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MBTI AESTHETIC: INFJ (5/16)

As the rarest type in the population, INFJs tend have very contradicting personality traits such as wanting to be noticed but hating attention, or having a logically oriented mindset but disregarding logic in situations where their intuition tells them something different. A difficulty many INFJs struggle with is balancing their contrasting personas. Highly perceptive of people’s feelings, INFJS are very attentive and empathetic listeners who enjoy helping others realize their potential. 

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so i'm an ENFJ and i'm not social with people i'm uncomfortable with, is this normal for an ENFJ?

Actually, yes! I’m an ENFP, and my ENFJ friends and I tend to get kind of uncomfortable around strangers. I honestly think it’s a very normal and human trait for anyone to have. If you’re uncomfortable, why would you be social?

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Here’s Which Myers-Briggs Type You’re Most Likely To Mistype As: INFP

*It’s important to note here that INFPs are the most prone of any personality type to mistyping as something else. Because INFPs live in a world of identity possibilities, they enjoy thinking of themselves in various different lights and are able to thoroughly convince themselves – more so than any other type – that they truly are thinkers, judgers, etc. Their extroverted intuition allows them to see a situation from various different angles and their introverted feeling creates an emotional attachment to the type they decide on. For this reason, INFPs are more prone to mistyping than any other type.

Most likely to mistype as: INFJ

Why the mistype happens: Of all the mistypes that happen between any two types in the MBTI, INFPs mistyping as INFJs is by far the most common one – and this is not necessarily the INFP’s fault. INFPs are the least stereotypically perceptive perceivers. They tend to be quite routine-oriented and not particularly spontaneous in nature – they are open-minded and explorative in their thoughts, not their actions. However, since most free online type tests measure perception based on how physically spontaneous one is or is not, almost all INFPs test as INFJs when they first take an online quiz.

Another factor that leads INFPs to believe they are INFJs is the fact that INFJs are the rarest type statistically. Because INFPs tend to be highly creative and individualistic, most of them have never met another person quite like themselves (including other INFPs). For this reason, they find it fitting that their type is 1% of the population – they think this explains their individuality, when in reality it is their introverted feeling that sets them apart in this regard.

Also likely to mistype as: INTP

Why the mistype happens: INFPs are quite analytical in nature. Introverted feeling is a function that picks apart information to get to its core – and this is easily confused with introverted thinking, which operates in a very similar regard. The difference here is what the end goal of the assessment is – for the INFP, the goal is to find the true meaning of everything they are analyzing. For the INTP, the goal is simply to find the most objective truth. Because objective logic is a weak point for the INFP but intensive analysis is not, they may test as Ts in a slightly defensive measure of protecting their intellectualism – when not familiar with Myers-Briggs, they may not understand that one can be both intellectual and emotional.

Types that are most likely to mistype as INFP: ENFP, ISFP

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How you know each personality likes you.

(Source: This is (loosely) based on situations I’ve seen around me. Please don’t take anything personally, this is solely done with the purpose of being fun. Nothing scientific. ;).)  But if you relate to any of this or want to share your own experience please Repost and share it. I’m very interested in hearing more about it.

ENFP: ENFP’s will smile even more than normally around you and seem starstruck and even shy when they are near you. They seem to pop up everywhere you go. Warning: Do not confuse this with them just being nice or talkative to you. Sometimes them being overly chilled around you is not a good sign. That may mean that they like you as a friend. They are nice to everyone and like pretty much everyone (as a friend) so think twice before you decide they’re actually flirting. ENFP guys might be a little more forward than the females (societies fault). Conclusion: if an ENFP finds you interesting enough to focus on you doing your thing - you’ve caught their interest. They love someone who can stimulate them and feed up their extroverted intuition. There should be no doubt when you’re interesting them for real. 

