I’m sorry my lovelies but the reason you hate yourself is because you treat you like shit. If you came up to me and then told me I was a fuck up who could never do anything right I'd fucking hate you too.
if you didn't let me go to bed until after midnight because you'd rather watch Netflix than let me rest, and then got mad at me for not being productive the next day I'd be PISSED
You keep calling me a fatass but you tell other overweight people they’re beautiful? Why do you keep shitting on MY weight, then?
Oh? It’s different if it’s me? Wow fuck you too
Love is a verb! Self love isn’t a warm fuzzy feeling, it is compassion and action in support of yourself!
And yes, this includes having compassion for the bully in your head. Unfortunately that part is also you and deserves as much of your understanding as the rest of you.
via @corazondebeskar
This is the real reason why you need to be kind to the bully in your brain too, because that motherfucker is really good at doing a switcheroo when you're not paying attention.
Building up your compassionate voice is really key to this! My therapist suggested imagining four characters representing warmth, strength, non-judgement and wisdom, and to have them be my voices of compassion - as a Trekkie, I have Julian Bashir as my warmth, and Kirk, Bones and Spock as my strength, non-judgement and wisdom, and having a "conversation" with them when I'm struggling really does help.
I like the idea of assigning blorbos to your inner voices! I’m not sure who I would pick as mine.
I started practicing self compassion because I wanted to be a good example for my kids. Self love is hard work but it’s also important work, and I’ve been open about my journey and the challenges along the way.
