I just wanted a spot where I could post my work, and share things I like/think is important. I post adult content from time to time since I'm in my late-thirties so I guess that makes me an adult. they/them preferred, thanks!
You take wild guesses at how to talk to people. You sometimes talk about your special interests too much and people find you annoying. You sometimes underestimate people's interest and avoid people who would have liked you. You sometimes overestimate people's interest and continue to try to talk to people when they want you to leave them alone. You sometimes talk to someone too often and end up being clingy and turning someone off who otherwise would have liked you. You sometimes go out of your way to think of something to say and end up having an awkward and forced conversation. You sometimes accidentally say something rude and people hate you for it. You sometimes say something and it gets misinterpreted.
You ask for advice. The advice you receive is "talk to people".
It's sad that so many of us go through this time and time again, until we become afraid to talk to people because we're so tired of getting it "wrong".
hey so idk if any of you care about this but I made a Community for current/about to be/formerly homeless people to hang out, and Tumblr approved it just the other day.
no real requirement here. It doesnt matter what type of or degree of homelessness you've experienced, how imminent it may be, or how far in the past it was for you, or how you got displaced. you can share your story if you want, or not. you can just post memes if you want, i don't really give a fuck, as long as you can be normal to homeless people you're welcome to come chill.
again, no matter the reason for your being displaced, all with any level of personal experience with homelessness or housing insecurity are welcome.
when you're homeless, people treat you differently. it becomes painfully obvious how having community is life saving, because suddenly you are excluded from so much of it. In 10 years of homelessness (my entire adult life), ive found that people are often the source of my troubles... and that community is also my best resource. It's a very fine and frustrating line to walk, and as is the case with other facets of my identity (disability, queerness etc), I find it much more refreshing and palatable to talk to other people who Just Get It, rather than petitioning someone to hear or understand me.
reddit has many different subs for homelessness (r/homeless, r/autistichomeless, r/urbancarliving, r/carliving, r/vandwellers, r/almosthomeless, r/vagabond & r/VagabondEurope, and probably others). I wanted a space like that on tumblr, too. please come hang out with me, I wanna hear how you're doing.
It's private to keep out the haters, so if you want to join you can either reply here or DM/inbox me privately if you'd prefer, and I'll send you an invite ✌️
A selection of comments on a video of a Jewish woman and her children explaining that Jews don’t believe in Santa.
Imagine being so angry that a Jewish family doesn’t believe in or celebrate Santa or Christmas. This isn’t the kind of violent antisemitism I usually highlight here, but it is antisemitism nonetheless.
im sorry but the "youre on a social media plattform where kids might stumble upon this and it will be ruined for them" is taking me OUT. so either theres enough parents who let their kids below like 9 use social media or there are lots of 13+ year olds who believe in santa and are supposed to do so for much longer too??
I mean I think these comments are horrible but there are absolutely loads of kids of santa believing ages on platforms like youtube and tiktok watching videos with little supervision.
If knowing other cultures exist and have different beliefs than yours is somehow damaging to your child, you’re probably raising a white supremacist.
The flavor is indescribable. It's like if you wanted to make lemon preserves but your only knowledge of lemons came from Saturday morning cartoon advertising. This is lemon as seen through the lens of Dr. Wondertainment of SCP fame and I'm pretty sure it fell through a rip in spacetime from their employee cafeteria. It's !!LEMON!! (with a strong aftertaste of artificial coloring and plastic from the edible glitter bits)
The texture is exactly how I always imagined it would be to eat aloe vera gel out of the brightly-colored bottle in my mom's bathroom
Overall 6/10, I'm gonna finish the waffle but fuck knows what I'm gonna do with the rest of the bottle
Great news! This is how the yellow glitter junk has ended up
I threw it together with some white wine yeast and water and fermented it into...this! It is violently neon yellow and has some disconcerting hydrophobic globules suspended in it, presumably from some oil that was in the goo. It made the siphon weirdly greasy as I was bottling it, which was unnerving!
As for the taste, it's...honestly not as bad as expected? It tastes like white wine but lip-puckeringly sour and dry. If I'd backsweetened it after fermentation it might almost have been palatable. When I tasted it at racking it tasted like battery acid so this is a welcome surprise! Yeast truly are the redeemers of all culinary sin
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase "self care" doesn't resonate with you, try calling it "system maintenance" and see if that clicks.
I recently spent one night in the ER and 3 subsequent nights in the hospital.
During my time in the ER, a nurse said I was “circling the drain” and my body temp dropped to 95/96 degrees…. I don’t even know how I’m still alive. But they said I was a fighter.
I had a horrible case of covid along with thyroid related health issues, and my potassium had dropped dangerously low. I was throwing up nonstop for days, even in the hospital, even with anti-nausea medications. They had to withhold food, water, and even ice chips from me for days.
