Relationship Compatibility #2 - Mars & Venus Part 1
Romantic Compatibility is a many faceted thing. Your birth charts can tell many stories about your relationships. You should never rely solely on your Sun Signs to decide if you and your partner are compatible.
Many factors are at play.
In my first Compatibility post, I introduced the Moon Sign, which, in my opinion, is most important in determining the nature and durability of your romantic relationship.
The next most important is the placement of Mars and Venus which helps to determine the nature of your sexual relationship. If you don’t already know your Mars and Venus placements you can find out quickly using a birth chart calculatr. It is important to know your time of birth and place of birth to get the most accurate birth Chart:
I have included a birth chart calculator at the bottom of the page. Scroll all the way down.
It is important to remember that the Mars and Venus alone cannot tell you if your relationship will last or even start. I have had relationships where our Mars and Venus were incredibly compatible and though we may have had fun sex our relationship did not work in the long run. Other factors in my chart surely told me why though. Mars and Venus will definitely be helpful in determining the nature of your attraction, as well as understanding your partner’s sexual needs and relationship expectations. But it is up to YOU to decide if you want to do the work to have a long lasting relationship or to deal with the fact that it simply was not meant to be.
In Astrology, Mars represents your drive to to win, what you want out of life and the way in which you go after it. In Relationship Compatibility this includes your Sex Drive. Mars represents how you go after what you want sexually.
Mars in a Man’s chart represents how he expresses his masculinity, the way he behaves during the act of sex, the way a man approaches sex in his life.
Mars in a woman’s chart represents her sex drive as well, but it also represents what she finds masculine and attractive in a male and the way she expects her ideal partner to behave.
(Note: I realize that gender roles are not always so clearly defined and sexuality is varied. Nevertheless, I have noticed that gay men are still attracted by another man’s Mars and lesbians are still attracted by another woman’s Venus. The gender roles may shift depending on each relationship. But. both Mars and Venus will play a role in attraction in both gay, straight, and transgendered relationships. For the sake of keeping it easy to read, I will keep it simple and just say “Man"and “Woman” and feel free to interpret the gender roles as you wish.)
Mars is very selfish. Mars wants to please himself only. He wants to fight, win, and then feast. There is not much consideration of others where Mars is involved, only self fulfillment. This is a necessary element for survival. We must all possess a certain element of selfishness in order to survive.
Venus represents our desire to please. Venus represents what we enjoy, how we have fun, and all that is beautiful about ourselves as well was what we find to be beautiful.
In Relationship Compatibility, Venus represents your feminine sexiness, your beauty, the way you in which you give love, and the types of relationships that please you.
In a woman’s chart Venus represents the way she expresses her femininity, they way she behaves during sex, how she behaves in relationships, the way she shows love for her partner.
In a Man’s chart Venus represents the type of woman he will be attracted to, what he wants from relationships, how he behaves in relationships, as well as his sweeter, more considerate and giving aspects of his nature.
Venus lives to please. If you are not happy she is not happy. She wants everyone to be in bliss.
Mars and Venus aspects to each other.
Please note that for the following relationship aspects to function best, Mars should be interpreted for the Male or more dominant partner. With these combinations, having the female in the Mars position may result in the male feeling emasculated or the female feeling less feminine. So, even though they may be a compatible pairing, it may lead to problems in the relationship due to confusing gender roles.
Male Mars conjunct Female Venus [Conjunct = In the Same sign, preferably within 0-10 degrees of each other]
Ideal Scenario. Very strong instant attraction. Very similar sexual desires, patterns, and expectations. Natural friends as well. You should be very comfortable communicating your sexual desires. Even if the relationship fizzles out, you are likely to remain close friends throughout your lives.
Female Mars conjunct Male Venus - Example of Gender Role Reversal
Though the attraction may be strong this combination may lead to problems in the relationship. Male can feel emasculated. Female doesn’t feel very feminine. Female may feel that the male is weak. Male may feel female is too dominant. Great for a close friendship and can be sexual advisors to each other. Can be the type of relationship where the female is always “on top”. The attraction will still be very strong and if either of the partners don’t mind the role reversal the sex can be very hot. Either way this can be a close bond and long lasting friendship.
Mars Square Venus [Square = same Modality, Different Element without being opposites - Example Mars in Taurus (Fixed Earth) and Venus in Aquarius (Fixed Air)]
Strong Attraction but can be a turbulent relationship. There can be jealousy, fights, sexual misunderstandings. Very passionate affair. Can turn to enemies. Can run hot and cold.
Mars Opposite Venus [Example - Mars in Aquarius and Venus in Leo]
Very Strong Attraction. Similar to square but less turbulent. You may have some sexual misunderstandings, jealousy, and may sometimes not feel attracted to each other at the same time. Your sexual rhythms may run opposite to each other. One is horny when the other is not. But your are each very attracted to each other.
