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Day 73; How to survive a Global pandemic

Welcome to 2021! What a few years it has been! If you know what I mean? I can’t help but think that this Pandemic has truly changed us all. Some for the better, then some not.  Personally, I have found the pandemic to help in many areas of my life. I’ve had more time to myself to actually become a plant mum. Who would’ve thought? Grew lots of herbs and exotic flowers over the summer periods. Most people have gained a hobby or two, since having to self isolate or even just restrict their social life. For the extroverts out there. I fully understand how your mental health has deteriorated. You rely on social interactions in order to feel comfortable with existence.  Yet; all you introverts, well, you’re doing pretty well and dandy. Social restrictions, more alone time, curfews which are well within reason. Sounds like an introverts heaven. There have been a few things in which I’ve discovered which has helped me survive this Global pandemic. Of course I would like to share this with you.

Firstly, it’s important to always be mindful of your present moment. Always be aware of what you have in this exact moment of thought. Push yourself! Don’t give up on yourself just because others cannot see your exterior! Put that make-up on, put those nice trousers or shirts on! 

If for example, your only achievement of the day was getting showered and dressed, then be grateful you have clean clothes to put on and a hot shower to get into etc. 

Secondly as it is important to be grateful, it’s truly important to practice exercise. Now just because the gyms are closed, does not mean you can excuse yourself. There are several creative ways you can work out at home and get the same results! We are living in the 21st century and there are hundreds of videos in which you can watch, to learn something new within a few minutes! There is no excuse! Thirdly another idea which can help you survive, is make sure you are keeping in touch with family and friends. I’ve been guilty of this, it is quite hard to make sure you are contacting them, especially when you have your own life to live. Just do it, don’t make excuses. If there has been anything this pandemic has taught me, it’s never to waste time. Especially not with loved ones. Lastly, you can improve your local community by acting selfless. For example, if you were to decide to volunteer for your local support groups, donate clothes to charity shops or even give food to neighbours as a sign of appreciation. This can help you survive the global pandemic in such a small scale. Yet, it has the biggest affects. Not only are you helping those around you, who may be less fortunate than you, you are also being economical and supporting your own mental health, by the act of giving. 

It’s seriously a win-win! I do hope that this post helped you to discover some ways in which you can too survive a Global pandemic! 

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Day 72; How to spot trash friends

So this may sound like a typical projecting post, You’d be right. Yet wrong at the same time. Its merely an observation. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in life, unhappy. Wondering why everything and everyone around you isn’t making you happy. It’s because you’ve put too much faith into everything. Funnily enough, people aren’t on this planet to make you happy. They’re merely an accessory to the fact. 

You in fact need to make yourself happy. You need to be the driver of your vessel in happiness. Now you’re probably wondering why with a tittle such as ‘spotting trash friends’ even relates to you being the controller or your happiness ship. It does relate, stay with me. It relates because you are in control of who is in your life. Who is speaking to you and who you listen to. People seem to forget that just because other people are in your life doesn’t mean they need to stay there, or that you have no control over their place. It’s your life, live it. 

The first thing to spot when recognising whether you have trash friends is the following. They never contact you first. It’s always you calling them, texting them, messaging them, sending that funny GIF or something along those lines, either way, YOU make first contact. Now everyone is different, if it is consistent then you need to stop firstly. Some people do get lazy with the effort being made all the time, until you stop. Then you realise who really is meant to be in your life and who isn’t. 

The second thing you need to look out for is, they never make plans. So many people now days give the excuse of ‘oh i’m so busy’ yet they’re constantly uploading their social media accounts or just online every time you check your messages. If they don’t make plans with you, yet have time for other people then cut them out straight away. They aren’t your friends. I will bet money that they will be the type of person who will call you/text you when theres no-one else to hang out with. You don’t need to be a second option in peoples lives.

The third thing you need to be aware of is, friends saying that they miss you or making false promises. They usually come in the light of ‘we should totally meet up sometime’ friends. They are the ones who like the second point, are flakey friends and only want you when there’s no one else. Don’t allow people to pick you up and drop you at the first chance they get. You deserve better than that.

The forth action you should watch out for is if they don’t keep information you’ve told them in confidence, private. That usually shows if they’re disloyal or love to gossip. A true friend would respect your privacy and not talk to you about others. Usually if the first 3 points are displayed, you hopefully won’t experience the forth one. So keep in mind the first 3 points so that you don’t have the same problems.

