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Shelby/Willow~She/Her

[pinkangelhoney]

Are you unable to protest effectively due to disability? Me too. Here’s what we’re doing instead:

NOT posting about current events in a way that centers “personal journeys” and unproductive fear. We’re putting our money where our mouths are (literally and figuratively).

Do you have a consistent form of income? Set a reminder for every pay period to put whatever you can afford towards a local organization dealing with immigrants’ bail bonds and related organizations. For me, those are: https://neappleseed.org/donate and http://www.prairielandsfreedomfund.org/donate

Start by looking up “immigrant bond funds (your state)”

Cancel any unnecessary subscriptions and put that money towards the cause.

Join or start a meal train for affected families. Can’t cook? Provide supplies within your means. No funds, ingredients or supplies to spare? Transport within your means or organize transportation to be acted out by others

Volunteer for a local rapid response team. Join an info session and be upfront about mobility issues if you can only perform work over the phone. Here is an example: https://ciraconnect.org/volunteer/

If you’re multilingual, translate fact-based resources.

Be intentional in how you warn about sightings. Choose accuracy over fear.

Schedule, coordinate, organize. Adjust what you can do to your abilities, energy and income.

Volunteer - CIRA

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Donate — Prairielands Freedom Fund

Donate - Nebraska Appleseed

Your donation will carry forward the fight for a just, vibrant, and inclusive Nebraska where everyone can thrive!

[vampyre-outersp4ce]

But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying. - Jehanne De Vouthon

[pinkangelhoney]

An exhausting fireworks induced flashback later, I wanna put a clarification on this blog for my own sake.

My ex was not responsible for the drive-by shooting I lived through two years ago. I know that now, but it was also totally reasonable at the time to think that they had something to do with it.

It was exactly a week after we broke up and it happened at the house of the friend who was there with me, encouraging me to go through with it, who was then threatened by my ex when she attempted to retrieve the money they took from me. My ex owned guns and used them to intimidate. We know now that that was just a terrible coincidence, but I was never being deceptive in my fear.

I deleted most of the posts related to the fallout of that relationship, not because I do not stand by them, but because they were a time capsule of a terrible time of my life.

[pinkangelhoney]

I am not embarrassed for having extreme reactions to extreme circumstances.

I did delete my e-begging. Though nothing ever came from it, I do want to recognize that as dire as my circumstances may have been,I would much rather people send their money to more pressing causes.

[slewfootwitch]

If a person's friends are racist and they don't care because it doesn't impact them or they try to reframe their buddy's racist behavior as something else, they are also racist, okay? 🫶

[pinkangelhoney]

An exhausting fireworks induced flashback later, I wanna put a clarification on this blog for my own sake.

My ex was not responsible for the drive-by shooting I lived through two years ago. I know that now, but it was also totally reasonable at the time to think that they had something to do with it.

It was exactly a week after we broke up and it happened at the house of the friend who was there with me, encouraging me to go through with it, who was then threatened by my ex when she attempted to retrieve the money they took from me. My ex owned guns and used them to intimidate. We know now that that was just a terrible coincidence, but I was never being deceptive in my fear.

I deleted most of the posts related to the fallout of that relationship, not because I do not stand by them, but because they were a time capsule of a terrible time of my life.

[wintergardenscribe]

Barbie’s unmade Sleeping Beauty film and Don Bluth’s canceled Beauty and the Beast project haunt me every day of my life. I’m convinced that's where our timeline went wrong

[honeyworships]

[contemptible-scoundrel]

jackbox should have an abstain with contempt button

[beardedmrbean]

[pinkangelhoney]

If someone discloses that they’ve been abused and you relay information to their alleged abuser about them, you’re committing a heinous act.

No excuses.

No “need to know the full story.” No “both sides.”

It doesn’t matter who you’ve known longer or the identities of the people involved. It is a deplorable thing to do.

[stantler]

Many lgbt teenagers and young adults growing up on the internet today have socially conservative beliefs that they voice at all times that they got from their conservative parents which they’ve never challenged because they think the life experience of being gay or trans makes them politically progressive

[stantler]

This is why I hate it when people say something homophobic and then go “so you’re really accusing me, a whole ass lesbian, of being homophobic 🙄” like yeah

[unwelcome-ozian]

DARVO

DARVO is an acronym that stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. It describes a manipulative tactic often used by abusers to avoid taking responsibility for their actions and shift the blame onto their victims.

Deny. By engaging in a calculated act of denial, the perpetrator refuses to acknowledge their actions or the consequences thereof. They may adamantly negate any responsibility for their behavior, often employing tactics of minimization or outright dismissal. By denying the validity of the victim’s claims or the impact of their actions, the perpetrator effectively undermines the victim’s experiences and gaslights them into questioning their own reality.

Attack. Following the denial stage, the perpetrator will attempt to assault the victim’s character and credibility. This attack can take various forms—from subtle undermining remarks to overt accusations and blame-shifting. By casting doubt on the victim’s integrity, motivations or mental state, the perpetrator seeks to discredit their claims and deflect attention away from their own misconduct. Through targeted attacks, the perpetrator further erodes the victim’s confidence and reinforces their sense of powerlessness.

Reverse Victim and Offender. In the final stage, the perpetrator skillfully manipulates the narrative to cast themselves as the victim and the actual victim as the offender. This tactic involves a strategic inversion of roles, where the perpetrator portrays themselves as unfairly treated or harmed, while painting the victim as the instigator or aggressor. Through this inversion of reality, the perpetrator not only absolves themselves of guilt but also further victimizes their target, leaving them feeling isolated and discredited.

[dogpuppy]

[antisocialxconstruct]

man having your life even a little bit together will really make you realize how chronically sleep-deprived and poorly fed and under-enriched everyone is and then when they turn to you to implicitly agree that that's just the natural state of existing you feel like the asshole for being like "actually I think you might benefit from eating breakfast regularly and picking up a new hobby"

[whimsiromance]

literally a plague on both your houses i’m not even kidding

[despazito]

petition to relabel "strong sense of justice" in autism and adhd to "strong personal convictions"

[colombinna]

The real and correct name is cognitive rigidity and more people should know and use that

[scorpionlafemme]

[myjusticecake]

You can begin this process at any time, regardless of how old you have become.