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one of the biggest death knells of feminism is the notion that the only true sisterhood comes from coddling someone’s views and actions no matter how patriarchally complicit they are and that criticism is an act of internalized misogyny

recreationaldivorce

we should bring back she/her as the generic pronoun

recreationaldivorce

im not joking btw im talking about how it used to be pretty common for communist writers to use she/her to refer to a generic worker/person/etc as a #feminist thing. it's more common to use gender-neutral language now but the problem is people are still constantly assuming that the default person is male, even when non-gendered language is used. she/her at least has the effect on the reader of like, giving them a stern look and saying "remember women exist". anyway i want us to bring this back

and before anyone gets silly, no it's not misgendering people who don't use she/her, unless you believe all the cis male writers who did/do this also believe that Everyone On Earth Is A Woman. it's a political writing choice

overtlydinosaurian

I played so many board games or card games growing up, and the rules would describe "a player" and their options. often it was "he/him or sometimes they/them. But I remember the games that referred to this player as she/her, and it would make my night as a little kid. It meant so much to me to see a female default AND a female default in a hobby that was so old-man coded.

This really does help women remember they can be a default too.

knightofverity

I listen to a lot of writing advice channels, most of them run by women, and it pains me to see how many default to male pronouns when talking about hypothetical characters, or even hypothetical authors (ex. "the writer must ask himself if he...")

Unless of course the genre is romance, then protagonists are defaulted to she/her - because romance is a "woman's genre", thus your protagonist must be a woman too. But wait, here comes the heteronormativity! And we're back to defaulting the love interest character as male.

honeyapplebutterfly

I <3 FEMALE DEFAULTISM

#the only time i´ve seen this in a book was the fabric of the cosmos by Brian Greene #I got so happy and excited I still think about it sometimes. book was too difficult though

holespoles

Sylvia Plath Curious French Cat (1956)

gorgonology

If it’s humiliating for a man to do then it’s humiliating for a woman to do, you’re just used to women being humiliated

sailor-moon-rest-deactivated202

There's a movie called "I Am Not an Easy Man" that was making the rounds on radblr recently. The plot is essentially that an average french man hits his head and wakes up in a world where women inhabit the male gender role and vice-versa. At first, he is outwardly angry at his treatment as an oppressed man but eventually begins to conform so that he can survive. I was struck by how ridiculous the men looked fully waxed, in revealing "dress-shorts", obsessing over their weight and penis shape and facial structure, constantly styled to appeal to a female gaze. It was funny at first until I realized that is how women look to men. Every time they see us decorated for their enjoyment they are reminded of their power over us, that we will humiliate ourselves because we have little choice otherwise.

pinkgreenbreeze

Every time they see us decorated for their enjoyment they are reminded of their power over us, that we will humiliate ourselves because we have little choice otherwise.

stick it to your mirror and read it everyday

kocalls

butt-rice

i wish there was a way to say "you're right, but this is really ineffective and even counterproductive messaging to anyone who doesn't already agree with you" without sounding like an asshole