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alectology-archive

Hell on earth people who romanticise summers need therapy fr

honey-and-hibiscus-kingdom

I like summer even though it's like being in an oven

alectology-archive

new tag game dropped which season were you born in and is it your favourite season

placeholderformymonkeybrain

I'd rather sweat on the outside than feel cold on the inside. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Please suggest something good to read my brain hurts

#dark academia #reading #books #find books #book suggestions

dankmemeuniversity

funnytwittertweets

wyndryga

youre telling me an F1 car gets a pit crew and i get one jackass with adhd?

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reblogging for that comment jhc

dont-give-a-fuck-club

If you write me a letter or note I will literally keep it for the rest of my life.

#Spotify

claryfairhild

i’m so done with the way girls in twenties are treated. i’m so done with people who literally create timetable for us. 20- 24 find a guy, 24-26 make him propose to you, 27-29 get married. i’m so done. i’m do not want to get 2 a.m texts from my best friend who is freaking out that she is gonna die alone. i do not want see my 20 years old friend wasting her time on some guys who are not even interested in her. i do not want see us falling for every nice guy who does not look creepy. i do not want to see girls get sad or paranoid just bcos they do not fill in the schedule. you are ok. you should enjoy your life at its fullest and one day you will find 10/10 so do not pursue 6 just because you do not want to be single. it is ok and one day you will find someone. do not split your love with people who does not deserve it. keep it for yourself and when time will come you will know. i know it hurts. i know you wish u could just open part of yourself and release the buzzing love. but not every kind of love is romantic. show it to your family, friends, plants, yourself.

kaerya

Not a real criticism, just an expansion really, but … it’s not just the timetables we need to get away from, but the goal itself, I think. “One day you will find someone,” sounds comforting, but the reason it doesn’t lay fears to rest is because we are all smart enough to know it’s not necessarily true.

My aunt is over sixty, never married, and never, so far as I am aware, ever even had a great romance. She dated a lot, but never clicked and now seems to have given up. My mentor is over seventy, divorced her asshole husband more than half her life ago and has never found anyone since.

We all know women (and men) like these. And because we know them, we know that “one day you will find someone,” is just … hogwash. Because sometimes you just … don’t. Or sometimes you do, but he turns out to be a cad. Or you do and the universe rips you apart in the most unfair way possible. And because society has us so fixated on finding “our other half” or whatever, we view these women as cautionary tales.

But …

My aunt trains dogs. Her schipperke is the national champion for his breed. She spent so much of her life as a librarian, nurturing the love of books in kids, myself among them. I ride horses because of her, and it’s one of the very few things I do that makes my soul feel at peace.

My mentor is one of the best criminal defense attorneys in her state. She has devoted her life to fighting to ensure that everyone gets a vigorous defense. Because of her countless people have had the opportunity to turn their lives around. Because of her, they’ve had a life to turn around. Because of her, the prosecution and the police in her jurisdiction are forced to behave ethically and adhere to the rule of law. She’s still, even now fighting to abolish the death penalty. It’s because of her that I am pursuing the life I am.

These women’s lives are not nothing. In fact they are a whole lot of something, and it makes my heart hurt that I ever, in my dark 3 am’s, thought of their lives as something to be avoided at all costs.

So love your family, your friends, your pets, your gardens. Love your job or your hobby or your raison d’ etre, whatever it is. Love sunsets and the smell of rain and yourself, and don’t love these as something to do as a placeholder until the buzzing, romantic love comes, but love these as things worth loving all in themselves.

It’s fucking hard some days. The dark 3 am’s still come sometimes. But most days, I am so much more at peace knowing that I am not incomplete or waiting, but that my life, if it ended today, is worth it because of the platonic, familial, friendship love I have shared. And if the other kind does come someday, that’ll be nice, but it won’t make any of the others less. It’ll just be caramel sauce on a sundae–tasty and wonderful, but the sundae was perfect without it too.

sheafrotherdon

It’s also worth remembering that for the longest time people *had* to get married to survive. It was an economic arrangement, and women (in particular) had few other choices when it came to supporting themselves. (This is even true, at least in the U.S., for women who loved people who weren’t men until the early twentieth century.) I think of this often. I’m a single woman with a good education in a job that brings me a lot of satisfaction. Can you imagine how many women dreamed of that kind of freedom over the centuries? For whom being single was never an option? I think of those people often.

Just a little something playlist. Soft folksy oldies. 🙃

#spotify playlist #spotify #playlist #simon and garfunkel #elvis #john denver #country #calm music

uncristalitoroto

suffocation, crystal castles c. 2010

frogulentpianist

pt 1 of star wars relationships (platonic and romantic) as musical theatre songs.

Some truly beautiful songs uhhh I have so many besties and ships and pairings to do so there will be more parts. check em out i have exquisite taste in music

Padme and Anakin - You and I (Reprise), Chess

big swoopy dramatic reprise of a beautiful duet,,, two people losing each other despite best efforts.

[Both]

Hold me and tell me

We’ll meet again–

One happy moment

You and I

We’ve seen it all

Chasing our hearts’ desire

But we go on pretending

Stories like ours

Have happy endings

bonus:

[Anatoly] Knowing I want you Knowing I love you Cannot compare to my despair Knowing I’ve lost you

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And all that cruelty tears you apart after a while. MARGOT ROBBIE as HARLEY QUINN in THE SUICIDE SQUAD (2021) dir. James Gunn

diabeticlesbian

My toxic trait is harshly judging anyone who doesn’t finish their whole plate due to poverty trauma

If I like people, I give them absurd nicknames. The frequency and absurdity of the nickname is directly proportional to how much I like said person. For context, my sister gets a new name every other day, at the least. Called her by seven different names today. And not one was her actually name.