ESFP: The ESFP will be very quick to figure out they like you and will be quick to make a move and they will know exactly how to turn on their irresistible charms. They will most likely not talk about their feelings to anyone even though they will think about them non-stop. Beware that the ESFP might get bored after a while and may change their mind and see someone else who gets their attention. But if you’re the one they might just be able to focus only on your sexy ass. ;)

INFP: The INFP will idealize the crap out of you and have probably talked to their friends about how wonderful and perfect you are. They might even have imagined whole scenarios where you might or might not have been giving them signs - like looking intensively into their eyes (read: soul). They will probably remember every word you’ve said and studied you to the inner core and will take everything about you and fit them to their own personal world. Let’s say you hate cats but like to read sometimes and the INFP loves cat’s and loves to read. The INFP will throw the cat thing out of the window and imagine you reading all the time.  The INFP will that way come to the conclusion that you fit perfectly together. Look at their Facebook page. They might be posting quotes or stuff that fit perfectly what you were talking about yesterday. Also if you keep getting anonymous poems sent to your phone, you know where they came from.

ISFP: The ISFP will probably not make any move. You will need to make a move on them. Most ISFP’s like being chased - at least that is what frequently happens. It’s very hard to see whether they actually like you or not until you’ve chased them for a while. Then they might open them self up. Or not. They might have a great crush on you but still reject you a few times. You never know.

      INFJ: The INFJ will seem to be completely unaware that you exist until a friend (Who has probably figured out that you’re having a crush on the INFJ) talks them into making a awkward move. Beware of adorable bad puns. When you’re alone they will tell you that they’ve liked you long before you noticed them. They were just too awkward to do anything about it. If they’re spiritual it’s very likely that they have prayed a lot to get to know you. Remember that on the inside the INFJ can be very logically thinking. Even though they like you they might hesitate to do anything at all until they’re sure they’re doing the right thing. Relationships are serious business for them and they want to be sure they’re not going to hurt anyone. Breaking up is not something they’re planning on doing. It’s also a good sign if they take time to talk with you and even counsel you or teach you about things that interest them.

ISFJ: ISFJ’s are going to be very awkward and shy around you and can barely talk about their crush to anyone. They will at most act like their usual sweet helpful self around you and might offer to do something helpful for you. They might even give you something sweet. But don’t expect them to make a move.

ISTJ: The ISTJ will basically find you attractive, choose you and then professionally flirt with you. They will probably do this on Facebook and/or face to face. They will also most likely dress irresistibly. When you’ve been “chosen” by the ISTJ they will not stop until they’ve either gotten what they want or you’ve rejected them. In that case they’re quick to move on to the next target.

INTJ: The INTJ will basically notice your existence. That’s a big step of knowing whether a INTJ likes you. They will also listen to you without constantly interrupting you. You feel like they are actually interested in YOU (talking about things that interest you or apply to you.) It’s a plus sign if he/she takes time to explain for you intellectual concepts to you. Also try to keep your ears open. If he/she seems to know things you’ve not told he/she might have googled you. If that’s obvious - then that’s a very good sign that he/she is interested in you.

ENTJ: Figure out you like them. Kiss you. Figure out they rushed into things and take four weeks to make a rational decision about whether to keep pursuing a relationship or not. Decide that it’s a good decision and invite your confused ass to dinner. Ask you too marry them in 3 months.

ESTJ: ESTJ’s are, like ISTJ’s, very direct. If they like you they will probably talk to you a lot and actually show their interest. ESTJ men will most likely be more direct than the women (again, society’s fault). If you’ve read the book “He’s not that into you” - that might fit an ESTJ very well. The women are also most likely direct but not as much as men. But they will show that they like you - flirting and bossing you around a bit. ESTJ’s are very rarely scared to just do it. It either works or it doesn’t. That’s life. ESTJ’s are also often very service oriented and if they have feelings for someone they will often show love through service. “Actions speak louder than words” is a definition that fit the ESTJ very well when it comes to love.