I would like to mention that not everyone is terrible, this post is merely to make sure you aware of the bad people in your life. Once you remove bad in your life, you also welcome the good. You need to balance yourself so do, only that. 

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Day 71; Fighting yourself

So this title may sound weird considering you can't physically fight yourself. You can however, have a battle in your own head with yourself about your life and even what you think of yourself. If you are a fairly damaged and over thinking type of person you've probably experienced this many times. I mean, it is only natural to feel this way, sometimes. Not to the point where you can't even take a compliment from someone because you've thought so badly of yourself, that when a compliment comes your way you either do one or two things; 1. Think the person's lieing or 2. Think it's completely untrue

Neither of those things are true. It is your own self doubt and the unknowingly fighting yourself which causes this for you. No one thinks you're a bad person or even remotely undeserving of the planet. You think that. If there's anything I can advice you when you get to this point of state of mind, remind yourself of everything nice someone has said about You, no matter how big or small of a compliment it was.

Peace

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Day 70; Be kind to yourself

Thought I'd start this blog with a different attitude. Most of my posts seem to be negative to a point and I think, positivity is missed. Being kind to yourself can mean alot of things. It can mean that you stop situations from upsetting you and be good to yourself. It could mean that you get rid of a toxic friend because they don't have you as their priority anymore. In every day to day sense, when you speak to yourself just speak with kind and sincere words. Eventually it all reflects onto others and you may start to notice a difference in your life, after doing so.

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Day 69; Options

So this post this week was a hard one, I contemplated doing something related to the sex act 69; but then thought it would be way too cliche. So this week something came to light and I thought why not write about this, forget the conventional! 

The topic this week is options. Now when I say options I don’t mean, the average daily ones you get from shopping, or anything else. I mean the truthful, sincere options which exist in modern day relationships. I also reiterate that when I say relationships I don’t mean just romantic ones, I mean any relation you have to a human being, just to be clear. The fact that most of us actually have options, even in this side of life, we aren’t always best at dealing with them, or making all the ‘options’ matter. In this modern day, we have so many obstacles that stops us from doing this, including ourselves. It’s almost become a fashion trend to not even look after things you have in your life. Whether that be, friendships, partners or even pet responsibilities. We’ve lost the ability to appreciate these things as they are.

Thus when I say options, its all the things in our lives which we have a responsibility of care for. People always have this view of novelty that we’ve only recently stopped caring for things of responsibility. In fact it couldn’t be further from the truth. If you look back into history you may see the cycles run through to our ‘modern’ day society. We’re just less drastic in some areas. The type of options we have nowadays is we get to pick between who we want to see and who we want to speak to. The beauty of this modern day society is that we have that option, pretty much most of the time. We can message someone if we choose to, the only thing we don’t have the ability of these options is free will. So the importance of realising this, may make some people feel better about their own options, choices and so forth.

If you are feeling like an option to someone, take out your choice so it’s a lot easier for them and for you, don’t be someones option. Be someones priority. 

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Day 68; The fine arts of procrastinating

Procrastinating, it’s a rather beautiful and eloquent word which seems to do as it’s meaning. We all have problems don’t we? If its as small as wondering whether you’ll be able to survive for the week on the food you have, or if its down to not making new friends because you are just so far away from the world you live in, don’t sweat it. Procrastinating will help you forget all of these issues.

Simply find something that makes you forget about your day to day worries, whether that may be drugs, games, friends or just plain old habits like what you eat before you go to bed or when you wake up. I mean you can pick all of these if you so wish, the bigger the problem the bigger the procrastination. 

Secondly you want to make sure that your job, if you haven’t already got your golden career, takes up the unsociable hours so you have no time to deal with the issues that you have. Hence procrastinating further and for longer. 

And lastly, if you get a responsibility of some kind maybe a dog, cat, hamster, even a fish or of reptilian culture then you will have to only think about their problems and needs rather than your own. Its simpler and easier than dealing with your own problems right?

WRONG, Deal with your shit guys, bad for the soul and shit. 

