OKPoly

[theauspolchronicles]

Singular they has been in use for hundreds of years but now that it’s associated with the LGBT community there’s this sudden objection to it that people don’t want to admit isn’t some minor gripe over grammar… “oh it just can’t be used that way” Yes it can and you’re having an ideological argument with a dictionary that you can’t win to justify disrespecting someone’s pronouns. 

[okpoly2]

Writers who used singular they: Chaucer, Shakespeare, like, many many others.

[marinashutup]

what men on the internet do not think misogyny is:

sexually harassing women on the street

using gendered slurs that specifically target women or femininity

sex shaming women

policing women’s bodies and appearances

downplaying the existence of rape culture or shaming rape survivors

targeting women on the internet who speak up for women’s rights

what men on the internet do think misogyny is:

saying the words “i hate women” in that exact order and literally nothing else

[tmbgareok]

[polyamorouslife-blog]

Some thoughts on finding love - More Than Two

Someone recently asked the question, “What is the difference between a person who finds love easily and a person who finds it difficult to make loving connections?” This is a question I think I can offer some insight on (at least for people who share most of my privileges), because in my own life I have gone from a person who found love impossible to a person who finds opportunities for love and connection all around me. During that transition, I learned that many of the things I assumed about folks who find love easily—that they’re rich, that they’re handsome, that they’re famous—aren’t true.

[bisexual-community]

People have a right to self-identify, but the reason that more people don’t feel free to identify as “bisexual” is that it has become such a maligned term. We have to make space for all of the people that might consider identifying as bisexual to feel comfortable doing so if they choose.

Kathleen Nicole O’Neal, bisexual youth activist, February 2012 (via bisexual-community)

[onlytwitterpics]

[sizvideos]

Woman Surprise Her Girlfriend With The News She Will Be Her Kidney Donor - Watch the full video

[possessedcreampuff]

OH MY GOD THIS IS LOVE

[haphazardhappenstance-deactivat]

Update:

[tumblagay]

AHHHHHHHHHH YASSSSSS

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

This is the most heartwarming and good and pure post that has ever been posted on the whole entire internet <3

[digg]

[okpoly2]

@crow-queen-crowned

[shitpostempire]

[okpoly2]

@crow-queen-crowned

[0xalis-deactivated20190215]

uh actually dont? yell at hets for using words like datemate and partner?

because there is always a chance that one of them is a closeted trans person and they’re trying to not misgender them while also not outing them

and normalizing gender neutral language makes doing that safer anyway

[wookieandtheunicorns-blog]

Normalizing gender neutral language when I sa y Gingy is my partner promotes this use so that no one is obligated to know the gender of my, or anyone else’s partner based on simple introductory conversation. It allows everyone to get acclimated, while breaking presumptions. Which, isn’t that part of the goal?

[hopelesschromantic]

I have a lot of poly friends and what tires me out the most is the hypocrisy. They (rightly) feel frustrated that their romantic choices are regarded with surprise or skepticism by randos in their life to whom they choose to disclose but many seem to view every monogamous couple in their life as Marge + Homer or Beyonce and Jay-Z or some inherently jealous or sexist model. If y'all so enlightened maybe consider that not every couple you meet wants or would benefit from the choices you’ve made.

[wittingpolyamory]

I will not deny for a second that this type of thinking is all over the place in poly circles. Way too many times I’ve been at a local poly gathering and someone starts in with some “So, we sure are all so much more enlightened than those narrow-minded mono people, aren’t we?” bullshit.

Poly people need to knock it off, because it is shitty.

(It also reminds me a lot of geeks doing the “All of us geeks sure are so much smarter and more passionate than those boring mundanes, aren’t we?” thing, which I also despise)

[okpoly2]

Something like “enlightenment,” depending on definition, comes with critical self-examination, including how you love and form relationships. Of course, the conclusion there isn’t always to become poly. And there are plenty of poly people who haven’t gone through that sort of self-scrutiny before. As groups, though? If I had to pick a random person to partner with, and I was specifically looking for that sort of trait, I’d go for someone poly. (Obviously biased.)

Alex

[kimchicuddles]

sometimes it’s simple

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[2teal-deactivated20150825]

Oh my god youre straight? I had no idea. You seem normal to me. Did you know that Sara is straight to? You two should totally hook up. I cant believe youre straight. You could be my straight best friend. We could go to football games together. Itll be so much fun. So like how long have you been straight? Youre whole life!? No way.