ESFJ: ESFJ’s can take a long time to figure their own feelings out. They are great understanding other people’s feelings (Srong extraverted feeling) but it can take them a while to figure their own feelings out. In the meantime they will probably act very motherly/fatherly around you. They will worry a lot about you and become very jealous if you’re hanging with someone of the opposite sex (assuming that you’re heterosexual). After they finally figure out that they like you they will probably panic and be very emotional nervous wrecks around you and finally just talk to you about it. Then you know for sure. Hopefully you’ve not given up on the wait by then.

ENFJ: When the ENFJ figures out they like you they will actively seek you out. They will invite you to every event they’ve planned on going to, along with other friends. Like the ESFJ they are better at understanding other peoples feelings than their own (Strong Fe) so it might take a while for them to actually do figure out they’re crushing on you. Like the ESFJ they will most likely panic when they figure it out and might even figure it out too late or after you have moved on with your life and given up. Let’s hope that doesn’t happen.

ESTP: There won’t be any doubt that they’re after you. The only thing you have to worry about is whether they’re after ONLY you. ESTP’s are very adventurous and they like looking around. This doesn’t mean that they do this all the time. But before anything serious has started be sure not to take anything too seriously until the ESTP makes it clear it’s ONLY you he/she wants. If you’re the one the ESTP will make that clear to you and do all he/she can to keep you.

ENTP:  To an ENTP love is a game. If you catch their interest they are going to go all over you really fast trying to win your heart.They might be cautious at first (until they know the person likes them back) and will make moves that are not that obvious but might win you over. They can be very flamboyant but not as much as the ESTP. Sometimes they might even pass as introverts. But they will not easily give up on a “game” they’ve started. They have to win!  If an ENTP get what he/she want’s he/she will keep it. 

ISTP: If an ISTP is not withholding information about themselves from you it’s a sign they might actually like you - but being as mysterious as they are it’s hard to tell. But it’s a really positive sign f they actually care enough to tell you about their day and life. If they miraculously share ANY of their feelings with you then you can at least be sure that they like you in some way. How serious it is is another matter. Also don’t take it too personally if they don’t seem as interested in you as in the new Cadillac their friend purchased. Even if they forget that they’re on a date and leave you without letting you know to try the car out out (true story).

INTP: Similar to the ISTP the sign of an INTP taking the initiative to talk to you is a very positive sign. Especially with deeper, more complex, and probing conversation, he or she likes you and wants to get to know you better. And if he/she seems to be actively seeking you out for these beyond-small-talk conversations, then he or she probably already has a crush on you. If he/she is getting really nervous around you it’s very likely that his/her feelings are getting stronger. INTP’s along with ISTP’s have a hard time handling strong emotions and sometimes don’t know what to do about them. 

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Si, Ni, and mis-perceiving

Submitted by curiouscarson

I had these thoughts about Si, Ni, and subjective vs. objective functions and I wanted to share them. Maybe you’ve already said similar things, but this just helped it make sense to me.

It started when I remembered this post comparing ISFJs and ISFPs. You talk about how Sansa Stark saw Joffrey as she wanted to see him, as her perfect prince, while Arya objectively (through Te/Se) saw how awful he was.

You talk about it again here and here, Si-doms view the world through personal mythologies.

“Sansa is incredibly naive when she starts out, because she is predominantly judging reality through her own subjective, nuanced, abstract, personal mythology – through her Si.  …The idea that Si-doms are realists is not accurate; we are sensory-aware, but shifting reality into what we WANT IT TO BE, and what FITS OUR PERSONAL MYTHOLOGY, rather than seeing it as it truly is. It goes beyond tradition, or routine, or wanting sameness, to a perception of reality colored by our subjective, abstract impressions. …”

Then, I started thinking about if this is true for Ni, because Si and Ni act alike in a lot of ways. Se makes it objective about sensory reality, but when it comes to symbols and ideas, Ni-doms see what they want to see/ believe what they want to believe as much as Si.

