Groblin

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[athinkfishhad]

I saw the muppets Christmas Carol today, and I couldn't think of anything else other than that bloody joker when kermit was on screen. I wish to be free.

[the-muppet-joker]

The mark I have left on the world is the shape and size of a Muppet Hole. Sad!

[divorce-enjoyer]

what the fuck

[divorce-enjoyer]

new nemesis dropped

[marriagesaver]

Hey, we can talk this out. We don't have to fight

[divorce-enjoyer]

WHO ARE YOU

[jjackiebrainblast]

trans people would kill themselves less often if people were nicer to us btw. i could put it in more scientific terms but that’s what it boils down to. just be nice to each other

[juniper-solaris-deactivated2025]

"Driven to suicide" is a completely normal thing to discuss when it's anyone else. Extreme hardship, social isolation and bullying can lead people, especially young people, to suicide. But for Trans people, all that shit goes out the window I guess and we're just naturally prone to killing ourselves because reasons. God hates us or somethin

[theconcealedweapon]

Some women are conditioned to be fragile and weak, and to believe that it's a sin to outperform a man. Her feminism would involve allowing women to be strong.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to oppression. Each individual person's experience is different. Whatever trauma is caused by their oppression, the activism should focus on undoing it.

[my-dailydreams]

[0fficelady]

[a-book-of-creatures]

Made some stickers for when you just gotta express yourself with a failed cake

[thememedaddy]

[omtai]

When you are brutally losing at chess implore your opponent to look inwards its called the little pony gambit

[phantomrose96]

Obligatory opening line about walking into the bats-swinging-at-hornets-nest room.

Anyway, I keep seeing transandrophobia discourse that uses the argument, "transmisogyny is real but transandrophobia is not real, for the same reason misogynoir is real but misogyn-(white)-y isn't. Because being male or white isn't an oppressed identity."

And I think the analogy is the wrong analogy. For misogynoir, gender and race are DIFFERENT axes, and as such something like misogynoir is the combined experience of two SEPARATE axes of oppression. "Being trans" and "what your gender is" are NOT different axes. Which gender you have transitioned into is a detail OF the trans experience! Comparing this to intersecting two separate axes (race and sex) is fundamentally the wrong analogy!

Gay men and lesbian women both experience homophobia. They also have different experiences OF homophobia depending whether they're MLM or WLW. I think this is a significantly better analogy because, like with being trans, "same gender attraction" and "what gender you are" are NOT independent axes.

I would never fault a gay man for talking about the kinds of homophobia gay/bi men face, or a lesbian woman for talking about the kinds of homophobia targeted at lesbian/bi woman. Because there are some different societal reasons that people direct hate at men-loving-men and women-loving-women, which are, inextricably, tied to how society demands different genders act.

Like you cannot say "men shouldn't separately identify and talk about the kind of homophobia experienced by men, because men aren't oppressed" because being male is inextricably linked to how that homophobia is experienced

And in that vein, there are different societal reasons that people direct hate at FTM and MTF people, which are all within transphobia. But the kind of transphobia someone experiences is inextricably linked to what the person's transitioned gender is, and what society wants them to be. This is not introducing a second, uncorrelated privileged axis! This is a detail of the transphobia! Details are allowed to have names! This is different kinds of real people's lived transphobia and acting like someone is throwing in an unrelated axis of privilege (like being white, or being upper-class) is disingenuous!

Also, you may notice, I'm strongly advocating for people's voices to be heard and the details to matter! I want trans women to talk, LOUDLY, about transmisogyny. And its specifics and why it matters! This is not shouting down any of that! Talk about your experiences and the parts that are specifically transmisogynistic! I just think it's bonkers that somewhere along the way, people who think every single identity class is a perfectly independent, perpendicular stat bar that shows up on a character customization screen came around and decided half of the experience of transphobia needs to be un-named and un-personed because someone heard "men" and looked that word up in their privilege stat book and got real scared.

Like in conclusion, "Trans men can't talk about transandrophobia because men aren't oppressed" reads exactly the same to me as "gay men aren't allowed to talk about the way gay men are specifically hated (hatred of emasculated men, etc etc) because men aren't oppressed." If someone started calling the second thing "homoandrophobia" would you like, start claiming sodomy laws were never real?

