hey guys do the allos know that they can have qprs too? like do they know that being alloromantic doesn't mean they can't choose to be in a qpr anyway? because qprs aren't "romance-lite" for aros, they're an entirely separate kind of relationship that anyone can have. you can do this with fictional characters too. you can put characters that aren't aroace or are even canonically dating in qprs with each other just because you think that would be a cool way to play with their dynamic. it's actually very cool and you totally should.
no one ever compiled this so that it what we are doing today. for people with eds and people whose loved ones do. please note: iâm not a doctor. this is a compilation of things from books and ed resource sites.
for people whose loved ones have an eating disorder:
try to make sure they know these things.
try not to force them to eat, they might feel uncomfortable eating in front of people. also, risk of refeeding syndrome.
if their life is in danger and you are seeking help for them, consult the person beforehand to make sure they will be safe and give them a heads-up so that they arenât startled (especially if theyâre neurodivergent! giving them notice will aid control!)
offer them ways of controlling things aside from food - practice consent, include them in conversations, donât talk about them behind their back, compliment their makeup or hair.
be patient. the person may be irritable from lack of sleep, feelings of depression, worthlessness, etc., or malnutrition.
keep in mind that you canât tell if someone has an eating disorder by looking at them. people of all weights do - only 17% of anorexics are underweight - and also, men and non binary people can also have eds.
general:
drink lots of water, especially if youâre drinking lots of caffeine.
drink some electrolytes at least once a week - gatorade, electrolyte tablets, coconut water, doesnât matter, just get it into your system.
if you are getting dizzy or flushed and can feel your heart beating, quick carbs will raise your blood sugar - sweets, bread, fruit, juice, non diet soda, whatever. keep snacks around pls.
your brain uses 400-500 calories daily. eat more than this.
take your supplements!
you still need protein, have an egg or something.
donât take adderal or insulin unless you are actually diabetic or neurodivergent, because you are raising the price by buying them and denying access to those who need it.
throw a towel over the mirror. itâs not worth it if itâll cause you anxiety.
try to limit disordered behaviours like body checking, purging, and weigh ins.
practice good dental hygiene.
put your scale somewhere where you have to actively look for it to weigh yourself.
avoid social media and for your sake donât go on pro ed tiktok or tumblr or twitter or insta.
get a buddy who also struggles with the same thing if possible to support each other.
get regular medical check ups (if you can afford it)
practice things within your control - makeup, hair, clothing, etc.
push your rules - eat 5 minutes before your time, or 50 calories over your limit.
for people with restrictive disorders (e.g. anorexia):
do weight and resistance training at least twice a week to prevent musculoskeletal conditions such as osteoporosis.
donât drink on an empty stomach.
try to put gaps between fasting periods.
donât fast for more than 72 hours.
wear lots of layers to keep warm.
eat an extra 100-200 calories on your period if you menstruate.
have a metabolism day.
take care of your hair.
as horrifying as this is to many people, please go to the hospital if youâre experiencing heart problems or if youâre passing out for more than 30 seconds.
for people with purging disorders (e.g. bulimia):
if you would like to purge, wait 15 minutes first.
after purging: drink lots of water - the emptiness you feel is dehydration. donât brush your teeth but rinse your mouth out, preferably with an alkaline mouthwash or baking soda mixed into water. do something you want to do, like reading a book or watching a show. donât smoke. donât have anything acidic. eat a banana or some chocolate or a rice cake to keep your blood sugar levels in check.
if you vomit blood or your vomit looks like coffee grounds, this is a sign of internal bleeding. you could be drowning in your own blood from a hole in your esophagus, essentially. go to the hospital or call 911/999/the emergency number in your area.
stay safe everyone. i hope this helps. also, i do not use these tags - i have them blocked - but i am using them so that people on these tags will find this because they need it most.
Another piece of diet culture to unlearn: that eating an "unhealthy" food negates the benefits of other nutritious things you've eaten. Put bacon and ranch on your salad? Congratulations, you still got a lot of fiber, that's great for your gut biome, and the veggies still contain nutrients. Finished up your dinner with a dessert? You still ate the dinner. You don't have to eat "pure" to take in nutrition from your meals.
"Of course lesbians can be genderqueer and nonbinary and be attracted to genderqueer and nonbinary people as long as their genders aren't breaking the binary too much and they are femme or neutral enough that we can comfortably misgender them as women in our heads!"
Things I did when I was depressed that didnât take as much effort and were realistic.
A bath is better than nothing.
Sitting in the shower is okay.
Hair, hands, underarms, and genitals are a must. Itâs okay to skip everywhere else for a bit, but those parts need to be maintained.
Keep razors out of washroom if itâs a trigger.
Purell!!! Hand sanitizer!!! Killing germs is the only must.
If hair care is out of the question, get a short haircut.
On the topic of hair, dry shampoo.
Keep a brush next to your bed. Try at least once every few days. Putting it off will become a real problem.
Donât use disinfectant/antibacterial wipes anywhere. Clorox, Lysol, HDX, Scentiva, anything generic. NO! Baby wipes, sensitive skin, skin friendly is the only thing.
Use antibiotic ointment (Neosporin for example) for even minor cuts. Infection is real and can happen, especially if you arenât frequently cleaning. Then, ofc, cover with bandages.
Take vitamins and leave them by your bedside. Extra points for the gummy kind so itâs at least some kind of food.
To those who get periods, Iâm sorry, but you have to get up to change menstrual products every few hours. Infections can happen. Big/overnight pads can give some extra time.
Get those crumbs out of your bed unless you like waking up with bugs.
Take out any food after a day or two. Mold isnât fun.
Underwear needs to be changed every day. Everything else can go a few days, unless youâre sweating a lot or any non-water fluids get on it.
Automatic air fresheners and candles.
Glasses rather than contacts.
Seal any food or drinks when not consuming.
Spend a few minutes to move around in bed. Look up exercises to do lying down and or in bed. Thereâs a lot! Avoid bed sores and keep that blood flowing. Just a minute or two is all you need.
Flossing.
Stay clean. I know itâs hard to. Use that little bit of energy to maintain hygiene as neglecting that can and will lead to bigger problems.