A Ni-dom will say x represents y, because that’s what it represents to them. Whereas Ne, the objective function, says x could represent y, or it could represent w, x or z. You’ve mentioned an INFJ who sees Elsa from Frozen as an INFJ because Elsa represents to them what is is like to be an INFJ, even though the functions make no sense, even though she could represent depression, or eating disorders, or repressed homosexuality, or any other sort of alienating condition.

Ni-doms also overlay their vision for the future over their personal experiences, they way Si-doms overlay that past. They look at things by how they affect their vision, whether its a vision of their personal future or the big picture, the good of the kingdom, and they don’t have Ne’s way of easily seeing multiple outcomes.

This all led to the conclusion that IJs, because they’re led first by their introverted perceiving function (Si or Ni), and their external,objective perceiving function is inferior, are more likely to deceive themselves, that is to see things as they want them to be not as they actually are.

Si-doms view the past and the sensory realm through a personalized lense, or their “personal mythologies”.

Ni-doms have subjective views about symbols and the future.

They can still achieve objectivity through their other functions: Ne sees other possibilities and can weigh them all equally, Se sees the sensory world as it really is, and either Te or Fe helps.

Obviously any type can be deceived, but this problem is most apparent in IJs (IJs will struggle with it more), because their introverted perceiving function is overlaying any other function, and their external (objective) perceiving function is inferior.

I guess this can help with typing, especially when you see a character acting based on perceiving the world in a way that is contrary to reality. I don’t know if this could also be true of IPs, since Fi and Ti are also subjective functions?

Editor’s Note: all the introverts have the capability of believing in something that is contrary to reality, because they are separate from it and perceiving the world through an irrational (subjective) function. Also, in keeping with this contrast and the Sansa connection, notice how Margaery has no delusions about Joffrey (social extrovert, led by an extroverted judging function) whereas Littlefinger’s fanatical obsession with Catelyn Stark also makes him somewhat detached from reality (SHE NEVER WANTED YOU).

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The Strengths of an INFJ

• They see through dishonesty and deception. • Are insightful and can see how events and people are connected. • Are able to follow through on their ideas. They have the willpower and ability to plan complex projects and follow through to the end. They act on their insights. • Determined and passionate when they believe something is important. • If they are proud of what they are speaking of, they’ll speak with passion and warmth. • They want to make the world a better place.

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The Perils and Pitfalls of Inferior Te

Type: INFP.

 All my life, as young as in elementary school, my limited control of my Te has been a bane of my existence. My life’s normally in mild chaos (although I’m not the most disorganized or erratic NP you’ll meet), which I only mind after a certain point. I don’t typically feel impelled to regulate and arrange my environment, but my inferior Te tendencies emerge when I start to feel stressed, paranoid, or insecure. They urge me to take some action to fix the problem, but I tend to resort to dramatic, often ill-considered methods (jumping from one extreme to the other) to resolve the issue as quickly as possible. Obviously, my impulsive, sweeping actions have backfired plenty of times.

 My Te is definitely useful when I need to be productive, and I can be an effective, diligent worker, but it takes conscious effort to apply myself to the project at hand. Finding and executing practical solutions are not my “innate” talents, and I have to deliberately move beyond my natural Fi-Ne state (THE FEELS! THE DAYDREAMS! THE POSSIBILITIES!) to put my conceptual ideas and visions into practice. It’s a haphazard, awkward process, and whenever I use my Te for an extended period, I’m constantly worrying about how things will go awry. I also have to recharge for a while after I’ve used it, whether in structuring a long research dissertation for school or helping my friends plan out their schedules.