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Day 67; Change

Change is one of the most beautiful things right? Well at least it can be. Not all changes are good at first, but in time, the change becomes all so clear. I’m not really a massive change enthusiast myself, although I would agree its always required, especially if you wish to progress in life. Without it, you just can’t. So as you continue to live your life, you’ll realise what you need to change in order to do progress.

You start to see that the job you’re working in is draining any life that you have left in you, you realise that the person you’re dating and have been for a long time isn’t serving you the same happiness, you originally had. The worst realisation about change is realising that every thing you have built for yourself is meaningless. Merely because of the fact that it’s all going to change again any way, so whats the point of becoming attached to it right? Wrong. I think in life, if we must have change then we must embrace what is the current. We must embrace the change as it comes and as it goes away from us.

When making choices for change you have to be mindful that your current thoughts of wishing for change don’t ruin the experiences that you encounter in your life. Now, not everything is like the movies where there’s just fait waiting at your door with opportunities. What there is though, is the freedom of what your choices become, based on you own free will.

If anything, having change should be an empowering act. It should be you saying, ‘Hey, I’ve gained experience and have enjoyed my time but now is the time for something different because I’m becoming different’. I mean that’s not the exact words you would say but, you get my point.

I guess the lesson for today is, if you have an opportunity to change something in your life, then do it because when you get that feeling, it’s a sign telling you that you need more experiences in your life. It’s your free will, embrace it.

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Day 66; Truths from a mental addict

So youre probably wondering why the title to refers to the following, 1. What makes it mental? 2. What makes you an addict? Allow me to eloborate these statements. A mental human is someone who constantly thinks about every milicule second to the point of exhaistion. Some say this could be early signs of a mental condition some would say anxiety. Whatever label you want to put on to it, it feels pretty bad, especially when you label it. Someone who overthinks or reptitively thinks are enlikely to form some form of addiction. Whether it may be drugs alcohol or other various activities theyll find them, and do them. This is where point 2 comes into action. An addict. Now most of you would think ok an addict, someone who walks the street giving free blowies to anyone who can give them crack. Wrong. An addict is someone who cant go without something and use it in order to cope with their daily life. Reasons behind addiction are still yet undiscovered and some say that it could be a genetic thing, but how do we even know? We dont. So the truths about both of these points are they come hand in hand. We all have addictions so its nothing to be ashamed of or self critise yourself about.

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Day 65; Self reflecting

So I think we can all relate to this one, we are humans, and at some point in our lives we have self reflected. Whether it be about how you acted at the party you last went to or to how you greeted your boss the other day. We all do it. Some of us just do it more often. I think one of the hardest things to do is truly self reflect in a way which other people could reflect about you. Theres always going to be that element of you that is personally attached to yourself so, Once you start to find things about yourself that others have said, it makes it all the reason to try to understand them. In all honesty we try to understand each other but in the thin and thin of it all we never will because no human is the same but we can all relate to each other on similar experiences. Thats why no amount of videos, advice from friends or a blog is going to help you in your life progression. The ability to self reflect fairly is when you start to progress with things in life. If you must take anything from this blog today remember this 'Dont be harsh on yourself because its not self reflecting its self critising'.

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Day 64; Online Dating

So this week is about something in theory everyone in this century will go through at least once. Whether it’s the pre-before a online relationship or you’ve just started speaking to someone who already seems pretty right for you.

You have to realise that certain aspects of the situation that are going to be somewhat difficult. The obstacles which most people face are - how long it takes to message each other, believe it or not that’s still a thing. No amount of instant messaging will change our humans instinctive to play a game. 

Admittedly not everyone is like that and there are some people who don’t consider it to be a problem about how long it takes to message who back. There are also people who just message the other person when they receive the message. These people are called your honesties.

Now on the other side of the fence there are the game players as I mentioned earlier, they’re the ones modern society calls ‘fuck boys/girls’ these people are pure ego based and all they have to gain is ego from the amount of messages they’ve ignored and who they've turnt down.They pretend to like you until they get what they want out of you. Some of these fuck boys/girls present themselves at first to look like the honesties bunch so that they’re able to reach their end goal.. which is a cheap night out in maccdy’s and then them and you back at your apartment. Don’t be fooled by these types of online daters.

Then you have the creepers. These people are always logged in and always reply back to messages as if they’re just sitting there latching on for your response. Without a doubt these people can either turn awfully weird by sending constant messages even after you not innocently replying then just becomes progressively worse as the time goes on to the point where you have to block them to refrain them from continue talking.  They can also come in boys and girls versions so don’t be fooled by the gender. 

