Not Completely Cis Tips

        ~Basil (formerly Milo) -them/they- genderqueer pansexual polyamorous XXX Emmett, they/them, age:19, pan nonbinary  XXX  Rain they/them pan/ace demiboy XXX Ari, They/them, ace nonbinary XXX Any/all genders and sexual orientations accepted! Homophobia, sexism, abelism, racism, and hate will be blocked. 

[myglitterkitty]

your identity is valid

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- Mod Rain

[questingqueer]

I’m writing this because when I first started my transition, I worried that most of the trans people I’d meet, binary trans men and trans women, wouldn’t be supportive of me because I’m a medically transitioning non-binary and genderqueer teen.

I’m glad to find that I’ve been welcomed in the LGBT community despite that worry.

I’m an active participant and member of the LGBT community- I came out publicly as gay at 13 and trans at 15, I’ve attended many pride festivals and parades, I’ve been to LGBT youth groups, I’ve attended many trans and LGBT conferences, I’ve presented workshops myself 3 years at LGBT conferences, I’ve been to high school GSAs and college LGBT organizations, I’ve been a guest speaker on trans issues for a panel for doctors at a local hospital, I’ve presented to school nurses and teachers, to police officers and parents, I’ve been to general trans support groups, I’ve been to transmasc lower surgery support groups, I mod a trans advice blog here with 55,000 followers, etc.

I’ve also had my fair share of interactions with professionals, including psychologists, endocrinologists, and surgeons. I’ve always been open about being non-binary, and all of these medical professionals have been totally supportive of it.

So yeah, I have some “trans experience“ if you will.

But after I first posted about being non-binary and starting testosterone, I got a lot of truscum in my inbox telling me that I would regret it and I’m taking resources from “real trans people” and so on.

This negative reaction is something that I’ve never encountered from other trans people and medical professionals IRL. I’ve found that the vast majority of trans people are totally chill with non-binary folk. I’ve never, ever had another trans person refuse to use my pronouns, or tell me that I shouldn’t be medically transitioning. And none of the medical professionals I’ve seen second guessed me or my goals or said I wasn’t valid.

Yep, I’ve seen many psychologists (some who specialize in trans care) and all of them have been respectful of my non-binary identity and written me the WPATH letters I need.

Yep, I’ve seen two endocrinologists who were happy to prescribe me testosterone- first at a low dose, as I requested, then at a regular dose as my transition goals evolved.

Yep, I’ve seen a top surgeon who asked me about my pronouns and gender then said “I can leave in as much tissue as you want, you can have a breast reduction, top surgery, or in between, whatever you need.” I explained my goals (sensation and a flat chest) and he respected that, and I got top surgery.

Yep, I’ve seen a surgeon for my hysterectomy and I explained that I’m non-binary and wanted to keep my ovaries in case I decide to go off testosterone but get my uterus removed, and he said “Does July work?” And I said it did, and I got a hysterectomy.

Yep, when I walked into the lower surgeon’s office she asked me my pronouns and I said they/them, she asked me my gender and I said non-binary, then she said “Do you want meta or phallo?”. I said I want phalloplasty without urethral lengthening and a vaginectomy. Never did she say “Oh no, it’s not valid to be non-binary and want a penis and vagina.” What she said was “I can do that.”

That isn’t to say that there isn’t any nb-phobia at all, but in my experience, the people who are the best educated about trans issues (medical professionals and other trans people) are supportive of non-binary identities.

While those hateful nb-phobic truscum voices may be loud online, they really don’t represent the vast majority of the trans community at all, or the opinions of the medical professionals who actually treat trans people.

The only issues I’ve ever encountered were with cis laypeople who needed some education about non-binary folk, and truscum + radfems + conservative trolls online- not exactly good company there.

So if you’re a young non-binary person and you’re feeling like you aren’t trans enough, or that you won’t ever have a place in the trans community, I’m here to tell you that you belong.

My version of non-binary may not be the same as yours, but whether or not you want to medically transition, you belong. You belong no matter how you want to present yourself. You belong no matter what pronouns you use. You belong no matter what micro-label you find the most comfortable. You belong with dyed hair, you belong if you’re androgynous, you belong if you’ve switched your labels a few times while figuring yourself out, you belong if you aren’t gender nonconforming, you belong if you’re afab and feminine, you belong if you’re amab and masculine.