Mars Trine Venus [Trine=Same Element - Example Mars in Leo (fire) and Venus in Sagittarius (fire)]
Very Strong attraction. Mutual appreciation of each other. Lasting friends. Very sexually compatible. Hot Sex!
Mars Sextile Venus [Sextile = Same Polarity, Different Element without being opposites - Example Mars in Virgo (Earth) and Venus in Cancer(Water)]
Very fun sex. You may not be instantly attracted to each other. But should you find yourselves together, you will realize that it was a great decision! You are sexually very compatible but also very experimental. You can teach each other new things and are always excited to try new things together. It may seem like an odd pairing to the rest of the world but you both are having loads of fun.
Mars and Venus through the Houses
Pretty much anywhere your partner’s Mars or Venus falls in your chart will affect your relationship. I will cover this in another post.
Venus and Mars in the Signs
Its important to note that just because a person has a planet in a certain sign does not necessarily mean she will be attracted to partners with that sign. It just means she will be attracted to the quality that the sign represents in her life.
Please also note that the following interpretations are for planets in the signs only. The house position will greatly effect the way Venus and especially Mars behaves. Some house positions can really dampen the effect of certain planets. Venus and the Moon represent the female aspects of personality, while Mars and the Sun represent the more male aspects of the personality. The following interpretations are for Mars and Venus mainly but can often be interpreted for the Sun and Moon as well. The following interpretations are for a man’s chart.
Venus or the Moon in Aries - May be attracted to an Aries Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of an Aries including but not limited to:
Firy, Hot-tempered, Independent, Confident, Athletic, Energetic, Bratty, Bossy, Toned, Sexy, Wears alot of makeup, Wears alot of red, Creative, Competitive, Loud, Mean, Fussy.
May prefer to meet women at Sporting events. May enjoy a relationship that is very active and/or competitive. May enjoy lots of rough housing and playing games with his partner. May prefer his relationships to move at a face pace. May like his sex quick, rough, and dirty.
Mars or the Sun in Aries - Will be very forward and confident with women. (May be slightly intimidated by Water Signs especially Scorpios) May be very direct and blunt about his sexual needs and desires. May be somewhat selfish during sex focusing only on his own satisfaction and not much on the needs of his partner. May prefer sex to be quick and dirty. May be a bit of a player, insensitive though usually very honest about his intentions.
Venus or the Moon in Taurus - May be attracted to a Taurus Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Taurus female including but not limited to:
Earthy, Voluptuous, Quiet, Reserved, Materialistic, Stubborn, a full and distinct voice, Sensual, Wears vintage or very well constructed clothes, Can cook, Very Stylish, Comfortable in her skin. Comfortable in her own neighborhood, Clear Headed with her feet on the ground.
May deliberate a long time before committing to a relationship but once he commits he is in it for the long haul. May prefer a relationship to be financially beneficial or come with some sort of material gain. May enjoy cooking for his partner and buying her expensive gifts. Very sensual love maker.
Mars or the Sun in Taurus - May be very carnal about sex, not much talk or foreplay, but lots of stamina. Very sensual and responsive to touch during sex. May prefer more animalistic sexual positions like doggystyle or other positions that don’t have much eye contact. Will love to use ALL of his senses during sex. Will love for sex to last a long time and may prefer to go all night, though it may take quite a while to get him started.
Venus or the Moon in Gemini - May be attracted to a Gemini Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Gemini female including but not limited to:
Talkative, Friendly Social, Casual, Versatile, Multi-lingual, Loves to Read, Loves to Write, Maybe a bit of a gossip.
May bounce quickly from one relationship to another, May be very casual about relationships and sex. May like women to talk a lot during sex. May meet his lover on the internet or through a personals ad. May love to talk on the phone a lot with his partner or send frequent texts and emails. May get aroused from just the sound of his partners voice.
Mars or the Sun in Gemini - May seduce a woman with lots of words before having sex with her. He will be a big talker who may talk a bigger game than he can deliver. He may like to try A LOT of different positions during sex. He may be more aroused by the changing of positions than the sex itself. He may love to talk dirty during sex. He may be particularly interested in a Menage a trois or he may have more than one sexual partner at one time in his life.
Venus or the Moon in Cancer - May be attracted to a Cancer Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Cancer female including but not limited:
Nurturing, Very Feminine, Sensitive, Cries Easily, Shy at first then Loud later, Good Swimmer, Motherly, Big or Especially Beautiful Boobs, Passionate, Moody, Good Singer
May be a bit of a Momma’s Boy. May be attracted to women that his mother approves of. May want a woman who is good with children. He may very much want children. He may enjoy a relationship that is centered at home and not a lot of going out. May want a woman to baby him and take care of him. May enjoy the beach as a date or to meet women. He may have very sensitive nipples. :-)
Mars or the Sun in Cancer - He will be a very passionate lover. Don’t be surprised if he cries during sex. He may seduce a woman by appealing to her maternal side and saying things like “I want you to be the mother of my children”. He may be a bit of a brat in bed and somewhat selfish, demanding that you please him while not caring that much about pleasing you. Or he may be incredibly nurturing in bed and focus more on kissing and fondling and less on the act of penetration. Probably very aroused by breasts.
