I talk shit (and occasionally post art)

Seriously, read the links.

[phantomgames]

My favorite thing about AH is that Jack is always the first to realize there is an issue, but ignores it because he knows it’s going to cause drama.

[gaynfl-moved]

waitress assigned kin

[deactivated-blog]

As someone who’s worked in several cafes, I’m mad at how accurate this is.

[vulture-jack]

I will forever remember the time my friend and I were out for chinese food. we got up to pay and I (the short one with bottom energy i guess?) revealed that I would be paying for the meal, and the elderly man at the counter just flat out said “Oh, YOU’RE the boss!”

[lilmamabeyellin]

[slaggaslime-deactivated20240320]

Bro hopped out the whip 😂

[sergle]

ARE THEY ACTUALLY DANCING TO A REMIX OF IEVA’S POLKA?? IM SO MAD

[irresponsible-black-unicorn-dea]

I am all of them including the one who gets out of his car

[sparky-sideblog]

Remember when I said I'd post more traditional art? I totally forgot have some doodles.

[vaspider]

Here’s to the non-binary adults trying to deal with the fact that they can’t be out at work.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who can’t even try to be out with their parents because they’re trying to keep things ok for the grandkids.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who say “Oh it’s ok, I’m used to gender-specific binary pronouns” and die a little inside.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who have learned not to care.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who really don’t care about pronouns.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who have to gender-binary themselves for PTA meetings and talking to business owners and government officials.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who feel lost and without community because so much of the vocal and out enby community is very young.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who don’t feel welcome in the trans community and aren’t part of the cis community.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who feel guilty about calling themselves trans because they don’t “feel trans enough” or that they don’t deserve to call themselves trans.

Here’s to the non-binary adults who don’t identify as trans without any guilt about it at all.

Conditional Acceptance is like living on a high wire every day, and “passing privilege” is a painful myth, one that can leave us feeling miserable and crushed and empty.

Love yourself and honor that living in the closet isn’t a privilege. It hurts, and it’s ok that it hurts. You didn’t do anything wrong, the world did.

[realtransfacts]

Being Trans Without Dysphoria Masterpost

Yes, you can be trans without dysphoria. Regardless of if it’s because you’ve transitioned to a point where you don’t feel it anymore, if you never had it to begin with or if you’ve got a neurodivergence that prevents you from feeling it.

I’ve decided to gather up the links I have saved about it in this post. But if someone has more resources and information about it, feel free to add more.

And please don’t start drama on this post.

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Expert Q & A: Gender Dysphoria

The American Psychiatric Association has openly stated that you do not need to suffer from dysphoria to be transgender

Gender and Pleasure

Not All Transgender People Have Dysphoria – And Here Are 6 Reasons Why That Matters

Gender Euphoria & more

Dysphoria Not Required

Why you shouldn’t force a label on someone

Coping With Gender Dysphoria Book

You Don’t Need Dysphoria To Be Trans Video

“I’m trans and I’m not dysphoric“ - A post by a post-phallo trans person

Advocate: Do You Need Gender Dysphoria to Be Trans?

Thoughts on my Transition - “I’m not dysphoric anymore“

Eli’s You Don’t Need Dysphoria to Be Trans Video

The same discourse talking points get recycled over and over again

Dysphoria Discourse on Tumblr

A Few Hot Takes

Do you need dysphoria to be trans? Video

Gender euphoria without gender dysphoria is definitely a thing that can and does happen

The Gray Areas of Being Trans: Dysphoric or Nondysphoric? Comic

Does dysphoria always mean that a person is transgender?

FAQ: Equal Access To Health Care

Trans people with alexithymia

Can alexithymia cloud feelings of gender dysphoria? (Answer: Yes)

My #Nondysphoric tag

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Previous Masterposts:

Transmasc Presentation

Transfem Presentation

Androgynous Presentation

HRT Masterpost

Low Dose Testosterone HRT

Top Surgery Masterpost

Breast Augmentation Masterpost

Chest Binding Masterpost

Tucking Masterpost

Transmasc Lower Surgery Masterpost

Transfem Lower Surgery Masterpost

Feminizing Voice Masterpost

Masculinizing Voice Masterpost

Coming Out Masterpost

Gender Questioning Masterpost

Nonbinary Terminology Masterpost

Pronouns Masterpost

Coping with Misgendering Masterpost

Masterpost for Trans Allies

Choosing a New Name for Yourself Masterpost

Writing Trans Characters Masterpost

Transgender Pregnancy & Fertility Masterpost

Self Care Masterpost

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

If you guys have ADD/ADHD, autism, OCD, or something else that affects your ability to concentrate, I highly recommend the chrome extension Mercury Reader. You just open whatever link you're using, then click on the MR icon (it should look like a rocket) and it'll simplify the page so that it's in a focus-friendly layout. Instead of having random pictures and word boxes all over the screen, it'll be in a vertical format with nothing to distract you so you can focus on what's important. You can also adjust the text size (small, medium, large), font (serif, sans), and theme (light, dark). And the best part is, it's completely free! It's honestly one of the best things I've ever downloaded.

This is an article without the extension. See that messy format, and how the actual article content only takes up a fraction of the page? It's no wonder it took me 7 hours to write that paper.

The same article, this time with Mercury. The user-friendly settings are at the top, and the rest of the article is formatted vertically down the middle with no free-roaming pictures or words. How nice.

[finley-myself]

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Please be as safe as possible when binding

[transmedicalism-saves-lives]

Half of this is complete bull. I fly in my binder all the time, and nothing bad has ever happened. I also have been over eight hours every day since I was sixteen. Not sleeping in it’s a good idea, and obviously you shouldn’t wear it to work out, but this infantilism and blatantly unfollowable advice is completely insane. Nobody is only awake for eight hours, and plane rides last multiple hours. No trans guy can just not wear a binder, not without a complete dysphoric crash, and acting like the binder is a fashion accessory we can just take off whenever we feel like it is complete bull.

[terflies]

What you’re saying isn’t just wrong but dangerous.

Saying you’ve worn a binder for over 8 hours or while flying “and nothing bad has ever happened” is faulty induction. That nothing bad has happened to you (yet!) does not mean nothing bad can happen to you if you do so in the future, or that nothing bad can happen to anyone else who does the same. The harm binding can cause may be incremental, too, and not immediately apparent.

That “no trans guy can just not wear a binder, not without a complete dysphoric crash” is also fallacious, but even if we were to accept if for the sake of argument being conscious of the risks in binding does not mean treating it as a “fashion accessory”. These aren’t instructions for how to have fun wearing a binder; they’re instructions to be safe. No amount of dysphoria from not binding will make up for that safety.

[androgynousblackbox]

Common side effects of chest binding 76-78% of people in studies reported skin/tissue problems, like tenderness, scarring, swelling, itching, infections 74-75% of people reported pain in chest, shoulders, back or abdomen 51-52% of people reported respiratory problems (like shortness of breath) 47-49% of people reported musculoskeletal symptoms, like postural changes, muscle wasting, or rib fractures (2,3) If you hope to get top surgery (a procedure to reduce or remove breast tissue), binding frequently can affect skin elasticity and impact surgery outcomes https://helloclue.com/articles/cycle-a-z/chest-binding-tips-and-tricks-for-trans-men-nonbinary-and-genderfluid Is this normal when binding? No, take it off. Go to a doctor if it persists. Nausea during or after binding, including nausea caused by pain Bruising Can’t catch breath when not wearing binder Skin rash Sharp pains in ribs Not able to cough or sneeze Numbness in arms Feeling too tired/sore to do everyday activities Suddenly having symptoms if you’ve been binding for years See a Doctor ASAP. If you feel something is wrong. Extreme claustrophobia Panic Attacks Sharp pain in chest Heart skipping beats/ beating very fast Not able to breathe Dizziness Blueness in lips or fingertips Change in shape of ribcage Fainting https://transvivor.com/binders I don’t know about you, but I think being able to breath, especially on the current circumstances we are all living, is kinda a big fucking deal. How dare you to claim your shitty ideology “saves lives” and on the same breath want to impose all those health risk on people or otherwise be branded as not an actual trans guy?  If you absolutely must use a binder even to the point that you can actually see is hurting you, or pressure people to do so, that is not healthy. 

