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[theredjenny]

Making this a like place holder pinned post to remind myself to eventually fill this out better (editing this nearly a year later and wow I sure haven't done that!). If there's ever something that I've posted that doesn't have an image description please send me an ask with a link to the specific post and I'll fix it ASAP! I try to add IDs to all of my posts but I'm sure I've made/will make mistakes.

Anyways!!! Here's some fun links for your viewing pleasure

My Greatest Masterpiece

My art tag

The Lead Sugar Shortbread Saga (This is the best most complete version everyone reblog this version and don't be a dumbass trying to Uhm Actually! in the replies or tags when the original point of the post was calling out white supremacist BS in fandom spaces and also it's likely someone else already said something very similar and it's been addressed and/or debunked! My wife!!!! Is fucking Smart!!!! Stop doubting that!!!!!!)

Mutuals feel free to DM me and ask for my Discord <3

Dragon Age OC Tag Links under the cut, in a perfect world I'll eventually write more thorough summaries for them that I'll link to but don't hold your breath.

Hyacinth Tabris - Warden

Fen'Telathe Mahariel - Warden

Shea Surana - Warden

Atlas Hawke

Bazê Hawke

Thyrias Lavellan - Inquisitor

Adaian Tabris De Riva - Rook

Actias Lavellan - Also Rook

[teyrnacousland]

The worst part about not getting to cure the Tranquil is that Cassandra just decides this on her own? The first thing I did when you learn there’s a cure to Tranquility was run to the library to try and tell Fiona, since she’s basically the mages’ leader and I figured she should know. And after the conversation with Cassandra where she’s all “oh, we have to study it before we tell anyone”, I was like yeah, no, and I tried to tell Fiona again. 

But you can’t. And it’s ridiculous that the game doesn’t let us tell at least her, the leader of the mages, about this new information that directly affects mages.

And, like. This is just another example of one of my biggest problems with Inquisition. While it’s in character for someone from the Chantry to think that mages need decisions made for them, and I would accept that being Cassandra’s response, why can’t I argue? Not giving us the opportunity to say “this is not your decision to make, you do not have authority over the mages that you get to make choices for them, give the damn book to Fiona” means that not only is Cassandra’s character taking this Chantry stance, the game is taking that stance, and it’s forcing us to take it too. 

[ffc1cb]

i spent the entirety of october playing dragon age 

[ko-fi]

[theredjenny]

Don't you just hate it when you're so fucking tired that your body has decided you aren't allowed to sleep. Still running on the 3 hours of sleep from last night. It's now 5 in the morning. Guess who hasn't fucking fallen asleep yet!!!

[gyrovagi]

at a certain point the question is simply, are you willing to care about other people being treated unfairly when it not only doesn't directly benefit you, but might actually directly disadvantage you? (or, to be more honest, remove an advantage that you have come to view as a natural part of the world?) the fact is that many people's answer to that is no, and this is a position they have come to hold out of fully rational self-interest. and you're not going to argue them out of this position when the core principles they're acting on are entirely detached from whatever sense of compassion you're trying to elicit.

[gyrovagi]

there's some amount of accidental insight when you see transandrobros sealioning trans women asking for a reason to care about transmisogyny. for men as a class, for transmisogyny exempt people as a whole, there is not a compelling reason to care about transmisogyny. you already benefit from it! you are clearly already highly invested in turning transmisogyny to your advantage and it seems like you want to continue doing so! you as an individual are simply going to have to develop some fucking principles

[theredjenny]

Okay so like- irt the transandrophobia shit- nobody(or at least nobody in any circles I am a part of or have encountered) is saying that trans men/mascs aren't oppressed. Nobody is trying to claim that trans men/mascs do not face systemic oppression. Transphobia is shit, it sucks, nobody is trying to say it doesn't. Nobody is trying to claim that trans men/mascs aren't also victims of misogyny. Obviously, they are.

