guess my current hyperfixation

Nojgli, 20s she/they just chilling in the valley of despair

[skeletonclaw]

[joelletwo]

[ID: comic by OP about a bar graph measuring skills from bad to good to great.

panel one: one skill maxed out at great. a person stands proudly on the bar, captioned "You can achieve true greatness if you focus fully on one thing."

two: person frowning at many skills with various levels hovering between bad and good, captioned "If you have too many interests you'll never reach your full potential."

three: person climbs the mediocre skill bars like ladder rungs, captioned "Wait, where the fuck are you going?"

four: person sits comfortably atop the graph and looks out over a blue sky and ocean

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[imjustpeacheyy]

[nlkjbkhvjucgkyfxjtd]

pls support trans girls and trans women who like traditionally masculine things

[nlkjbkhvjucgkyfxjtd]

no seriously please reblog this ive seen so many posts saying to support trans boys and trans men who like traditionally feminine things and those posts are good!! i love them!!

but i have never in my life seen a post saying to support masculine trans girls and trans women or trans girls and trans women who like traditionally masculine things and its really important to understand that showing support for trans women in any form is just as important as showing support for trans men so please, please reblog this.

support trans women and trans girls. support trans women and trans girls who like traditionally masculine things. trans women and trans girls who like traditionally masculine things are not any less valid than trans women and trans girls who don’t!!

[wizardshark]

Is there a place in this world for a simple snuffling sneefster like me?

[imjustpeacheyy]

[marlinspirkhall]

Nothing funnier than having a 20 minute crashout about how much you hate your job and then continuing with your day. I hope hunter-gatherers did this midway through tracking their lunch.

[marlinspirkhall]

#genuinely because like if we were always like this then maybe it will be okay #and life isnt uniquely horrible now

@daftpatience

[marlinspirkhall]

#idk life is uniquely horrible now though #like they didn't have the torment nexus in caveman times

@dearminty

[sexybritishllama]

just finished this month's book club book, went skimming goodreads reviews afterwards as you do, got my breath taken away by this absolutely brutal ending to one of the multi-paragraph 1 star reviews

[thombalan]

Follow my artist’s journal on Patreon for free. 💙

Link in bio. ☝️

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

girl why the hell WEREN'T you at the devil's sacrament 👀 that's three sacraments in a row you've missed 👀 👀 👀

[inkskinned]

y'okay can we stop pretending yet. like can we all acknowledge that eating disorders are chic again, and it's going to kill someone.

and like. do we have to keep gently phrasing things to protect naturally-thin people's feelings. in my life it has never been fashionable to be fat. "fat" is still a bad word. there has never been institutional power pushing people to gain weight; no trillion-dollar industry to "fix" skinny people. a larger body type has never been over-represented in models, influencers, celebrities. sure, people might say "i'm worried for your health," but they do it with respect and gentleness, like they're talking to a scared deer.

every single fucking time i talk about this, i have to be so careful with what i say, in case i offend even one skinny person. it is just true that skinny people have social capital across many cultures. there is a reason you almost never hear someone say "i wish i was fat," but you will constantly see people say "I wish i was thin." and yet inevitably some skinny person will tell me: i thought you wanted body positivity. it is the same fucking attitude as when a cis man says "when you say men have power, well, i've been bullied for being a man. i thought you believe in mental health awareness. don't you know men have a higher suicide rate?"

two things can be true at once: your experience being bullied for being thin was terrible. and people with larger bodies probably have it worse.

i have been big and small. i know many other people who have been big and small. trust what i'm about to tell you: being small is much easier. the world is kinder to you. people treat you better. honestly, this pattern occurs pretty much regardless of gender - my guy friends have confided that they'd rather be bullied for being thin than be bullied for being fat. if you're skinny, the pressure might be to gain weight, sure, but it's often to do so in a way that keeps you skinny - to gain muscle, specifically.

thinness is seen as innate and natural, genetic. whereas carrying any fat - that is a moral failing. it is assumed to be related to your character, your personality. i have seen people equate it to discipline, to hygiene. that bias is why we need to talk about this.

of course i want nobody to make a comment about anyone's bodies. and i think that hyper-thinness and an obsession with weight loss and a recession and a rise of conservative values... all of this is very fucking concerning. we are watching a return of "pro-ana" content, reframed as choice feminism, "health-conscious" behavior, "looksmaxxing". it's fucking terrifying.

[werewolf-transgenderism]

oh my god I just saw the cutest thing in the world. little Black girl with beads in her hair for the first day of school and the beads were pink then silver then a bunch of yellow then beige then grey to make them look like pencils 🥺🥺🥺 brb I will draw an artist’s rendition

[werewolf-transgenderism]

^ like this. waaaaaugh 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[moringmark]

[squidish]

okayyyy listen up people 📣📣📣 everyone can stop calling anyone they hate a narcissist now!! we're all done we're moving on to the next new thing: talking kindly about mentally ill people. alright, thanks for your time. pass the message along.

[dear-ao3]

[squidish]

okayyyy listen up people 📣📣📣 everyone can stop calling anyone they hate a narcissist now!! we're all done we're moving on to the next new thing: talking kindly about mentally ill people. alright, thanks for your time. pass the message along.

[directactionforhope]

Also if you are someone who sees people say or joke that "eldest daughter is its own gender," and think that's ridiculous:

Gender is culturally constituted.

(This is an incredibly basic tenet of both feminist theory and queer theory, btw.)

So, this was not a thing in the culture you were raised in, great.

But in a lot of cultures, eldest daughter IS its own specific gendered positionality.

Listen: One side of my family is from a conservative, religious immigrant community, and a very Catholic part Eastern Europe before that.

I've talked to my mom about her childhood. And you know what she has said to me about a lot of the girls she grew up with?

"Some of those girls had no freedom at all."

There are households where Eldest Daughter = Mandatory 2nd Mom, from an age as young as 5 or 7.

There are households where the boys can do whatever they want and go wherever they want, while the daughters are never allowed to go anywhere except school and church, and the oldest daughter is responsible for doing all the chores - while the boys have to do none - and taking care of every single younger sibling.

There are households where the eldest daughter's job is to protect the younger siblings interpersonally and from violence - including, painfully often, violence within the house.

There are households where the eldest daughter's job is to be okay, and help with or fully manage care work for younger siblings, until every single other person in the house has been seen to.

There are families where no one gives a shit about any daughter that isn't the first, and grandparents will legitimately ignore every other daughter.

And there are a lot of women who could only get an education because their parents had no sons.

Yes, sons and daughters younger than the eldest absolutely can and do get parentified as well, especially in times of strain. And that's fucked up and needs to stop. But in a lot of cultures, the eldest daughter specifically is expected to do far, far more parenting and work and housework than the actual fucking husband / parents. And this is by expectation and by default.

If you haven't seen this shit, great, I'm so glad for you that you haven't had to see or deal with this shit.

But that doesn't mean it isn't fucking real.

[gremlininho]

[thats-a-cat]

that's a cat ✅️