , paint your face as your heart desires, sleep for 12 hours , sleep the whole weekend away, sleep for 1 hour if that’s what you want. This is your life, you can’t let people dictate what’s supposed to be yours.”

— singlaughscreamlikenobodycare,  writing prompt #73: Write about the lessons you learned this year. (via wnq-writers)

[niggazinmoscow]

I’m printing this tweet and putting it on my desk

[oupacademic]

[cafeinevitable-deactivated20220]

Suzannah Lipscomb, the author of The Voices of Nîmes, explains why primary sources from women are so important.

Gifs created by Mara Sandroff for Oxford University Press

(via oupacademic)

[humansofnewyork]

“I’m ninety-six years old.  I’d rather just take a pill and get it over with.  Whenever I tell that to my wife, she pretends to slap me in the face.  But I’m ready to go.  And I’d like it to be sudden.  I’ve had a good run.  I was lucky enough to share my life with someone.  She’s ninety now.  We’ve had a lot of time together.  We have seven grandchildren.  Eight great-grandchildren.  But there are just so many things I can’t do anymore.  I have the money.  I have the time.  Just not the ability.  Whenever I walk, everything hurts. I enjoy sitting here in the park.  I think about all the friends that I’ve lost.  People come talk to me.  Time passes by.  But I’m ready.  I’m not scared of it.  I’d like my soul to go to wherever the souls go.” (Barcelona, Spain)

[1995june]

Fall in love with someone who appreciates the little things in life. Like the blue of the ocean, the calmness of an empty sky, or going grocery shopping at 1am. Fall in love with someone who makes the small things feel like everything.

[heartsoulbreathe]

Did you know that your interests are really cool?? The stuff that you find fascinating and the little facts you know aren’t lame. They’re what make you passionate and that’s a really cool thing

[kaafka]

“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”

— Margaret Atwood.