Venus or the Moon in Leo - May be attracted to a Leo Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Leo female including but not limited to:
Confident, Dynamic, Universally appealing and beautiful, Gorgeous, Great Smile, Fun Loving, Bossy, Colorful Clothing, Somewhat Insecure, Self Absorbed, Independent, Loud, Dramatic
May only date women who get a lot of attention, like models or actresses or really aggressively beautiful types. May prefer a relationship to be very showy, may like going out a lot in public places. Very Loyal and committed Lover. Passionate Love maker.
Mars or the Sun in Leo - Incredibly confident sexually. He will try to impress you with his sexual prowess and will have hundreds of sexual tricks up his sleeve. It will be very important to him that you find him sexy and that you are satisfied by him. He wants you to finish very satisfied and idolizing his sexual persona. He will be very passionate and treat you like a queen during sex. He will be very jealous if you are not loyal to him though he may or may not be loyal to you.
Venus or the Moon in Virgo - May be attracted to a Virgo Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Virgo female including but not limited to:
Reserved, Analytical, Perfectionist, Modest, Picky, Nervous, Highly Strung, Health Conscious, Flexible, Neat/Neatly Dressed, Fit, Well Groomed/Maintained, Critical.
May enjoy relationships that are centered around health or exercise like a yoga partner or a natural juice making partner. May enjoy acting out a naughty nurse routine. May have a thing for the maid or women who work for him or in service positions. May enjoy lots of S&M or roleplaying in his relationships. May enjoy a woman who has an insatiable desire to please and serve him regardless of her own pleasure. May enjoy dating Virgins. May have an obsessive need to “help” his partner in some way improve her body or life. May enjoy things like white cotton underwear or sex during your period. May be very obsessive about cleanliness in relationships, even if it gets dirty, he may want to his partner to be the type to tidy up before and after sex.
Mars or the Sun in Virgo - Will be exceptionally attentive during sex and his arousal will be based entirely upon pleasing you. The more you respond to his touch the more he will touch. He will have lots of stamina and will last as long as you need him to. He wants you to be satisfied and won’t stop until you are. He will be very sensual. He may be very picky about his sexual partners. He may go a very long time without having sex until he finds the “perfect” partner then he will work very hard to please her.
Venus or the Moon in Libra - May be attracted to a Libra Sun, Moon, or Venus female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Libra female including but not limited to:
Dependent on a Partner, Talkative, Shallow, Fashion conscious, Laid Back, Very Pretty with Symmetrical Features, Non-Confrontational, Manipulative, A nice butt.
May be the type to always be in a relationship and not comfortable going out without a partner. May prefer his relationships to be light, easy, and casual. May enjoy chic and cosmopolitan relationships that might include, going to art galleries, fashion shows, or or the latest hip club. May always want his partner to be fashionable and hip. May not be very passionate.
Mars or Sun in Libra - May literally charm the pants off of you. He may prefer to have sex in a beautiful setting and may obsess on mood and lighting. May talk a lot during sex. May try to look good at all times during sex and shy away from the dirtier or uglier looking positions though ironically he may have a fascination with anal sex. May be incredibly casual about sex and not especially picky about partners, they simply must find him charming and gorgeous.
Venus or the Moon in Scorpio - May be attracted to a Scorpio Sun, Moon, or Venus Female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Scorpio female including but not limited to:
Mysterious, Sensitive, Sexual, Passionate, Driven, Quietly Confident, Bitchy, Obsessive, Moody, Jealous, Independent, Powerful, Witchy, Secretive, Curious
May have a very strong sex drive. May want a lot of privacy in his relationships. May have secret relationships and affairs. May prefer women with dark or exotic features or with a dark personality. May like women that dress in dark colors. May love going out at night and not feel very comfortable in daytime dates. May need his partner to be a bit of a sexual professional. Can be very loyal in relationships. May be obsessive in relationships.
Mars or Sun in Scorpio - Quite simply a sex monster. A sex master mind. Nothing is off limits and everything is on the table. Whatever can be done sexually, he will do with expert skill and will enjoy to the core of his being. He will be very passionate, loyal, and committed though. Sex is very important to him as an expression of love. It is not frivolous. He chooses partners carefully and ravages them completely. He understands sex better than anyone and knows the dangerous power that he has over his partners. There is a danger that sex may become a compulsion or an addiction for him though.
