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there is no such thing as unskilled labour
Iâll keep saying it.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS UNSKILLED LABOR.
THERE IS ONLY UNDERVALUED LABOR.
âYou see, no labor is really menial unless youâre not getting adequate wages.â
â Dr Martin Luther King Jr. âThe Other Americaâ 1968
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One of my least favourite dialogue tropes is when a man tells a woman, âYou canât do thatâ or âI wouldnât do that if I were youâ and she says, âWhy? Because Iâm a woman and therefore too weak to handle this/canât take care of myself?â or something to that effect and the guy replies with, âNo, because everyone who tried that ended up with a bullet in their brainâ or something equally reasonable and not gender-specific that paints him as the rational not sexist guy and the woman as an irrational paranoid feminist who searches for sexism in everything. This whole scenario is built on the idea that sexism is over and womenâs fears and suspicions donât have a leg to stand on. Itâs also self-congratulatory pseudofeminism bc itâs supposed to make the viewer/reader/listener feel that in this specific work of fiction women are treated respectfully and as equal with men.
huh.. never thought of it like that
But, what if the male character isnât sexist? I meamâŠtheir fictional sure butâŠIâm not sure how to phrase this
Its not a question of the character themselves- its how the writers are portraying them. The way this trope plays out, the whole moment revolves around the woman looking foolish for assuming that there is sexism happening. She is characterized as being irrational, jumping to conclusions, even insecure. While the dude is characterized as the calm, rational one.
It is a trope that specifically works by taking a woman standing up to sexism and saying âhaha it wasnt actually sexist at all! Isnt calling out sexism foolish and silly. Thats what you get for assuming that men are sexist!â
I have the same reaction with homophobic jokes set up like this. Like the whole âyou canât marry a womanâ, âwhy bc you think its wrongâ âno we havenât found you the right dress yet silly!â Or stuff along those lines.
It feels like someone setting up to punch you and then you duck and the person goes âhaha, i wasnât gonna punch you at all, why would you duck? You shouldnt just assume someoneâs gonna deck you because they have their fists up.â
âŠhuh, wow.Â
apparently the people who stormed the capital just went back to their hotels in northern virginia and were milling around outside and so the alexandria and arlington mayors asked for curfews so that the insurrectionists would have to go inside their hotels instead of milling around in the streets
does anyone feel like maybe you shouldnât be able to invade the us capitol and then go back to your hotel and watch tv like does that seem weird to anyone else
i wonât ever go on tiktok but i love that other people go on tiktok and find the good ones for me
@spyderqueen 's tags are, as always, absolutely correct.
Working from home literally means using your resources for work. And therefore those resources are part of the cost of doing business and, if anything, should be compensated. The company Rene works for is surprisingly not trash to it's employees and literally pays a large portion of our internet bill because he uses it for work and requires a high speed line, and he's in a literally entry level IT position.
And that should be the default!!
Also, you just know the people saying this have been claiming home offices on their taxes, and every single business adjacent expense forever.
also this is a fun idea to raise in this moment in history when, you know, people working at home if they're able is actually kind of important
This has the same energy as British Petroleum challenging us to reduce our carbon footprints.
sorry not sorry but I am always going to give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to queer inclusion
Like if you say youâre bi but youâve only dated people of the opposite gender? youâre bi as hell i donât care.
If you tell me youâre trans but you havenât transitioned yet or donât want to undergo certain aspects of transitioning? you are trans! Iâm gonna call you by the name and pronouns you tell me to use
what if someone looks feminine, is afab, and uses she/her pronouns but identifies as nonbinary? what if someone looks masculine, is amab, and uses he/him pronouns but identifies as nonbinary? both of those people are nonbinary because they said they are!
if youâre asexual or aromantic but youâre still hetero in the sense that you experience attraction of some sort to the opposite gender and that gender alone? youâre still a part of the community babe! Aros and aces have always been queer.
If you donât know if youâre queer or not? youâre certainly welcome to be a part of our spaces while you figure it out!
if you donât wanna use labels? dont! thatâs it! never let anyone pressure you into labels if youâre not ready to define that part of yourself.
if you use labels/pronouns that are uncommon and/or perceived as strange? thatâs your label! those are your pronouns! who am i to tell you you canât use those words to describe yourself??
basically fuck all the debates about the nuances of this stuff. if you tell me youâre queer, youâre fucking queer. I have no right to start discourse with people about their own identities and neither does anyone else.
nobody is irrelevant. nobody is invisible. your neighbors know your name and see you set off to school or work or the backyard everyday, sometimes with a spring in your step and sometimes with hunched over shoulders. there was this one time some stranger pointed you out to their friends and said âthatâs the haircut I wantâ or âI have that shirt, tooâ or âthey go to my schoolâ. someone has admired the way you carry yourself or gave a presentation or even the way youâre so polite when you first meet a person. youâve made comments or jokes that have stuck in minds of overhearers and eavesdroppers. when old classmates of yours think back to kindergarten or fourth grade or sophomore year they remember you and have an opinion of you. youâve made recommendations of songs and restaurants and even cookie brands and actually introduced people to their all-time favorites. the cashier at the grocery store knows exactly what laundry detergent your household uses, or even if you donât do your laundry at all.
you can never be irrelevant. thereâs pieces of you everywhere, in a dozen lives, in a hundred dreams, in a million memories. maybe itâs true that you donât have any friends, and you have a sucky relationship with your family or no family at all and no-one ever checks up on you, and youâre really very lonely, but that doesnât determine your worth. you do. and so do the billions of small attributions youâve already made to the world, both long-term and short-term. so thank you.
i have a hill to die on real quick
phrases like âyou donât owe anyone anythingâ and ârelationships arenât transactionalâ have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful
for example, no you donât owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you donât owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.
but, you canât use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. âyou donât owe anyone anythingâ isnât an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isnât an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one
relationships arenât transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures
but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isnât healthy. one person canât solely take and the other person canât solely give- thatâs dangerous, and you canât put the bandaid of âthis isnât transactionalâ over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities
iâm tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself
i think abt this all the time!!!
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had to watch it twiceâ once for the performers and once for the guy in the red track suitâs reactions.
then watched in a whole bunch more because MY GOODNESS!!!!
I can feel the joy just radiating from these guys
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People are praised by everyone for sleeping as long as possible until they are old enough to take care of themselves, at which point they will criticized by everyone for sleeping as long as possible.
Shout out to everyone hitting the mental reset button
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remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like youâve been abandoned and betrayed, but itâs probably not true, and itâs not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.
âi guess none of you like meâ could be better phrased as âi feel unloved right nowâ
âbut nobody cares anywayâ could be better phrased as âi feel insignificant and i need reassuranceâ
rather than assuming othersâ feelings, give them time to explain them. youâll usually get a much better answer.
This is really important for future predictions, too. âYouâre eventually going to leave meâ is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when theyâre being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.
âI get scared sometimes because Iâm afraid of being alone againâ is easier to address and doesnât leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though theyâre being preemptively accused of something. Â
yessss this- I see some people in the notes saying the better phrasing is unnatural but itâs like you donât Have to use those exact words, you just need to make sure youâre not using manipulative language or language that literally traps someone into reassuring you (like constant self deprecating jokes) because none of that is a healthy way to cope with mental illness at all