[doberbutts]

Not an argument again, just a "yes, and-"

I also find it incredibly disingenuous as a trans man of color, specifically a BLACK trans man of color, that at every turn I'm likened to a white guy for pointing out that yes actually my gender does make a difference because this is different from how I was treated as a black girl and it's different from how my black trans & cis fem friends get treated and it's different from how my black cis guy friends get treated and it's also different from how my white friends of any gender get treated but you know it's really similar to how my black trans guy friends get treated because my blackness and my gender and my transness are all tied up in a way that is impossible to seperate ***and that was the entire point of coining the word intersectionality in the first place*** -

But I ALSO find it frustrating because there is always the comparison to whiteness. Why whiteness? If we are going to make a race analogy, why are we comparing trans women to blackness and trans men to whiteness when both of these demographics are inherently going to experience the system of transphobia? Why not compare, say, Black to Asian, who would be both inherently going to experience the system of racism? Is it because that's messy, because it's hard to say who is always going to be considered more oppressed, because it depends very much on the context and this may change for the same two individuals being compared on a day-to-day or even minute-by-minute basis? Sorry but that's also just... how oppression works.

We can say "there is antiblackness in many Asian communities" and we can say "there is Asian hate in many Black communities" and both can be true and it doesn't make either the other's oppressor or that one side somehow experiences Super Racism while the other experiences Lesser Racism. It just means we as people have shit we need to work on. Talking about Asian hate does not mean that no one is allowed to talk about antiblackness. Advocating against antiblackness does not mean Asians are uniquely disposed to hating Black people. Both groups should have the space to talk about the unique way their problems with systemic oppression manifest without being made to feel like they're taking space away from each other. And both should be given the resources needed to fix these problems, because just fixing one or the other does not inherently mean both are resolved.

(And, honestly, to truly resolve any marginalized race's oppression, everyone will need to work together anyway as it is not as simple as just flipping the off switch on racism. Racism is such a multifaceted problem that both has its hooks in everything and also everything has its hooks in it too. It is a spider web which needs to be untangled one strand at a time, there is no scissors to cut the knot on this one.)

Buuuuuut I find many of the people making the black to white comparison are very lacking in their understanding of race and racism, and thus do not have the understanding that it's not quite so (pardon the pun) black and white as all that.

Also, as an aside, unfortunately plenty of people do in fact say that about gay men and men not being oppressed- basically stating that lesbiphobia is the only one that should be expounded on as the rest is "just regular homophobia".

[gildedorthovyn]

it is interesting and very annoying that you choose to refer to the entirety of this discourse as "transandrophobia discourse". this discourse did not start with transandrophobia. it started with feminism. it is unsurprising that you would choose to center men in this discussion.

"being trans" and "what gender you are," are in fact, explicitly different axes that can intersect.

the axes of oppression here are man > woman (misogyny) and cis > trans (transphobia)

at the intersection of the axes of misogyny and transphobia, you will find transmisogyny

it is important to understand when speaking on these topics that transfeminists are discussing political classes, not identity demographics. the political class of men is privileged over the political class of women. it does not matter what demographic of men you are, you will still be privileged over the political class of women, because class society is heirarchical in nature. men are not opposite to women. men are above women.

you can trivially see this play out in the statistics on who recieves the most money and who is subject to the most violence.

men are paid more than women, and women are subject to more violence than men. when you add the variable of transness, trans men are paid more than trans women, and trans women are subject to far more violence than anyone else.

transandrophobia is not real, because men are privileged over women. it is "normal homophobia" because it is homophobia without the addition of misogyny (lesbophobia). it is "normal transphobia" because it is transphobia without the addition of misogyny (transmisogyny). men think that they face unique oppressions that women dont because they do not listen to us when we share similar experiences, and do not believe us when we say we have it even worse than that.

this is why we make the comparison between transandrophobia and reverse racism. both are a disbelief that others have it worse than you. both are a desire to equivocate between classes in a class heirarchy.

