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I wish age gap discourse hadn't spiraled the way it has because I want there to be a safe space to say "Men in their 40s who date 25 year olds aren't predators, they're just fucking losers"

lullabyofbirdlxnd

... honey you just described a predator LOL

tami-taylors-hair

No, I said what I said. But thank you for providing an example of how this topic has become insufferable on the internet.

lullabyofbirdlxnd

i am honestly burningly curious about how a 40 year old man who fucks around with college grads is not a predator

tami-taylors-hair

"College grad" is not a developmental stage, nor is it what I would describe a 25 year old as. I was 4 years out of college at 25. My mother had two children at 25. You can be a fucking congressman at 25.

There's a difference between a man who is immature and buys into misogynistic views of beauty and aging and one who is a predator. Also, many actual predators? Not losers and able to move through society pretty freely being seen as cool and the ideal, so conflating the two isn't helpful.

This is going to be my final response to any attempt at discourse. You're welcome to continue amongst yourselves.

thiswaycomessomethingwicked

also sometimes a 40 year old and a 25 year old just weirdly find each and it's a perfectly normal relationship - like all human relationships are complex and situational, it's so rarely an either/or thing let alone just one thing only

if a 40 year old dude only dates 25 year olds, DiCaprio style or something adjacent to it, then yeah he's a loser

if a 40 year old dude meets a 25 year old through social event or friends or whatever and they happen to hit it off and make a go of it, and this isn't some sort of reoccurring pattern for the guy, that's just a relationship with an age difference

being predatory means something specific, and man I agree w/ OP and really wish people just stopped ascribing it to any and all relationship dynamics they personally might not like

predator and groomer - two words that need to go up on the "can't use till you learn their meaning" shelf

abandonedandurbex

An old loft in a decayed barn. [5312x2988]

bananonbinary

jokes that will literally never not be funny to me:

saying “speedrun strats” every time you fuck up

saying “first try” when you’ve tried the thing like 15 times, minimum

twilight-blaze

saying “skill issue” when something is 100% outside of anyone’s control

soda-floating

Tried to recreate some of the demon slayer outfits using the pro design tool. They’re not 100% how i want them, but good for a first try! :D

Had to do it

🌞 sun + 😡 extremely-angry

From Twitter

soapiewaltened-deactivated20220

I have no idea what emotion this is conveying but I feel it in my soul

mothstardust

thats called the customer service smile

inkiedraws

Fallout 4 is my favorite farming simulator

turing-tested

is this orange or yellow.

turing-tested

its yellow you are all wrong i have decided just now

dogonitblog

hey op, what does this say?

turing-tested

nice try but i’m not colorblind it says 71

khazel-t

laimfunk

There’s a lot of Scooby Doo stuff on Netflix

vampireapologist-archive-deacti

i have a friend whomst I will not name in case they don’t want to be asked about this but they have a Very Specific and Terrible power which is, if you take the online BDSM quiz and then just simply mention you have, they can look at you for under ten seconds and just state your top result.

I can’t tell you anything more soul-shattering, any death more instant and devastating, any moment more harrowing to witness than someone saying “yeah i took the BDSM quiz once” only for my friend to no more than glance at them and then announce “brat” and the look in the person’s eyes is that of one who just tipped too far back in their chair