i've answered this before but i gave it Extended Thought this time and now i wanna do this in more depth
red mahariel: canon romance - zevran. da2 - fenris is i think the clearest match for red's reserve, self-reliance, directness, and carefully guarded loyalty. neither of them would demand immediate emotional openness from the other, and both of them would understand affection expressed through practical protection and shared silence. red would also respect fenris' refusal to forgive danarius or surrender his autonomy. inquisition - blackwall would suit him bc of his quiet manner, woodland skills, craftsmanship, and preference for useful work over social display. they could spend long periods together without either of them interpreting the silence as rejection. the thom rainier revelation would be tricky - red could understand a violent past and even an assumed identity, but being personally deceived after granting trust would anger him deeply. their relationship could survive IF blackwall accepted that rebuilding trust would be slow and entirely on red's terms, which i think he would
river tabris: canon romance - leliana. da2 - merrill would give her a relationship founded on gentleness, curiosity, and mutual recognition. both of them are elves who are frequently patronised by people claiming to know what's best for them, so river would be careful to respect merrill's intelligence and right to make her own decisions. merrill's warmth could draw her outward, while she would provide patient emotional security without treating merrill's interests as inherently foolish or corrupt. inquisition - josephine is probably her healthiest option, her courtship is considerate, verbally affectionate, and comparatively safe, and her diplomatic approach aligns with river's desire to resolve conflict without unnecessary harm. river would offer her sincere attention and somewhere she didn't need to perform flawless competence, and josephine would help her understand that receiving care isn't selfish
bean brosca: canon romance - morrigan. da2 - isabela bc they share irreverence, appetite, criminal survival skills, suspicion of authority, and a refusal to be shamed by respectable society. isabela would appeal to him bc she's strong enough to resist intimidation and independent enough that winning her loyalty would actually mean something. she would also force him to confront his possessiveness bc any attempt to control her would end the relationship quickly. inquisition - hrrmrmmmm. i guess by process of elimination cassandra? she's physically formidable, blunt, and impossible to bully into submission. their aruments would be insane especially over bean's cruelty and self-serving chioces but she could call him out without appearing weak in his eyes
logan cousland: canon romance - alistair. da2 - sebastian shares her noble background, andrastian faith, measured temperament, and awareness that personal relationships can carry political consequences. they'd understand one another's sense of obligation and the difficulty of separating private desires from public responsibility. inquisition - cullen. both of them are reserved, dutiful, self-critical leaders who've survived catastrophic losses and continue functioning bc others depend on them. logan could offer calm reassurance without infantilising him and cullen would understand the pressure of being responsible for lives on a national scale
ashes hawke: canon romance - anders. origins - alistair's warmth, kindness, awkward humour, and instinct to protect others would probably appeal strongly to him. neither of them would be embarrassed by tenderness. he would give alistair consistent emotional support and a sense of home and alistair would make him laugh and remind him that a relationship can contain pleasure and play rather than only people needing to be helped. inquisition - dorian i think would be more contrasting but very rewarding. he would see beneath the polish and offer uncomplicated affection without trying to reshape him into an acceptable heir, and dorian would actively appreciate him rather than just relying on his care. he'd encourage him to enjoy beauty, humour, and personal attention, which would help prevent him from treating his own happiness as less important than everyone else's
amulet hawke: canon romance - isabela. origins - leliana combines romance, beauty, music, faith, social intelligence, and a much harder history than her graceful presentation originally makes it seem. she'd enjoy being courted by someone who appreciates clothes, stories, gifts, and dramatic gestures. leliana would also recognise that her materialism is partly fear of deprivation and could challenge it without sneering at everything she enjoys. inquisition - josephine i think could work if amulet got some character development and also didn't focus so much on wanting someone exciting. both of them understand fashion, etiquette, public image, gifts, and the social power of presentation, but josephine has a steadier relationship with wealth and status. she could enjoy amulet's extravagance while helping her distinguish security from accumulation and amulet would offer enthusiastic admiration and make josephine feel celebrated instead of just valued for her diplomatic usefulness
ryan hawke: canon romance - merrill. origins - leliana would suit their need for patience, emotional safety, and openly expressed affection. she'd be capable of taking their fears seriously without confirming their belief that they're damaged beyond repair. ryan would listen without judgment to her conflicts over faith, violence, and identity and give her a relationship where she didn't have to be either the innocent bard or the hardened spy. inquisition - i think josephine's courteous, gradual courtship would work for them. she communicates affection clearly, respects boundaries, and wouldn't treat sexual expectation as the measure of intimacy since ryan is ace.