[doberbutts]

This is what I meant in my tags on my reblog of this when I said that people are treating whiteness and maleness as a default. This exact response does both, likely without meaning to, and prescribes an additive nature and a hierarchy of oppression in a discussion of intersectionality despite the coiner specifically stating that intersectionality is neither about additives nor hierarchies in this way.

By using "white" or "man" as a default, both become a shorthand for an un-oppressed or less-oppressed state. By using the phrase "men are paid more than women" (untrue when discussing the intersection of race, disability status, or immigration vs citizenship status - in which white able-bodied people who are citizens will always be paid more including white able-bodied English-speaking citizen women as compared to men of color, disabled men, and immigrant men) or "women experience more violence than men" (untrue when discussing literally any intersection, as the violence immediately stops being a "lesser" or "greater" overall and starts being a "this demographic experiences more of this particular kind of violence, while that demographic experiences more of this other particular kind of violence, eg binary trans women are statistically far more likely to experience physical violence, violence from strangers, and violence from the state while nonbinary people previously assigned female at birth are statistically far more likely to experience intimate partner violence, sexual violence, and violence from within their family unit- as stated in nearly every large study researching transphobic violence that cares to sort by gender and also by assigned sex) - we are treating this discussion as though there is a default state of being rather than acknowledging that the intersections of privilege and oppression with dramatically change the picture, and that with this dramatically changed picture, such a statement can stop being true quite easily.

It is interesting that you should choose to state that this is a feminist argument, while completely misrepresenting and misunderstanding the words of black feminists, including the very black feminist that I mentioned by name in my reblog. Here is another black feminist's words, if you don't like mine since I am a man.

[schizofujoshi]

evil P.L.U.R.

Poison

Laughter (mean)

U are mad at me

Rateyourmusic.com

[re-person-i-knew]

Gay weed

[the-transgenda-agenda]

If you find yourself blaming [category of trans people] for [general bigotry against trans people], consider the following:

direct your anger and frustration towards [non trans bigots causing the problem]

[elbiotipo]

I wish I could even start how to write about how tropical or even "warm" places are never portrayed as "home" in art (especially in pop culture), if that makes sense. They are always portrayed as wild places, exotic places, or both, but they're never shown as places were people live their lives.

Main characters don't ever come from a tropical country. There aren't sitcoms set in a hot city in the tropics (well, of course there are telenovelas) about the daily lives of normal people. Fantasy and science fiction series often start in places that look suspiciously like medieval Europe, and when they go to a jungle or desert land or planet, it's because something Exotic is about to happen.

Temperate climates (and their cultures) are The Default. Every other place, in real life or in fiction, is judged against them.

To the point that people who live in the tropics are jealous of snowy Christmas. Because that's what we've been raised with with the cultural monopoly of the US/Europe.

It's so weird. Everything has to have snowy winters, orange fall leaves, and pine trees in fiction. I live in a place where winter lasts a month, there are palm trees everywhere, and long, hot summers. I could never relate. Bro I'm j jus existing here.

[funoftheday]

You don’t say.

[a-spoon-is-born]

[timemachineyeah]

For the record, she actually abandoned the movement BEFORE they all got whooping cough, but abandoned it too late. There’d been a breakout of measles in her area that caused her to reassess, and she and her doctor had already drafted and started a catch-up vaccination schedule, but her kids caught whooping cough just before it could be started. Then she wrote a blog post for The Scientific Parent explaining how she and her husband had come to wrong decisions in the first place, how they changed their mind, the consequences they suffered as a result, and asking other parents to please vaccinate their kids. And now she’s an activist for destroying the misinformation of anti-vaxxers, and reaching out to anti-vaxxers because she’s understands their fears but knows their kids deserve better. 

She was trying to the best for her kids and just didn’t know how to interpret the validity of information or its sources, an actual skill that can be actually difficult and that is under-taught and a necessary first step to being able to trust vaccination research, so chose no action over taking an action she wasn’t sure of. She kept looking into it with family and friends and even eventually came to the right conclusion before her kids became sick, but it was still too late.

Honestly it was pretty brave of her to publicly admit she was wrong. She could have just quietly vaccinated her kids and not become a national news story, but instead she spoke out, even saying “I’m writing this from quarantine, the irony of which isn’t lost on me.” and also “I am not looking forward to any gloating or shame as this ‘defection’ from the antivaxx camp goes public, but, this isn’t a popularity contest.  Right now my family is living the consequences of misinformation and fear.  I understand that families in our community may be mad at us for putting their kids at risk.”