The next lot of people are called Private Flashers. These lovely bunch of people will only contact you to send you a picture of their naked bodies - or just their genitals, if you're lucky. I say if you're lucky as these people can range from a cheeky flash of their weiners/vaginas or a full blown video of themselves jerking themselves off. Whatever one you get there’s one way to handle these people and thats to tell them you have serious feelings about them. They will run a mile and send the next random person on their face books the same naked photo.

I have one piece of advise, if you’re not up for filtering out the craps to find the good ones then online dating may not be for you. It’s great because you can talk to people from all across the world and share different things with each other but if you’re not prepared to watch out for the signs prepared to be catfished. 

Rule 1 to Online Dating # Never get catfished.

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Day 63; Accepting your flaws

So this week is something which I think we all come to realise at some point in our lives. Whether it will be in your late 20′s, late 50′s we all do. Life seems to present us with obstacles which, in theory, helps us realise our flaws. For example, if you have an argument with a family member and then you lose your temper, this would demonstrate your individual flaw. The way you deal with it is dependent on the type of person you are. 

If you ignore the issue, continue with your day to day self,  remain that way then, there’s no progress in you. The likelihood of there being any progress if you continued to act this way are very slim.

Another possibility you may face whilst learning to accept your flaws will be, in relationships. They will test your flaws and your capabilities of being self composed. You will be faced with all complicated and real situations. For example your partner could bring out a side to you which, in previous relationships hasn’t risen to the surface. 

Not only do relationships bring your flaws to the surface, your friends do too. When someone upsets you, your first response to that situation arise and you’re just faced with the reality of who you really are. Whether you shout at them, cry because of them or just down right ignore them. This ultimately is your flaws. The acceptance is simple, You bring the problem to your own attention and just say, ‘Why am I acting this way?’ Is it because I was hurt by someone previously and haven’t deal with it?’ or is it because I’m just this type of person. You have to come to terms with the answer on this one. The trial of thoughts after an event will help you develop as a person.

This post will be generalised as its not targeted to one type of person, We all think differently. We aren’t the same, but we all feel, which is the same. So don’t be bummed out if you haven’t found out what your flaws are. The best thing is to embrace your flaws, accept that they are apart of you and please, stop suppressing yourselves. This is how depression is created and how as a society, we forget. Accepting your flaws isn’t supposed to be a bad thing. It’s a growth path which we all have to face. 

If you learn anything today, Learn to embrace your flaws and grow.

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Day 62; Dating world

so the dating world is a complicated one isn't it? You can’t exactly do anything right when you're dating, theres so many restrictions as to what makes someone interested in you- Its virtually impossible to get anyone full time. Then what you start doing is you start revisiting past relationships which have previously been ok or unfinished with, then realise once the feelings have gone and past, it sort’ve becomes a realisation that dating is hard.

You have to do everything alone, and pretty much put up the barrier more if you had just accepted that you were going to die alone with a cat or a small animal of some sort. Not everyone wants the same as you. Some people become confused as to what they want because they’ve been ‘hurt’ or they have experienced something which has changed them in the love pool.

We play constant games with each other about who texts first and who kisses who first, and even who pays for the dates you go on. Like this is the 21st century and we’re basically being weak humans who don’t actually go for what they actually want. 

The reason why we’re also so easy to dispose one another is for the reason called Tinder, POF, and all the other cliche dating apps. You swipe from right to left and judge it based on whether you like them, seriously what is that about? We are basically showcasing people and encouraging egotism.

Unfortunately the age we are dating has become an egotistical aim, numbers mean more ego. No one is happy just being with themselves and accepting the flaws that they present to the table.

Lets just hope the dating world sorts itself out and if not I advise that you just take into mind what you’d like someone to say to you and more importantly, 

BE HONEST.

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Day 61; Debt

One reason we can all relate to right? Now, what most average people think about, when they see the word debt is usually involving money. Wrong. This post is to highlight exactly what debt can mean and how we’re all just passing the true purpose of it.

