Tales of A Knight

A blog discussing self love, survival, and tips and tricks on how to get through with tough times 🥀

[novaccartier]

I'm back! Sorry I had to take a mini break

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Toxic Mothers

I'm speaking from my experience with a toxic mother. Unfortunately, in my community (the black one) a toxic mother is sadly more common than you would think.

If my tale rings true to you, then you have a toxic mom. 

Now, growing up with a toxic mother is something I don’t wish on my worst enemy. My mental, spiritual, and emotional health are damaged from it. Although I know that it’s possible to be healed, it’s going to be a long journey. 

My birth-giver treated/still treats me like I’m her punching bag who is supposed to do as she says and be quiet. See, birth-givers like mine treat their offspring like trash and then expect us to take care of them when they get older. 

One of my worst memories with my birth-giver is when she was having a bad day at work and I said something to her and ended up getting smacked in the mouth. Upon realizing what she did, the Birth giver didn’t even attempt to apologize. She just excused it with having a bad day. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Another memory is when I was 18 and I was complaining about something, she went and threw a remote at my head causing a big knot and it to bleed. Once again upon realizing what she did, she immediately had me lie to the doctors about what happened in order to avoid going to prison. And to this day she jokes about it like its funny. Meanwhile, I’m still dealing with the remaining scar on my forehead. I can’t even say no to certain things without her getting an attitude and throwing a tantrum like a kid... or threatening to physically hurt me. 

But even then, it didn’t occur to me that she was a textbook toxic mother until 2016/2017ish when I was talking about going to Japan via MEXT Program she flipped the freak out. Talking about human trafficking and then guilt-tripped me into staying by saying that I didn’t care about her feelings. At that moment, I knew but I didn’t want to believe it. 

You see having a toxic parent is similar to having an abusive partner. You see the red flags, but don’t acknowledge them until it’s too late and it’s hard to get out because you have been made to be emotionally and financially dependent on them. And at the getting out stage is the most dangerous. I’ve seen too many crime shows about parents killing their kids after they left home to save their honor.

Anyways, it wasn’t until I got a new friend group and got into a new band that made me realize that my mom was toxic as fuck and I shouldn’t have to deal with her bullshit anymore. I recall her ruining the first concert that I was so excited about at Citi Field on Oct.6 because she didn’t know my friend. On top of that, she used the same “You don’t care about how I feel” tactic to manipulate me. 

It wasn’t until I was persistent about going that her true colors finally came out in full form. From calling my friend the b-word to opening my mail with my tickets to threatening to kick me out. After that day I was done. I was fed up with her bullshit and I began to hate my mother. 

Also, the icing on the cake is when I finally decided to change my name to my new one and she had a fit. Talking about how I’m disrespecting her because she gave me my old name and that it’s a mental illness to change your name. She tried to put all the stops on me going by my new name and still to this day calls me by my old name because she refuses to cooperate.

What society tells you is that you supposed to love your mom because she gave birth to you and you have only one. That's a load of bullshit. You are not obligated to love toxic people who berate and humiliate you. You are not required to respect her after she disrespected you. 

Now, if you’re like me, getting out is so difficult because you’ve been made to think that your mom is always right and that she dong the abuse because she loves you(NOT). Or, you’re financially incapable of escaping because you have to give her money or can’t save it(like me....) Just know my lovely stars, that this is just a temporary situation. 

If you escaped and went back, that’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up. You tried and that’s all that matters.  Just know my lovely stars, if you have a story similar to my own my anons are always open to talk.  

[motherly-green-blog]

Can we please get a movie about a witch…

…but like, they aren’t evil or weird? Like their friends go to them to get a tarot reading on how their midterms will go. They’re always asking their friends if they can run to the store to grab some herbs. They’re always forgetting to blow out the candles on their altar and their parents keep warning them about fire safety.

Just an everyday witch. None of “the weird girl” or “my friends can never find out”. I WANT SOME REPRESENTATION!

[torque-witch]

Tea FAQ Post

Last updated 8/24/17

A | B | C | D | E | F| G | H | I | J | K | L | M | N | O | P | Q | R | S | T | U | V | W | X

Y | Z

Click the title link to scroll the tag in its entirety! I am tagging every FAQ page post as “torquewitchfaq” and will be updating each with all the sections in alphabetical order once they are all posted. Tumblr deleted my entire A-Z post links, so I’m doing these by section instead.

*These redirect to my blog in order to avoid if/when accounts deactivate! Please note that this may not work on mobile.

Tea

A Witch’s Guide to Medicinal Teas - [ placeoddity ] 

Anxiety Relief Tea Potion - [ recreationalwitchcraft ] 

Backyard Tea for Cramps - [ cannibalcoalition ] 

Bedtime Tea Milk - [ dustbunniesandbooks ] 

Chalkboard Mug Idea - [ witchtips ] 

Confidence Tea - [ blacksandandglasscastles ] 

Dandelion Lavender Rose Iced Tea - [ witchesgrass ] 

Detox Tea - [ 1froggydude ] 

Divination/Witch Tea Tip - [ torque-witch ] 

Dreamwork Tea - [ a-bookish-wildling ]

Goddess Relaxation Tea - [ queerbeldam ]

Herbal Tea - [ jasmynsarahward ] 

Herbal Tea Facts - [ veralesa (deactivated ) ]

Herbal Tea Properties - [ witchcrafttips ] 

Herbal Tea Remedies - [ urban-bitchcraft ] 

Making Herbal Tea Tips - [ honeycoyote ] 