I cannot count how many IV and other bags of fluid I got. A million blood tests, blood thinners, medications, poking and prodding. Now, I am slowly recovering, but still experiencing the end effects of covid, along with a rapidly racing heartbeat and other symptoms as a result of my imbalanced thyroid.
I am in dire financial straits, in the middle of a move, and trying to get (me and) my puppy out of an abusive situation.
I will likely be going between my parents’ home (where I am now), my brother’s apartment, and my cousin’s apartment. My parents’ home is not a safe place, I’ve experienced a lot of abuse at their hands, and even in the bedroom I’m staying in now.
My car is at my old place, and I will hopefully retrieve it tomorrow (Nov. 19th) along with other clothes, shoes, books, etc. I have next to no energy but I need to take what I can.
Honestly, I don’t know what else to say except I really fucking need help. I’m willing to explain more about my situation in private, not that there’s much more to say.
Please boost this post🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I can edit essays, tutor, do social media management, do art commissions, and my friend has graciously offered to do pet portraits on my behalf to raise funds. If my car AC is fixed I can Uber or deliver. If y’all have any other ideas for earning I’m all ears.
I ended up in the ER again yesterday (Sat. Nov. 25) but they discharged me after the day, saying that because they didn’t know what tests were run on me at the other hospital, they didn’t want to repeat tests.
I don’t get it. I’m still puking. I can’t hold anything down. I needed more than one IV bag. I don’t get it.
Please reblog. Idk what else to say and I have no energy.
I had to go to the ER again the following day, on Sunday, and I feel like the doctor was better that day, and I hopefully got the correct medications for my health issues to slowly resolve.
They are doing this because Biden and the democrats PASSED A LAW capping insulin at $35. This isn't voluntary out of the goodness of their hearts. Democrats need to start being loud about their accomplishments on behalf of the American people.
Can we boost this one until it reaches the Oklahoma City Tumblrites? This seems like something this website could rally and solve. Help save all this genetic information? I messaged them to offer to consult with the entymology lab near mine to see if they could store the bugs with us, but they are VERY far away and would have to drive long distance to us.
Thank you for defending Nazis. They're just little guys. Just misunderstood, with genuine grievances. I noticed you accidentally forgot to defend child rapists. Dumb commies like you are all the same 🙄
Piss on the poor! Also I'm not a commie and never claimed to be one.
Adolf Hitler was appointed chancellor of Germany in 1933 following a series of electoral victories by the Nazi Party. He ruled absolutely un
Anyone who is actually genuinely interested to learn exactly how Nazis happened should absolutely read this article written by the National WWII Museum in New Orleans, which sums up exactly what I said on the post that anon is accusing me of 'defending Nazis' on.
After WWI, Germany's economy was in shambles and its people were desperate. Hitler was able to rise to power by promising a solution for their desperation, and leaned into pre-existing bigotries already held by a significant portion of the population. From there his policies became more and more extreme until effectively the entire country was radicalized [Nazis] or contained [in ghettos and camps] as were several surrounding countries.
Understanding how desperation due to social and structural problems within a country can quickly lead to radicalization, especially if pre-existing bias is present and especially especially if it's worsening, is key to understanding the progression of what happened in Europe during WWII but also of how we can recognize the signs of radicalization and how to stop it in its tracks. Point being if either the desperation or the bigotry was missing in this equation, likely it would not have happened to this extreme. Hitler was not initially popular as a politician and it was only as the country continued to fall apart that fascism started to look appealing. Hitler did not start with "mass-exterminate the Jews" because most people would have gone "okay that's a bit much".
I am not defending anyone. I am saying that you have to, you HAVE to understand how radicalization happens, because none of these people were born Nazis. They became radicalized through a very clear process that continues to radicalize people to this day. And the only way we can stop this process from happening is if we understand how and why it happens so that we can step in before it's too late again.
If you think that's "defending Nazis" I strongly urge you to go learn history from the actual accounts of what happened instead of whatever soundbites you've heard on social media.
(Nazi positive commie?? Anon is a bit confused XD)
Recognizing the humanity in the nazi is important because it helps you stop seeing them as heartless monsters and start seeing how easily people can be swayed into atrocities.
There are countless stories from deradicalized people saying how they were radicalized by giving a source for their despair in the form of a minority to attack.
Moreover, when we think of these people as solely monsters, we are both creating a false moral purity that these people supposedly didn't have. AND we are ignoring the potential in ourselves to become radicalized.
One by one, Daryl Davis has befriended KKK members over the past 30 years. The more they got to know the African-American musician, the more
This NPR article talks a little bit about this too.
Davis uses a two-pronged approach: he dismantles their pre-existing bigotries and biases, and he addresses their complaints about society. In the example used, the Klansman said "black people are predisposed to violence"- there is bias and bigotry there, but he's talking about a real problem when it comes to violent crime. He's just blaming the wrong thing for it. He thinks it's racial, it's genetic, and that it's inevitable.