For the record here, I'm someone who is transmasc. I had six pounds of tits chopped off my chest and had to pay $14,000 out of pocket for it, and I'm still paying off that debt. I've absolutely faced discrimination for it both medically and in day to day life. When I first tried to get a consultation for top surgery in the hopes that insurance might cover it I had the surgeon tell me to my face that she wouldn't operate on me because it would make me less attractive to men. I'm a butch lesbian, my gender is Butch, my pronouns are they/them, it's incredibly rare for anyone who is aware of that who knows me in a professional capacity to actually respect that and use them literally ever. I have also been sexually harassed and targeted in a situation where it was abundantly clear that the man harassing me was doing it because he perceived me as "doing womanhood wrong" whether that's because he assumed I was a trans man or a butch lesbian I don't know for certain.

Whatever his reasoning, it was either, transphobia, misogyny, lesbophobia, or a combination of the three. Because transandrophobia is not actually a meaningful or helpful word. It's obfuscating the actual systemic issues and attempting to circulate the idea that someone can be oppressed on the basis of Being A Man. If someone is being oppressed because they are a trans man, it is because of the trans aspect of their identity, not the man aspect - which means it's transphobia.

Yes, I am aware these intersections become far more oppressive if you are someone who has other axis of marginalization such as race or disability(I am also disabled). I cannot personally speak on the racial aspect of things from lived experience so I will leave that to others who are more qualified, but I think this post from someone who's Black and transfemme explains things incredibly well.

[sapphireh3arts]

did you know literally *everyone* is raised racist. like by society at minumum, if not specifically by their parents. if you aren't constantly questioning the prejucides around and inside of YOU, yes even you, then you aren't taking enough action in your daily life to be a traitor to the state of white supremacy.

[theredjenny]

Y'know every now and then I remember how the first time I tried getting a top surgery consult the surgeon refused to work with me literally because it would make me less attractive to men.

I was begging her to operate on me because I was in immense chronic physical pain because of how large my tits were, and I very adamantly insisted I wasn't the slightest bit interested in being attractive to men. And YET.

[treatsformeeko]

hey im really normal about this and i just heard a jae and heinrix banter that genuinely had me looney tunes eyes boggling out of my head whistling smoke coming out my ears etc

[treatsformeeko]

hi. can somebody hit me over the head with a hammer

[treatsformeeko]

And she should be butch

[thepervyfemme]

You CANT call yourself a REAL butch lover if you only love and protect thin yt muscular butches !!!!

[treatsformeeko]

hey im really normal about this and i just heard a jae and heinrix banter that genuinely had me looney tunes eyes boggling out of my head whistling smoke coming out my ears etc

[treatsformeeko]

hi. can somebody hit me over the head with a hammer

[cav-core]

Shoutout to characters that are both genuinely deeply kind and also genuinely terrifying and willing to spill buckets worth of blood to get something done. And neither of these are an act, they're just both very true.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

sure the Anders hate in dai is Annoying or whatever but I'm more so pissed off and sad that dai was like yeah everyone hates Morrigan. Like the two characters in inquisition who knew Morrigan the most were both like yeah we were never friends/we never got along, she's like evil and heartless. Even Morrigan is like yeah they never liked me. Seriously? After everything that happened in dao you want me to believe they didn't at least respect her if not care about her? You want to try to tell me the woman with a personality that isn't palatable to men is also hated by her former friends. I wonder why the writers think that of her.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

Replaying dai and this fr makes me so mad. At the end of dao the characters all have an obvious respect for each other and their banter noticeably warms to the point where it's natural to interpret they'd be friends if not amicable acquaintances. But because the writers hate women they're all back to square one and acting like they barely knew or liked Morrigan. God it pisses me off so fucking much. Morrigan wore the dress Leliana recommended and told her son that Alistair was a good man. Why are they being cruel to her.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

