Being cheated on in a relationship is something very few people will be fortunate enough never to experience. Sadly, most of us will not be spared from this devastating act of betrayal. Emotionally, and within reason, there are very few things that compare to the feelings you experience when you’ve found out that your boyfriend/girlfriend has been unfaithful.
Being cheated on can severely damage, if not completely destroy, your ability to trust and a devastating toll is also taken on your self-worth, self-esteem and self-image.
You may start to blame yourself, analyze and overanalyze every small detail of the relationship, trying to pin-point what it was that went wrong. You’ll start to believe that it was something you had done, hadn’t done, did too much or not enough of that drove your significant other to run to another person. Other times you’ll feel that there was something wrong with you, something that didn’t make you “good enough” in the eyes of your significant other.
Many times, when confronting a cheating significant other, they will often argue and try to make you believe that their cheating was indeed a result of something you had done.
When personally dealing with this situation, it is important to know that it is not your fault that your significant other cheated. To cheat is to make the conscious decision to betray your significant other; these things don’t just happen. You did not force them to make their choice and you did not influence their choice. At the end of the day (and for this situation) – choice comes down to the individual and what they want. It’s up to them whether or not they want to be faithful. Don’t blame yourself over your significant other’s decision to cheat. Don’t let someone else’s own selfish desires get in the way and make you question or change who you are.
To those whom will always stay faithful and have been cheated on:
Thank those who have cheated on you for showing you the kind of person you never want to be. You are good enough, but they weren’t good enough for you. Know that there is someone out there who is not going to take you for granted, but will love you for who you are and never let you go. Never let a cheater ever make you feel like less of a person; it’s simply not true.
Some may argue that if someone isn’t getting what they need from their significant other, they weren’t treated well or even if the other person cheats first, then they were driven to cheat.
These kinds of arguments are forged out of inexperience, ignorance and flawed logic; which, I’m sure, if I tried to wrap my head around said ‘logic’ I’d give myself a stroke.
If there are problems in your relationship, of any kind, your first course of action should always be to communicate these issues with your partner. Cheating should never be an option. If you’re unhappy in your relationship and you see no way of rectifying the situation – walk away. It’s better to end things than to cheat and compromise another person’s emotional and mental well-being. Cheating is a choice made by selfish cowards whom lack dignity and integrity.
(moved here from my old blog)
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