that's my queue

header by @justlgbtthings (i just edited the colours) (well technically i traced it cause it was easier to redo what they did than editing the colours cause i don't know how to do these things) | listen just use they/them or vey/vem for me some of y'all can't be trusted, you can call me dude or any other ""gendered"" term | aro, ace | (sorry but if you're a system please don't dm me my group social anxiety kicks in for systems) | non-mutual USamericans dni | been an adult for years but that doesn't mean i'm comfortable with ANY nsfw stuff so nsfw dni

[robloxboyfriend]

[Image IDs: Two nearly identical images of a 5 horizontally striped flag where the the colors from top to bottom are warm brown, pastel orange, off-white, desaturated blue, and desaturated green. The second flag has meanings on each stripe, from top to bottom "Reliability and Durability", "Warmth and Humor", "Love, Family, and Unity", "Sensitivity", and "Bonding activities and Fun". End ID]

Dadgender

A gender connected to fatherhood. This gender may be used by anyone who feels a connection to being a dad or the concept of fatherhood.

This flag is based off of @newmainolddead's Dadgender flag. I wanted to expand upon the meanings and touch up the colors to make the flag more inclusive for others.

Free to repost, edit, or archive. Credit not needed.

[thegeek531]

Reblog if your tumblr url is the same one you started with.

This is a serious thing. Im curious how many people over the course of year(s) kept the same tumblr handle. A ton of the people I follow have changed their over time.

As far as I know Im one of the few who havent. Few being relative as there are millions of tumblr users. But yeah.

Social experiment.

If you HAVE changed your URL Click Here

[newmainolddead]

i just went to my drafts to queue some, queued one singular draft, and immediately got tired of it and stopped lol

[newmainolddead]

i feel like if you block someone on tumblr you should become entirely unable to see their blog

like sure it says 'hey you blocked them so we've hidden them from your view' if you're on view mode on desktop (but only there, not even if you normally click on the desktop url) but you can literally just click 'view' anyway

i think it should become entirely unavailable to you, as if it was deleted

[alphacrone]

bitches hate when other people are in the kitchen because they’ve spent their entire lives being criticized for doing tasks imperfectly and having their eating habits policed and now have incredible anxiety about other people judging their cooking choices that can’t be easily explained in a few words as to why they’re acting so hostile about someone else being near them during this very vulnerable process. it’s me, i’m bitches

[guerrillatech]

[acek20]

Sharing is caring don’t you know

[boazpriestly]

[what-even-is-thiss]

When I grow up I wanna be upper middle class.

[what-even-is-thiss]

I want like… a condo. And enough money to go on vacation sometimes. And maybe a mug.

[sbpstudios]

bro look at thrift stores or garage sale for mugs

i once got a set of four cat mugs for a dollar. one of the best days of my life so far

[what-even-is-thiss]

Maybe I’m tired of going to thrift stores for mugs. Maybe I’m tired of the $5 target mugs. Maybe I want a really nice mug. Not like five hundred nice mugs. Just like… one or two would be nice. You know? Maybe I’d hang one on my wall. I think I’d like that. Owning a wall.

[i-need-glitter]

@what-even-is-thiss

Go to any streets that close for art events, you’ll find at least 1 good potter selling their wares there

I got the cup I use for my bathroom at Las Olas, Florida for their art fair a few years back, it was like $15ish but the potter had a set all in the same color combo of a bowl, 2 sized plates and 2 different mugs. I just wanted the one small cup but I’ve got the card somewhere

At the same art fair a year or two later a different potter was there selling his stuff and that’s who I got one of my tea mugs from for like again $15isb

[what-even-is-thiss]

Again, people are misunderstanding my actual desires represented by the mug.

[what-even-is-thiss]

There you go.

[i-wear-the-cheese]

Every time we go into a Big Fancy Houseware shop just to browse, I stare wistful at the mugs. “We have enough mugs” I will say. But I know I my heart that all the mugs at home are mismatched and old, or secret Santa gifts from across the years. None of them have been purchased solely for the joy of buying a fancy new mug.

