Okay, I know what you’re thinking: Why is Zayn and Gigi looking cute in the header? Well, I definitely ship them, HARD! People tend to forget that, most if not all, celebrities are in a long distance relationship. After hearing the news of “Bradgelina” now just becoming Brad and Angelina, I was a bit heartbroken; a couple that I’ve watched grow over the years were finally splitting up and it as like I felt their pain personally. I can’t say I understand what they are currently going through or if they made the right/wrong decision, but I know that somewhere down the line, they grew apart, and that my friends is what I want to discuss with you today.
Being in a long distance relationship will mean very long time frames of not seeing each other. Long days where you are waiting to talk to your special person and in the end it doesn’t happen. Many points in time, you will feel hopeless; you will wonder if it is even worth it, to put yourself through so much loneliness. Trust me, it is.
If you ever feel like your LDR is crumbling apart keep these things in mind:
Understand the other person’s life
You need to realize that before they met you, they had a whole life planned out. It may have been empty without you, but they had a job, a family, and friends, sometimes even school. Understand that they have other things that need their time.
Communication doesn’t always mean texting back and forth and calling each other or Skyping. Communication is leaving voicemails in the middle of the day, not worrying that they will text back (leave a cute little note for them), sending them videos of your day, and even writing a letter. Communicating isn’t always a conversation.
Whenever Tavin comes to visit me, we never worry about the time we have left together, because counting down the days only makes it go by faster and then next thing you know it, he’s gone again. Take the time you have with one another and cherish it before it’s gone.
Actions may speak louder than words, but gifts, oh they hold a special place in my heart. A few months ago, I sent Tavin a booklet of why I love him so much. It wasn’t a lot and most guys would just throw it away after reading it, but it meant so much to him that he reads it nearly every day! Gifts can light up your S/O’s day, as soon as they see the gift, they’ll think of you!
Relationships don’t run on fairy dust, but they do run on TRUST! Trust is really important in a relationship. Without trust, it won’t thrive and grow. Once you gain trust in one another, the relationship will become even more special than it was before.
You’re not always going to like the decisions your S/O makes and they aren’t going to like the decisions you make. Remember that you are both adults who still want freedom. Even if it isn’t in your comfort zone, compromise, because it makes the other person happy!
So, did you get all of that? Tuck these tips away and remember them when your LDR goes through a rough patch. Being in any type of relationship isn’t easy but it’s not impossible. You will get through the fights and you will forget about the struggles. Work everyday to be with your love one and everything will be okay!
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