[kokichis-dead-dove-club]

as a trans man with severe chest dysphoria:

i have not been able to bind for several, several months now. because binding 8+ hours a day for SEVEN YEARS has done so much damage to me that i can no longer bind without being in extreme agony. my ribs have been horribly damaged.

so FUCK YOU for ALL of that bullshit you said. your ideology does not save lives. your ideology has directly harmed my life.

[pigeontoez]

i stopped binding because i couldn’t breathe and i might have multiple bruises or small fractures on my ribs now because of it. i binded longer than i should’ve, worked in my binder, etc. 

luckily i didn’t push myself further.

and it wasn’t a high quality binder either. it was a cosplay binder.

:” ) the ideology fucked me up and i’m glad i don’t think like that any more. 

[gallicinvasion]

Another woman utterly failed by our society’s devaluation of women’s reproductive health. We can’t wait around for male doctors to decide what we need to know. This is why we need to take control and educate ourselves about our own bodies.

[gallicinvasion]

and here’s some comments i saw under the post. why is this a pattern?? why is this a recurring theme?? why is this information not common knowledge? what the fuck are doctors doing??

[sora2522]

This is news to me so let’s share it so people will know!

[halfhardtorock]

Gross tmi: but i passed a pretty big clot after having my daughter. It was about the size of a baseball. It actually hurt worse because while 15 hours of labor opened my cervix, i passed the clot in 30 minutes. I knew it was a possibility because of my midwife and reading, but everyone Ive told after this (mostly other pregnant women) were shocked that this could happen.

In our culture, it’s much more common to do deep research about what family cars we want to buy than we do about childbirth when we ’re pregnant.

[skeleton-warrior-deactivated201]

Tmi: I passed a huge clot after birth in the bathroom of my hospital room and called the nurse sobbing because I didn’t know it was normal. She treated me like an idiot, but NO ONE told me it was a possibility. And the pain associated with healing for the first couple of weeks after birth was worse than the labor imo. Again, I had no idea. They didn’t tell me a thing besides “sitz bath regularly and change your pads.” Before discharging me from the hospital.

[evashandor]

I was most definitely told about this in school. Fucking hell, 4-6 weeks of bleeding? My periods were/are bad enough, why the hell don’t we get told this?

[love-pro-choice]

I didn’t know it could last so long, wtf? Is the bleeding inevitable after birth? 

[rosietwiggs]

Bleeding is inevitable after birth - your uterine wall is shedding a fuck ton of lining. It can last from three to six weeks (possible longer) and it tapers off.

More TMI - I passed a MASSIVE clot after my fourth birth. At this point I already knew this could happen - it’s normal. What I DIDN’T know, was that I had caused it.

My post birth contractions were so bad after the birth that it felt like full transition labor. And they don’t give you anything for the pain. So I used a hot water bottle, without the nurses knowing, and it caused me to bleed even more. I lost so much blood that by the first time they sat me up to go to the bathroom, I fainted. It took three more tries until I could sit up.

Anyway, that’s not the point. The point is, the next morning I passed a clot the SIZE OF ANOTHER PLACENTA I KID YOU NOT, and I know what is and is not normal. So I called for the nurse and through the door told her I had passed a huge clot, and her response was - “It’s not big. I know what big is.” She hadn’t even looked. So I rolled my eyes and said, “Yeah, no. It’s big, I’m telling you.”

So, sounding extremely put upon, she asked me to open the door. I did, and after a long pause she goes, “Okay, yeah, that’s a little big.”

YOU DON’T SAY.

The point I’m trying to get across is that this shit is so common - women not knowing this stuff is so expected, and it keeps getting reinforced. People don’t expect you to know anything, don’t teach you anything, and then make you feel like you’re totally ignorant and a burden for your lack of knowledge when THEY WON’T SHARE.

Fucking learn EVERYTHING you can when it comes to childbirth, girls. It is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself. And if you missed something, that’s okay. But the more knowledge you arm yourself with, the more in control of your situation you’ll be.

A few post partum tips:

DON’T use a hot water bottle - lol.

ONLY pads - NO tampons. Tampons can cause severe infection, not to mention, you probably don’t want to be shoving anything up there any time soon.

If you’ve had stitches, sitz baths DO help relieve the pain. Another great pain reliever? Dampen some pads and freeze them. Let one thaw slightly and use it on top of another pad. This will help with the pain as well as reduce swelling. Change the pad out as soon as it’s thawed completely. This REALLY helps on the first couple days after giving birth.

