I hate how a lot of anti radqueers and now "radnormals" too are violently anti para, antiship, anti endo, anti transID, etc. because they're just pushing people further into the radqueer 'community'.
Imagine you're a paraphile who joined the radqueer 'community' because you felt like nobody else would accept you, and then when you start looking into leaving you see so much paramisia, death threats, rape threats, demonization, etc. from anti radqueers. Would that not push you further into the "nobody else would accept me" mindset??
Imagine you're a darkshipper who joined the radqueer 'community' because you felt like no other community would accept you, and then you start looking into leaving and it's all "proshippers are pedos" "proshippers should kts" "proshippers deserve their trauma" "proshippers should be arrested" "proshippers can't be trusted around children and animals". Would that not push you further into the "only radqueers accept me" mindset??
Imagine you're a nontraumagenic system trying to leave the radqueer 'community', or you developed OSDD/DID-like symptoms trying to 'transition' like we did with NPD, or you're just a strongly pro-endo traumagenic system, but when you try looking into leaving, so much in the anti radqueer tags is posted by anti-endos and anti-willos if not specifically tagged as anti-endo?? Would that not push you further into the "all antis are hateful bigots who can't even handle endos" mindset?? I think that would be especially bad for systems with OSDD/DID-like symptoms from trying to 'transition' because then they wouldn't even have a garuantee that specifically pro-endo spaces would accept them.
Imagine you have atypical dysphoria and use transIDs to cope with it and you're considering leaving the radqueer 'community', but when you start looking into anti radqueer spaces it's filled with "transID DNI", directly tying transIDs to radqueers by phrasing things like "radqueer/transID", and people saying things like "dear transautistics, remember that you're allistic and you'll never be autistic and if you fully want to be while knowing it's a serious disability and not all fun and games then you should kys" and "Oh you're transID?? You should be transsuicidal next"?? Would that not push you further into the "nobody but radqueers will ever understand/accept my atypical dysphoria" mindset?? Like I'm transID complex myself, I don't really like the prefix trans being used for it and tying it to transgender, I don't like the appropriation of terms like transracial and transspecies, I don't believe you can transition to a mental disorder or race or ethnicity or intersex condition, I'm very anti transharmed/transharmful. But atypical dysphoria still deserves to be taken seriously!! Going out of your way to make people with atypical dysphoria feel dysphoric because of the 'community' they've fallen into trying to cope with it is asshole behavior (and in some cases, like if the person has BIID, then it's just straight up ableism). I know from personal experience that it can be hard to let go of transIDs that felt important to you when you were radqueer.
I'm just gonna take this opportunity to say, since I used transautistics as an example and I'm 'cis'austistic, people who have atypical dysphoria about not having autism are valid, it's okay to be dysphoric, hell it's even okay to use fidget toys or noise canceling headphones and use terms like desirautistic if it makes you happy, you don't need to be radqueer to have your experiences validated and to get some dysphoria relief.
I actually have a theory that pressure from the radqueer 'community' to use transIDs and MUDs and developing new paraphilias because of the radqueer 'community' and aggressive behavior from antis is somewhat intentional?? Even if just subconsciously. It's strange how much untagged graphic smut and encouraging people to use (more) transIDs and use transIDs for any reason and transID transition tips there are. It certainly makes it harder to leave. Also the sheer number of radqueer BAH blogs that come with harmful transIDs and paraphilias built in?? The sheer amount of transplurals and transDID and transOSDD generally?? The sheer number of 'cis'systems in the radqueer 'community'?? It almost feels like they want you to split headmates to drag you back into the radqueer 'community' again.
