Pandora's Unboxing

We share the truth about trauma. Along with trauma, and mental health education

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Just because your body reacts, doesn't mean that you are enjoying it, or that you even asked for it

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Absolutely!

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Happy Friday everyone.

Remember to laugh this weekend!

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A better way to understand trauma

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Ever wanted to know what was PTSD?

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Sometimes when you feel like you crave abuse, the truth is that you’re only craving human contact.

It happens because when your brain has cravings, it wont send you associations to things you never experienced before, or the ones that seem completely unrealistic and imaginary. If nobody ever gave you proper acknowledgement and attention, if nobody hugged and comforted you and cared deeply about how you’re feeling, you wont suddenly expect it to happen; it would be like expecting a miracle. But, you’ve experienced getting acknowledgment in a form of criticism and insults, you know you might get some comfort if you get physically injured or something so bad happens even you can acknowledge you’re suffering. You can’t get hugs but you know being hit or pushed provides you some sort of contact, even if it’s painful. Being unseen, drowning in your own thoughts, cut off from anyone who cares and feeling abandoned will with time get so bad, that your brain will give up the thought of safety and desire any type of human contact, even if unsafe, even if it’s hateful.

This is also why giving abuse victims a little bit of affection and then asking a lot in return is so effective; this isn’t only giving them companionship and attention, but it gives them a whole new frame of reference in what they’re allowed to expect, it tells them they don’t have to resort to accepting abuse and violence for human contact anymore, but they can be met with warmth and humanity now. It’s a big change in their lives, and it’s not unusual for them to get dependant on it, or to offer anything in return for not losing that. Keeping it over their head, or threatening to take it all away is cruelty, and so is abandonment. It means they have to erase that whole idea of being worthy of respect and love, go back to expecting only hatred, and often feeling stupid for ever expecting otherwise.

Another reason why you might start craving abusive contact is that you’re stressed and overwhelmed, in these situations you’re very low on relaxing chemicals in your brain, and an abusive event is likely to give you a sharp rise of adrenaline, giving you a feeling of being awake and alert. It works like a drug in that sense, and if you do experience these cravings often it means your brain is so used to abuse it can no longer produce these chemicals without it; this can be fixed by being safe from abuse for a prolonged period of time.

None of the reasons of you’re experiencing these cravings or intrusive thoughts of being abused, is ever going to be because you ‘secretly want it’ or ‘you deserve it’ or 'you’re no good for anything else’. You never actually experience any benefit for being abused, even if you get a tiny amount of human contact, you pay for it in thousandfold with the damage you endure. I should also mention that people who have a choice of getting human contact in a safe and positive way, will go very far to avoid abuse, to them abuse will be obviously evil and harmful. It’s only when you’re looking at a life of complete negligence, being untouched, unseen, abandoned and forgotten, that abuse can be seen as 'not that bad’ alternative. And even that will change once you can be safe from it.

Craving abuse is not your fault, and means nothing except that you’ve been thru too much evil, had too few of the good things in life, and suffered damage that isn’t endurable by normal means. You deserve to get as much of your needs met with affection, care and gentleness, as it will take for you to never have to consider abuse acceptable again.

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Do you struggle to find a mask your going to wear that day? Will you have to change it a few times? I do. I always seem to pick the mask that is the least like what I am feeling. If I am sad, I wear a happy mask. Heck I put on that happy front all the time wether I am dying inside or genuinely happy. Which isn't often. I would love to feel safe enough that I could just shatter all my masks, speak the truth, and share my own self.

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Trauma manifests in a ton of ways

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