The Mistress of Distress

An old person yelling at clouds. Female pronouns are fine. My blog policies and my soup blog. Stuff for my sisters K & A.

[msdistress]

where to find me

Tumblr is in its death throes and I’m very busy in RL (not bad busy, just busy busy). So, in case you want to find me later, I’m msdistress on dreamwidth as well. I don’t tweet much, but I log in to Twitter occasionally, and my handle there is pirate_alia. So, I’ll see you around, I guess?  

[msdistress]

Hey Tumblr...

I thought you might want to know that in preparation for the impending death of Tumblr on the 17th, I archived Helenish’ entire* tumblr blog to The Wayback Machine. I know people were archiving fannish blogs to other sites, too, but I figured one more archived copy wouldn’t hurt. You’re welcome. *or at least I tried to archive it as completely as I could. I might have missed one or two read mores, but I’m certain that at least 95% of the blog is there.

[troisoiseaux-deactivated2021011]

“I shall never forget the occasion where I was visiting a school as a writer and the whole place suddenly fell into an uproar because the school tomboy - a most splendid Britomart of a girl - had beaten up the school bully. Everything stopped in the staffroom while the teachers debated what to do. They wanted to give the tomboy a prize, but decided reluctantly that they had better punish her and the bully too. They knew that if, as a child, you do pluck up courage to hit the bully, it is an act of true heroism - as great as that of Beowulf in his old age. I remember passing the tomboy, sitting in her special place of punishment opposite the bully. She was blazing with her deed, as if she had actually been touched by a god. And I thought that this confirmed all my theories: a child in her position is open to any heroic myth I care to use; she is inward with folktales; she would feel the force of any magical or divine intervention.”

— Diana Wynne Jones (via intomyth)

[stream]

Who the fuck gets married on Halloween anyhow? The Crow (1994) | dir. Alex Proyas

[seamusquigley]

“I don’t want to be a pet robot.”

“I don’t think anyone wants that.”

That was Gurathin. I don’t like him. “I don’t like you.”

“I know.”

He sounded like he thought it was funny. “That is not funny.”

“I’m going to mark your cognition at fifty-five percent.”

“Fuck you.”

“Let’s make that sixty percent.”

Exit Strategy by Martha Wells, The Murderbot Diaries

[dangerousyako]

An Artificial Condition is such a great representation of Hufflepuff-Slytherin friendships

you’ve got Murderbot the anxious Hufflepuff mom friend who instantly imprints on and needs to protect anyone who shows vulnerability for 0.5 seconds and needs to protect them

and ART the chill and self-assured Slytherin friend who’s perfectly ready to kill anyone who harms its crew and its Murderbot

[factysatin]

BONUS POINTS in the world’s cutest twist the Slytherin friend can’t watch scary movies without the Hufflepuff holding their hand

[sockablock]

someone who doesn’t watch critical role caption this

[saintnickcave]

[rakhna]

reblog this and put in the tags where youre from and what temperatures you think are too hot and too cold to go out in

[dreamyfilms]

i’ve been thinking about it but no caption could possibly make this any funnier

[queerstatic]

tell me something nice, hit me with those positive vibess

[eatsleepcrap]

the earliest recorded named cat lived over 3000 years ago in egypt and was called ‘nedjem’ which means sweetie

[piwi]

hey guys 👋🏻 I’m having a really bad day but I came across this beautiful poem that I’m so in love with, thought I’d share it

[knitmeapony]

This poem is by Wendy Cope!  Please don’t forget to credit poets when you post their work.

Transcript of text in image:

The Orange

At lunchtime I bought a huge orange— The size of it made us all laugh. I peeled it and shared it with Robert and Dave— They got quarters and I had a half.

And that orange, it made me so happy, As ordinary things often do Just lately. The shopping. A walk in the park. This is peace and contentment. It’s new.

The rest of the day was quite easy. I did all the jobs on my list And enjoyed them and had some time over. I love you. I’m glad I exist.

[criticalsorcery]

go fuck yourself!

[blurrycriticalroleposts]

I want to point out that Sam’s contact picture is Scanlan.

[andreashettle]

adhd mode 1: I want to do this thing!!!! I’m going to do the thing!!! *5 mins later* this is so exhausting lets not do the thing, I’m done

adhd mode 2: *hyperfocus on the most irrelevant, completely unwarranted task in the world* “where did the sun go?”

adhd mode 3: *cue panic-induced motivation, typically offset by: an exam in 1 hr, a 10 pg paper due at 8AM, and other anxiety-stricken deadlines*

adhd mode 4: I want to do something but I don’t know WHAT I want to do, I want to do a million things *spend an entire day restlessly moving from task to task*

adhd mode 5: I’m READY to be PRODUCTIVE! But first, I need to get a cup of water. But wait, there’s no ice in the freezer let me make ice. Hold on, all the cups are dirty, time do the dishes lol. Hm… there’s dishes in my room let me go get them. Oh, there’s my computer let me go check Tumblr. *5 hrs later* What was I just gonna do

[bestial-eyes]

PSA about ADHD

✦ADHD is not a personality quirk

- some things that tag along with ADHD are:

        ~sensory processing disorder

        ~executive dysfunction

        ~poor fine motor skills

        ~sensory overloads (that lead to meltdowns)

        ~sensory seeking (self stimming)

        ~hyperfixations

        ~moderate to severe memory problems

        ~Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria- is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception that one is being rejected, teased, or criticized. The emotional response is complete with suicidal ideation and people suffering from RSD often get misdiagnosed with serious personality disorders. RSD is only seen in people with ADHD and the emotional sensitivity/reaction is much more severe than that of a neurotypical person.

✦Some other “fun” ADHD things! 

          ~inability to regulate emotions

          ~no concept of time

          ~noticeable public stimming (resulting in stares from neurotypicals) 

          ~no impulse control

          ~insomnia

          ~listen but cannot absorb what is being said 

          ~no volume control 

          ~increased inability to focus when emotional

          ~difficulty stopping a task and transitioning to the next 

          ~social anxiety

          ~higher levels on generalized anxiety

          ~extremely forgetful 

          ~”all or nothing” mentality  

@ neurotypicals- some things to be aware of: 

- you cannot hyperfixate. only people who are neurodivergent can hyperfixate. please don’t use that word when describing your latest obsession :-)

- please don’t stare at neurodivergent people who are stimming in public

- be respectful of those who actually need fidget toys so they can subtly stim in public 

- if we forget something you tell us it is not because we don’t care, we just have a million other thoughts racing through our mind and no way to filter through them. 

- please be gentle with us. no don’t tip toe around us and treat us like we aren’t human, but be aware that even offhand comments can trigger RSD. no we aren’t being too sensitive, our brains are wired differently than yours. 

[bartmobile]

never forget that ADHD is a real disability and it affects our everyday lives in ways that often we don’t even realize

[uchuuryokou]