Now of course debt has been associated with money and loans etc. That’s not the type of debt which is really truly important to us. The most important kind of debt is life debt, now you wonder why its called that and how right? Well its simple - for example if you were to be negative to someone undeservingly then thats where you’d acquire your debt. Now, when we all die and leave this planet we have somewhat of a statement of what we did in our life which essentially would give us credit to our final resting place, whether you believe in hell or wherever your religion says you’ll go - the ultimate end result is our souls get to rest. 

If you’ve accumulated life debt throughout your life you’re gonna end up spending years and time paying that back because ironically, its a debt you’ve got to pay back. But that’s just the small issue to what we face individually. Now when we acquire this life debt, whilst we’re living, there’s something beyond that we cannot see, and thats ourselves. We only know how we are by the reactions we are given back from others. So when you’re being negative to someone, you don’t only create life debt for your after-life but your present life ,because you’ve imprinted a moment/memory onto someone else who may take that to their after life. 

I can’t say that this after-life will definitely happen to all of us, but what I can say is that, if you’re aware of what you’re doing in your present life then you will feel better and those around you will too. And as for financial debt, it needs to vanish into thin air because its not exactly helping our lives and those around us.

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Day 60; Being in Love

Now this topic is always a bit of a grey area for those who have never been in love and for those that have, you'll know what I'm talking about. So love is something I like to call influential because when you love someone you love everything about them, to the core of their actions, their music taste and even their humour. It becomes apart of you which is where the saying 'your other half' comes from. but there was something that they didn't tell you about being in love, and that's the bad habits you obtain from that person which end up being your bad habits and it just ends up with you and their bad habits. You also weren't told that you'd probably have stuff of theirs months later after breaking up and realising it's become apart of your stuff. It's a complicated and sometimes fun situation being in love. Yet I'm a believer that love isn't supposed to be complicated or even questionable. Being in love should be the most natural thing to do and when you're in love with the right person, it instinctively becomes clear that it is so. If you are with the right person then that's great because you've done something right and for those who probably haven't found their right person, you will do soon.

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Day 59; Moving Home

So today is something I found which recently has become a big part of my life. Nightmare and chaotic as it was! Moving home. It’s something we all need to do some point in our lives in order to move on. I just hope that your moves wont be as hard as mine! So let me just start by saying I’ve been absent a little due to moving home and not even knowing head from tales. In my absence i’ve learnt a hell of a lot. I’ve learnt who to trust, why to trust them and what to do when all else fails. 

I have to remind you all my lovely readers that when things don’t quite go your way, don’t let that make you less of a person, or less willing to try. If you think something is worth going for then don't you dare let anyone or anything stop you from getting it. In everyones lives we all face obstacles and we sometimes feel at lost with these obstacles. Just remember there’s always someone worse off or in a worse situation than you. 

So back to the point of the title! Moving home can be fairly difficult especially in this 21st century we live in. You’re looking on right move or whatever real estate website you’re looking on and seeing flats/houses etc, you want to view them great. There’s a few things you’ll need to ask yourself, 1) Can I afford this realistically? 2) Can I actually enjoy myself if I move there? 3)The people I'm moving in with, do I trust them?

If you haven’t cleared those 3 questions then you’re definitely not going to be moving in smoothly. If something isn’t meant to be then sometimes it isn't, but just make sure that whoever you’re moving in with has a perm job, earning enough to pass references and is trust worthy not to leave you short of a deposit when you eventually decided to move on. 

Another tip for you, if you’re planning to move in with your partner. Watch out for signs as to how you’re going to cope with his ‘habits’ if you can tame yourself enough not to pick at him for them every five minutes, you’re golden.

I would also recommend choosing your third wheel with more care too. You don’t want someone who will hang around all the time and invade your duo space but you don’t want someone who will go completely off the walls because of some internal issues either. So as I said choose your third wheel correctly and carefully. 

If you’re not moving in with your partner then, happy days. Many single parties and random Harry’s and johns around. This is something which you need to watch out for especially if your house mate is a bit of a ‘lad’ or a little over friendly with the men. This can create problems of you being the third wheel and eventually falling out with your friends. Believe me, they could be your best friend in the whole entire world who you’ve known since you were kids and they can still third wheel you and argue with you. So watch out for that aspect too.

Now you’ve got your housemates sorted, you need to select your place of home! Then once you’ve found this you’ve got to go through a whole process called ‘referencing’ this is my hated part of renting. You basically give all your details over to a third company who will process your eligibility of this flat as if you've not already spent hours working this out already. Then if you pass you get the flat, if you fail then the process starts again. 