If you pass a clot, don’t sweat it. Even the one I passed, which was fucking massive, just required that we keep an eye out to make sure it didn’t happen again. If it does, talk to your doctor.

Take a pain killer half an hour before nursing. Because YES - your uterus is contracting after you give birth, to get back to its original size, and nursing causes much stronger contractions. Taking nursing-safe painkillers won’t prevent the pain, but it will reduce it. 

Buy disposable underwear for the first few days after birth. They will get VERY dirty. Or use your ratty old pairs that you’re ready to get rid of. Double up on pads - line them all the way up your ass-crack. I am so serious. And wear dark pants.

Pee in the shower. You do NOT want to wipe down there right after birth because ow. Peeing in the shower lets you just rinse afterwards. Especially if you’ve had stitches, peeing in the shower, with the shower-head rinsing AS you go, keeps stinging to a minimum. And fuck everyone else - keep on peeing in the shower until you feel ready to move back to toilet paper. Middle of the night and need to pee? Get your pants off - get in the shower and just go.

This is just a few things, but PLEASE feel free to send me an ask if you have any questions about ANYTHING childbirth/pregnancy/nursing related. I have four incredible kids. I’ve done it all - c-section, vacuume birth, episiotimy, stitches, with an epidural, without an epidural. I’m here.

[thehangryslush]

….I know I keep reblogging this but people keep adding super important information.

[typingsdrawings]

I feel like no one tells women this stuff because if a woman was even a little on the fence about having a baby before this would kinda make them run for the damn hills.

[kaxen]

…..you are correct, typing.

300% EXTRA SURE I’M NOT HAVING BABIES. 

[petitedeath]

peri bottles, witch hazel or anti-pain anticeptic spray are your friends. Also passing large clots after birth is a WARNING SIGN. Bigger than a half dollar is a sign that you have not passed your entire placenta (this is most common in hospital vaginal births where the mother is not allowed to naturally birth the placenta and instead has it ripped out by the doctor) if there is any placenta left in your uterus you can get extremely ill. This happened to both myself and my mother in law

[un-ptit-spleen]

WOW I didn’t know any of this and I’m terrified of what more I’m unaware of about my own body :( Honestly when will we fucking abolish this taboo about the female body…

[artsortment]

I had pretty great sex ed in school (lots of contraceptive information, and totally acknowledged that teenagers might have sex) and all of this is news to me.

And, as a 28-year-old person with a uterus, I’m extremely appalled I’m just learning this.

[deanplease]

Long, but very important information, even for those who don’t plan to have children, because you will almost certainly know someone who will, and you might be able to to help them. Or at least increase your level of empathy for them.

[brandx]

…HOLY HELL. REBLOG TO SAVE A LIFE, SERIOUSLY.

[astro-vee]

people loooove to make out like pregnancy and childbirth are this beautiful thing that a woman’s body is made to do, and leave out all this incredibly important and scary info.

the healthcare system fails women in so so many ways, especially around sexual and reproductive health, and it needs to stop.

[yawpyawp]

I had literally never heard of ANY of this before reading this post

[uncanny-tranny]

I don't know how second-hand dysphoria got so popular as an argument but I hope all of us know that it isn't the responsibility of other trans people to present in a way that is "acceptable" to other trans people. It isn't a trans man's fault if you're uncomfortable with his not binding. He is existing how he is and that is something nobody should apologize for.

[leave-her-a-tome]

(source)

Unsplash -  photography, illustration, and art

Pixabay - same as unsplash

Pexels - stock photos and videos

Stockvault.net - stock photos

freepngimg - icons, pictures and clipart

Veceezy - vectors and clipart

Kissclipart and kissPNG - more vectors and clipart (often transparent!)

Getdrawings - simplistic images and drawing tutorials

Gumroad - photoshop brushes (and more)

Canva - needs login but has lots of templates

Library of Congress - historical posters and photos

NASA - you guessed it

Creative Commons - all kinds of stuff, homie

Even Adobe has some free images

There are so many ways to make moodboards, bookcovers, and icons without infringing copyright! As artists, authors, and other creatives, we need to be especially careful not to use someone else’s work and pass it off as our own. 

Please add on if you know any more sites for free images <3

[kmparker616]

Thanks for the information!!