[parkasaurus-rex]

Like you could even go to the clearance aisle for mugs. The change of seasons always brings new and interesting things. OR A GOODWILL TRIP? Holy shit this person is going on and on about expensive ass mugs when what you really need in life is to not fall into the trap that capitalism has inevitably laid for all of us that makes us believe wholeheartedly that the only happiness we will find in life is the ability to purchase expensive things and to own expensive things

Go green and try to re-thrift for shit that’s so trivial it takes one slip of the hand to watch it completely fall to pieces

[what-even-is-thiss]

I made this post over a year ago now and inevitably whenever it gains more traction someone will pop up completely misunderstanding me, not understanding that I’d just like to be comfortable. I don’t actually want advice on how to acquire mugs. I own a couple of mugs. I’d just like to be able to have some security. Maybe a pool. Maybe I’d like to own a small amount of property. A condo, maybe. I’d like to be able to travel. You’ll notice that nobody here is giving advice on how to acquire a condo or a vacation. They’re just taking the mug part seriously. All I wanted to do was fantasize about a world where I don’t live in a studio apartment that takes up half of my paycheck in rent alone and maybe I have a stupid white dad device mounted on the wall to showcase my mug collection. Can everyone just shut the hell up about telling me how to acquire mugs? I don’t care about the traps of consumerism! I just wanna be able to afford to visit my aunts sometimes! And so what if I do want an expensive mug? That’s my goddamn business.

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

turns out the overdue project I've been putting off for days is actually pretty easy and i should've done it earlier. i won't learn anything from this though

[trans-gothic]

[amvs]

no one is required to publicly list their exact age, religion, ethnicity, sexuality, gender, medical history etc in an age where doxxing someone who isn’t careful with their information is about as easy as making cereal.

share what you’re comfortable with sharing.

[amvs]

some of you are filling out your abouts like it’s the fucking census

[computationalcalculator]

while we’re on the subject, “I’m homeless and stranded in <specific city> with no family who care about me, also here’s a picture of my face and all my disabilities” is another big one and “here’s a list of the fastest and easiest ways to make me upset” isn’t great either

[jellyfishbreaths]

some purples

[mspectral]

[silberschillerndesglurak]

do not call me any ("new") trans terminology without asking me if i'm okay with that first

tme tma (i thought that was a fandom? don't y'all have issues with crosstagging? /gen) transfeminine transmasculine

no

just no

on a similar note, don't assign me random genders either

i don't care if i give off those vibes or if you just thought that was my gender or even if i mentioned i was a similar gender to what you're assigning me rn (like me saying agender you saying genderless, not the same thing to me and wrong regardless of that anyways)

don't even assign me a gender i've said i was, genuinely

just don't assign me a gender

just don't

[marzipanandminutiae]

actual modern historians: in this letter, Margaret tells her dearest friend Adela, “my love, I long to worship at your altar of Venus once more. come to me and rain kisses upon my breasts as  you did in Paris last spring.”

people on the Internet: “FrIeNd???” ERASURE. STOP TRYING TO HIDE THE GAY. “OH MY GOD THEY WERE ROOMMATES”

aforementioned historians: she. she opens the letter with “My dearest friend.” we’re literally quoting here, and we just admitted they had sex

people on the Internet: “JUST GALS BEING PALS” EH? R/SAPPHOANDHERFRIEND?

historians: a truly vast number of us are queer

people on the Internet: LOL FELLAS IS IT GAY TO KISS YOUR BEST LADY FRIEND’S BREASTS??? NOT IN HISTORY!!

[ere-the-sun-rises]

Historians: we’re very careful about applying modern labels to ancients who don’t have the same concepts of queerness.

People on the internet: SO GAYS DIDN’T EXIST IN HISTORY HUH?

Historians: no? We’re saying ancients had different relationships and acceptances for things we now label as queer and it’s not right to force modern terms-

People on the internet: WOW, SO GAYS DON’T AND HAVE NEVER EXISTED? IS THAT WHAT YOU’RE SAYING? YOU’RE TRYING TO ERASE GAYS FROM HISTORY.

Historians: … How are you getting that from what I said?

[rainbow-femme]

Historians: This man seems to clearly have taken this other man as a lover, based on his own comments and those of the people around him. And he did not seem to consummate either of his marriages or fathered children, so we feel comfortable saying he was likely a homosexual

Internet: Historians refuse to acknowledge that anyone in history was anything but straight!

Historians: Some people believe this man and woman had a romantic interest in each other based on their letters, but it’s important to remember that this kind of language was expected and didn’t necessarily mean they were actually interested in each other.

Internet: All a woman and a man had to do was look at each other and all historians are convinced they were into each other!

Historians: This person had some contemporary sources referring to them as gay, but that’s likely people spreading rumors because we can’t find anything to back it up beyond the word of their political rivals.