If you’re non-binary, you belong in the trans community (if you want to be) and you are trans enough, and you count, and you are valid. Full stop. No exceptions.

[notcompletelycistips]

- Mod Rain

[proudnb]

You should embrace yourself as a nonbinary person not to make our community visible or acceptable, but live your life openly and with pride as you deserve.

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- Mod Rain

[softlysucculent-deactivated2019]

here’s a trans girl version of the post i made earlier for trans boys! 💓

[sexy-androgynous-satan]

@ass-tolfo

[trans-axolotl]

Image description: [4 pictures of a tabby cat with a graphic of the trans flag layered on top of it with text that says: hey pals i’m trans girl positivity cat! i’m here to tell every trans girl that she is beautiful and i support her! so if one day you feel unsupported, remember that i do, and you are valid! i hope you have a wonderful day!]

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- Mod Rain

[positivelyenby]

Biiiig fucking shoutout to nonbinary kiddos who dont feel dyaphoria or whose dysphoria is pretty minimal! Yall are so valid and amazing i hope every single one of you has a great day

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- Mod Rain

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

LGBTA+ Christian Resources

Our old resources page was a bit messy, and not as exhaustive as we’d like. Thus, we’ve created a new and improved edition with sections for biblical analyses, personal testimonies, and identity-specific resources.

If the source is available online, it will be followed by an asterisk.* Otherwise, the (x) leads to a site where you can purchase the source. You can also check your local library for the source.

If the link leads to something we posted on our blog in the past, it will be marked by (OP) at the end.

This list, cataloguing resources that affirm and support LGBTA+ Christians, will always be an ongoing project, so feel free to suggest any other resources, especially for the sections of this list that are a bit sparse. Thank you, and may God’s peace embrace all you seekers of Truth.

**For even more links and answers to specific questions, see our FAQ!**

WHERE CAN I FIND COMMUNITY?

If you live in the UK: link to this post with UK resources reblogged (x)*

Find an affirming church near you (US & Canada only) (x)*

Find an affirming church near you (many countries available) (x)*

More Light Presbyterians (USA) (x)*

Faithful America: a group for social justice (USA) (x)*

List of (mostly non-tumblr) blogs, LGBT Christians, to follow (x)*

On tumblr: some Christian LGBT+ friendly blogs (x)*

On tumblr: our masterpost of LGBT+ Christians (OP) (x)*

BUT WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?…

Discussion of Biblical translation and interpretation and their relation to LGBT+ affirmation (OP) (x)*

A short post on how same-sex relationships can bear Good Fruit and what that means based on scripture (OP) (x)*

A post putting ancient Israelite views on sexuality into context (OP) (x)*

God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines (224 p.) (x)

Matthew Vines’ views in lecture form on YouTube: (x), (x)*

A deconstruction on the “clobber claims,” the Bible passages people use against LGBT Christians (x)*

And another take on the “clobber claims” (x)*

“Side A” testimony with Biblical analysis (x)*

Hope Remains – a site offering a basic deconstruction of the Bible passages used to condemn LGBT (focuses on LG) people (note: some of its arguments do not seem as credible to me as those offered by other sources, but this site is still worth reading through; you can make your own judgements) (x)*

Taking a look at God’s rules/laws in the Bible (x)*

The Good Book: Reading the Bible with Mind and Heart (440 p.) (x)*

YouTube series that discusses trans identities and the Bible (x)*

Gender and Galatians 3:28 – “no more male and female ” (OP) (x)*

PERSONAL TESTIMONIES

A link to all of the testimonies that have been posted to our blog for our Testimony Tuesday (OP) (x)*

Torn by Justin Lee, founder of the Gay Christian Network (272 p.) (x)

Rescuing Jesus: How People of Color, Women, and Queer Christians Are Reclaiming Evangelism by Deborah Jian Lee (x)

“My Identity in Christ Includes My Orientation (x)*

GNC Radio: a weekly podcast for those who prefer to listen to testimonies rather than read them. Each week features a different LGBT+ Christian. (x)*