Davis turns it on its head- "white people are predisposed to being serial killers". He's also talking about a real problem when it comes to serial killers, but he's pointed to the wrong cause. And the Klansman goes "well that's stupid" and Davis goes "yeah?" And he lets that nugget sit and the guy starts the path to deradicalizing himself because, oh yeah, that is stupid to unfairly blame an entire population of mostly-innocent people, and that doesn't magically stop being true just because we're talking about black people.
When you understand that radicalized people usually have a problem that left them hurting for a solution, and pre-existing bias they're leaning into to make their logic make sense, you can also understand how to get them to stop doing that. It's not always possible with a conversation over dinner and drinks. But damn if that's not a good place to start.
We've seen that in real time with Trump and his stupid wall. The people who support these policies are afraid of real problems- drug cartels, sexual predators, and violent crime. They also have a lot of pre-existing racism and xenophobia they're leaning into to justify their logic and explain their fear as rational. I've personally watched people's rants putter out when challenged directly on why immigrants should be considered as uniquely dangerous when we have plenty of violent, sexual, and drug-related crime coming from our citizenry. It doesn't always deradicalize them and it certainly doesn't do it right away, but it often does stop them in their tracks and really make them consider what they're saying.
It's not enough to say "well these ideologies are evil and bad" because honestly? People are still falling for them so in order to prevent escalation it's important to understand why people are supporting ideologies that most as a collective *know* are evil and bad. How does someone get on this track, and is there a way to get them back off? Is it as simple as saying a single sentence that shakes their whole world, or is a more overt push necessary to nudge them into a better direction?
But the flip side to that is that when radicalization is left unchecked, it can turn even your previous allies against you. A friend of mine transitioned medically as a minor, surgeries and all. Obviously, that means his parents were supportive of his transition. Unfortunately with the rise of Trump and related politicians, his parents are now QAnon supporters regurgitating some frankly evil talking points. And he was talking to me the other day about his realization that if he was transitioning now, as an adult in his 30s, his parents would likely disown or even attack him instead. This has left him pretty hurt and confused, to watch these folks who once told him that he'd always be beloved and it was his choice to do what he would with his body and live how he wished, now talking about the transgender cult and rapid onset gender dysphoria and how trannies need to be pre-emptively jailed because they're all pedophiles and how sex offenders should get the chair.
His folks did not get this way overnight. Zombie mind viruses are not real, they were radicalized through a very similar process. Slowly but surely their concerns about the difficulties accompanying medical transition in the 90s, as well as sexual crime, were given a scapegoat to blame and then from their the logic became more and more extreme.
My friend is too close to the situation, so he has a hard time having any sort of conversation With them about it without feeling very hurt by it all. And that's fair too- I don't think everyone should go out and hug their local bigot. But I do think it is important to understand exactly how this happens, because it will keep happening if we continue to do nothing about addressing the cause. And radicalized people will continue to escalate until they cross whatever point of no return exists in their ideologies.
Remember, Jonestown did not happen in a bubble. Radicalized people will escalate and escalate and escalate until either their "enemy" or their whole population dies. The phrase "drinking the koolaid" is used when people are regurgitating dangerously radicalized talking points for a reason. Quite a few of the people attending- *most* of them- knew that koolaid was poisoned and voluntarily drank and fed it to their kids anyway. Those who resisted were too outnumbered by those who believed it was the right thing to do.
Jonestown's residents were primarily black [70%] with a significant portion being black women [43%]. Jim Jones claimed to hate the US due to its capitalist and imperialist structures, calling Jonestown a communal socialist paradise. The location of Jonestown was deliberately chosen so that its significant black population would have relative safety from racism. Legitimate complaints, pre-existing bias, and a tragedy that resulted in the mass murder and suicide of over 900 people including children and babies.
Understanding how people become radicalized like this is imperative because no one is immune to it. And recognizing that is the first step in preventing it from happening again.
It's important to recognize that anytime you dehumanize a group of people - when you literally turn them into not-humans, monsters, vermin - those are the same tactics that fascists use. Literally the exact same things Trump is saying now.
That doesn't excuse harmful ideology. It recognizes that those people are people, and by understanding that they are people who were radicalized, we can, if nothing else, inoculate ourselves against similar harmful radicalization. If you think that you, o random Tumblr person, can't be radicalized into thinking that there are entire classes of people who should simply be, let's say, dragged out into the street and shot without due process or charges, boy do I have a post full of notes for you to read!
Like, if nothing else, understanding how people are radicalized can help you spot those tactics when people try to use them on you.
A friend of a friend has the superpower of making people realize their trans. Pretty much anyone he's come in contact with has later realized they're trans.
This power is so pronounced that he got into a car accident and a few weeks later the person in the other car came out as trans.
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