tristan hawke: canon romance - fenris. origins - zevran understands assassination, autonomy, and guardedness. his humour would annoy tristan but zevran is also perceptive enough to recognise genuine boundaries and not push just to prove he can. inquisition - bull is probably one of the few people capable of reading him accurately without being scared off or romanticising his hostility. he understands consent, negotiated limits, and the difference between enjoying control in a chosen context and controlling someone's life. tristan would probably end up respecting his competence and directness. it would only work if bull left the qun though, tristan would never accept being evaluated as an asset by an institution claiming ownership over bull
rowan hawke: canon romance - sascha (an oc). origins - zevran's rejection of imposed authority, irreverence, resilience, and fierce loyalty once freely given would appeal to him. both of them understand being shaped into something useful by violent systems and then choosing another identity. zevran could puncture his self-seriousness without dismissing his cause. da2 - aside from sascha i think either anders or isabela would work. he and anders are already best friends and partners-in-crime and he has a fwb deal going on with isabela. anders and he are very similar, share a cause, work together on the chanty which already means there's trust and understanding there in the sense of anders not feeling the need to hide his plans, but they are also pretty unhealthy for each other bc they feed off of each other's anger and do Not hold each other back. isabela on the other hand would not be able to avoid politics if she was in a more serious relationship w him but she is also very good at lightening his mood and reminding him not to be so serious all the time. inquisition - him and dor political debates. intelligence, wit, magic, and political debates. both of them want liberation for mages but rowan favours revolutionary destruction while dorian believes institutions can be transformed from within which i think would be a central disagreement. dorian would force him to articulate what comes after the rebellion while rowan would challenge dorian whenever reform became too comfortable or distant from those suffering now
juniper trevelyan: canon romance - dorian. origins - zevran matches his wit, flirtation, appetite for life, and ability to disguise pain beneath entertainment. i think they'd be good at seeming socially effortless and being emotionally more serious in private. da2 - his support for mage freedom and instinctive sympathy for people crushed by institutions would draw him toward anders. their banter and magical interests would create immediate chemistry
briar lavellan: canon romance - josephine. origins - leliana's gentleness, faith, warmth, and willingness to express affection clearly would reassure her. she could encourage briar's confidence without demanding that she become forceful or commanding, and briar could give her deep empathy and a place where her moral uncertainty could be spoken without judgment. da2 - merrill is probably her best match anywhere outside josie. they share dalish roots, magic, kindness, social awkwardness, and the experience of being underestimated. she would respect merrill's intelligence without automatically endorsing every risk she takes, and merrill's optimism could help her become less afraid of her own choices
gem adaar: canon romance - sera. origins - she would respect morrigan's intelligence, self-sufficiency, bluntness, and refusal to perform conventional femininity. neither of them would require constant conversation or sentimental reassurance. she wouldn't be frightened by morrigan's magic or moral unconventionality and morrigan would appreciate a partner who didn't try to rescue, reform, or control her. da2 - isabela i think narrowwwwly beats out merrill. like sera, she would bring noise, movement, teasing, and irreverence into gem's self-contained life.
clear cadash: canon romances - blackwall, sera & casually harding. since she's poly i'm gonna sayyyyyy origins - zevran & leliana. zevran would match her flexibility, criminal experience, humour, curiosity, and comfort with unconventional relationships, and leliana would offer warmth, stories, faith, and a more emotionally expressive bond. da2 - isabela would suit her appetite for freedom, experimentation, danger, and irreverent fun, and merrill would connect with her magical curiosity and fascination with things everyone else considers inadvisable. i think she'd enjoy both the high-energy adventures she shared with isabela and the absorbed, exploratory conversations she shared with merrill
penowyn lavellan: canon romance - cullen. origins - morrigan's shapeshifting, knowledge of obscure magic, independence, and distance from conventional institutions would immediately interest her. they could explore old magic together without either of them treating the other's curiosity as dangerous by default. she would also respect morrigan's privacy, though she wouldn't appreciate being manipulated or deliberately kept ignorant. da2 - merrill shares her dalish pride, interest in ancient elven history, willingness to investigate forbidden magic, and comfort with subjects others fear. i think they could have a quiet but intellectually lively relationship - she would take merrill seriously and wouldn't infantilise or condemn her for using blood magic
dirthara: canon romance - solas. oigins - morrigan would fascinate him through shapeshifting, ancient magical knowledge, her connection to flemeth, and her willingness to question every accepted moral or religious framework. he would approach her without fear or conventional expectations. morrigan might initially see his curiosity as intrusive but she'd probably appreciate someone capable of following her more complicated ideas. da2 - merrill would recognise him as a person without needing him to imitate a mortal man perfectly. she's curious about spirits, ancient knowledge, artefacts, and lost histories, but also emotionally sincere, and he would genuinely delight in her work instead of treating it like a regrettable obsession
blake trevelyan: canon romance - iron bull. origins - alistair, both of them are honourable, dutiful men who want to protect people and are uncertain about how much trust to place in their own authority. alistair's humour would soften blake's seriousness and he would provide the steadfast reassurance alistair often needs. da2 - sebastian fits his faith, martial discipline, nobility, and belief that authority should be exercised responsible. they would understand each other's religious language and public obligations
eli: canon romance - cassandra. origins - he and zevran would connect through humour, adventure, freedom, and the use of storytelling to control how others see them. he'd appreciate zevran's ability to turn danger into entertainment and zevran would recognise the serious captain underneath his charm. neither of them would try to make the other one respectable. da2 - he actually already knows and gets along really well with isabela in his backstory so definitely her, they share maritime life, piracy, improvisation, irreverence, and a deep attachment to freedom. underneath the banter both of them are fiercely loyal to a chosen crew. ...they would just need to fight over who captained anything they shared