im back on my bullshit

cas (yes I named myself after castiel supernatural) | he/him | 20 | i hate it here | i think i have unhealthy feelings about john oliver | in my david lynch era

[november52020]

he/him

I will no longer be responding to, donating to, or posting anonymous asks asking for donations. if you want an ask posted, turn off anon. I'll be keeping anon on for regular asks

[dqnquality]

[vincent2845]

[playlander]

[relevant-wikipedia-articles]

[miamicommune]

you people can't even boycott chick-fil-a.

[thegentlemanstar]

ARTEMIS II CAME TO MONTRÉAL !!! and i was there !!!

highlights :

they asked how they managed to keep up such a good team spirit between them and christina koch said a really nice explanation that they just decided to “choose your crew”, as in make the decision to always put the crew and their team first

victor glover later said “practice makes process” by which he meant that practice is vital especially in situations like going to the moon (!!!) because the more you practice the more things become easy and automatic, so even in incredibly stressful situations you can still execute what you need to do well because you’ve done it so much before

i can’t remember who i think it was reid wiseman who said that the reason they were generally not stressed was because of trust. they’d spent three years talking with the various experts sending them to space so they knew their expertise and they knew what they were thinking when things went wrong and that trust really helped. competent people make the world go round (and the moon ig)

there was also of course a lot of emphasis on the importance of collaboration and of international collaboration, especially a little speech about climate change given by jeremy hansen in french (!!)

they all gave really cool and beautiful descriptions of what seeing the moon and the dark side of the moon was like in a way photos cannot really communicate so that was lovely

they’re all such dorks. i love them. they’re hypercompetent astronauts, the cream of the crop, and also they say things like “this is really cool” (jeremy hansen during liftoff) and “we’ve just gone full sci-fi” (victor glover when the moon blocked out the sun)

rise was there !!! it’s about four pixels in the picture but you can see it haha i was so happy

also the panel, especially the beginning, was deeply montréal and i loved that

[ceilidhtransing]

Having the minor epiphany that so much of the shit that trans men get for talking about our oppression is patterned on the exact same bad-faith idiocy of more general transphobia.

Like, for the “general transphobia” example, someone will say something about “people with penises”, or talk about “women with penises”, or something like it about some other body part, and some fuckhead will jump in with “This is RIDICULOUS! Everyone knows WOMEN don't have PENISES!”

And it's like... wow, you absolute bad-faith moron. No one is saying women have penises, as in every single woman has a penis; they are, however, making the objectively correct observation that some women have penises. Not all, but some. The categories of “men” and “people with penises” do not completely overlap, while the categories of “people with penises” and “women” do slightly overlap.

The way this pattern of... let's generously call it “logic” manifests in discussions around trans men's oppression is that, just like above, a trans guy will be talking about his experiences of misogyny, and some fuckhead will jump in with “This is RIDICULOUS! Everyone knows MEN don't experience MISOGYNY!”

It's the exact same boneheaded insistence on malinterpretation. No one is saying men are oppressed by misogyny, as in every single man is oppressed by misogyny; they are making the objectively correct observation that some men are oppressed by misogyny. Again - not all, but some. The categories of “men” and “people who experience misogyny” do actually slightly overlap.

The nature of trans existence is that it complicates the supposed simple binary categories of cisness. Blanket statements like “women don't have penises” or “men don't experience misogyny” just don't hold true in the face of the lives of trans people. We are the exceptions to cisnormative models of how the world works. We exist in the margins, in the awkward overlaps of categories; we blur the boundaries between “male experiences” and “female experiences”; our lives don't cleanly fit into the boxes of, and cannot be modelled on, either cis men or cis women, because we have the very particular experience of being trans. And if we can all understand that sometimes women have penises and testicles and prostates - which means that women can have penises and testicles and prostates - and that sometimes men have breasts and vulvas and uteruses - which means that men can have breasts and vulvas and uteruses - (and I really hope we can all understand this, given that it's trans 101 and you really shouldn't be participating in discussions around transness if you can't) then we're all just as capable of understanding that there are some men who do experience misogyny. If that “breaks” some model of gender or feminism or whatever, then that model was hopelessly cisnormative and deserved to be broken.

[free-and-to-none-accountable]

[wombatsrus]

We are not in the business of policing each other. EVERYWHERE.

It is our human purpose to help each other.

If you see someone steal food, hop on a bus for free or jump a turnstile...

no you didn't.

We exist, we are supposedly free to do so within the confines of the system. When those confines make it too hard to exist, we Work Around Them. Everyone always has that right.

[beardedmrbean]

[copperbadge]

Every so often when browsing AirBNB in Europe you'll get a listing from someone who clearly speaks English but has an especially whimsical grasp on the language.

I am a peace-loving people too, my prospective hosts. I do not seek after 10pm loudliving.

[saint-ambrosef]

what "no sugar added" should mean: the natural sugars of the other ingredients like fruit are the only source of sweetness in this product

what is actually means: we added a fuckton of artificial sweeteners

[saint-ambrosef]

i see we are all angry about this

[90scakeboy]

EY! MAGATEEN Spring/Summer 2014 issue photographed by Steven Klein

[energyprison]

[parkchanwoohoo]

😭😭

[thewarmvoid]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for trans men and transmasculinities ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[doberbutts]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for trans women and transfemininities ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[transcyberism]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for nonbinary/genderqueer people and transneutrality ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[cosmicstrays]

thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for multigender/unigender people and transandrogynies ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★

[ruinaam-deactivated20260509]

commenting "insane refresh pull" on my mutuals seven second old vent post

[sadclowncentral]

my friends held an intervention for me to "stop asking intimidately specific questions". i tried to explain that i am just a good listener but there is apparently "a line between follow-up questions during small talk and interrogation tactics that gets crossed sometimes". turns out my curious nature is "scaring the hoes"

[sadclowncentral]

when i asked for examples i was told that "do you think your tendency to show appreciation through restoration is part of a greater life philosophy or is that coincidental?" and "is your communication with allied forces satellite or radar based and is it vurnerable to cyber attacks?" are apparently "inappropriate questions to ask someone you just met at a club". but i disagree. as if you wouldn't be a little bit curious about the answer? yeah that's what i thought

[sadclowncentral]

[ID: question by anonymous: did they answer the question though ///end ID]

the navy officer i asked about cyber attacks did answer my question very thoroughly. he also answered other questions such as "when refueling on sea, which boat is the primary course holder?" and "would switching to another government branch affect your retirement benefits?" and generally provided a lot of information over the course of a fascinating hour that as a former government employee myself i am pretty sure he should not have told me. but i also think he would have told me his social security number if i asked nicely (i didn't, I was busy learning about the tactical advantages of speedboats).

the guy obsessed with boat refurbishment that i asked about his tendency towards preservation gave me a really haunted look, said "holy fuck" and then after a moment of consideration "i think i am too drunk. i'm going home" and proceeded to leave. in my defense, it was well and truly meant as genuine curiosity and not as the attempt at psychological warfare it turned out to be. he unfortunately did not answer my question.

...he was also the catalyst for the intervention i received.

[findingfeather]

OP your friends are 100% wrong and “that person at the bar who asks you the question that makes you rethink your whole life because they Actually Listened” is a long, storied and honourable place in the pantheon of strangers you will meet. Sounds like you’re doing a bang up job, well done.

[the-real-seebs]

yeah, you're fine, please keep doing that, it's important work.

[pocketmilo]

a world without trans people has never existed and never will 🌎 ✨

[pocketmilo]

transition into spring 💉🍀✨

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