 I chronically struggle with making moderate to life-altering decisions and sticking to them, even as I wish I were more decisive. I repeatedly second-guess myself, I dither between the options, and my Ne complicates the matter by bringing up catastrophic possibilities and illuminating potential obstacles in my plans. As a perfectionist, I’m afraid of choosing the wrong path, lest all the ramifications explode in my face, so I’d prefer to keep my options open, which jives with my Te’s desire for closure and precision. Therefore, I often prefer to let others make decisions, even as mundane as where my friends and I go out to dinner, unless it violates any of my major values, although I normally set clear stipulations for what I’m willing to do and let them take it from there. I also often have difficulty letting go of my hyperbolic, idealized perception of reality and examining it objectively, without letting my pesky emotions and longings get in the way. 

Anyways, I’ve noticed I also have, when it comes to research, a “Hermione Granger” (Te-Si) mode. Though it takes extra effort on my part to stay disciplined and not meander off after my own interests, I can be an effective, discerning gatherer of relevant information. With deliberate effort, I can pinpoint what content, particularly minute details, is useful and beneficial and winnow out what is irrelevant or ineffectual. I trust objective information from verifiable sources and accredited by specialists over revelations pulled out of someone’s unmonitored mind (as my ultimate shadow function, Ti baffles me). I expect serious arguments (in literature, papers, or formal speeches) to come with substantial supporting evidence and to have a process of reasoning I can follow. For me, facts are completely external and objective, and emotions, opinions, and values are inevitably individualized, filtered through one’s own subjective experience and biases.

Ultimately, I wish I had more control of my Te, but I’m working to cultivate it, and I’ve experienced some growth. I tend to use it mostly in academic or intellectual purposes, but it is there, nagging me about my insecurities and grounding me when I want to pursue nebulas of ideas and possibilities that don’t have much edifying or practical merit for my life, the lives of people around me, or the world. I love ideas and fantasy for their own sake, but I’m progressively realizing that ideas and action do not (and should not!) be divorced from each other, lest we stagnate and get into polarizing disputes.

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What would a friendship be like for an INFJ and an INFP?

I had a really really good friend who was an INFP. We were best friends for years, but now I don’t see her anymore :/  This post makes me nostalgic.

Ah well.

Here are some thoughts:

1) INFPs are so idealistic. Like god damn, I thought I had it bad :) The beautiful thing is that they see potential in people everywhere. I know I try to do that, but they are a force to behold in the way they always see the potential for good. The bad things is that this can lead to fights when an INFJ thinks that the INFP are just imposing their ideas on reality and INFP gets offended.

2) the INFP’s that I’ve known are extremely artistic. Even the ones that aren’t into art or whatever have a way with words and writing or just presenting their emotions. As an Fe user, sometimes the way they can put their self-consciousness aside and just express is something that I get inspired by and learn from. I had a lot of fun with my infp friend just writing short stories and creating plotlines and characters spontaneously.

3) They are fiercely loyal but then… (they can get clingy.) They will give you all of them…every thought, every emotion, and in return they will accept you despite anything. However, an unhealthy amount of this can lead to a lot of “saving” going on. Some INFP are drawn to “saving” people who are not good for them. Which leads them to neglect and hurt in the long run, especially if the person whom they are “saving” aren’t emotionally stable enough to give back, but they also are so loyal that they refuse to give up. *shakes head*

4) Most that I’ve known struggle with insecurities and self-worth. It’s sad because they really are such remarkable people (but their strengths don’t align with what society looks for in strong people). This is something I felt like I could never contribute enough for my INFP friend…I had no idea how to get her to value herself :/ 

5) Snowflake syndrome. Both INFJ’s and INFP’s can have moments where they feel they that their identity lies in their uniqueness. Thus a situation can occur where they both decide that they have the same specialness…which leads to their not being so unique…and this will either lead to the INFJ and INFP becoming best friends or calling each other names.

Fin. Any INFP thoughts on this would be nice too because I feel like this is pretty one-sided.

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What are INFJs like when they're in love? Like, what are some behaviors they might have and why would they act that way?

Honestly, I could write paragraphs about how INFJs react to love. If they really feel something, they tend to feel it to extremes- so loving someone can be chaotic experience for them. 