[mayflowers07]

I will reblog this everytime i see it

[floraone]

Ok so while we’re at this, I just checked out Unsplash, and it’s an AMAZING site for free images?

[bobacupcake]

tag yourself (x)

[thewightknight]

Wet book rescue

Valuable information if some of your prized books were affected by recent flooding. The video even shows you what to do if you can’t dry the book out right away. 

[i-can-get-extra-with-my-ships]

Reblog to save a book lover’s life.

[youareagoodperson]

idk but can we maybe stop pretending that it’s some sort of horrible moral failing when a gay person has an unrequited crush on a straight person

[youareagoodperson]

like I can’t believe I have to say this in 20fucking20 and address it primarily towards other queer people but having an unrequited crush or feelings for someone doesn’t make you predatory or a creep. finding a straight person attractive doesn’t mean that you have “bad taste” or whatever. it’s totally fine and normal and part of life

[youareagoodperson]

also before the usual suspects find this post and make things weird, if you make this about pedophilia for some reason kindly step on a lego and go take steps to unlearn the homophobia that causes you to make every discussion about queer people about pedophilia

[jewish-tutter]

someone explain the jewish holidays to me like i'm 5 years old

[rizaoftheowls]

Purim: They tried to kill us, we survived. Let’s tell the story, wear silly costumes, and get wasted. (Optional: have a carnival or a play!)

Passover: They enslaved us, God freed us. Remember this via a big ceremony/feast and then don’t eat bread for a week. This is a big one; you’re going to have to clean your house and host all your relatives.

Tu B'Shevat: It’s Earth Day, let’s eat some fruit.

Simchas Torah: We read the entire Torah every year, and we got to the end! Let’s have a dance party and then start all over again!

Tisha B'Av: They destroyed our temples. That sucked.

Rosh HaShanah: Happy New Year! It’s time to ask (and grant) forgiveness for the wrongs done in the past year, pledge to do better, and wish for a sweet new year. And go to synagogue for HOURS.

Yom Kippur: Rosh HaShanah’s somber counterpart. God decides on this day your fate for the next year. Repent your sins, hope for forgiveness, and fast. (And go to synagogue for HOURS.)

Yom HaShoah: Holocaust Remembrance Day.

Sukkot: Harvest festival! Sleep in a hut under the stars.

Shemini Atzeret: Man, I don’t even know?

Shavuot: God gave us the Torah! That was pretty nice of him.

Chanukah: They busted up our temple and tried to forcibly convert us. We responded with guerilla warfare. Let’s eat some fried food. Candles!

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

So basically the entire Jewish holiday calendar is giving the middle finger to death and high-fiving, with or without various combinations of prayer and foods.

[rizaoftheowls]

Yup. Or as we say, “They tried to kill us, we survived, let’s eat.”

[galaxy-of-great-possibilities]

thank you for the desc’s bcs they are beautiful and i am now educated

[above-d-clouds]

A handy table for everyone:

[cityglowing]

Y’all have no idea how happy it makes me to see my goyim followers reblogging this. Really. It means the world to me.

[nae-design]

Gradientastic wedding gowns by artist Taylor Ann Linko 

[androgynousblackbox]

As a queer person that mostly has queer ships, I do not appreciate the idea that some gay ships “are for straight people, if you know what I mean”. No, I do not know what you mean and I don’t care either. Stop judging gender and sexuality of people over ships, you gazoos.

[trekcourse]

Yeah that’s probably my least favorite “joke/meme” that’s going around right now. Like sure, there are queer ships I don’t like. But saying ships you don’t like are for “straight people” in an obviously pejorative way is not a good look. I already get called “straight” enough for being a bisexual in relationship with a man. I don’t need more people to invalidate my sexuality because of my shipping choices. 

[androgynousblackbox]

#this goes for ‘straight ships for straight people’ too#it’s not funny#stop it#I’m tempted to call it a microagression#but maybe that’s too strong a word for it#it’s certainly invalidating This is actually the exact definition of a microagression, something that is not outright hateful or discriminatory but still slowly chips away your soul, mental health and wellbeing because you keep encountering it and keep being affected by it as someone that is part of a marginalized community. Biphobia online hasn’t stopped being a thing for people to make jokes like that without just reinforcing it.