Mental Reboost Tea Spell - [ quintessablessings ] 

Mermaid Tea - [ crystalherbalism ] 

Minty Lemon Lavender Tea - [ honeycoyote ] 

Open Eyes Seer’s Tea - [  honestlystupendouscrusade ]

Positive Change & Transformation Tea - [ she-who-treads-on-water ] 

Positivity Chai Tea Latte - [ violetbook ] 

Productivi-tea - [ honeycoyote ] 

Respiratory Tea - [ witchfit ] 

Self-Love Tea - [ jennycalabro ] 

Starbucks Tea Brews for the Witch - [ mermanwitch ] 

Sun Tea Magic - [ thepisceanwitch ] 

Sweeten Them Up Tea - [ aspoonfulofwitchcraft ] 

Tasseomancy - [ erzuliestyle-blog ] 

Tea Benefits Diagram - [ cleovera ] 

Tea Facts - [  rebelliousflowerimaginedragons ]

Tea for Headaches - [ fuckyeahpaganism ] 

Tea Magic - [ orriculum ] 

Tea Magic & Potion Crafting - [ fuckyeahpaganism ] 

Tea Magick - [ shadowfaeriemoonstone ] 

Tea Masterpost (non-witchy) - [ yroxis ] 

Tea Spells - [ mamawinterwolf ] 

Tea Tonic for Colds - [ lotuseatingwitch ] 

Teas for Headaches - [ thecrystal-wolf ] 

Tummy Teas - [ thecayennekitchenwitch ] 

Twili’s Morning Tea - [ hylianshrinemaiden ] 

Winter Sore Throat Tea - [ cdnpgn (private) ]

Witches’ Self-Care Tea - [ spellcraftbaby ] 

[novaccartier]

As a black queer woman I just want to tell my fellow women/enbys that y'all are beautiful and magical. I know it's difficult being us but guess what? At the end of the day we rise like phoenixes ☺️. Don't be afraid to focus on yourself before others either.

[novaccartier]

Whoever needs to read this, I want you to know that everything is going to be okay. I know it may not seem like it's never going to end or look up, but you got this.

[novaccartier]

New post hehe

[yournewapartment]

Hi! I was wondering if you have any creative storage/decluttering tips. The dorms at the college I plan on attending aren't exactly the roomiest, and I'm a habitual over-packer.

I feel you so hard with that habitual over-packer piece. Literally me. 

So I started writing this as a strictly dorm post, but I realized that it can also apply to small apartments! Also, if ya’ll have storage hacks please message me and I will add them to the post. Hope this helps!

Storage Contaners

1. Storage Bins. Go to your local Dollar Store and buy yourself some plastic storage bins. Amazon also sells them, but they’re much more expensive. I’d recommend choosing whatever is the cheapest, you don’t need high quality plastic that was crafted by the indigenous people of wherever. These bins are stackable, durable, and clear plastic makes it easy to locate lost items.

2. Shoe organizers. Specifically, the ones that hang over doors like this one. These are great for storing makeup, jewelry, writing utensils, cheesy snacks, etc. Drape one over one of your doors, but be sure to consult with any roommates you may have before hand.

3. Wall Bookshelves. Bookshelves in general make great storage spaces. My old apartment had zero closet space, so my boyfriend and I used a bookshelf to store all our clothes. Since you probably won’t have much floor space, opt for a wall bookshelf instead. I absolutely love the look of a nice wall bookshelf, I have one in my bedroom with some tasteful cacti and my fancy shoes stacked on top of it. 

4. Lockers. Some schools offer free lockers or gym lockers. If it’s free, take advantage of it.

5. Coat hangers. Might seem like a simple idea, but coat hangers are magical. You can fit multiple coats on one hanger and use the others to hang purses, jewelry, hats, etc. Check your Residence Hall or Apartment Complexes’ policy on hanging things on dorm room walls. If they don’t permit you to use nails, buy command hooks instead.

Storage in Small Spaces

1. Underneath your bed. As I’m sitting on my bed writing to you, several feet bellow me are two guitars, an emergency kit and several pairs of shoes. Beds are something that everyone has (unless you’re my high school friend Adrienne) so why not utilize them fully? Measure how much space is available underneath your bed frame, and buy storage bins that you can easily slip underneath

2. Hang it on the wall. Have something weirdly shaped that doesn’t fit anywhere? Hang it on your wall! The only example I can think of right now is something like a bike. Always make sure things are secure!

3. From the ceiling. Lightweight items can be suspended from the ceiling of your living space. Position jewelry, scarves, and small plants in a visually pleasing arrangement over your bed to save space.

4. Closets. There’s no guarantee that you’ll get a closet in your dorm room, but most apartment buildings will have one. In fact, I would advise you to not move into an apartment with zero closet space. Stack your storage bins high, place bookshelves in your closet, and if possible use plastic or wooden hangers to organize your clothes. I always think of my bedroom closet as my “disaster zone”. The rest of my apartment can look nice because I have a place to store random things like my porcelain garden gnome and my vacuum cleaner that don’t fit anywhere else.

[musickeepsmealive]

[spread-positivity-everywhere]

“Not until we are lost we begin to find ourselves.” - Henry David Thoreau

[positivelypositivethoughts]

[novaccartier]

Idk who needs to hear this, but you are worthy. Your past doesn't define you. As a wise man once told me, your past is a just a constellation. It's up to you to decide whether or not to take that step into the future. No matter how long or quick you decide to do it, the choice is all in your hands.🌺