While I can understand people in the notes trying to make this make sense Narratively in their heads with various worldstate justifications (ex. 'maybe they blame her for the HoF's death' or 'maybe they're upset she didn't tell them about Kieran' etc) I need everyone to understand that there IS no Narrative justification for this. It is simply because bioware hates women, and therefore the characters must also hate women. Morrigan is not and never has been palatable to male audiences in her unapologetically bold personality (which is why they dressed her in a flimsy bikini, so males would excuse her personality because she's sexually attractive) which bioware also hates, and punishes her for. As soon as she's no longer available to male audiences as a romantic interest, she is punished by her former friends who suddenly hate her, she is punished by the companions of the Inquisitor who All have things to say about suspecting her of some secret evil, etc etc. Bioware could not and will not accept a female character who is as unpalatable to males as Morrigan is being respected by their narrative, so trying to justify that narratively is frankly insulting. There is no in-game explanation for why everyone in dai is so cruel to Morrigan. It is simply because of the writers' misogyny.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

sure the Anders hate in dai is Annoying or whatever but I'm more so pissed off and sad that dai was like yeah everyone hates Morrigan. Like the two characters in inquisition who knew Morrigan the most were both like yeah we were never friends/we never got along, she's like evil and heartless. Even Morrigan is like yeah they never liked me. Seriously? After everything that happened in dao you want me to believe they didn't at least respect her if not care about her? You want to try to tell me the woman with a personality that isn't palatable to men is also hated by her former friends. I wonder why the writers think that of her.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

Replaying dai and this fr makes me so mad. At the end of dao the characters all have an obvious respect for each other and their banter noticeably warms to the point where it's natural to interpret they'd be friends if not amicable acquaintances. But because the writers hate women they're all back to square one and acting like they barely knew or liked Morrigan. God it pisses me off so fucking much. Morrigan wore the dress Leliana recommended and told her son that Alistair was a good man. Why are they being cruel to her.

[lesbianwyllravengard]

While I can understand people in the notes trying to make this make sense Narratively in their heads with various worldstate justifications (ex. 'maybe they blame her for the HoF's death' or 'maybe they're upset she didn't tell them about Kieran' etc) I need everyone to understand that there IS no Narrative justification for this. It is simply because bioware hates women, and therefore the characters must also hate women. Morrigan is not and never has been palatable to male audiences in her unapologetically bold personality (which is why they dressed her in a flimsy bikini, so males would excuse her personality because she's sexually attractive) which bioware also hates, and punishes her for. As soon as she's no longer available to male audiences as a romantic interest, she is punished by her former friends who suddenly hate her, she is punished by the companions of the Inquisitor who All have things to say about suspecting her of some secret evil, etc etc. Bioware could not and will not accept a female character who is as unpalatable to males as Morrigan is being respected by their narrative, so trying to justify that narratively is frankly insulting. There is no in-game explanation for why everyone in dai is so cruel to Morrigan. It is simply because of the writers' misogyny.

[veilguard-tournament]

Round #1 — Match 21 of 25

Evka Ivo

Propaganda: Evka is just so badass. She kicks darkspawn ass, leads the wardens when there's a power vacuum as if it were easy, and during all that she stays loving and soft and romantic with Antoine. She is also a small and badass character and I love that combination.

vs. Ghilan'nain

Who should advance?

Evka

Ghilan'nain

Remaining time: 1 day 2 hours

[pauvre-lola]

happy dragon age day everyone !!

[ikarons]

nothing more annoying To Me than when someone is like Here is my unpalatable bitch woman oc!!! and then she just like. swears and fucks maybe. maybe she also likes to be on top. step it up‼️

[ikarons]

she should be committing unforgivable atrocities!!

the corollary to this is Someone should find the atrocities unforgivable within the setting. it doesnt count to just say the scariest thing you can think of and tell me shes unpalatable if the whole fictional world moves on like nothing happened and everyone loves her forever. shes either EXPERIENCING CONSEQUENCES or DUCKING THEM ON PURPOSE THROUGH INCREASINGLY FUCKED UP MEANS. or BOTH SOMEHOW

or no dice!