a very tired gay

im Mags for short(and friends) ~he/him/his~ already planning my next nap🥱😺 i dont really post stuff i made anymore but way back when i used to tag it #mags art or #mags crafts (sometimes both)

[mymagnificentself]

so today was kind of... had a rough start, lets put it like that, so i took a sick day and spent the morning taking it slow day

and looking after myself which apparently included walking around the garden and taking pictures of whatevers left of the flowers

[electricpurrs]

you should always be weird next to people you want to befriend. if you want to befriend people and for them to like you as you are then you can't hide yourself. if people you like/want to befriend react to you being kinda weird by getting angry or making fun of you, then they're not worth befriending.. you GOTTA look the way you want and dress the way you want and talk weird and be nerdy and have interests. you gottaaaaaaa be yourself and then people who like you the way you are will naturally be drawn to you. please. promise me you'll be weird

[johannestevans]

the thing is like. i get that it's scary and makes people who do desire to get pregnant uncomfortable when we talk about the brutality and violence of pregnancy and the damage that pregnancy can do to your body

but you deserve to give informed consent to that process.

the lies around pregnancy - that it's inherently safe, that it doesn't do you permanent damage, that it's only extremely rare for people to die of pregnancy complications, etc like

all of these are lies constructed so that more people will get pregnant w/o knowing all that

there needs to be more talk about the impact of miscarriages and how common they are, how different abortion processes are and how accessible they are

but also like. talking about how pregnancy fucks your body up should not be taboo

this is a process that permanently changes most people's bodies, and that's even if the pregnancy doesn't do them like. severe illness or injury

and i just think everybody should have a right to KNOW that

bc to live in a society that intentionally obscures and hides facts about a completely optional and dangerous process does so for a reason, and that reason is based in a very sinister ideology that does not value bodily autonomy or informed consent

[thelittleblackfox]

the number of people who are pregnant and don't know about what induced labour entails and what post partum bleeding is horrifies me

[zenaidamacrouras1]

Here is a story about the depths to which pregnant people are seen as a vessel for a baby, and the importance of finding prenatal care that assumes you are a human and not a baby holder:

When I was pregnant I was in a million forums for pregnant people because (cough adhd hyperfixation) and I had something called SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) (not Sensory Processing Disorder though I also have that) which is where your pubic bones separate early (more or less) because they get all loosey goosey as your body gets ready to crank that baby out.

Except my pubic bone got confused and got misaligned at like 3 months pregnant. I could barely walk. I couldn't roll over in bed. Doing something that required me to shift my weight from one foot to another like opening a door knob was like an excruciatingly painful knife being stabbed into my pubic bone, I can't express how intense and blinding it was.

So I am in one million baby forums like "am I dying what is happening why is there a knife in my pubic bone" and all these people are like "I have that too! my doctor says it's normal and not to worry because it doesn't hurt the baby. I just deal with it by laying in bed for months in excruciating pain and think about how lucky I am to be having a little miracle growing in my body."

So lol nope. I went to my midwife and they are like, "Oh squeeze a can between your knees look up a physical therapy youtube on SPD" and I did that can-squeeze thing and it CURED THE PROBLEM in ONE DAY. I had been SUFFERING, y'all, it felt miraculous.

And I was so full of rage (flames, flames on the side of my face) that people are being told "Oh, it's NORMAL just deal with it" "It doesn't hurt the baby." Like, look, yes it's NORMAL but it's 100% treatable!!! SPD (again, not Sensory processing disorder) affects 1 in 5 pregnant people.

I was lucky to have amazing midwives (need a gender neutral term for that profession, but they see pregnant men and women)(side note highly recommend midwives if you are gender nonconfirming/a man/etc) and I have DOZENS of examples of shit like this.

(Another example is post partum friends being like "oh I am peeing my pants 900x day after giving birth" and my doctor says it's NORMAL so I just dealt with it for decades. My midwives were like "Oh that's normal and also physical therapy cures that in like 2 sessions")

[becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys]

When my sister was looking to get pregnant she was given the best advice. She was told that being pregnant is an experience akin to being in a moderate sized car crash, in terms of risk and lasting injury.

Some people in moderate car crashes are very lucky, and walk away with zero injury. Some are very unlucky, and die. But most people fall into the third category, where they'll be injured at the time, then heal, and then for the rest of their life they have some minor and liveable complication from the injury. Like a knee that lets you know when the rain is coming, or a back that doesn't like seats without lumbar support, or a shoulder that never quite gets its full range of motion back.

The vast majority of people survive and thrive, like. But their body is never the same again. And people should know that when they make the choice of whether to put their body through that or not

[haledamage]

my mom had a complication postpartum that caused pain and swelling in her left leg. at the time she was told it was "milk leg" and that it was normal and she'd be fine, but it never went away or got better. she finally found a doctor recently who was willing to do some tests and found out it's a condition called "May-Thurner syndrome" and had surgery to fix it

she's been suffering with this since she gave birth to me. I'm 38 years old. she had that surgery last week.

there needs to be more dialogue about the things your body goes through during pregnancy. "that's normal" or "everyone goes through that" need to stop being used to shut down conversations about the horrific, permanent damage that can be done to bodies during pregnancy and childbirth. just because it's "normal" doesn't mean it needs to be endured

[earhartsease]

things humans love:

a hierarchy

not being at the bottom of it

these are Not Good, and especially for anyone who is at the bottom of it

[sometiktoksarevalid]

[dramatic-dolphin]

i love declining birth rates 🥰 "what a horrible problem! society will collapse!" oopsie it looks like you're gonna have to make having children worth it 😊 teehee you're gonna have to improve society in order to fix this problem, or it will all collapse. oh noooooo. how horrible. :3c

[danceundersparklinglights]

i’m going to be really honest with you guys i think the tendency to read the absolute worst possible intentions into every action you don’t agree with is getting too automatic and it’s eating you from the inside out

[roaldamundsen]

more pyaari everyone say hi to pyaari

[amaliazeichnerin]

Is Africa leading the solarpunk future?