She understood the consequences and still put herself and her story out there. 

[hatey-mchaterson]

You know what, it does take a big person to admit they were wrong so publicly and work to undo the harm. I believe I made fun of her in the past, but timemachineyeah changed my mind.

[snarklordofthesith]

“I never thought leopards would eat MY face, until I realized they totally would, and they will eat your face, too!” warns defector from the leopards-eating-faces party

[aqueerkettleofish]

don’t hide this in the tags….

#really important actually#like. it’s so important that we allow people to STOP voting for leopards eating faces#because if you attack anyone leaving the leopards eating faces party when they realize it’s bad#the only support system they’ll have is the people who want them to come back to it#you have to make it possible for people escape instead of considering them forever tainted and impure and inherently evil

[elfwreck]

The #1 trait of anti-vaxxers is not “they’re stupid” or “they fell for propaganda” but “they don’t know who’s safe to trust.”

The movement is pushed by women, especially suburban moms, because they know damn well you cannot trust doctors. You cannot trust the medical industry, the billion-dollar corporate zone of “you should lose some weight and maybe the pain will stop.” Cannot trust the ones who keep changing diet advice - is it no sugar? No carbs? No fats? Is it dangerous to let kids eat things in wild colors? Food pyramid: good or bad? They cannot trust the BMI chart that says they should lose 75 lbs to be “healthy.” (Whether or not they “should” lose 75 lbs, they know damn well that “healthy” does not describe any part of the journey to getting there.) Cannot trust the ones who keep giving them incomplete and sometimes incorrect information about contraception. The ones who said “that’s false labor; you have two weeks more” 12 hours before they gave birth. And so on.

So they have their kids, and they want so much for their kids to be safe, and the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

So they ask: What about if there’s complications? An allergic reaction? Side effects?

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

This is… not reassuring.

And they ask, My sister-in-law’s cousin had a really bad reaction to the MMR shot and I want to know how I can tell it’s safe for my kids.

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

Throw in the right-wing/libertarian faction yelling YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO and the insurance companies saying “hey um you need a specific type of coverage for that; we probably cover those vaccinations but you’ll need this special paperwork to be sure” - and then you have the actual anti-vax propagandists yelling some combination of cherry-picked statistics and outright lies, and you get a whole lot of moms willing to say BUGGRE ALL THIS FOR A LARKE.

There is no amount of facts that can fix this. They’re swamped with facts from 300 directions. What they need to fix this is empathy and the kind of connections that lead to trust.

They need to trust that, even as the medical industry dismisses a whole lot of womens’ concerns, in this particular area, they’re right.

[embervoices]

Add in the consequences of having a significant portion of your social support network tied up in a particular worldview, leaving it, much less openly condemning it, is really hard and means losing your community support. In a world where the system can’t be trusted to pick up that slack, Moms can’t afford to risk the change - until the cost of staying clearly outweighs the coat of pushing back, not just in general, but for their kids.

Kindness doesn’t just matter because it’s more ethical - it'salso a more effective strategy.

[genderkoolaid]

Don’t normally do this but

Kindness doesn’t just matter because it’s more ethical - it'salso a more effective strategy.

Get this into your fucking heads. Kindness and compassion and one might even say “love,” are strategies, not just vague fluffy inoffensive emotions. Cruelty will never save us.

[thetomska]

Qwertymovie when?

wussed out

[redstonedust]

i miss all the cool genders. i feel like 2012-2015 was a golden era for people on tumblr inventing their xenogenders and then they got cringed out of the public eye. shoutout to everyone who still has cool genders and neopronouns and custom pride flags. i fuck with you.

[kbsd]

i hate hate hate the way fandoms at large interpret the found family trope. so often people seem to think it means just recreating the nuclear family structure with characters who aren’t related to each other, and shoving those characters into either a mom role, a dad role, or a child role. when really it's supposed to be about finding/building a support system outside that traditional model, and illustrating that sometimes that isn’t always the best model....aka the exact opposite of what people do.