More GNC audio testimonies (x)*

A Queer Calling: the blog of a celibate same-sex couple (x)*

Believe Out Loud – site that posts many testimonies (x)*

GENERAL LGBT SOURCES

Queer Grace: an Encyclopedia for LGBTQ and Christian Life: (x)*

The Reformation Project: (x)*

The Gay Christian Network (US-based) (x)*

Gay Christian Alliance (US-based) (tends to focus on gay individuals) (x)*

Reconciling in Christ: Lutherans for Full Participation (x)*

Institute for Welcoming Resources (x)*

A support site for LGBT Mormons (x)*

A La Familia: un libro en línea sobre la Biblia, la familia, la orientación y la identidad de género, escrito en el español y en el inglés (x)*

Brief post on Jesus’s message and producing good fruit (OP) (x)*

True Colors: Celebrating the Truth and Beauty of the Real You by Susan Cottrell (x)

The Center for Prophetic Imagination (x)*

Prayer for those being bullied for their identity(OP) (x)*

Prayer for when your validity is questioned (OP) (x)*

Prayer for those in the closet (OP) (x)*

Prayer for self-acceptance (OP) (x)*

Prayer when facing rejection after coming out (OP) (x)*

SOURCES FOR GAY CHRISTIANS

Note: many of these sources can be useful to other branches of the community as well, but focus on gay individuals particularly. Similarly, many of the sources in the bible section and general section above focus on gay individuals or on same-sex relationships, so check those out as well.

Same-Sex Unions in Pre-Modern Europe (464 p.) (x)

The Children Are Free: Reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-Sex Relationships (106 p.) (x)

Brief post on that “love the sinner, hate the sin” phrase (OP) (x)*

TRANS, NONBINARY, AND GNC CHRISTIANS

Austen Hartke’s trans Christian list of resources (x)*

transfaithonline.org (x)*

transchristians.org: provides affirmation of trans and gnc Christians using scripture; also has links to other sources (x)*

Info and resources for intersex Christians (x)*

“Transgender Identity in Christ”: an insightful blog post on the topic (x)*

“Finding Faith in Jesus as a Transgender Christian” (x)*

My Name Is Brett: Truths from a Trans Christian (x) 

A great YouTube series with over 40 videos discussing being a trans Christian, by a trans Christian (x)*

Interview by above YouTuber with a nonbinary Christian (x)*

Prayer for trans and nb Christians (x)*

Prayer when transitioning (x)*

BI/PAN/POLY CHRISTIANS

Tips for being inclusive of bi Christians (x)*

Eliel Cruz’s tumblr, where he often discusses being a bi Christian (x)*

Believe Out Loud’s articles on/by bi Christians (x)*

“Why Being Bi Makes Me a Better Pastor” (x)*

“Discovering Bisexuality as a Spiritual Calling” (x)*

Blessed Bi Spirit: Bisexual People of Faith (x)

ACE AND ARO CHRISTIANS

asexualchristian’s tumblr (x)*

“I Mistook my Asexuality for Sexual Purity” (x)*

The Bible (primarily the New Testament) on never having sex (x)*

Sex and romance are not God’s greatest gifts (x)*

Prayer for ace and aro Christians (x)*

SIDE B (PRO INTENTIONAL CELIBACY) CHRISTIANS

Note: “Side B” Christians, often LGBT themselves, believe that LGBT+ Christians are called to celibacy. This is a valid personal choice, and so we offer sources that are pro Side B here. If you are looking for material that hold that same-sex romantic/sexual relationships are affirmed by God (”Side A”), these are likely not the sources for you.

The Side B Argument explained: (x)*

Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry (x)

Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill (x)

The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert by Rosario Champagne Butterfield (x)

People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle (x)

@thegreatkiskadee’s essay on being Side B (x)*

CHRISTIAN ALLIES OF LGBTA+ CHRISTIANS

Our tips for allies (OP) (x)*

“Staying Silent No More” (x)*

Becoming an Ally (see vid at bottom of webpage) (x)* 

“6 Things to Stop Saying to Gay People” (x)*

Short YouTube vid on why we are all called to allyship (x)*

Prayer for when a loved one comes out to you (OP) (x)*

Mom, I’m Gay by Susan Cottrell (x)

For churches that want to be affirming – RIC has resources (x)*

For Anti-LGBT Christians:

An open letter for you (OP) (x)*

And finally, a link to our resources tag: (x)*

[notcompletelycistips]

- Mod Rain

[gryfon-spanish-werewolf]

So I found this App called ‘Xe’.