So you’ve got your flat, got the rent money and deposit money. Now it’s time to arrange a moving day and move in! But wait - You don’t have furniture, you’ve been living at home with mum and dad and have nothing to take with you. except whats in your room. Well that’s OK - Ikea usually does the trick. 

For those who don’t know what or where you can find an IKEA you are missing out on some good assed deals! Not so easy to build, and not great for beginner adults - BUT - Its darn cheap so you get what you pay for right? Yup. So you’ve moved in and you’re starting to make your IKEA furniture. You’ve got all the pieces laid out on the floor and you’re trying to figure out which edges go in which bit, then you realise you’ve screwed the thing backwards and have to re-take everything out and try again. Its probably like 11pm and you’re still trying to do the first part of the furniture and you eventually give up and go to bed with half of the boxes in the room and everything’s a mess. 

As long as your beds made that’s all that matters. So this was a little run down of how moving in can be, I have missed out quite a lot of details but I thought i’d ruin your own experience if I told you everything! I do hope we go into the New year of 2016 bright and well - and if you’re going to be on the sofa drinking pims then chin chin to that! Happy New year everyone. 

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Day 58; Becoming Vegan

Now ladies and gentlemen, You’re probably thinking, Oh no, She's gonna be ranting on about being vegan and how you should do it too. Well you’d be wrong, What you eat and what you let kill your food is your choice. I just wanted to share this topic with you after making a personal choice to actually become vegan.

After watching a really moving program on Netflix called ‘Cowspiracy’ I found it horrifying, informational and a real eye opener. Now I will have to stop your thought process and tell you that I didn't just watch this program and think ‘oh no the animals lets save them’. I do believe we have to look after what we have already have but I made this choice for personal medical reasons. I believe that this really is the way forward and if many of you have realised why then you'll end up joining me soon enough.

I do understand that not everyone will turn vegan because unfortunately meat is easy to make and it really is good to eat and most humans are ‘addicted’ to eating meat. Now don’t get me wrong I am a full lover of a 12lbs steak and a glass of milk with custard but as I’ve realised what is going on, Im realising that all of these ‘luxury’ items have had an ordeal to get to where they are when you eat them. You also realise that when you drink milk, you are basically drinking breast milk from a child calf which was never born because it was aborted before given birth.

What I don’t understand is how people aware of this can carry on? I can fully admit that I had no knowledge of the way it goes because there is no one telling you this in schools or from an early age. Thats not your fault, and you don't need to feel guilty for something you’ve been sheltered from. If you are interested in how actually saving our future then please do some research, watch a few documentaries and then maybe, who knows. We as a group may have a better future and will not listen to the lies and sheltered truth we listen to everyday. 

Now I know I said I wouldn't rant about saving the animals because most people switch off when they read something about a inevitable cause, but if you as a individual make that choice to change then it will catch on and will make a difference.

Thank you :)

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Day 57; Awaiting change

So ladies and gentlemen, I am here contemplating that awkward moment where us as human beings transition between changes. Now many of you can accept that waiting for something to change can be quite tiresome, Others would disagree and say its quite exciting. Yes, it is quite exciting and yes it is quite tiresome. You’re excited because the new is coming and the norm is out, its tiresome because you have to still put up with the tiresome everyday until the change comes.  

Whether it is a new job, a new relationship, new place to live or just simply a change from your normal day activities, its the change which is brought to us which makes all the difference. I myself am going through a change period and to an extent I think we all are. Everyone I speak to, seems more or less to be waiting for something to change in their life. Now being quite young myself I understand that nothing is actually set in stone, and to be quite fair to the situation in hand, I feel happier when there’s more consistent change then the steady and ready. 

I wouldn't really be able to give clear advise on this topic, but the only thing which I can learn is sometimes going through the norm and ready and steady stages isn't so bad, As long as you have something which changes it all up. Then you can accept that sometimes its good to have the normal waiting period before a change of storm. 

A wise old man once told me that When change is ready it doesn’t just happen, Its gradual and gradually over time it will be there, waiting in open arms, and before you know it, You’ll be the thing which has changed.

I can’t give you my own advice but I can only hope that change is coming to you as it is to me.