Internet: So gay people just never existed??

Historians: Actually we all agree this other person from the same place and time was gay and we talk extensively about it

Internet: That person isn’t famous enough for me to care

[the-crap-in-the-box]

And also. Those people are dead. We can’t ask them. Y'all get butthurt about people slapping the wrong labels on people today but then do the sane thing to them and they can’t even defend themselves.

[tami-taylors-hair]

“Mean girls all grow up to be nurses!”

“Mean girls all go into social work!”

“The mean girl to teacher pipeline!”

Y’all, these are just pink collar jobs. The reason you think there’s so many “mean girls” in these fields is because they’re all like 97% women. Of course some of them are gonna be assholes. There’s assholes everywhere.

We get it. Your job isn’t like other girls’ jobs. It’s a cool job.

[onepunchman]

it’s true that there are some incredibly cruel people in all of these professions.

it’s also true that they all suffer from chronic underpayment, overwork, lack of institutional support, and insane bureaucratic demands that would make them fail the people in their care all the time even if every single one was a saint.

[rotationalsymmetry]

That’s absolutely missing the point.

While those are all “helper” professions and they very much are pink collar (and are underpaid, that’s not an incompatible idea), they’re also ones that involve power over vulnerable people’s lives. (And I’ve only encountered it as a comparison to, say, male bullies becoming cops, it’s not like men aren’t being mentioned here.)

Secretaries/administrative assistants aren’t on that list for a reason. Flight attendants aren’t on that list. Housecleaners aren’t on that list. Receptionists. Customer service representatives. Dental hygienists. The people who style hair or do nails. That’s not a list of pink collar jobs. It’s specifically (pink collar) positions where if you want to abuse people you’re relatively likely to get away with it.

It can both be true that “nurses who care for disabled people need better pay” and “nurses who care for disabled people have a lot of opportunities to abuse their power and that’s something worth talking about.”

Women aren’t immune from treating people badly because they’re women, or because women are underpaid. They’re sure not immune from specifically seeking out jobs that will allow them to be cruel without any consequences to them, if they get personal satisfaction out of being cruel.

You are trying to shut down a conversation about abuse.

[sunnibits]

Hot take but I don’t think “Hetero” couples in fiction are boring actually I just think they’re boring because we see the same m/f couples every single time.

Allow me to elaborate:

Usually every m/f couple we see in media consists of two conventionally attractive, young, skinny, allosexual, cishet, gender conforming, often white people. And you can always see the relationship coming a mile away.

Imagine how much better it would feel if you saw more of THESE kinds of m/f couples in media:

Fat characters involved in the relationship, and not made into a joke

Disabled characters involved in the relationship, and not made into a joke

A man happily in love with a gnc or masculine woman

A woman happily in love with a gnc or feminine man

Bisexual or pansexual men and women in love with the opposite sex (and bi for bi, Pan for Pan couples)

A man happily in love with a trans woman

A woman happily in love with a trans man

Trans for trans m/f couples

Asexual and gray-sexual people in romantic relationships and being respected in those relationships

Two middle aged people entering a new relationship, with the same attention and slow burn and tension as any young pairing (because middle aged and elder people have love lives too, and can fall in love again even if they’ve been married before!! See Kane/Abby in the 100.)

More POC x POC relationships!

A man who stays at home and takes care of kids x a working woman who isn’t criticized for not being home enough

Supportive parents to queer kids

Punk/alternative/goth m/f couples and parents (bc I just think that’s cool)

Couples who get together and then realize they’re better as friends, and have a healthy breakup while staying super close (and not creating secret drama)

Neurodivergent people involved in the relationship (adhd/autistic men and women infodumping to their supportive partner... happy stimming after a cute interaction with their crush.. it’s just so good) and not made into a joke or infantilized!

BUFF STRONK WOMAN x LIDDOL MAN VERY IN LOVE WITH HIS WIFE

People who aren’t conventionally attractive in a loving relationship, and there isn’t any drama or weird side plot about “learning to love someone for what’s on the inside!!”

and so many more I could think of!!!

Just something to think on. (And remember, not all m/f couples are “hetero”. If you’re still saying “ew heteros!!” every time you see a straight couple, now is the time to stop.)

[guccixcucci]

Our parents really have undiagnosed mental illnesses and we just gotta deal with the problems that come with that

[ultimatraditor]

To cite someone from Russian twitter: "If you don't feel like going to therapist, don't worry — your kids will"