Here are some behaviors that can signify an INFJ is in love:

Quiet, awed staring. 

A warm smile and their full attention when you talk. 

If you make eye contact out of the blue, they’ll react- whether by staring back, blushing, or quickly turning away. It depends on what they’re thinking and how they’re analyzing you in that particular moment. 

If given the excuse, the INFJ will engage in conversation with you.

Making it known that they care about what you think of them to a larger extent than normal. Whether this is through sticking up for you, trying to help you if you come to them with advice, or treating you like you’re their first priority. 

Their moods will change rapidly based on how you interact with them- for example, if you blatantly ignore the INFJ, then they’ll seem a bit closed-off or upset. The best way to deal with this is asking the INFJ if they’re okay- even if he or she isn’t willing to answer, they’ll feel better once they know you care about them emotionally.

It can be hard to tell if an INFJ likes you, as they tend to give off very mixed signals. They could be sure you like them one moment, making them act warm and friendly, or confused the next, resulting in a sad and closed-off demeanor. 

The best way to talk to a shy, seclusive INFJ is simply by coming up to them and starting a conversation based on a common topic- whether it’s about what they’re reading, the horrible pop quiz in Physics, or just for advice. Eventually, though, they’ll want to veer off of drabble and delve into more interesting topics (like philosophy). If they seem really interested in talking to you, this is probably a sign that the INFJ likes you.

Hope this helped!

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The INFP, or “Idealist,” is a character that has a very active imagination. They tend to not only see the best in the people around them, but they may also be led to imagining characteristics and motives in others that simply aren’t there. Much like the INFJ, INFPs really dislike conflict and will...

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MBTI Fears

ISFJ: Did I lock the doors to my house??? What if someone gets in and takes my scrap books!?

ESFJ: Do people actually love me? Yeah they love me…they have to love me I do no wrong!…right? But what if they aren’t obsessed with me? All this thinking makes me want to work harder!

ESTP: Crap, do I have to commit to something?

INTP: People. PEOPLE!

INFJ: Am I doing the right thing? Does this fit with my morals? I really hope I’m not the same as everyone else!!! Did someone say ethics? 

ESFP: What is I miss out on that opportunity?! Do people think I’m grumpy? I should act extra happy/hyper just in case!

ISTP: Should I go talk to that person? What if they talk about something I don’t want to listen to? I know people are stupid, but I wish my face didn’t look so disgusted by them all the time!

ENTP: I hope things aren’t boring today! If nothing stimulates my mind today I’m going to go even more crazy!!!  

ISFP: WHY am I SO paranoid?? I’m even paranoid about being paranoid! 

INFP: I really hope someone doesn’t say something important today when I’m daydreaming, or I’m going to cry.

ENFP: I wanna say and do this really awesome thing, but what if when I do it people reject it then what?! HUH? THEN WHAT? 

ENTJ: Crap, the world is the worst…what if I’m the worst?! Is this guy going to tell me every little detail about the thing? Why cant they just cut to the point?!

ENFJ: NO NOT CONFLICT! AM I going to have to try and fix this? What if I hurt someones feelings!?!

ISTJ: Will I have to interact with people today? What if they do something weird? People are too unpredictable!

ESTJ: What if people don’t belive m? Well it’ll be their loss, I know what I’m doing…what if I don’t? NAAH! That’s impossible! But what if someone else is better than me? I CANT LET THAT HAPPEN

INTJ: People are so stupid it scares me! I don’t know how to react to things! I DONT WANT TO GO OUTSIDE. MY COMPUTER IS MY BEST FRIEND

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Dating an INFP personality type

The keywords in the INFP personality type according to the Myers-Briggs method, stand for Introversion, Intuition, Feeling and Perspective. All these make people of the INFP type idealistic, loyal and committed to long-term relationships. Here are a few dating tips if you are in a relationship with an INFP man or woman.

