This first choice, second choice bullshit e|riels keep sprewing doesn’t matter.
Sarah doesn’t play that game in her books. It’s not about who came first. It’s about who came along and was RIGHT.
Tamlin was Feyre’s first love, first choice. She’s mated to who now? Oh right Rhysand.
Lucien was with Jesminda, and thought she was his mate. She was his first choice.
Aelin…her first choice was Sam, her second choice was Dorian, her third choice was Chaol. Who is she mated to now? Rowan, who is her FOURTH choice.
Chaol…his first choice in the books? Aelin. His second choice? Nesryn. And who is he now married to? That would be Yrene, his THIRD choice.
Hunt was with Shahar for years. He even told Bryce he would never love another after her, and look where he’s at now. Mated and married to Bryce. His second choice.
Everyone that reads Sarah’s books should know by now that this purity first love, first sexual experience mess doesn’t fly in her books. She literally spits in the face of it. But yet one of the arguments e|riels LOVE to throw around all the time is Gwyn isn’t Azriel’s first choice. Why do you want that for Gwyn? Blah blah blah. They are right, she wouldn’t be his first choice. But guess what? Elain isn’t his first choice either. Are they forgetting Azriel spending 5 CENTURIES waiting for Mor. The Morrigan was his FIRST choice. Azriel wouldn’t even be Elain’s first choice either. That would be Graysen.
It’s not about who first, it’s about who’s RIGHT.