It’s like a game, and really easy to use.

You select a pronoun, and there are quite a few.

And they give you all the conjugations, kind of like all those old language lessons in high school.

And after a few examples, they’ll test ya!

Type in your answer. If you get it wrong, you can try again no sweat.

All in all I thought it was pretty cool and I know I’ll be using it in the future!

You can try it for yourself and learn more about pronouns and the network Minus18 with these links. Happy learning everyone!

[genderfluxsupport]

oh. my. gosh. this is awesome! -OR

[ergativeabsolutive]

!!!

[grace-and-ace]

Good shit

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- Mod Rain

[pazwrites]

hey yeah so like if you’re bisexual or pansexual or nonbinary or any other gender/sexuality that gets a lot of flack for “not being queer enough” or “not being real” then i hope you know that you’re super valid and it takes a lot of courage to go through the day being your genuine self despite being attacked for it

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- Mod Rain

[pre-t-dude]

For trans guys or just anyone who’s insecure about being shorter than others, I recently got these pad things to put in my shoes that make me a few inches taller and dude it’s awesome to not be the shorter dude anymore! 10/10 I can now reach the top shelf of my pantry

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- Mod Rain

[the-bi-furious-babe]

It’s okay to be a bisexual who IS confused, who IS experimenting, who DOESN’T know what they want. You’re still a valid bisexual, deserving of love and respect.

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Mod Emmett

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Hey, yo, what’s up?

Emmett here. I haven’t been in the best mindset recently. I have depression and a terrible sleep schedule and it’s been messing with me. I haven’t kept up with any kind of posting schedule and even now, at 12 am, I’m awake and have zero consistency.

I guess my main thing here is what kind of schedule would you folks like? Is there a certain time or times that would be most convenient for my posts? Ari and Rain have their own schedules and post when they can and I appreciate that. But as the main mod I feel I should be posting more often.

I’d love to have more asks and anons. I’d love to be more connected to our community.

I’ll try to have some more consistency when I post now. Thank you for your patience.

Mod Emmett

[nick-ii]

Trans* People I have a tip!!!! * means all nb, agender, genderfluid, etc come here too!!!!

Note: Some of this is probably written like a joke, but that’s just because I’m tired. I’m actually completely serious in what I say. I’ve done a lot of research for feminine/masculine/neither scents. Of course, I haven’t done ALL the research in the world, and I’m talking mainly about America here, because I don’t know if it’s different outside of America, but still.

Okay so

SCENTS

For some reason, they’re gendered????? Don’t ask me why, but lemme tell YOU how you can use this weird-ass gendering of inanimate objects To! Your! Advantage!

MASULINE SCENTS:

Herbs (basil, rosemary,) mints (spearemint, peppermint), wood (sandalwood,) pine, cooking spices (cumin, pepper, garlic,)

FEMININE SCENTS:

Flowers (lavender, rose,) fruits (orange, apple,) baking spices (cinnamon, nutmeg,) star anise,

Note: Honey is often used with feminine scents, but isn’t much of a feminine scent on its own

Additionally, cinnamon is most often used for feminine scents, but can go either way

NONBINARY SCENTS:

Mix the two. Smell like basil and lavender. Smell like sandalwood and lemons.

* I wouldn’t recommend mixing flowers/fruits and mint, that can result in a very feminine smell.

But honey? Mollases?

SMELL LIKE IT

That’s right.

Cinnamon, honey, mollases, and basically everything is an enby scent

Envy the Enby

Sounds like a perfume

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- Mod Rain

[jollyjoules]

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Mod Emmett

[notcompletelycistips]

With holiday season officially starting, I’d like to take the opportunity to wish each and every one of you a happy holiday.

No matter what or if you celebrate you deserve to be happy, healthy, full, and well loved.

Mod Emmett

[trans-n-enby-stuff]

Hey guess what????

Being nonbinary is allowed to be fun!!!!

You’re not faking your transness because you don’t hate it!

I love being nonbinary and that’s good!! Loving things about yourself is good!!!

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- Mod Rain

[mlmgods]

fat trans boys be like………. handsome and just as worthy of love as skinny trans boys …… yeehaw

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- Mod Rain

[here-queer-instilling-fear]

Some memes transcend sexuality

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- Mod Rain