Appreciate their devotion to ideals

The result of the combination of Introversion and Intuition in this group of people means that they are highly idealistic in nature. They are deeply committed to making the world a better place to live and the presence of the keyword Feeling indicates that they are also acutely conscious of how people are affected by various circumstances and what will make them feel better. So when you are with your INFP date think twice before pocketing the extra change the waitress may have mistakenly handed over to you or telling a fib to your boss or family member. Above all, avoid making light of your INFP partner’s devotion to a cause they believe in. You may have your doubts about the pragmatic benefit of collecting money on behalf of war-orphans from Afghanistan or strays from around your neighborhood but arguing about it or demeaning the intentions of those who are working for the cause will most likely put your INFP friend off you. Rather tag along if your INFP partner wants you to accompany them to a charity dinner or a fundraiser. Even if you do not believe in the particular cause, affirm your support for kindness, generosity and desire to help the less privileged, ideals which are all held in great regard by INFPs.

Treat them gently

INFPs usually present a calm and pleasant face to the world with few things appearing to ruffle or upset them seriously. However they are actually capable of deep and intense feelings but only after they decide to make you part of their tight circle of close friends and family. This is perhaps why in the early stages of dating, you may be a little perturbed by your partner’s shyness and reserve. But remember this is how they are. They are cautious about expressing their innermost feelings to people they don’t know well and will only let into their world once they are assured that you share or at least respect their ideals and values. Their Intuitive and Feeling aspects makes INFPs highly sensitive to how others treat them but will often keep negative reactions to them since they are unwilling to enter into confrontations. However if this goes on for long, an INFP will simply drift away from the relationship rather than express what they have been feeling and why.

Value commitment

One of the ideals that INFPs lay great store by is loyalty. Commitment and constancy are extremely important to people of this personality type and so you would do well not to engage in a relationship with INFPs unless you are sure of what you want. INFP people understand this which is why they are shy and reserved in the beginning and open up only when they are certain that you want the relationship for keeps. Give proof of your commitment if you are serious about your INFP partner; this could range from happily agreeing to date them exclusively to resisting the temptation of meeting an ex for lunch or coffee even if it’s just to see ‘how things are going on’. Few things upset INFPs as much as flippancy and infidelity because they hold their values and the people they love very close to their heart.

Avoid discord

The presence of Feeling and Perspective in their psychological makeup, leads INFPs to be acutely conscious of the people around them and their reactions. They thrive best in harmonious environments and tend to stay away from places where discord and disputes predominate. This is a useful thing to keep in mind when dating an INFP partner. So when thinking of places to take your date, avoid venues like your favorite debating club or intensely competitive activities like playing chess if you have nothing better to do on a rainy evening. Your INFP partner would much rather groove to some light music in a small pub or be taken for a long pleasant drive in the countryside. A harmonious environment to INFPs also means where they are not always up against evidence of pettiness or negativity all the time. So be sure to avoid bickering and constant criticisms in your relationship. If there are any issues to be resolved, approach them in a calm and pleasant way and you will surely get their attention. INFPs like to deal with the outside world in a casual and relaxed way and are put off by people who enforce their own views or way of doing things. Hence it is as important to give them their space as it is to understand their need for a harmonious and positive environment.

INFPs are on the whole relaxed and adaptable people which make them easy to get on with once you are able to reach across their shyness. Their congeniality and easy-going natures make INFPs delightful as partners since they make few demands in their relationships. They are also sensitive, kind and times generous to a fault. However INFPs can also surprise you with their rigidity once they feel that one of their principle values has been threatened. So you may be happily cruising along in a relationship with your easy-going  INFP partner but one day give in to temptation and visit a stripper’s club on a boy’s night out. If so, you might be surprised by the harshness of your partner’s reaction since when one of their core values are threatened, INFPs are notoriously difficult to appease and can come off as uncharacteristically rigid. Overall, INFPs are nurturing and loyal in their relationships and are ideal as long-term partners.