Venus or the Moon in Sagittarius - May be attracted to a Sagittarius Sun, Moon, or Venus Female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Sagittarius female including but not limited to:
Optimistic, Playful, Fun Loving, Easy Going, Rock and Roll lifestyle, Philosophical, Smiles A lot, Laughs A lot, Goes with the Flow, Nice Athletic Thighs, May wear fringy boots and clothes/cowgirl type of style, Party Animal, Adventurous
May be the type to fall deeply in love at first sight and then swiftly out of love as soon as reality hits. May need his relationships to always be fun, adventurous, and romantic. May find love in Church, in a religious group, or on some religious quest. May prefer to date foreign women or may find love over seas. Very passionate and fun lover. Lots of horse play during sex.
Mars or Sun in Sagittarius - He will have a very healthy appetite for sex. He will love sex to be fun, physical, with screaming orgasms though he has the ability to detach his emotions from the act. Sex for him is an adventure. He will love to hunt a sex partner, catch them, have fun with them and then find someone new. He will have the ability to be sexually involved with more than one partner at a time though he may or may not act on it. Sex is fun and necessary for him, though not the most important thing in the world. He may find Tantric Sex especially purposeful for him as it incorporates an element of religion with his strong sex drive.
Venus or the Moon in Capricorn - May be attracted to a Capricorn Sun, Moon, or Venus Female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Capricorn female including but not limited to:
Hard working, Reserved, Conservative, Pessimistic, Depressing, Cold, Calculating, Materialistic, Sensitive, Insecure, Modest, Goal Oriented, Wealthy, Makes her own Money, Earthy, Practical, Realistic, Loyal, Determined.
May find relationships with people he works with. May prefer relationships to be long, treacherous, tiresome, but rewarding in the end. May be attracted to older women. May enjoy being a financial benefactor to his mate. May be attracted to women who can bring him some material gain or help him to make money. May be attracted to executive types who own or manage their own business. May like women who wear vintage clothing or appear mature. May be somewhat cold in relationships and may appreciate being beaten into submission.
Mars or Sun in Capricorn - He may find it very difficult to be sexual at first and to express his sexual desires, but in the act of sex he is viciously carnal. He will have a stamina that is out of this world and may be very focused on his own orgasm and pleasure during the act of sex. He may totally loose control during sex. Be careful that he doesn’t hurt his partner because he will get so into it he may loose control of his senses. He may also be interested in S&M. He may be so frigid and pent up that he needs his mate to be aggressive with him in order to loosen up or he may derive pleasure from seeing his partner suffer in some way or have to “work” for her orgasm.
Venus or the Moon in Aquarius - May be attracted to an Aquarius Sun, Moon, or Venus Female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of an Aquarius female including but not limited to:
Relaxed, Intelligent, Unique, Aloof, Weird, Independent, Whimsical, Cool, Boring, Know it all, Likes to Share, Helpful, Goal Oriented, Curious, Talkative.
May prefer open relationships. May prefer to be friends for a long time before intimacy happens. May prefer friendship over intimacy. May prefer weird or unorthodox relationships. May prefer relationships to be centered around technology in some way.
Mars or Sun Aquarius - Not especially physically sexual. Sex is very mental for him. He may be very into internet porn or phone sex. He may prefer kinks and fetishes that don’t involve actual intercourse. He may enjoy group sex or sex with strangers. There is a detachment between his thoughts of sex and the act of sex itself. What he desires in sex and what he is able to deliver may be two completely different things.
Venus or the Moon in Pisces - May be attracted to a Pisces Sun, Moon, or Venus Female or a woman who exhibits the qualities of a Pisces female including but not limited to:
Dreamy, Escapist, Drug User, Spacey, Pessimistic, Selfless, Quiet, Sensitive, Intuitive, Emotional, Loves the Water, Goes with the Flow, Adaptable, Unrealistic, Musical, Artistic
May prefer relationships to be overly romantic and dreamy. May get lost in relationships. May prefer to do drugs or alcohol with partner. May enjoy sex on drugs. May have the tendency to lose time when in a relationship and forget about responsibilities. May fall in love with really impractical and unrealistic partners. May approach relationships in a very impractical and unrealistic way. May fall in love with artistic partners or collaborators.
Mars or Sun in Pisces - May fantasize about sex all the time but may be too timid or shy to act on it. Will be a very sensual and romantic lover. May need drugs or alcohol in order to have sex. May prefer to be seduced rather than to do the seducing. May be very unpredictable in his sexual exploits, may seem to be controlled by some unknown force rather than his own conscious desires. For this reason he may not always be loyal. He goes with the flow when it comes to sex and may not stick solely to his current relationship partner. He may use sex to become spiritually awakened in some way.
This is a lot of information to absorb. In the next compatibility post I will describe the way Mars and Venus behave in the signs of a woman’s chart and they way they behave in the houses.
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