Infinite Daydream

I'm Rachel, an Oregon State senior from a small town on the Oregon Coast. I was an IB kid in high school. Now I'm an engineering nerd. ΦΣΡ. Feel free to ask me questions or get to know me!

[afronerdism]

Needed this

[frikiskrew]

[tygermama]

there is no such thing as unskilled labour

[cryoverkiltmilk]

I’ll keep saying it.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS UNSKILLED LABOR.

THERE IS ONLY UNDERVALUED LABOR.

[cheahandonions883]

“You see, no labor is really menial unless you’re not getting adequate wages.”

— Dr Martin Luther King Jr. “The Other America” 1968

[left-reminders]

All power to the working class 🚩

All power to the people 🚩

[isleofapplepies]

One of my least favourite dialogue tropes is when a man tells a woman, “You can’t do that” or “I wouldn’t do that if I were you” and she says, “Why? Because I’m a woman and therefore too weak to handle this/can’t take care of myself?” or something to that effect and the guy replies with, “No, because everyone who tried that ended up with a bullet in their brain” or something equally reasonable and not gender-specific that paints him as the rational not sexist guy and the woman as an irrational paranoid feminist who searches for sexism in everything. This whole scenario is built on the idea that sexism is over and women’s fears and suspicions don’t have a leg to stand on. It’s also self-congratulatory pseudofeminism bc it’s supposed to make the viewer/reader/listener feel that in this specific work of fiction women are treated respectfully and as equal with men.

[mentethemage-deactivated2018122]

huh.. never thought of it like that

[marchysmusings-deactivated20211]

But, what if the male character isn’t sexist? I meam…their fictional sure but…I’m not sure how to phrase this

[fandomsandfeminism]

Its not a question of the character themselves- its how the writers are portraying them. The way this trope plays out, the whole moment revolves around the woman looking foolish for assuming that there is sexism happening. She is characterized as being irrational, jumping to conclusions, even insecure. While the dude is characterized as the calm, rational one.

It is a trope that specifically works by taking a woman standing up to sexism and saying “haha it wasnt actually sexist at all! Isnt calling out sexism foolish and silly. Thats what you get for assuming that men are sexist!”

[f1rstperson]

I have the same reaction with homophobic jokes set up like this. Like the whole “you can’t marry a woman”, “why bc you think its wrong” “no we haven’t found you the right dress yet silly!” Or stuff along those lines.

It feels like someone setting up to punch you and then you duck and the person goes “haha, i wasn’t gonna punch you at all, why would you duck? You shouldnt just assume someone’s gonna deck you because they have their fists up.”

[randomslasher]

…huh, wow. 

[starlightomatic]

apparently the people who stormed the capital just went back to their hotels in northern virginia and were milling around outside and so the alexandria and arlington mayors asked for curfews so that the insurrectionists would have to go inside their hotels instead of milling around in the streets

[starlightomatic]

does anyone feel like maybe you shouldn’t be able to invade the us capitol and then go back to your hotel and watch tv like does that seem weird to anyone else

[colorisbyshe]

i won’t ever go on tiktok but i love that other people go on tiktok and find the good ones for me

[sarahseeandersen]

[politijohn]

[oldearthaccretionist]

@spyderqueen 's tags are, as always, absolutely correct.

Working from home literally means using your resources for work. And therefore those resources are part of the cost of doing business and, if anything, should be compensated. The company Rene works for is surprisingly not trash to it's employees and literally pays a large portion of our internet bill because he uses it for work and requires a high speed line, and he's in a literally entry level IT position.

And that should be the default!!

Also, you just know the people saying this have been claiming home offices on their taxes, and every single business adjacent expense forever.

[thelovers-thedreamers-and-me]

also this is a fun idea to raise in this moment in history when, you know, people working at home if they're able is actually kind of important

[catgirlcaliphate]

This has the same energy as British Petroleum challenging us to reduce our carbon footprints.

