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Wow you know if this quarantine extends into next month then people are really gonna be h

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Theyre really gonna be hom shdtk

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This april 13th we’re all gonna be homeshryodksbfnftk

Happy 2021 everyone

You’re strong. Your undead minions are plentiful and loyal. The skulls motif in your tower is not “tacky”. Your enemies are afraid of you. You don’t need the approval of the living.

godlessondheimite

there’s a difference between “being canceled” and “facing consequences” but there’s also a fine line between “facing consequences” and “deincentivizing growth and change” and i think that needs to be grappled with more. i’m not saying all mistakes need to be forgiven by everyone, but people who make mistakes are people, and if it becomes clear that not only will they will never be forgiven for their past, but that they will also be continually punished, then it’s a normal human response to grow frustrated and stop trying, and the holier-than-thou response of “well if they were really sorry, they would willingly accept all the punishments we throw their way” is stupid. what does pulling receipts up from 20 years ago do? who do these “gotcha” moments help?

woman-respecter

it also isolates people and makes them more likely to join extremist and reactionary groups. connection and acceptance is a fundamental human need. so if someone feels cast out of their social circles because of something that they are told is irredeemable, they are likely to look for a group that will accept or even encourage that behavior. by holding people to impossible standards, you may be unintentionally radicalizing them

godlessondheimite

So the vast majority of responses has been supportive but I’d still like to clarify (while reblogging @woman-respecter‘s great addition) that I’m referring to people who are actually remorseful and trying to change. I’m not recommending embracing unrepentant Nazis in the hopes that they will change!

I’m referring to dredged up jokes from 10 years ago, when edgelord humor was at its peak, that has been accompanied by changed behavior; careless or outdated wording about sensitive topics; perspectives that needed to be unlearned.

My point is that everyone’s threshold for acceptable behavior is different; however, it seems that when someone does something wrong, the only acceptable recourse is to never have done the wrong thing in the first place. This is not sustainable. (Obviously people who are directly wronged by someone’s actions have a different relationship to the harm than, say, someone who found out about it trending on Twitter.

I saw someone in the notes say “This excludes celebrities,” which is also incredibly misguided. It’s mostly celebrities who are getting this treatment and it’s mostly celebrities who have the platform to show growth and change. You see articles about celebrities getting canceled, the behaviors that caused the cancelation, and the responses to said behavior and cancellation; you don’t (as often) see articles about your high school bully or your annoying coworker getting canceled, their public apologies, and their path to forgiveness.

And at the end of the day, if you simply don’t like a person, that’s fine, there are lots of people I don’t like and never will, with or without moral justification, and I, personally, am trying to lean into “without moral justification” because morality is being used as a competition. Who can critique an apology the best? Who can unpack all the layers of outrage and act the most indignant? Who can dig up the worst tweets from the longest time ago? Who can escalate the inciting incident to the highest extreme?

Anyway some notes mention the distinction that you’re not obligated to forgive a person but do you need to actively impede their ability to change? And I think that’s a good question to ask: Do I truly believe this behavior is so heinous that it indicates a person is incapable of changing; if they are given an opportunity to move forward from this incident, are they actually likely to cause harm; are my standards reachable and where are my standards coming from; and am I personally just delighting in another person’s failure, or am I actually helping by contributing to this conversation?

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figurine of a woman baking, 8th-6th century bce, pottery, akhzib

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Wayne Thiebaud “24th Street Intersection,” 1977

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tbh i hate the acting choice in lucifer s5 that’s like. i’m going to stand crooked when i’m playing the evil twin character, because having a fucked up body is an easy visual shorthand for said evilness. like fuck you i actually have a weird shaped spine and it didn’t make me evil. i’m just like that which you will learn when i come to make our spines match

#this man also likes golf which is two strikes #but unfortunately he is hot and i keep looking at his instagram for gymspo