Uganda, Rwanda and South Africa are building solutions that richer nations could learn from

Interesting blog post.

[reasonsforhope]

I've been saying this for like 3 years now!! Always excited to see more coverage of it!!

If you're interested in the future of solarpunk, ecopunk, and a sustainable, livable future, African, South Asian, Latin American, and Indigenous climate movements are absolutely some of the biggest places you should look.

[dragonqueenslayer6]

@hopepunk-humanity

[nohoperadio]

just saw a pigeon doing the puffed up courtship dance thing to another pigeon, and as he was strutting around he suddenly stopped for a split second to do a very brief preen-peck at his own side, then returned to the strutting around. and i surprised myself by instantly losing respect for the male pigeon in that moment, like come on man i appreciate you had an itch or whatever but how is she supposed to feel special when you're getting distracted by bullshit like that? which on reflection i don't endorse, i mean those are pretty harsh dating norms i'm imposing on these pigeons, from a total outsider perspective, for no reason. probably not all girl pigeons are as uptight about that sort of thing as i would apparently be if i was a girl pigeon, maybe she even found it endearing who knows, i don't know her. it's none of my business really. sorry pigeons.

[thetursithan]

Let's play hide and seek?

[avaantares]

SOUND ON SOUND ON SOUND ON

[ms-demeanor]

Description: A can of la croix is sitting on a desk, a cockatiel stands up from behind the can, showing its head, and say "Peekaboo!" the person holding the camera laughs and the bird hides behind the can again, then pops up and says "Peekaboo!" the person continues laughing and says "Peekaboo!" too as the bird continues ducking up and down - when the bird pops up near the end of the video it makes an ascending whistle (like a slide whistle) when rising up, then a descending whistle when it ducks down, and an ascending whistle again while the person laughs harder.

[dreamingdormouse]

THE SLIDE WHISTLE SOUND

all of it, TOO adorable

[buddhabrot]

[haridraws]

high ambient background football levels reminded me to actually finish this Personal Lore That Caused My Books comic

[hearthfire-heartfire]

250 Years of Lies, 500 Years of Uprising - NDN COLLECTIVE

Reflection. The so-called “United States” is celebrating the 250th anniversary of the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, 2026. We,...

”The so-called “United States” is celebrating the 250th anniversary of the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, 2026. We, the first people of this land, do not have to look far to spot the hypocrisy of celebrating a document that calls our ancestors “Merciless Indian Savages.” Today, we witness a country that proclaims “freedom” while kidnapping our immigrant neighbors without due process, passing laws that encourage harassment and discrimination against our LGBTQ and two-spirit relatives, and pulling out every political, legal, and military strategy to suppress any form of dissent against the state. At the start of this nation, the government ratified over 350 treaties with Native Nations – and then proceeded to break every single one of them. Just as it was clear to our ancestors, it remains clear to us now: this colonial experiment has failed at building anything resembling a true democracy.”

[magicratfingers]

u know what maybe i will glorify being fat thanks shitty tiktok influencers u radicalized me

[magicratfingers]

getting dressed feels like creating sculpture but when i was a 9 it was only like decorating a bookmark

[magicratfingers]

“ppl can be rude to u tho” yeah i get an instant read on who hates themselves also there’s nothing they can say that’s any meaner than what moms already say to middle school daughters

[magicratfingers]

its comfy as hell

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

i genuinely really hope you’re happy with who you’re becoming– a little more so every day. i hope you really like yourself.

[respectissexy]

Having experienced a lot of it in my 20s, I think some of the worst, pettiest, most straight up this-is-just-bullying-you're-passing-off-as-praxis incidences of Queer Infighting endemic to young people can be best understood as attempts to exercise power by people with very little power.

Like you're 22, you're queer, you've just become a Marxist, the scope of World Suck is overwhelming and you have $30 in your bank account. What can you do to feel like you have any power? Well, you can try to get your frenemy cancelled for cosplaying a character from a problematic show. You can write a public callout post over someone's obviously friendly use of a slur you don't think they technically have the right to reclaim. Doing this stuff can make you feel like you have power and your actions have an impact. Unfortunately the impact in question is a negative impact on other marginalized people. But that often takes some maturity and self-reflection to notice.

[drtanner]

I'm reminded of this post from 2017. To paraphrase, OP took part in community service via their university and part of that was cleaning the bathrooms at the local homeless community centre, which would frequently get trashed, not because the homeless people using them disrespected the work of the people cleaning them but because they had so little control over other things that happened in their lives, and the bathroom was something they could affect.

This, too, is a trashed bathroom; young queer people living through hell and having precious little control over their circumstances or the world in which they exist can affect something by using the language of social justice as a cudgel on their would-be allies, as well as getting a brief feeling of power over someone else by doing it.

It's not worth it. Don't trash your community bathrooms.

[basuralindo]

This also goes for allies outside of the community. I'm not trying to detract from the harm it does to other queer people, but these issues are fully tied together.

The same people who want to exert power over others in their community through progressive language know that they can come down twice as hard on any demographic they can frame as systematically more advantaged (and therefore undeserving of protection), and use the same pseudo-social justice rhetoric to designate whoever they want to hurt as straight/white/cis/amab/otherwise privileged, and therefore free to mistreat. This is fucked up both because it incentivises them to strip marginalized people's identities on order to target them, and because there truly is NO demographic of people who deserve mistreatment in exchange for uplifting others because of how they were born. Letting that slide for any demographic at all is a disservice to your own community.