[lovely-v]

sorry not sorry but I am always going to give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to queer inclusion

Like if you say you’re bi but you’ve only dated people of the opposite gender? you’re bi as hell i don’t care.

If you tell me you’re trans but you haven’t transitioned yet or don’t want to undergo certain aspects of transitioning? you are trans! I’m gonna call you by the name and pronouns you tell me to use

what if someone looks feminine, is afab, and uses she/her pronouns but identifies as nonbinary? what if someone looks masculine, is amab, and uses he/him pronouns but identifies as nonbinary? both of those people are nonbinary because they said they are!

if you’re asexual or aromantic but you’re still hetero in the sense that you experience attraction of some sort to the opposite gender and that gender alone? you’re still a part of the community babe! Aros and aces have always been queer.

If you don’t know if you’re queer or not? you’re certainly welcome to be a part of our spaces while you figure it out!

if you don’t wanna use labels? dont! that’s it! never let anyone pressure you into labels if you’re not ready to define that part of yourself.

if you use labels/pronouns that are uncommon and/or perceived as strange? that’s your label! those are your pronouns! who am i to tell you you can’t use those words to describe yourself??

basically fuck all the debates about the nuances of this stuff. if you tell me you’re queer, you’re fucking queer. I have no right to start discourse with people about their own identities and neither does anyone else.

[mashallah]

[slfcare]

nobody is irrelevant. nobody is invisible. your neighbors know your name and see you set off to school or work or the backyard everyday, sometimes with a spring in your step and sometimes with hunched over shoulders. there was this one time some stranger pointed you out to their friends and said “that’s the haircut I want” or “I have that shirt, too” or “they go to my school”. someone has admired the way you carry yourself or gave a presentation or even the way you’re so polite when you first meet a person. you’ve made comments or jokes that have stuck in minds of overhearers and eavesdroppers. when old classmates of yours think back to kindergarten or fourth grade or sophomore year they remember you and have an opinion of you. you’ve made recommendations of songs and restaurants and even cookie brands and actually introduced people to their all-time favorites. the cashier at the grocery store knows exactly what laundry detergent your household uses, or even if you don’t do your laundry at all.

you can never be irrelevant. there’s pieces of you everywhere, in a dozen lives, in a hundred dreams, in a million memories. maybe it’s true that you don’t have any friends, and you have a sucky relationship with your family or no family at all and no-one ever checks up on you, and you’re really very lonely, but that doesn’t determine your worth. you do. and so do the billions of small attributions you’ve already made to the world, both long-term and short-term. so thank you.

[writhe]

i have a hill to die on real quick

[writhe]

phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities

i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself

[decaflesbian]

i think abt this all the time!!!

[rrachelinthewildd]

[odinsblog]

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[petals42]

had to watch it twice– once for the performers and once for the guy in the red track suit’s reactions.

then watched in a whole bunch more because MY GOODNESS!!!!

[voidfire-studios]

I can feel the joy just radiating from these guys

[momecat]

boys will b boys

[just-shower-thoughts]

People are praised by everyone for sleeping as long as possible until they are old enough to take care of themselves, at which point they will criticized by everyone for sleeping as long as possible.

[omghotmemes]

Shout out to everyone hitting the mental reset button

[positivity-in-recovery]

[arinashitabun]

Art by Hector aka shitty watercolor

[skylowalker]

[moki-dokie]

😭😭😭😭

[drcrowdpleaser]

[helperhoopoe]

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

[randomslasher]

This is really important for future predictions, too. “You’re eventually going to leave me” is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when they’re being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.

“I get scared sometimes because I’m afraid of being alone again” is easier to address and doesn’t leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though they’re being preemptively accused of something.  

[seaside-werewolf]

yessss this- I see some people in the notes saying the better phrasing is unnatural but it’s like you don’t Have to use those exact words, you just need to make sure you’re not using manipulative language or language that literally traps someone into reassuring you (like constant self deprecating jokes) because none of that is a healthy way to cope with mental illness at all