[micdotcom]

Watch: Hilarious Party Over Here sketch gets at the dark truth behind “mansplaining.”

[thesocialjusticedragons]

The “dark truth” behind mansplaining: it’s total bullshit. Most of the time these kind of things aren’t what “mansplaining” is. More than half the time “mansplaining” is just a male person saying something to the contrary. That’s it; that’s mansplaining. When it’s not a means to shit on men for the actions of a few (much to the dismay of the last comment in the gifset), it’s an out on having to answer for some kind of wrongdoing. Especially when it comes to pseudo-scientific buzz topics.

But, you know, as a male myself I expect that some woman or feminist will drop by and either preach at me the ways that they think this action is justified or try to dismiss my point with some kind of “sassy” remark.

So, please, femsplain it to me. ;B

–Mod Griaule

[whatbigotspost]

HAHAHHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA

THIS comment on THIS gif set…well, you can’t write this stuff.

[alkjira]

Wait Did some guy just mansplain mansplaining This is like inception levels

[pancakemisery]

The irony and the complete lack of self-awareness… how you do fail so bad at basic critical thinking?

[gender-cr1tikal-blog]

This is far from the first time I have seen a man mansplain mansplaining, and I’m positive it won’t be the last.

[lilyanphoenix]

If we could get guys to use it, this hotline idea has potential!

[bloodqueenmsk-deactivated201710]

I was going to reblog already for the hilarious gif set and then I read the dude in the comments lol

[okpoly2]

This might qualify as mansplaining, but here I go:

You know how some words lose their meaning when they get overused? (Lookin’ at you, “literally.”) This happened with “mansplaining” hella fast, and it’s a shame, because it was such a rich word originally. They key element was that the mansplainer knew less about the topic than the woman but was going on anyway. Now it just means “dude explaining something in a condescending way.”

Oh well. Language is evolving. I guess that’s still not something we had a word for? The original sense was just so good, though.

[kimchicuddles]

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[okpoly2]

There’s a lot to dislike about big business, but I really love how they’ve been flexing their muscles and just not putting up with this shit. Most of them could probably not just comment and no one would think much of it.

Now, most of them are probably doing it because of their bottom line, but hey, I’ll take it!

[ourawesomepolyblog-blog]

[okpoly2]

Totally how I feel about the new girl in my life. :)

Alex

[psychophancy-deactivated2021072]

Is there an exact difference between non-monogamy and polyamory? Or do the two have to go hand in hand? Or is it person by person? Because I think I'm non-monogamous, but I don't exactly know if I'm poly..

Non-monogamy is a very broad category can take many forms; polyamory is simply one general sub-category that encompasses a certain range of behaviors and configurations. Relationship anarchy, swinging, cheating, single-and-dating, and even serial monogamy can be considered forms of non-monogamy depending on how you’re defining “monogamy” in the first place.

Here’s a very brief (and not necessarily inclusive or all the different ways one can engage in non-monogamous relationships) summary from Psychology Today that offers some general definitions, but there is much more information to be gathered from across the interwebs as well as in print books (Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up might be a good place to start). It’s also worth pointing out that people will often define and carry out their relationships in ways that may not line up with any other person’s strict definition of a term.

I might suggest focusing less on whether you think you’re poly per se (I’ve heard multiple points of view on whether poly is something you “are” or whether it’s something you “do”–neither my wife nor I identify primarily as poly, though for rather different reasons; however, the way we carry out our relationships is often analogous to how many poly-identified folks do theirs), but rather looking at what your more specific relationship needs/wants are and what kinds of relationship arrangements or dynamics might fit your needs. There are probably as many different ways to do non-monogamy as there are people, and it’s OK if your relationship needs don’t line up with the mainstream definition of any particular umbrella term.

[okpoly2]

I still think it’s bizarre that we talk about serial monogamy as a form of non-monogamy. I get that some people who engage in serial monogamy might be better suited to some form of non-monogamy, but if you break up with one person to date someone new... yeah, that’s absolutely monogamy. This is a spectrum, not a loop: you don’t get to non-monogamy by doubling down on monogamy.